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good @ making friends but..
14/f
im good at making friends but i seem to have a problem with responding adequately when other people are trying to be friends with me. when people try to be friends with me i unconsiously shrink away from them..i think it's im not sure about what theyre like.
what can i do to change this annoying habit? ty (:
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
I would start by telling yourself that these people are genuine and not out to hurt me first of all.
Secondly, remind yourself that these people truly want to be your friend and have seen something great in you. They've gravitated towards you because of a talent you have, your sense of style or humor and your personality.
There's no need to shrink away at all. They like you already and for who you really are. They are afraid of the same thing you are. They fear you won't like them or respond well to them or tell them you don't want their friendship.
They are and will be too wrapped up in themselves and worrying how they come across. Both of you want the friendships to form but are scared of the same stuff and thus shrink away.
Go in there and talk to them like you would anyone else and get their friendship. Let them know you are introverted by nature and don't mean to back away. it just takes you longer to get to know others.
Once they know this all will be fine. Tell prospective friends that you are shy, unsure of them/yourself but want to give it a go. They will likely do everything to draw you out of your shell.
One way to force yourself not to shrink away is to invite these people to hang out or see a movie, go bowling or throw your own party. You'll be able to ease up then and have them draw you in to their fun.
I think once you tell people how shy you are normally and you want to be friends and none of this is personal they'll start helping you feel at ease with them.
You should join student council, yearbook or any kind of club at school. Why? You'll be forced to work with and get to know prospective friends and overcome your shyness and not knowing their intentions.
Bottom line, if someone truly wants to be your friend let them. They won't judge you and have good intentions. Let them know how shy you are and that making friend's isn't easy for you.
If they want to be your friend they'll understand and help you feel comfortable.
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Hi, could you not rate this, but I have this same problem, and I was wondering if you could give me the one of better answers you get with this. I just thought I'd ask you to give me one of the answers you get because I have this same issue! Thanks.
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