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Hey.
My fiance and I are having "living issues".
When we get married he wants to live in the upstairs of his house. Which his dad turned into an apartment with a kitchen, bathroom, living room, ect. Its just like a real house.
I see nothing wronge with this other than the fact that his parents treat him like a dog, take all his money, prevent him from doing half the stuff he wants to, and force him to wait on them hand and foot. Yes, he stands up for himself but it still doesn't make it right.
I've tryed talking to him about getting a modular. I think they are very nice.
He kinda agrees.
Well, with his job, he makes $10 an hour, and makes around 700 every 2 weeks. He got the job in October. Thats the problem.
Since he isn't istablished well in his job, I'm worried that he will lose it and we wpn't be able to pay the bills.
So, I want your opinion.
Even though I don't like his parents and neither does he.
Do you think that it would be best to just stay at his house until we have money saved up to get a home, or just jump into it right to start with?
Thanks.
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The ideal thing to do would be to stay as long as you can to save up. But it all depends on the severity of the problems @ his house. Yes, there are going to be issues living with his parents. I don't think any newlywed couple can say it's the best living situation. But sometimes you have to take what you can get. In this case, it might not take very long before you are able to get on your feet. If the problems are so intolerable that it causes fighting between you & him, then settling with an apartment less than perfect might be a better solution - even if it's just temporary until you can find something much better. If you think you can handle your living situation for a little longer, then try to make the best of things till then. Yes, it might be tough. But like I said, sometimes you aren't left with many options. In the meantime, save as much money as possible & look into a few decent priced apartments in your area. :)
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I doubt you could qualify for a home loan if you don't have at least 5% down, given your likely young age, relatively low earning potential, and the length of his work history at his present job. If I were you, I'd look into getting an apartment. If the upstairs of the parents' house is so nice, they can rent it out to someone else and take the renter's money and see if they can treat the renter like a dog, etc.
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Honestly? I wouldn't move in with his parents- no way. Home is the place where you hang your hat and put up your feet. Not a place full of stress, unhappiness, tension, and poor treatment.
Realistically, you don't need his parents' behavior adding stress to a new marriage. I for-see that it will only cause you and your groom to have fights and petty arguments. Any financial struggle is better than that, by a far stretch.
My husband and I are newlyweds, and we would live in a run down shack, if to live in a nice house would only darken our marital happiness. We are a happy with each other, and arguments are very few and far between.
Also, if his parents hit him up for money all of the time, how would you ever save any for another home?
I advise that you get your own place. I firmly hold my ground on the fact that moving under the same roof as his parents is about the worst step you could take. No nice, quaint, little apartment or house is worth the potential sacrifice of your marriage.
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