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awkward turtle situation lol (friendship)
14/f/8th grade.
theres this girl who now sits next to me in my english course and we used to not talk to each other AT ALL because....we were both shy i guess (the weird thing is we're both really outgoing with other people. like a week ago i was talking to our mutual friend and i was really outgoing and then she came and i just kind of panicked and stopped talking. idk why.) and all of a sudden we started trying harder to be friends because well, i want to be friends with her because we both have the same sense of humor.
but its soo awkward for me cause its like..well i think the problem is that we're both realizing that there's this undertone of "wow this is kind of awkward"
so sometimes i end up ignoring her because im so uncomfortable. or like the teacher will do something funny so ill comment on it and shell be like "what?" and ill get nervous and just be like "never mind." and then itll be awkward.
chyeahh so how do i make the situation less "awkward turtle"? :] ty
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Why should talking to her be any different than being able to talk with other people? I just don't get it as it's exactly the same thing. I have a pretty good clue why it's not going as smoothly as either of you hoped.
Start by asking what makes me so scared of talking to her? Odds are it's because she's in a clique or more than likely you fear she won't like you for whatever reason you can imagine.
The truth is she's probably thinking the same thing that you won't like her or accept her because of A, B, C or D reasons. She's not concerned with you making an idiot out of yourself but rather herself looking that way to you.
So, what do you do? Approach her in school on Monday alone and tell her that you would really, really like to be her friend and know she feels as shy and awkaward as you do. Tell her to be herself around you and that you'll do the same.
Invite her to hang out one evening next week and go from there. Just treat talking to her like you would mom, dad, siblings etc etc. as it's no different. Sooner or later you'll gel with eachother and this awkwardness will fade away.
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