HEY EVERYONE, I'M KAT!
and i'm here to help :)
i love to give advice, and i've been told that i give some good advice, aswell.
i'm very dedicated once i get involved in someone's problems, and i'll probably make sure you're okay, and that my answer has been sufficent.
i don't 'sugarcoat' my answers, as just about every columnist on this site complains about, but i do present everything in a way that people will be able to handle, and relate to in their situation.
i could honestly care less about ratings, i just wanna help some people out. in my problems, current and past, i seek help through my friends, who i adore.
i'm a huge my chemical romance fan, and i know pretty much everything about them; so if you have a question on them, i'm here. go for it. ;)
i'm unique in my own way, so ask me for something, and i'll give you a fairly different answer.
XOXO
KAT!
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hey whats a good place to get some good love pictures...
liek i went onto buddy4u.. but they all have liek the same pictures....
any toher sites?? (link)
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I'd reccomend photobucket.com
either that, or the obvious google.com/images.
Good luck.
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13/f. well, i have been wearing makeup for about 3 years now and its the natual stuff so it doesn't clog my pores or look caked on or anything. well, i've been getting these little white splotche(?)spots on my face and i've tried using conceler, and bronzer and stuff, but it never works! help! i don't know what to do. thanks!
p.s. by the way, the type of makeup i use is bare minerals, if anyone needs to know to give my advice. thanks!
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Well, I'd reccomend using a two step cover up kind of thing, at least until the sploches go away. First, get an oil free liquid cover up to put on the areas you want of cover up. Then, get a powder to match your skin tone to go over top of that. It's kind of a thick layer, but it feels really light and really covers up bad areas. =)
Good luck.
Kat
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is so mean to me
but i still like him, no matter what.
I dont know what to do!
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Maybe the way he's being 'mean' to you is meant to be flirting?? I'm not sure what to say here, since there's not alot of detail, but I'd say that if you like him, go for it and try to flirt and be nice to him. Stuff like that that might get him to stop being mean.
Either that, or try to stay away from him if he's being a really bad friend/person.
Good luck.
Kat
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Okay well, there's this guy on my bus and he is sooooo cute, but my best friend likes him too. He is funny and sweet, but i don't want to betray my friends trust by asking him out or say yes if he asks me out. Also i am afraid i have no chnce with him cause he's "the cool kid". There is also this guy in my class we'll call him 2(as in guy too). Well 2 has been starring at me lately and i 've liked him for 2 years. I'm not afraid to ask him out or anyhting it's just this guy that likes me and who is also my BF is his BF! Then there is 3(as in guy three) he is really cute, but i have like no chance with him cause he's the "cooler kid" but he is also funny. He is also wonderful. Except... well there are these rumors that he is concieded a jerk and not a virgin and i am in the 7th grade here people in my opinion that is just wrong, but how do i know which rumors are true????? I honestly don't know what i'm asking but hey if any advice comes to mind go ahead and tell me (link)
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Well, In my opinion, you should just concentrate on being FRIENDS with these guys. Obviously you're in some kind of dilema over which guy to choose, so I'd just say to not worry about any of them.
If you absolutely need to worry about at least one, though, 'kid two' sounds best, since there don't seem to be rumors going around, and you wont hurt your friends feelings.
Just don't worry about guys too much, you'll have such a long time to be doing that! lol
Good luck
Kat
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Im just moving up the street , so its not a big deal.
But the neighborhood I live in now has the boy i like in it.
We are pretty good friends and stuff and i THINK [not 100%] sure that he used to like me and we used to hangout like every weekend.
Everytime i say that im moving or not gonna ride the bus him and his friends will all say " YAY!"
but then online or alone he doesnt act like hes gonna miss me but he doesnt act like he wants me to leave.
but do you think the guy i like might miss me??
Because hes always trying to be around me , its weird. (link)
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I think he's just trying to impress your friends or mess around with you. I'm pretty sure he'll miss you somewhat fi he's always trying to hang out with you.
About him and his friends, just respond with something like
*tear* I'm hurt. (sarcastic, of course)
or something like.. 'well I'm glad to be moving away from you guys!'
good luck with everything though!!
kat
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This summer me and this boy i like hungout ALL the time, talked online alll the time and the phone all the time and he acted like he liked me.
Then when school came around he started being mean to me sometimes, i mean we are still friends but whats the deal?
and he has a girlfriend now but i still like him and i cant stop even though hes a complete jerk sometimes , but others he's a real sweetheart.
I need help!
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He's probably acting differently because he's got more friends to hang around with now, who may not have been around to talk to during summer. It sounds really sad, and I'm sorry if that's why he is acting like that. Just make sure you keep trying to talk to him like a good friend. Try bringing up inside jokes, and he'll realize how close you two were during the summer.
good luck! kat
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so i like this guy, lets call him cody. he knows i like him but my friend ashley likes him too. well, she asked him out and he said he had to think about it. then today he said he is probably going to go out with her because she actually asked him out and he thinks i hang all over him too much. i dont hang over him at all and my friends agree with me. i talk to him alot but thats because were friends. i dont know if i should ask him out or if i should leave him alone for a while. but if he says yes to ashley, im going to be so sad. i dont know if he likes me because when my friends ask if he does he says he doesnt know, but when i ask him if he does he says yes. im just so confused and i dont know what to do. he invited me to his b-day party on the 21st and if he says yes to her, it will be sooo uncomfortable for me. what should i do???
and another thing..
we are having this thing at our school where you can send people flowers. i was thinking of sending him one, but now i dont know if i should because of what he said about me hanging all over him. should i send him one?? (link)
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Well this sounds kinda complicated, but just hear me out.
I'd say to just let things go their way, and just see if he asks her out or not. If he does, you'll be able to know that if you two went out, he wouldn't be having regrets about it, or even worse, cheating. I understand you'd be sad, but you need to let things work out well for both of you. I'd just try to stay the same as you always are. Bringing up the flirting a bit wouldnt hurt, though. Maybe he'd see he likes you?
And I'd say you should send him one of the flowers. It dosent have to be romantic, maybe write an inside joke on a card attached or something and make it look friendly?
Just, what ever you do, be there for him, and be a great friend. Support his decisions, and he'll see that you respect him and care about him.
Good luck
Kat
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I have a problem of staying on top of things at school. I study, but I freak out on tests. I make a schedule but I rarely ever follow it, and when I come in for extra help it's never worthwhile because I just end up doing worse.
My point is, I need GREAT, EXPERIENCED, and PROVEN advice on how to ace tests and assignments (OK maybe not "ace" it, but rather do dramatically better). Also, give me some great techniques, like for example I heard chewing gum helps you stay awake and attentive on tests, and helps you do better with thinking of answers more effectively.
Also, advice on my "procrastination" problem would be nice as well.
Thanks in advance!!!
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I would reccomend studying a little bit each night when you find out you're having a test. I'll admit it, I'm quite the procrastinator, but that can also come in handy. Try teaching your material to an OLDER friend or a parent, becuase teaching is the best way to show yourself you really understand something.
Also, try to write out some work sheets for yourself.
I'd try to also take outlines/notes/webs on what you're learning. First try using your recourses, then without, and then try to teach someone else to do an outline/ect. with the info YOU teach them. =]
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I have 2 guinea pigs and i changed their bedding about once a week. I put baking soda or whatever that stuff is called at the bottom of the bed so it wont smell AS bad but does anybody have any remedies that can help me out so the room doesnt smell so bad? (link)
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Aw, I had this problem, too. I'd try getting an air freshener or something to put next to the cage. Don't do anything like spraying perfume, or putting body powder in the cage. I'd reccomend spraying something that would kill bacteria like febreeze. Try spraying that a few times a day for a few weeks and see how that works up. Also, make sure you CLEAN the cage with soap and water, instead of just changing the bedding.
They're most likely smelling badly because I'm pretty sure rodents have 'cycles' with discharge, too, each month. I know my hamster did, so if you've got females, this may be a reason, too.
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my parents are so retarded. they let me go out with people they don't know like super incredibly well some days and then others I'm not allowed to go anywhere with them. how can I get them to trust me and let me go out with my friends? (link)
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well, make sure you help out around the house, dont' get cockey, ect. Be really kind, helpful, ect. Also, get your parents to meet these friends of yours, and let them be the judge then. Also, get your parents to talk to yourfriends parents over the phone or something, this will help them see how the kid was raised, and.. well just believe me, it will really help.
good luck!
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Alright, I really like this guy, and I try to flirt with him all of the time, and it seems like he is kind of, but not really getting the hint. What are some other thigns I can do. Like, when i leave class, i always try to walk the same way and things. Also, what are some good ideas of thinking of ways to hang out with him. I'm too shy to ask him out, but i really want to. (link)
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I'd say that you should try to work together for a project, this gives you the possibility of having an excuse to talk to him for extra time, and maybe even see if you, him, and a group of friends could all hang out. Maybe try physical things? Like tickeling, playful punching, thumb wrestling-haha sounds lame, but just try it-but yea. Also, try challanging him to things, that should result in something fun. =)
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ok, you see i went out with one of my best friends and things just werent going the way i wanted them to, so i dumped him. Now i regret that even though it was like 6 months ago and ive gone out with other guys. Me and my ex are still friends and i kinda know that he still likes me but im wondering should i ask him out?? Im like just so confused on what to do. (link)
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Well, the obvious would be that if you like him, you should ask him out. Just don't go out with him for the sake of having a boyfriend. Just make sure you already have his forgiveness for the breakup and everything, and all should go well. =]
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im pretty good friends with this guy and i like him and he knows it but i mean i seriously cant get over this. is their any possible way i can get him to fall for me? (link)
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I'd just say to be more flirty, like i'd say to anyone else in this situation. Talk to him as much as possible, but watch that you dont' really get annoying or anything. Just try to make jokes and everything while he's around, and be friendly to everyone you're around, too. =)
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does anyone know where to get those fleece jackets that say "the north ...(something else) on it? its black to if that helps. people say its really warm. thanks. (link)
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If you're talking about the 'North Pole' jackets, you should be able to find them at a New York Urban store. Also, I'd reccomend Ebay, deals and you'll be able to find what you want. =]
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Alright. Well there is this guy that I like, and he is in my history and math class. He sits next to me in history and we talk all the time. I try to flirt with him, but I can't tell if he is flirting back. Anways, I've never had a boyfriend or anything, I've never been kissed or been asked out or anything like that. My question is how can I make this guy notice me more, or how could I, I don't know, like, ask him out almost. I just need help!! (link)
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Well, I'd just reccomend to try to talk to him alot. Maybe find an excuse to give him your number... like asking for help or something. Also, warm up to his friends, to get inside jokes and everything. I'd just also say to be very.. flirty. =)
Good luck, and it kinda does sound like he likes you. =)
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I'm the kind of girl who always though suicide was horrible and whoever even thought about it was physco. All my parents do is call me worthless and a f**king bitch and telling me to move out and my dad would even say he hopes I die. I get blamed for everything in this house and get told that I'm a lazy piece of s**t. They treat my little brother like he's perfect and can do no wrong. He can stay home from school when he wants and end up doing whatever he wants even though he stayed home. I stayed home on a 4 hour school day and now I'm grounded and not allowed to do anything. Everytime I want to talk to my mom about how I'm feeling she just goes on about how I'm a disrespectful b**ch and she tells me to move out. I told her I wanted to move out and now she won't let me and she said if I go anywhere she'll call the police on me and she'll send me away because she doesn't care. There's so much more to the story but I don't know what to do anymore. This has been happening to me for a long time and I cry at least everyday and I just want to kill myself now because I can't take this anymore. Does anyone have any advice? pleaseeee
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Just know, before I say anything, there are plenty of people out there who would care and probably want to die themselves if you did that to yourself. Things will get better. They may get worse for a little, but as your parents see what you're obviously feeling if you're crying all the time, they're probably going to realize what they're doing.
If not (if they're ignorant, can't see it, that mean) you need to talk to them, or get someone to talk to them, because no one should have to feel this way. Try pouring out to them about how you feel, try to write a note, and make sure you include that you understand their point of view.
If they keep treating you like this, though, see if you'd be able to stay with a relative or something.
Just remember, there are so many people who care about you, and you're even fifteen, so you should be able to be out soon enough, anyway.
Really, feel free to email me to keep me posted. I'll honestly and sincerly write back and try to help my best.
xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
Good luck. And please take what I, and everyone else says, into consideration.
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whenever i shave my legs, i get these dots on my legs. no, not razor burn or anything they're not red, they're like kinda black dots. what can i do to make these go away? (i use a gillette daisy disposable razor and i just got it, so its not old or anything. and i use skintimate raspberry rain shaving gel, if that helps) thankss (link)
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I think this is probably the root of the hair you've just shaven off. They are more visable after you shave, because when they're longer, it's harder to see the hair, but the closer you get to the root, the darker it gets because there are more chemicals,ect, that stick there.
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I'm not sure what should I do so I come to you guys. I'm going to take a poll so I have a better way to do it or not.
My sister just began to drive (she's 17) and she broke a law. For the first 6 months, she shouldn't have anyone in the car except herself and a sibling (that's me). She took some people to Dairy Queen (less than a mile far...you could walk there) from school. She does colorguard and thought it won't hurt. She didn't just break my mom's law, she broke the actual law.
Should I:
A. Let her go and if she breaks a law again and gets caught, it's her fault.
B. Tell my mom that she did it and she might get her keys tooken away, but maybe she'll think again...maybe.
If you have any more things I could do, do tell. And why should I do it?
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well, if I were in the situation, I'd reccomend just telling her that was wrong, adn warning her she could get in trouble. If she does it anymore, tell someone, not to fight with her or anything, be to help her to be safe, and to protect others.
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a polo with a white sweater over it
denim mini skirt with leggings under
&& uggs..
..now what color polo should i wear? (link)
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I think the outfit sounds great.
Though I'd reccomend either long leggings that will come below the boots, or a different kind of shoe, like heels or flats. =]
And I'd reccomend a neutral colored polo. Warm colors or natural looking colors.
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ok i just got my friend gorunded because she came over and we uploaded pictures onto my computer from her camera and i guess i accadently deleted important pictures and now her mom grounded her and she called me crying and it made me cry and i feel SOOOO bad too!! also i just got over something happing sort of like this with another friend but what can i do to help my friend? (link)
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this might be kinda hard, and it definately sounds easier said than done, but tell her mom that it was you. Explain that it was a complete accident, and if needed, tell her your friend wasnt' in the room at the moment or something, because hse might try to say 'well ******* should have known better and watched'. That way it wont really change. If you're too nervous to do this to her mom's face, a letter is a great idea, too.
Good luck, and your friend should be able to forgive you and all, especially if you at least TRY to talk to her mom. =)
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