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i'm gonna watch a basketball game then write an article on it. i dont really know anything about basketball but i want to be a journalist one day so i thought i'd be a start...what things should i know about basketball to be able to write an article?(its a highschool game) thx (link)
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Start by reading about the history, rules, fouls, violations first. Nothing will sink your credibility with readers more if you haven't much clue about what you are writing.
Find out the history of the team, their record and who their star and weakest player(s) are. Take notice of the atmosphere at the game and look for a possible angle or key interview when the game concludes.
It is my feeling that you should ask your editor for another assignment as this will be very difficult to pull off if you don't know much about basketball.
It could damage your chances at the paper if the editor has you write something and then detects what you missed or didn't know.
If going ahead with this know as much as you can about the team, basketball, stars on the team etc. and research about them until game night.
For starters see this http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Basketball
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15/f
my acting teacher is sooooo mean to me and she makes me cry after every class and i hate her soooooooooo much. i can't stop taking her classes because i go to a performing arts school and i HAVE to do the classes they make u do.
wat should i do?
i have it 4x a week. omg i hate this (link)
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You haven't illustrated to us that she's being mean to you or the reasons why. I'm guessing that you haven't developed a thick enough skin to withstand critcism. If all she is doing is criticizing your acting ability than she's doing her job properly.
Take her stern remarks and run with them and become a better actress. Maybe she's being that tough on you because she knows if you buckle down that you have something.
Quitting won't help you. It will mean you ran away from the situation. Listen to what she is saying and apply it so you can deliver what she needs out of you.
You'll find in acting or directing that you'll meet demanding people like her all the time. You need to deal with and go out and do your best.
You can tell your parents that you think she's singling you out but nobody can really stop her from doing so when she's like this in general.
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14/f
i am an aspiring actress, does anyone know of any talent agencies or auditions in new york city? (link)
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You need to go through SAG (Screen Actors Guild Of America) and get their list of reputable agents in NYC. Don't sign with anyone who is NOT on said list. It keeps you safe and from being ripped off.
Unless you have stage/TV/Film credits in productions that were high profile or people know your name already you cannot get a Principal Talent Agent. These agents represent 5-10 notable or up and coming talent. Don't expect to get Kirsten Dunst's agent without being her calibre or as known yet ;)
What you need to do is get a Background Talent Agent. This agent books you on film/TV shoots in NYC (in your case) and has you put into crowd scenes in those shoots.
A Background Talent Agency or a kids/teens agency are the only ones who can charge a one time fee for representation. Why? There's a high turnover for extras and kids/teens because they flake out. It's not all glitz and glamour it's often 14 hour shoots sometimes even 20.
This is the best way to see what goes on when a movie is being made and too see if that life is what you want. You get paid about $10 an hour too.
I've been in Man of The Year, Hairspray, Blues Brothers 2000, Long Kiss Goodnight, Dresden Files and others. That's not me bragging to you but an illustration of the kind of work you can get as an extra a.k.a background performer.
Don't pay anyone for photos, lessons or to put your stuff on the Internet. it's a classic scam and directors, writers, agents, casting directors don't use those methods to cast EVER.
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I don't know about you guys but I love watching the comedy network but i keep forgettign this guy's name.
He's asian, Phillipino, not fat but BIG, had an eposode all for himself once, and he was in Video On Trial a couple of times on much music.
Some of his jokes are:
"the food network..people are sitting in front of the tv drooling, it's like porn for fat people"
Yeah love a lot of them but i remmeber faces, nto names.
thanks (link)
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It sounds like you mean Ron Josol. He's Phillipino/Canadian and of the build you mentioned. Google him because he has a lot of stuff out there including a Myspace page.
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Is depression or more specifically bipolar disorder genetic? Could it possibly be passed from a parent to the child? (link)
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ADDITIONAL INFO. I saw your feedback where you mentioned more of what you were experiencing. I urge you to see a doctor or go to the emergency room for help. The symptoms you described there are potentially dangerous to your health. Look into it.
It can be genetic and passed down. Having said that anyone can develop the disorder as it doesn't discriminate. Most people who have it experienced mania in their late teens to early 20s.
There's a lot of signs but not all of them are easy to see. Most common are racing thoughts, paranoia, halucinations, delusions, inability to sleep or rest. Thoughts of controlling the universe, grandiose visions. How do I know? I have the problem myself.
With lithium and other drugs anyone who suffers from bipolar disorder can have a normal, healthy and active life. They're no different once treated.
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I have stopped using conventional, drugstore tampons, since I heard that they have harmful chemicals, like rayon, and use bleaching...I wouldn't want to have contact with either.
I now use natural, 100% organic cotton tampons, which are fine, except for the fact that all of them have a cardboard applicator. I understand that natural means natural, so no plastics...but is their a natural tampon with a more comfortable design? I don't mind using cardboard tampons, but I noticed that it's hard to grip the natural tampons during application.
If any of you know of the most comfortable organic cotton tampon, please let me know. (link)
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You may not have heard much or even anything about menstrual cups in health class but they may help. It's a barrier that tucks into the vagina and collects menstrual blood. It's 100% re-usable aand doesn't absorb anything but rather catches it. You can then clean it out and keep using it later on.
This is just another way of using products that won't harm the earth. Yes, the cup is plastic but it's a one time purchase and then reusable. You never have to throw it out according to the wikipedia info (see link) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menstrual_cup
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hi im 14/f
I am addicted to porn sites ecspecially one in particular i have a sudden to go on it whenever i am on the computer. I have now stopped about a day ago i don't go on it but i am scared because my dads friend who is 28 is a computer technician and fixes our computer whenever it breaks so will he see my whole history of websites or what if the police find out please tell me what to do and how i can get rid of it from my computer so it is never ever found please help thanks in advance. (link)
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Calm down. The police will never be involved here unless you looked at or distributed illegal porn with underage people in it ie: kids/teens. You aren't doing that so you're fine.
If the technician found cookies etc. of the sites you visit he probably would say nothing to your dad. He would think it would be him who was viewing the site. It wouldn't matter to him because lots of people are looking at porn. He would know it's your family's business.
Let's say he did tell your father nothing bad would really happen. Your father might talk to you about the sites and ground you or install net nanny. He would know that you were curious and that it's normal for your age group males and females.
It's best to quit viewing the sites like you have done and admit to him anyways that you looked at those sites and won't again. If you're fearful and this stressed over it right now come clean.
As far as the history file goes use your Web browser and go to tools and then History and just delete it. On most browsers the bar at the top will have a drop down menu allowing you to delete your history of sites.
You can also find the cookies folder on your computer and delete data in it. Be sure you know what you are doing if you're screwing around with any file on that machine.
I think you should just tell your father the truth before the machine ever breaks down again. The stress will be gone as well as the fear. You might just get a small punishment and a lecture but that's about it. He'll probably install a cyber nanny program to keep you from those sites.
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I'm looking into renewing my driver's license for my 21st birthday. The DMV's website says I can renew my license 30 days in advance. (My birthday is January 5, and it's an Ohio license.) I was wondering if my license will say anything about being under 21 if I get it before my birthday. Also, what do you bring to renew your license? Can you renew your license in any county or does it have to be the same county as your address? (link)
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This should do it:
http://www.dmv.org/oh-ohio/drivers-license.php
Look in your phone book's blue pages for the address of where you need to go. I know for a FACT all they list is your D.O.B. day/month/year on your licence.
Anyone who picks up the license will know your birthdate and your age automatically listed from it. They won't know you're under 21 unless you flash your driver's liscence at a club etc before January 5th. They can only tell your age by the birth year and date on it.
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I have depression and I believe I noticed it since 4th grade, if not earlier. I'm not another teenagers going "Oh, I'm depressed." My best friend, who has been suffering major depression ever since 3rd grade, told me that what I feel and think are exactly how she thought and felt. (She's diagnosed so she's not making this up).
Well, my mom doesn't believe me and I'm just like fucking discouraged from seeking for anymore help from an adult directly. I want to get better, though, because I'm sick of depression taking over my life.
I can't get any medical help, I'm self harming, I write, sing, do ballet, listen to music, talk to people, everything...but they don't help me anymore. I don't know what else to do.
PLEASE give me something I can do or take that will help me.
15/f (link)
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You can turn to adults for help. Unfortunately, you have been approaching people who aren't trained in what to look for as far as depression and mental illness goes.
They obviously aren't seeing a lot of the symptoms and changes. If they are they're writing it off as teenage angst or hormones. What do you do? Well your teachers and guidance counselors are trained in how to help students who are depressed, harming themselves, and need medical help.
I would print this question out and hand it to one that you really trust and ask them to talk with you after class. They should be able to get you counselling on site as well as insist that your parents take you to a psychiatrist or even take you to the hospital if they feel you are in danger.
What can you do? you can walk into any hospital emergency room and describe all of these symptoms to them and how long you have been harming yourself and depressed for and a psychiatrist will come right down and meet with and assess you.
They'll likely put you on medication and you can go home but may ask you to stay and only if they think you're of great harm to your ownself.
If you walk in to any doctor's office or a clinic and describe all this to them they'll also put you on medication or refer you to an emergency room for assistance. It is indeed a medical and mental health emergency. I've been there, done all of this.
You can also start talking in confidence to your music and ballet teachers, relatives and anyone who will listen to confront your parents for you or take you to get medical treatment. Someone will listen.
I think you should start by telling your school teacher, guidance and admin about your feelings and tell them flat out that nobody not even your parents will help you get medically assessed. By law they will have to do something to help you and force your parent's hands.
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any good music?
i would prefer modern songs
YOURE NOT ALLOWED TO HAVE WORDS IN THE SONG
thanks!
also.. if anyone knows what the song that hayley does her floor routine in stick it to.. thanks (link)
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Try Buckshot LeFonque led by Branford Marsalis (former Tonight show Band leader) or any of his solo work. He combines jazz, R&B and funk for great instrumental pieces.
Try this link you can download instrumental tracks there and see what artists you like. http://www.ez-tracks.com/Instrumental.html
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Okay, so im 15 year old female. I have a boyfriend. He's so nice. He is always complimenting me and he always makes me feel really special. Here's the thing, I have a friend who likes him also. She flirts non-stop! I've talked to her about it - twice! I've asked her to stop and she said she would. She said she would never do anything to hurt me. But, she still looks at him really funny and gives me the 'angry eye' everytime he holds me. I've talked to him about it as well. He didn't really say much though. So, this is what i need help with: what do I do now? this is bugging me and i have a feeling that my friend might be trying to take him away. I know that sounds childish, but it's how i feel. I almost feel like if I don't do or say something, she'll win. I just don't want to lose him. We've been going out for a while now. And I seriously feel like there is a possiblity of falling in love. I mean, I really like this guy. But why is my friend getting involved. She likes him, and she is known for hitting on guys until they are hers...and then she dumps them. Oh great, I'm so lost and confused. I feel so weak. (link)
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It's a case of who and or what is more important. Tell her that you have had enough of her flirting with your boyfriend, getting angry you're with him etc. Tell her that you demand she respects you and your relationship with him or to shove off (in nicer language than that).
Be firm with her so she gets you mean business. Your boyfriend obviously wants to be with you and not her. The other boys she made her own were weak and easily led. Your boyfriend can see through her and obviously isn't interested. He'd be with her by now if he was.
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Okay well I'm 13 and I've had acne scince I was early 12 years old.I think I'm quite pretty but I think I could reach my full potentiol without the acne.I was wondering if anyone has something free or very cheap [like under 5 bucks] and hopefully natural but doesn't have to be for my acne.I'll love you forever I swear ! lol so please help. (link)
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I have to be honest with you nothing that is free or cheap will help. Why? It doesn't have the medication in it to eat away at the bacteria causing the acne.
What you need to do is see your family doctor and talk to him/her about your bad case of acne. They might have tubes of medication for your acne you can sample from. If not they'll refer you to a dermatologist who will give you a prescription cream.
This medication will literally burn the acne right off and keep it from returning. I don't know of a single over the counter product or anything free or a home remedy that will help you out.
Over the counter products like Clearisil, OXY etc. can handle a small amount of acne but don't contain any medication to handle the bacteria and eat away at a severe acne problem.
Talk to your mother or father and tell them how the acne is hurting your self-esteem. I'm sure they'll take you to see someone or give you more than $5.00 to solve the issue with.
This is what you really are in need of.
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ok so this morning i got 8 tickets to see the jonas brothers in somerville.
I had to buy the tickets one at a time because that was the only way they became available.
so i realized after that the ticket limit was 6!!! and i cant cancel orders!!
will ticketmaster cancel every single ticket?? or just the two that went over???
im soo nervous because i REALLYYY want to go to that concert!!! (link)
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I would phone their charge line and give them your order and confirmation numbers given to you when you bought the tickets. They'll be able to look it up and tell you if anything is wrong. You run the risk of losing all 8 tickets.
However, if you call now and explain you thought it was 6 it should be fine. don't volunteer this info unless they indicate your orer is fouled up.
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Whats the difference between whoring someone and a train??
I read one thing and it said "please do not put [SP] in your name unless you are on the train."
So whats the difference?
thanks
xx (link)
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Urbandictionary.com defines train as I quote "A group of guys stand in a line outside a room. One by one, they enter the room to have sex with one girl inside. The line must have at least 7 guys to be qualified as a train.
A whore is someone who sleeps around and some people use the term to refer to prostitute.
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14/f
im good at making friends but i seem to have a problem with responding adequately when other people are trying to be friends with me. when people try to be friends with me i unconsiously shrink away from them..i think it's im not sure about what theyre like.
what can i do to change this annoying habit? ty (: (link)
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I would start by telling yourself that these people are genuine and not out to hurt me first of all.
Secondly, remind yourself that these people truly want to be your friend and have seen something great in you. They've gravitated towards you because of a talent you have, your sense of style or humor and your personality.
There's no need to shrink away at all. They like you already and for who you really are. They are afraid of the same thing you are. They fear you won't like them or respond well to them or tell them you don't want their friendship.
They are and will be too wrapped up in themselves and worrying how they come across. Both of you want the friendships to form but are scared of the same stuff and thus shrink away.
Go in there and talk to them like you would anyone else and get their friendship. Let them know you are introverted by nature and don't mean to back away. it just takes you longer to get to know others.
Once they know this all will be fine. Tell prospective friends that you are shy, unsure of them/yourself but want to give it a go. They will likely do everything to draw you out of your shell.
One way to force yourself not to shrink away is to invite these people to hang out or see a movie, go bowling or throw your own party. You'll be able to ease up then and have them draw you in to their fun.
I think once you tell people how shy you are normally and you want to be friends and none of this is personal they'll start helping you feel at ease with them.
You should join student council, yearbook or any kind of club at school. Why? You'll be forced to work with and get to know prospective friends and overcome your shyness and not knowing their intentions.
Bottom line, if someone truly wants to be your friend let them. They won't judge you and have good intentions. Let them know how shy you are and that making friend's isn't easy for you.
If they want to be your friend they'll understand and help you feel comfortable.
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lastnight i hooked up with this guy and hes fingered me before as well as other guys but lastnight it hurtttt. it felt good but he put pressure or something over my bladder. no one has ever done this to me before. it hurt realy bad. what is this? do alot of guys do it? and also..when he was eating me out it kinda hurt a lil too.. like he was biting.. why? lol
im 19/f (link)
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I noticed your question a few days ago and decided to come back to it. Why? You mentioned that you felt discomfort and pressure near your bladder or in general when he did this.
Just before final release of a G-Spot orgasm there's this pressure that can be uncomfortable and there's a need to push down. I'm wondering if this is what you were feeling before he stopped. it would seem to make some sense because you said it was pleasurable.
I don't knw for 100% sure if this is it but I figured I would toss a likely theory at you. The most important thing is you're in the driver's seat with your boyfriend. If it feels bad or hurts tell him ouch, stop, don't. That's your responsibility or he will keep going.
Also one person's sense of pain is really different from someone elses. What I mentioned about pressure and discomfort could for you really hurt and for others not. The word hurt doesn't really give an indication of what you felt. Besides pressure was it stabbing hard pain or not?
As far as oral sex goes for obvious reasons we can't/won't give tips. However, he's inexperienced here and you'll have to tell him gently that his methods aren't working and tell him what does it for you.
You might want to buy some books on sexuality or borrow them from a library and read them together. It will help him next time he's well down there.
Most guys his age have never seen female genitals or been given opportunity to do this with a girl. You have to educate him and teach him what you need. Give him some pointers and it will go much smoothly.
The person below who mentioned biting and him trying to do a certain technique and not succeeding is likely what happened. He needs to learn about your reproductive system as well as from you what you enjoy.
If something isn't working or doesn't feel good get him to stop what he is doing and listen to you. You need to guide him before, during, after on what to do. Once he gets what works for you things will go much better. Don't be shy about it or you'll be putting up with pain, discomfort or outright boredom.
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my bf wants to try anal. i thought he was kidding because he always said no, it's gross. i guess not this time. i really don't want to. for so many years of being anemic and constipated from my diet, the idea of a penis being shoved up there.. is not appealing. i've had friends say it's not pleasurable and everything. that it's only good for the guy because it's tight. he 'missed' once and that was a bitch.
so what's your anal experiences? horrible, good? :/ (link)
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You should tell him that as much as you love him there's some things you aren't open to doing. You have given many valid reasons why you don't want to. I have a feeling if you went through with it that it would be a bad experience.
Just tell him it's not your thing and a real turn off. He ought to accept that but if he doesn't it's his problem not yours. It can be pleasurable for some peolle though. Obviously the guy likes it because of tightness. However, the woman may like how it feels after penetrated.
The thing you do need to be aware of is that it's high risk for HIV and STD transmission because the anus does tear very easily. use lots of store bought lubricant and condoms are a must. Just level with the guy about this. Don't do what you don't want to or just to please or keep him.
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Ok we came to america..yea its all legal we're from France and my mother has been stressed trying to get a job and a degree over here since its different. anyway recently ive been getting bad grades which is a flip out because my mom knows me as an A student so i tell her about the grades and im totally sweet and everything and i even cry for her...lol anyway yea and i said sorry over and over and she still flips out majorly. she expects me to be a robot for the rest of high school and not have any fun shes taken away my web accounts like bebo etc and shes saying i wont be able to go out and stuff to parties and to the movies with friends. does she really expect me to live through that. I can strap down and get the grades up and have fun you know? but she keeps telling me how when she was my age she had no fun and she was this and she was that and she shouts like a fucking african haha and I can't stand her I actually want to go up to her and slap her in the face and say you don't make sense mom you're being rash and stupid. but that wont solve it. I may sound like a little brat in this question but im seriously not Im not rich atall and i hardly ever get what I want bt on this? no fun no actuall LIFE. someone please help me on how to battle this out with her and help her see that this is not the right thing to do to help me (link)
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This was how she was raised so naturally it's how she will respond to you about your education. What you need to do is get a tutor for the courses you aren't good in and show her you are studying.
Have Internet access or Facebook pages is fine as long as you can demonstrate you are working to bring your grades up. You need to talk with your teachers and guidance counselors and level with them.
Tell them how mom was raised and that the pressure she places on you is causing you to worry and get stressed. Let them know that she's taken away your freedom and ability to have fun and socialize because the grades aren't all A's.
They'll set her straight. To top things off find a relative, friend's mom etc etc. to apply pressure because she'll listen to them. Do not battle or argue over anything. Go through this with maturity and what I said to do above and it will be a win/win situation.
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14/f/8th grade.
theres this girl who now sits next to me in my english course and we used to not talk to each other AT ALL because....we were both shy i guess (the weird thing is we're both really outgoing with other people. like a week ago i was talking to our mutual friend and i was really outgoing and then she came and i just kind of panicked and stopped talking. idk why.) and all of a sudden we started trying harder to be friends because well, i want to be friends with her because we both have the same sense of humor.
but its soo awkward for me cause its like..well i think the problem is that we're both realizing that there's this undertone of "wow this is kind of awkward"
so sometimes i end up ignoring her because im so uncomfortable. or like the teacher will do something funny so ill comment on it and shell be like "what?" and ill get nervous and just be like "never mind." and then itll be awkward.
chyeahh so how do i make the situation less "awkward turtle"? :] ty (link)
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Why should talking to her be any different than being able to talk with other people? I just don't get it as it's exactly the same thing. I have a pretty good clue why it's not going as smoothly as either of you hoped.
Start by asking what makes me so scared of talking to her? Odds are it's because she's in a clique or more than likely you fear she won't like you for whatever reason you can imagine.
The truth is she's probably thinking the same thing that you won't like her or accept her because of A, B, C or D reasons. She's not concerned with you making an idiot out of yourself but rather herself looking that way to you.
So, what do you do? Approach her in school on Monday alone and tell her that you would really, really like to be her friend and know she feels as shy and awkaward as you do. Tell her to be herself around you and that you'll do the same.
Invite her to hang out one evening next week and go from there. Just treat talking to her like you would mom, dad, siblings etc etc. as it's no different. Sooner or later you'll gel with eachother and this awkwardness will fade away.
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OK first Im f/14
I have a few questions,
1.ok my parents are 50 and 51, so they are old fashioned, well my bf and i have been going out for a year, and my parents always watch us like hawks to make sure we arent doing anything "inappropriate" well, so is there any way to escape them?!?!
2. My boyfriend and i kiss, just a little peck, how do i get him to start making out with me??? and i know he wants to make out with me!!!
3. Well so how do i get him to do more? not sex! but like more than just kissing, like idk what, but any ideas and advice?
4. ok, so like..im really confused with like EVERYTHING to do with guys, b/c he is my first bf, and my parents hide me from the world of anything like that, so explain to me EVERYTHING you can think of! ok?
please help me, and im sorry that im kind of out of the world of guys, sex, and relationships.
Thanks for the advice!!! (link)
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Don't feel embarrassed about just starting your first relationship. There are people even in their 20s or early 30s who never bothered with dating in high school or college. They were often too shy or never given the opportunity to be with someone else. You're normal.
I think what you need to do is talk candidly with your parents about the relationship. Tell them that you have no intention as does your boyfriend of doing anything remotely sexual or inappropriate at all. You're just not ready and he understands that too.
Tell them that if you were intending on having sex that you would use protection and write them a note asking to be put on birthcontrol with no questions asked by either side.
Then ask kindly for them to respect your privacy while at home as you haven't even started kissing even for fear of being caught by them.
As far as doing something more that isn't sexual just tell your boyfriend what you had in mind and wanted to try and ask him to walk you through the makeout process. Set boundaries ahead of time about what you are and are not ready for.
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