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Ok I started this advice site to help out others. My friends say I give good advice but they could just be saying that to be nice lol. Tell me what you think by rating me (1-5, 1 l worst, 5 best). Good or bad, your rate will be appreciated!! Thank you!!
About Me
Basically I'm 13 and i love to draw, swim, play volleyball and soccer, dance, sing, and hang out with friends. i love collecting purses haha, i have this huge purse collection in the back of my closet, most of them i never even use lol. i also like the shop and travel. i make madprofiles and i LOVE movies haha. i pretty much like anything non-academic related lol..god i'm so glad summer's started. anyways that's pretty much all about me!!
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I think you have to be an advicenators member..i'm not really sure, so you have to ask me a question and when you log onto your username, under My Questions, you see my response and you are given the choice to rate it from 1-5. I think that's about it, cyass!
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okay.... i started cutting myself a while ago and my friends found out and i promised i would stop. well i did. for like a month, now i am doing it again and nobody knows about it! i dont know what to do. i CANNOT talk to my mom or a counselor, cuz i know that is something you're gonna say. i just can't okay? they dont even know about it. i just need to get it off my chest. ya know? well.. if you got any advice i would appreciate it. (link)
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actually i wasn't going to say to talk to a mom or counselor lol. but yeah, what's making you cut yourself? what is depressing you lately? boys, school, family? or you just plain hate yourself or life? you have to sort of tell me WHY you're cutting yourself in the first place.
but cutting usually leads to suicide. and the more you keep doing it, the more likely you're going to kill yourself. can you not stop cutting yourself? that's really bad. just think, do you really want your life to be over? your family, friends, everyone would be so sad. you'd lose everything you've ever had. well i don't know if you're suicidal or not-you may say you're not but cutting usually ALWAYS leads to suicide (especially when you can't stop) unless you stop now!
when you aren't depressed or anything, just get like hide all sharp objects from your house. and idk maybe tell your mom to put a lock on the drawer full of kitchen knives..? lol that'll be pretty weird but just try to get away from them. but seriously wouldn't your mom like notice all of your cuts? wouldn't she have noticed by now? she is your mom after all. but sooner or later, she's going to notice, unless she never even looks at you. and if it gets more serious, you have to talk to someone about it, it doesn't have to be your mom or a counselor, it can just be like your friend or someone. but you have to stop cutting yourself, because cutting doesn't make your life any better, it makes it worse. good luck!!
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hey, well my friend and i both like the same guy except she doesnt know i like him and im afraid she'll get mad cuz she RELE RELE likes him, ya well i heard this kids gonna ask me out and shes jealous, i wanna go out with him but be a good friend, should i tell her i like him or somethin?
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well you should tell her that you like him but you aren't going to do anything about it at first, and at first she might be really upset but if she just breaks off the friendship with you then she's not really a good friend. a good friend might be jealous at first and everything, which is perfectly normal, but she shouldn't stay like that forever. and maybe talk to her about what will happen if that guy asks you out, and if she's being sarcastic and stuff when you talk, well.. ok let's just ask this. would you ought to lose your friend or lose your crush (of bf to be). when you choose one, either say yes to him or no. i know both those answers will hurt someone, but it's truly up to you. i can't tell you what decisions to make lol. good luck!!
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okay. so there is this guy who i am going out with. and at first i really liked him. i mean like for the first 2 years we were going out i couldn't get enough of him and we were always together and like he was the guy i lost my virginity to and i really thought we were in love but suddenly i find myself making encuses to NOT be with him and stuff and i started talking to him about just being friends and he got really mad. and then he started hitting me and saying that since he loved me i needed to love him too. and when i said that you cant make someone love you he hit me more and started choking me and stuff like that. and i dont know what to do. cause a few days after that happened the conversation wsa brough up again and he started hitting me again. like more and worse. and i'm afraid if i tell someone then he will come after me and i just dont know what to do. i really dont like him and i dont wanna keep getting hurt (physicallly and emotionally) please help me its really important (link)
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well sometimes you just lose interest in people over time, i mean you've been dating 2 years and that's perfectly normal for people! and your boyfriend is def. abusive to you, i'd hate to tell you this but you HAVE to tell someone. has he seriously abused you, like caused bleeding or left a mark? if he has, he could seriously get in really big trouble and end up going to juvenille or jail (depends on if he's a minor or not). but you have to tell someone, do you want him to keep hitting and hurting you? he has some mental problems, like i'm not just saying that but all boyfriends who abuse their gfs seriously do have some. you need to report him, i'm sorry but you have to. he could end up killing you or close if you don't tell anyone. good luck!!
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about the weed thing - you said to talk to a counsler * i dont want them to call my mom and tell her about this =[ i dont wanna have a big tal with her * do you think i just foget about the kid or keep liing him =[ thanks for the advice early !! (link)
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well do the thing about persuading your friends i suggested. yeah the counselor thing probably isn't that good of an idea lol, sorry! but you can't just stop liking someone! i mean you stop liking someone as you move on but you can't just stop liking someone whenever you feel like it, unless you didn't really even like him in the first place. but maybe you should probably not hang around him too much for a few days so it doesn't seem taht suspicious, but don't make it obvious to that guy. idk, good luck!!
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my boyfriend asked me out on valentines day and now he wants to make out with me.. do you think i should ? (link)
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well do you want to? and making out isn't really that bad, its not like home base or anything. but you've only been dating for a few days and i can see, but w/e it's really up to you-do you want to or not??
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How do you start kissing a guy ? (link)
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umm..you mean for a first kiss? a first kiss shouldn't be like frenching or anything so just a regular old kiss lol. just put your arms around him or w/e and kiss him!!
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here's the deal:: I like three guys. Two out of the three like me back, but not the one I like the most. I can't complain, because the other two like me back. One of them, Mike, goes to my school. We hang out a lot during science, and he really likes me but won't ask me out! And the other boy, Dan, is going out with me but he's a chain smoker and I'm afraid to dump him. He hates that I'm not a "thug" and I don't like rap music. I've been thinking about just stop answering the phone when he calls, since I don't see him elsewhere. I'm just really confused. You don't need to answer, I just really kinda needed to say it somewhere. But it would really help if you told me what to do. My AIM is radio x r0mance if you need to say something to me...
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i'll help, this is an advice column after all=). well i think you should dump your bf because obviously you don't like being around him. if you're afriad to dump him, yeah just stop answering the phone. sooner or later, he's going to dump you. and that other guy who likes you but won't ask you out, well of course he wouldn't because you're already going out with someone lol! but if he never did even when you were single, maybe he will. maybe he's just waiting for the right time.. but i still think you should ditch your bf and try focusing on that guy. and about that 3rd guy you like but doesn't like you back, idk what you can truly do about him because it's not like you can force him to like you or anything. good luck!
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I like this boy and im obsessed with him hes everything i ever wanted !! but then he told me we smoked weed with this kid !! i got really scared and thought about it , sense i like him i stod up for him and said no he dosnt * now there is a rumor that i do drugs with him =[ what do i doo ?? thanks soo much !! xo bye (link)
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well you should try telling people the truth, you stood up for him because well..you cared about him and all. they may not believe you but the rumor really isn't true! maybe you can like try talking to a counselor or someone? or like persuade your friends that the rumor is fake and have them also tell everyone that the rumor isn't true. the more people, the more likely people are going to believe them. good luck!!
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Hey my names Cameron and im having some problems with my best friend Melohni. Im 14 (15 in April =D)and shes 13 (14 in June lol). Yea but anyway when we go out lyk movies or w/e she cant just be happy with that...lyk she always has to take it one step farther and do something that were not suppose to do. Like on time for example, we were at the movies and i walked out in the parking-lot and cought her having sex with just some random guy in his car...now im definently not saying that im some kind of good girl (cuz im def. not) but sometimes it just goes too far...should i talk to my friend about this or what? help me plz =D thanks bunchesz (link)
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well do you live in a small-town or someplace where not much happens? i think your friend is looking for some excitement so she wants to go out and do crazy things. but doing it with a random guy is like insane. you should talk about it, because you can't just go do it with anybody, i mean that's just wrong. if she wants some excitement, why don't ya'll just jump in a fountain where people throw money in lol (me and my friend have done this before haha). and then steal the money in it (j/k)
i think you should talk to her about it because she's putting herself in danger doing that. what if she gets STDs or pregnant?!?! there are plenty of crazy things you can do w/o getting in trouble or breaking the laww.. try those if she always wants to go one step further. i hope that's what she wants, good luck!!
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hey like all of my bras are sports because i play basketball like everyday. but when i am out with my friends or my b/f i kinda need to wear a v bra. how do i tell my mom i want them and the sports bras. it kinda feels uncomfortable (link)
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i can see how it's uncomfortable but if you're really too embarassed to tell her, just go shopping for a v-bra yourself. and if not, then maybe with friends (though that could be embarassing too). or maybe when you go shopping with your mom, you can secretly buy one but not let her know? but it's alright to tell her, i mean your mom wouldn't expect you to wear a sports bra all the time anyway! but even if you for some reason can't get a v bra, it's not like people can see through your clothe and see you're wearing a sports bra when you're out w/ friends or b/f. good luck!
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hey i found a cigerette in my driveway and i kno its not my parents so its prolly my 16 year old brother.. i dont kno why but this is really bothering me and i dont kno what else he could be into. once i read a convo that was on the screen and it said that he smoked weed once. it could have been one of his friends since they are always outside there playing basketball. idk and im really worried. should i ask him? should i tell my parents? (link)
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well maybe he only tried it once just to see how it feels, so it's not that big of a deal. but i can understand how you're worried. but if you ask him and he's actually smoking weed regularly, he's most likely not going to tell you. and telling your parents could get him in big trouble, what if he was only trying it once or what if it wasn't even his? but on the other hand he could be addicted to it. so i think that you should tell your parents about the cigarette and thing, and maybe they can take your brother to the doctor to test him out to see if he really is smoking weed all the time. or maybe when he's gone, you can search his room for weed. if you find some, you should tell your parents. good luck!!
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hey i have a problem... some of my friends are anorexic... what should i do? (link)
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well your friend has a disease-no matter how skinny she is, she still keeps on thinking she's fat. she can't help it. she probably doesn't eat at all or very little, or she eats and then forces herself to throw up. which is not only gross but it's relaly really bad for your body. i don't think there's too much you can do since it is a disease after all, make sure she sees a doctor and doesn't end up killing herself. good luck!!
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hey! well i recently met this really kool guy. we've been talking for about 3 weeks.. hes awesome and good to me. i found out today he was moving about ahalf an hour away. even though it doesnt seem that far away it seems that way to me. i dont know if i should still talk to him, because i mean hes moving away and i probably won tsee him that often. What do you think? do you think that long term relationships workout? (link)
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well it's not like you're going out anyway, are you? but i think you should def. stay friends with all the communication things you have today-the phone, AIM, email, etc.. I mean it's not like he's moving to a different city or anything. If you used to live like right next to him, it could be pretty hard because you can't exactly walk over to his house anymore. But i think you should stay friends. Would you still keep in touch with your bff if she moved to a new state? I def. would, but you shouldn't just end a friendship just because your friend moves away. and 30 minutes..like he could easily drive over if he wanted. good luck!!
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hi. my name is Sam. im 14 and i just started going out with this kid josh and i really like him he asked me out on valentines day =) .. okay well every boyfriend i have my mom never really likes then like she is always like "cant you do better" or "he isnt cute" or stuff like that just like negitive things .. well i haven't told her about josh cus i dont want to know what she has to say about him but it's hard keeping it from her bc like i cant hang with him or she will get suspicious about it. and she doesnt care that i have a bofriend but she doesnt want me to hid things from her. but i just don't know if i should tell her and risk hearing all the negitive things she has to say as soon as she meets him or still keep it a secret. could you help me i relaly need it =) (link)
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well, i think you should tell her because you can't keep it away from her forever and the truth is going to spill out sometime anyway, unless you break up josh like tomorrow or something. but the longer you keep it away from her, the more angry she's going to be when she finds out. but you never know if she's going to say negative things about him *even though there's a pretty high chance she is, since she always has*. and also if she does, tell her that she should accept your boyfriends because you love them and that she doesn't control your love life. you love them and that's that. she can't change that. and plus she can't force you to dump them anyway so what can she really do?
so what you should do is tell her, and when she starts saying negative things you should tell her what i just told you. she can't tell you who to date or not, who to marry. good luck!!
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hey girl!! im feeling a bit crazy these days so can you help me. are there any crazy pills i can take caz im going CRAZYYYY. ahha i love ya bye!
-jenna (link)
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ahha, you're ALWAYS crazy. i'm j/k ur awesome byee!!
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hey i like this guy and his best friend told me that he likes me, too. they also said that he likes my best friend. he asked out my best friend a few months ago but she said no b/c i liked him and she wanted to protect me. if he asks me out should i say yes? my friend likes him too and she rejected him so that i wouldnt get hurt and i was wondering if i should say yes or no if he asks me out.... thanks
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wow that's tough. that was really loyal of your friend to do something like that for you. i'm not telling you which one to do but i'm going to say things about each answer, so you choose.
If you say yes
1) your friend might feel betrayed, because she said no for you and then you said yes
2) you might feel guilty for what you did for your friend, but after all you didn't force your friend to say no to him in the first place anyway (did you?)
3) well you get to be your crush's gf =)
4) you may risk a fight between you and your friend
...how much do you like this guy? how much do you care about your friendship?
If you say no
1) you and your friend both prove to each other that you're both loyal =)
2) well you don't get to go out w. your crush =(
3) well that guy might be hurt from 2 girls saying no to him in a row
4) you may feel guilty for not saying yes when you truly wanted to
this is truly are friends more important? or is he? why don't you try talking it over with your friend. i think that's probably the best thing to do. and he hasn't asked you out yet, has he? well but there is a chance he will, since he does ask you. good luck!!
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okay .. ii really like thisz quy chriisz and he saiid that he really likesz me to and shiit well .. he said that he doesn't want a qiirLfriiend riiqht now er anythiinq but ii am really fall`n for him .. and ii kinda mess`d with hisz friiend tuh qet hisz attention but ii`ve had a crush on hisz friend jeff siince schooL started .. but then when i met chris ii`ve really start`d tuh fall for him and ii don`t know what to do bekusz he saysz he likesz me and all this shit but doesn`t want a qiirLfriiend does that mean he doesn`t like me er that he isn`t ready fer a qiirL?!
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well sometimes guys don't want a girlfriend, even when they like a girl. maybe they were in a really bad relationship and want some alone time to be single. or maybe he just doesn't think he's ready, like he's going to make a fool of himself over you or it's going to get in the way of his friendship with you? if he says he likes you, he must like you then. but if he doesn't want a girlfriend at the moment, you can't force him to go out with you. maybe you can focus on his friend jeff =). but idk, maybe chris might get jealous of jeff since he likes you after all. but w/e good luck!!
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hey! well i dont know what to do, i really like this kid okay. i mean ive liked him for 2 years, and i recently dated him and we broke up because he cheated on me. he comes back and says sorry and that i deserve better. i dont know if i should go back to him and risk getting hurt again or if i should just let him go! idk what to dooooo!! PLEASE HELP!! (link)
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well i can def. understand why you broke up with him. but how did that guy cheat on you? did he just take another girl out on a date or something? did he make out with her or something? or worse? if he made out or worse, i probably wouldn't because that's just wrong doing that when you already have gf. but if he only took her out on a date or something w/o anything bad happening between them, then maybe you could if you really want to. because he didn't even cheat on you that BADLY anyway so maybe he deserves another chance. but if he cheats on you a 2nd time while you're going out, you should def. leave him and not ever go out with him again. but thats my advice for you..good luck!!
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im going to the formal this spring but i dont really have boobd and all dresses i look at are gay on me and ppl will kno if i stuff .. wat do i do im like a 0 dress (link)
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try wearing padded bras. ususally they won't look really weird, but people might be a bit suspicious seeing how different you look. but seriously a lot of people wear padded bras (trust me, but seriously its not like they go around telling people that lol). try buying a dress from macys or neiman marcus or somewhere..abercrombie or hollister DEFINITELY don't have any dresses lol. also in the newest cosmogirl, they have lots of really awesome dresses =). i'm sure you can find the perfect dress for you!!
also try wearing necklaces or wear you hair down but put the sides in front of you so it won't seem that obvious that you have a padded bra on. sorry that may not help much, but it just might!!:) good luck!!
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ok well i just found out that my best friend andhe boy friend [ they have been going out for 3 months ] has been like doing bad things with her like fingering her. she said that she didnt wanna do it and he said he didnt either :-/. But if she cant say no to fingering is she gonnabe able to say no to like Sex or something...not to mention he has a record of doing stuff like that...i just really dont want anything bad to happen WHAT SHOULD I DO!
p.s they both just turned 14
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i don't know what she's going to say, i mean i'm not her after all. but make sure she knows the risks of doing it like STDs (that could seriously kill you) and getting pregnant. and if she says "we're going to use condoms and birth pills, etc... anyway!" well those don't help all the time.
tell her STDs could kill her or leave her infected for life. there's some that can leave warts in her private part as big as golf balls. some that cause red spots all over her body. some that cause white stuff to grow in your mouth (thrush), etc... or i bet you could even get more than one of those.
also if she gets pregnant *and she doesn't have abortion or send the baby to an orphanage or w/e* then she's going to have to take care of the baby. dude she's only 14, she's going to miss out on her childhood. babies are really hard to take care of (i only babysit them and they're a pain in the ass). what if both her parents work? then WHO is going to take care of the baby?? she's going to start failing school by taking care of her kid all the time and then she won't have a future at all. her baby probably isn't going to either.
also losing her virginity is a big thing. idk if i support that "no sex before marriage thing" or w/e...idc but like make sure she's absotlutely positively sure that she loves this guy with all her heart and that he won't leave her behind to take care of the baby ALL BY HERSELF if you get pregnant. good luck!!
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