My name is Jessica a.k.a. Gessyka
I love to talk on AIM online, and I love to hang out with friends. I teach myself how to play the keyboard and on it I can play "Fur Elise", "Heart and Soul" with both hands, and a few other songs. My birthday is March 31 1990.
I love to write, draw, play video games. Im not MUCH a tom boy but I like a lot of things that boys like (like skateboarding, video games, hockey, etc.)
I like to help people out very much and I'll help you out as much as I can if you need advice.
I've been through a lot of things, and I'm only 14. Some people think I have the perfect life but in reality, I DO have a lot of problems...
I've had people who passed away, crying all the time, people have told me to kill myself (sluts), I have seen people talk about suicide...I know some people who tried killing themselves, so many things that I'd rather not discuss that are pretty horrible, and a lot of other things now that are on my mind...good and bad and...*cough* puberty too...=(
Oh and I also believe in psychics, spirits (only good) and I'm a Christian Catholic.
MY BFF/Cousin IS RACHAEL! Button Rachael (lol)
Oh and I have a goofy sense of humor but if it's time to get serious, I get right down to it.
E-mail: truevalue53@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: USA, CT
Occupation: School, babysit (once in a while)
Age: 14
AIM: Infinityo0o (or) Met3oralp
Member Since: November 10, 2003
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Last Update: February 27, 2005
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I had a boyfriend. First one ever, I cheated on him... with a girl. He broke it off. 3 weeks go by, I'm just moving on. I'm just starting to flirt again with this guy in my biology class who likes me too. Then... dun dun dun!... I saw him after school today. He wants me back. I kind of want him too. I think it was wrong to break up. But, I really like the kid in my bio class. He's someone I can lead around, not be led. (link)
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If you have any feelings for another guy DO NOT GET BACK TOGETHER with your boyfriend. You're obviously in a weird stage at your life right now. You had your very first BOYFRIEND...then cheated on him with a GIRL...then you go and say you like ANOTHER BOY but still want your boyfriend back.
I mean...I understand where you are coming from (you wanting your boyfriend back)...but if you have feelings for another guy do not lead your boyfriend on and say "I love you and I want to get back together"...and then go and cheat on him AGAIN.
Even if you AREN'T going to cheat on him, still don't lead the boy on. He obviously is giving you another chance...and if he isn't your only significant other then don't LIE TO HIM because what you have isn't real if you don't care about him (or if care about someone else while you both are going out).
So unless the feelings for the other guy wear off..and you're absolutely sure that they did...DO NOT go out with your ex-boyfriend until you sort this mess out. ONE GUY...NO CHEATING...that's how love is supposed to go. And I wouldn't go around playing little games with peoples' hearts because they could end up really hurt someday...
Bottom Line: Can't do love right...don't do it at all.
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I have this friend. She gets on my nerves a lot. She gets really jealous when me or anyone else isn't payin g her any attention. She is spoiled(no offense.) and always tries to make people feel bad. I don't want to be her friend, but she keeps on saying that she has problems and she's gonna kill herself because life is so bad. I have 2 questions. Is she my real friend? And is there any way I don't have to be friends with her? (link)
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Dear Stuck,
I am the same way with my older siblings...I just feel so left out. I cherish every moment I go out to the movies with them...or out with their friends with them...because trust me, it DOESN'T happen very often.
First off, you don't have to be friends with this girl...but maybe what she needs is some companionship...a friend. Pull her aside and ask if she would like to come over sometimes. Just because she says she wants to kill herself...doesn't mean she will but if she keeps implying it after a while...then I'd tell.
Maybe she is spoiled...but that doesn't mean she's not a nice person deep down inside. Really though...get to know her...go see a movie with her or go bowling and do something fun so if she just needs a friend...she knows your there. (But also let her know there are limits...and she can't depend on you ALL OF THE TIME).
So what I'm really saying is get to know her...and if she starts to cop an attitude with you, or cry about it...talk to her and TELL HER that she has to stop this...(but also dont TRY to leave her out just because you think it would be funny)...listen to what she has to say; don't just let it go in one ear and out the other...do you understand?
Now...go out there and try to be her friend...listen to what she has to say--and if something else happens email me...ask me a question...or all of us a question about it so we can try to help.
~GL~
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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Ok, here it goes....
There is this kid, I dont know his name, and I know barely anythign about him, but to me he seems like a really nice person on how he acts with other people, and he is realllly cute, and they just switched our classes around because its half of the year,a nd he ended up in my class!! And Im so happy, but I mean I dont know him, and I dont think he will talk to me... I just dont know what to expect from him...
I just felt like letting it all out...
Have any comments? (link)
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Good...you really should get to know him. Who knows? You may end up with a fine boyfriend someday...just don't rush it, and respect yourself.
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OK, I was at school today and a fifth grader who I danced with at a dance ONCE asked me out through one of my friends. I'M AN EIGHTH GRADER!!!! I told my friend to tell him no thatnks and I think she DID carry on the correct message but I think he told everyone we were going out and now people are making fun of me because they think I'm going out with a fifth grade russian. I mean, I don't care that he's russian but isn't the girl supposed to know when she's going out with somebody and now I have a dance tonight and I'm afraid he's going to ask me to dance and I really don't want to hurt his feelings but I don't want to get any rumors started again. Please respond quickly because I have to leave at 7:15. I need to know what I should do and I don't trust myself to make the decision. Now it's 4:26
Unknowingly Dating (link)
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Just tell him the truth...you can't lead this poor boy on...
Just say there's too much of an age difference but that he's are a great guy...and tell people the truth!! Tell them that you arent going out with them and they are immature if they dont believe something like that.
Don't be mean to this boy though...he doesn't deserve that. Or if you knwo any good fifth grade girls...hook him up. hehe.
I'm in eighth grade too and I know these things can be hard...but if you don't like this boy don't lead him on and tell him the truth.
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I need some help. There are some boys at my school that I like to hang out with. They are not the best looking but its whats on the inside that matters. Any good tips to tell if you are in love?
Sincerely,
Mea* (link)
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You'll just now...trust me.
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Everytime I am on center stage, for playing an instrument, singing, acting, auditions, giving a speech in front of my class, whatever.... I get soooo nervous. My feet shake, my hands shake so hard it's hard to hold papers or instruments steady and they get really cold. Sometimes I get this nervous twitch above my lip. I don't know any way to get rid of it! And I can't just avoid the stage, because even though I get nervous, I really want to perform. Ugh.
Help! (link)
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I am the same exact way. I don't present papers in school...they ask me if I want to because I am sooo nervous and I just say no. There were times I felt like I was almost going to faint. A few years ago I also thought how great it would be to be an actress but now I say no...hehe. It's just not my thing...but it IS fun to do when my cousin and I are acting for fun at home or something.
Are you old enough to get a job yet? Or do you have a job or are looking for one. Because my sister and my brothers friend said that working at the movies and at supermarkets helps them out a lot because they get used to being around people and striking up conversations with them.
THey said it REALLY helps because they both are really shy around people too.
I have to get out of this...I know how you feel...only I'm really bad and I'm sure I can give you more advice and stories about it if you email me!
*smile*
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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oops i did it again
i got tangled up
in the computer cord
oh no, oh no
oops i think that im stuck
and im getting bored
ya
im not that innocent
yoyoyoyoyo. yoyoyoyoyoyo.
oh, that isnt the cordstuck to me is it?
yes, its all tangled up just to annoy me!
awww... that sucks.
i'm still just sitting down here
got nothin to do
got nowhere to go
oh baby baby
oops i got tangled up
lost in the
computer game
and now im stuck here... (link)
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I'm sorry abotu the terrible dilemma. *hug*
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My ex fiencee, Tim, left me two days before my birthday. He left me at the worst time of my life. Since then we haven't talked much...and now he suddenly shows up and tries to apologize. I am so angry with him, but I still love him very very much. I want to hate him...I really do...but I can't. When he left, I started getting my life back into order, although it'd fall apart right after. I have a boyfriend now, but he means next to nothing to me. I don't want to let Tim hurt me again. He'd been my best friend for three years before we started a relationship.
*Alone by nature*
Abby (link)
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If you are planning to break up with your boyfriend...don't do it just yet. Get to know Tim again and regain trust with each other. Maybe your thoughts on him AND your boyfriend will change once you sit down and talk with him about everything...about why he left, about what's been going on...
Don't go into a relationship with Tim JUST because you have feelings for him still. I know that sounds strange...but he hurt you and you should be able to trust him again before you guys become a couple -
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Not sure if it goes under "injuries"...but whatever...it just hurts.
Today when i woke up, my chin just had some kind of pain i never felt before. it feels as if a "bump" grew or something. whenever i touch it, my chin hurts.
i might not be able to go to the doctors...my parents don't have the money. And Because of that, I don't have money.
It might be those random things...sometimes my knee hurts, and it stop in a few minutes...
kind of like...when you leg gets numb...only with a pain.
help? (link)
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You really have to go to the doctors...
If you can't, then go to the school nurse...I'm sure they will know how to take care of whatever it is. If she tells you to go to the doctors...tell her the truth...don't just say "okay." because whatever it is can worsen if you don't tel her that your parents don't have the money for the doctor.
Good Luck!
Hope you feel better!
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p.s...maybe you banged it (chin or knee) when you were sleeping...
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Can someone give me some names for a girl and a boy, please? I love writing stories, but I don't know any good names! PLEASE help! (link)
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Well...my favorite name for a girl is Peyton. When I have kids when I'm older, and if I have a girl -- Peyton.
(pay-ton) lol some people pronounce it (Pee-ton) lol. NO.
If and when I have a boy I'm going to name him either Landon or Skylar.
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I've been trying lately to wear nicer clothes to work; more suits and ties and things of that sort. I think it helps me out in meetings. But I worry about what others may think and wonder if I come across as too ambitious or uppity for the job I'm in, which is a scrub helper fresh out of college. Can suits hurt a career or just help it? (link)
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Help it, definitely...just don't overdue it. Like if you put on cologne too, don't put way too much or mix it with other types of colognes because the smells will clash and you'll smell strange.
But no, a simple tie and a nice suit WILL NOT hurt a job. Just have a nice attitude because a lot of people who wear suits (and not all of them) have a kind of "I'm better then you" attitude with the suit.
So what I'm saying is be yourself and be kind...and I'd wear the suit if I were you.
~GL~
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Sorry, this is so long but please take the time
to read it.We'll call my friend Trea (not her name)Ok, now Trea is the kind of girl who always tries to do the right thing. This boy hit me(we're still under age so it's not against the law.) He put a bruise on my arm Friday. So on Tuesday I (i'm a girl) tried to get him back. He is a lot quicker and stronger so when I went to hit him he pushed me downand I have a sint arm. Wednesday, (today) I went after him again because he had pushed me down Tuesday. I didn't expect to have everything happen that did. Trea, tried to stop me because he pushed me down and I scraped my elbow Wednesday. I was going after him again. I told her to leave me alone (I was mad) and not to tell anyone.My other friend told her the same thing. I went after him because my friend held Trea back. She secretly went and told the teacher on meand the boy. I had almost caught up with him and Trea grabbed my shirt from behind. I couldn't get loose because I was hurting and didn't bother to fight back. She took me to the teacher and they kept asking me questions. I answered as many as I could. They asked me why I hadn't told anyone about the fights. I didn't want to because they usually don't do anything. I can't talk to the boy or his friend (I like his friend but that's not the point) because the teachers won't let us. I don't usually cause trouble. This is my first time. My real question is, is Trea my true friend or not? (link)
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yes...shes only looking out for you...
~GL~
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ok, 4-h is having a camp out of town. my grandma is afraid i'll get homesick. and she doesn't trust everybody. Life is such a drag! She says I can't go unless she is a chaperon. My friends get to go. I told her that they get to go. She says I'm the boss and you're gonna listen to what I say. (i live with her) My friends' dads are chaperones and one's mom is a chaperon. I told her that and she said I'll think about letting you go. I askedmyfriend what were the odds of my grandma(who is 63) of becoming a chaperon. She said 0 out of 10. What do I do? Please don't tell me to wait because i already have waited and asked her about every 5 days. She keeps saying I'll think about it. I know that means no. If you have the odds of her becoming a chaperon or even the chances of me going please tell me even if its stupid. Im desperate! If u nowhat i should do tell me that, too. thanks. :) (link)
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There's really not much you can do about this type of situation. Ask her again and do chores around the house (that will definitely score reponsibility points *wink*) Also...just tell her all the things that would make her comfortable... blah blah blah whose gonna be there etc.
That's all I can say because if you don't have any other alternative then to have your grandmother chaperone in order for you to go...then there's not much anyone can do....you just have to either wait (even if you don't want to)...or convince her.
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i like this boy in my class and thar is this outhe girl that likes hem to but i like hem more he sead that he did not like her but she still wont leave hem a lone he sead he wood reather go out with me then her but not this year what dew i dew when i now he likes me but he wont tack to me i haft to tack to hem and we have a lot in komen but he still wont lisean even thoe he likes me what do i do.
Sinded love is heard (link)
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I'm a little confused by your typing...
But there's nothing you CAN do but ask him to give you a chance...without looking totally desperate and groveling at his feet.
Ask him if you guys can go to the movies sometime or something...or watch a movie at one...and ask him about the other girl if you think it's okay to because if he doesn't like her...then I personally think he should give you a chance...but maybe he does like the other girl a little or maybe he's just confused...
Just confront him if you want to know the truth...even if you don't want to confront him...or email him...that's the two easiest ways.
~GL~
*smile*
~*!~*GeSsYkA*~!*~
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ok this site keeps deleting my message all I asked was if mean peopls suck do nice people blow? its a simples question but it get deleted but people can ask gross stuff and the message wont get deleted.
can you please answer boh of my questions please (link)
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Ask a parent...or just don't ask....if your too young to know because I don't even know what that means....and I um...don't wanna...
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Is it possible to love a boy who failed kindergarden? I LOVE a boy who failed kindergaden. I just found out. He is soooo cute, though. He's my age and evything. I do't know what to do. it isn't that I don't like him and it isn't because I'm afraid my friends will tease me. I go out with him now. He moved and now he goes to my school again. The only problem is... when do I get to see him? PLEASE HELP! THANKS,
coolgirl57 (link)
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?? Don't worry...even is he failed kindergarten he obviously did something right if he's in your school now. Your friends won't tease you...and if they do I have no idea why they would. But it's not like they have to know either...I don't think "My boyfriend failed kindergarten" comes up in an everyday conversation...(hehe) you get what I'm saying?
So just go out with him still if you really care about this kid otherwise don't let it go foward more if you're not serious about it because you don't want to break his heart...especially over something little like that.
Oh my gosh I just saw your additional info now...dump the kid...or find out if it's really true because if you didn't hear it or see it straight from him...then it may be a rumor.
So just talk to him first...and if you find out that he is going out with another girl...DUMP THE CHUMP! kay?
ttyl *friendly pat on the back*
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I'm not very popular at school and kids pick on me. I don't really know why they do it, it's been that way since 1st grade. I'm in 8th grade now and I'm sick of it. I don't know what I did to deserve this. They hurt me emotionally and physically, should I stand up to them?
Respond please, I'm desperate,
Hurt and confused (link)
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Stand up to them verbally. Not swears...not insults just ask why they are like this. Don't change yourself...don't do something you're going to regret, and if they do something to you again verbally or (especially) physically...talk to a guidance counsler. Eighth grade is hard but I'm so quiet and I mind my own business and the people just come to me...
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My friend asked me if I was goth, I didnt know what to tell her. . I mean goths dont usually go right out and yell IM GOTH! But she asked and I always tell the truth, I said ya. She said ew ur weird. . . She asked me this online, she hasnt seen me for weeks. . and I have maracuously changed, not because this lifestyle has become popular, but because I found it deep down in my heart. She got mad at me and everything .. she gave me a necklas and now she wants it back, she said she'd call the cops if i did anything to it, which i didnt and anyways its mine she gave it to me, is being gothic worth it, i rlly ant to be and i like being this. . but should I give up our friendsship and go gothic, or forget gothic and be ehr frined, I think I should forget her, but please tell me if Im right! (link)
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I'm sorry you think (or are) losing your friend to one of your choices...but I mean think about it...she's was never really your friend...or at least isn't at all now if she doesn't except you becoming goth. There's nothing wrong with it. It's a style...nothing more, unless some people make it to be. Try talking to your friend in person...online or on the phone...or somewhere where you guys are alone and where she can't avoid you...because you should really talk about it with her and ask her to her face..."is me becoming goth really so big of a deal that we cant be friends anymore?"
Forget her if she doesn't listen...you really don't need to be with someone like this. And let me guess? Middle school or 9th grade right? I'm in 8th grade, and what i meant when i asked that question was are you in middle school or 9th grade...because the way you describe your friend is immature and wants to just follow the crowd and these are the years when that usually happens. It's stupid I know...but be who you are...and by the sounds of it...you are doing exactly that which is good because think of it this way (even though it hurts) It still made it clear to you that your "friend" really wasnt your friend afterall...and it's good that you move on because you shouldn't be around somebody like that.
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I recently just became boyfriend and girlfriend with this really nice guy. I really like him and I know he likes me, but he doesn't want people to know about us yet. A dance is coming up and I REALLy want to slow dance with him but I also don't want to give him away to all his friends. I also heard him telling someone he doesn't like anyone when i was right there. I respect that he doesn't want people to know...But i do. What should I do? (link)
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Confront him about it...usually I give longer answers but that's all I can say. If he's your boyfriend don't let things go too far with him until you know he's being true to you...and that starts with telling people. You don't have to now...but that makes no sense...if he really cares about you then he wouldn't hide something like this. It's your choice if you want to tell people...and ask him if he wants to dance...
confront him...you never know what's going on or if he's the right guy for you and if you both are really serious about having a relationship like this...then talk to him about it.
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My brother william always seems disapointed in me. i really dont want him to be dissopinted in me, but i just dont know what to do :( im not really shure if anyone can help me, but i would really like it if someone would just say something about it (link)
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I know what you mean. I feel the same exact way around one of my brothers *Lemon*. He seems to be annoyed by me a lot...and we would always get into HUGE fights about the littlest things.
He hates when I nag...and the one time I asked him nicely (instead of nagging)about the internet (and this was the second time I asked because I wanted to know if he got the call he was waiting for so I could finally go online) he snapped and got all mad and yelled at me and then I ran upstairs and then usually after...the fights we have just die down. And it was his birthday. Well...this one didn't die down.
I asked my older sister Keri if I could go watch a movie at her house with my brother, my sisters, and two of their friends. Lemon overheard me ask and said no I dont want you around me anymore...and he never says something like that and even though it doesn't seem like a BIG DEAL...it still hurt and I cried and cried. Then he came into my room (and he's never done something like this before) and he hugged me and
there were tears in his eyes...and we talked just before he was about to go out with his friends. And we talked about a lot of things (but it was mostly private and about how we are alike in a lot of ways) and when we were hugging I slipped in a happy birthday and we were just hugging still. After this we didn't get into much fights...and this happened on Dec. 8th 2003.
Now it's February 9, 2004...and we haven't gotten into a big fight like that since.
We learned to understand each other more (and yes, there were still little fights) but that's always going to happen.
I guess the point is...is that older sibling can make you feel like a speck compared to them. And everything can be going well and the next thing you know you guys are biting each others heads off fighting about little things. But the thing is he's your brother and you must love him...just try to leave the room if you think you are going to fight...or if you think he's disappointed to you. But honestly? I DO NOT think he is disppointed in you. If anything...he just wants space...and I'm sure he acts like this to other people. But it doesn't mean he's disappointed in you. If you want him to not be "disappointed" in you anymore...then show his some things (drawings, poems, stories, how well you can play a sport, etc.) and just show him what you are good at and talk to him more.
Hope I helped!
~gL~
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