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lulabelle
Okay, so i think i asked this question wrong last time, so im guna re ask it.

-- Theres this boy whom i meet thru a friend at the movies a week ago. And we really hit it off, so he came over the next night. That night we played the "question game" and now i feel like i've known him forever. So when he was over he was like a family guy, and this made me really happy! Because most of the time when i have guys over to meet my family, they just get annoyed and want to be alone. And coming from a family of 5 kids, i need a boy who will enjoy being around my siblings. Well anyways, the next night he came over.. and we were chillin on my couch and like cuddling and watching movies. I have a messed up knee && just had surgery so i couldnt do nething else. Well he kissed me and that was that. I was happy because for once i felt like i found a guy who cared more about being with me && getting to me then "getting with me" Because in the past i've had shitty relationships && ended up gettin really hurt, so i've kinda been scared of relationships since. But neways, the next day he came over and we watched movies again and just madeout. Then the next day (4th day) he came over.. and we were all alone in the basement. And watching movies.. and he was like playing with my pants line..tickling me cuz he knows i like it. Well he was messing around and like stuck his hand in my pants like an inch.. and i laffed and said.. YOUUU TEASEEE. and he was laffing && slowly went down farther. And then before he fingered me he was like, is this okay? ANd im like yeah. Cuz like really felt like i knew him, && i completely trust him. So i let him. And at the time it was cool or wateva. But then, i was thinking about it. And i was like wow, this is exactly what i shouldnt have let happen. I dont want another relationship where its all bout getting some. or being used. Then i was really upset about it.. so i talked to him. And he felt bad so he promised he wouldnt do it again until we were BOTH ready for it. And so far its going good. We've just been kissing .. and we've hugn out the past few days. So i know that he dont really care that we dont do nething. But i still feel guilty. What do you think i should do? And what i did, was that wrong? HELP PLEASEEE

--guilty. (link)
I think you are lucky.

He is willing to wait and go slow for you. He asks, to be sure you are okay with everything. He likes your family, and loves you.

Be happy! Not guilty.


So, about a year ago. I stole a little make up bag from a store. And ever since then i keep stealing more and more. && i cant help it. It's gotten worse ive stolen hundreds of dollars of makeup and hundreds more of clothes, you name it, i've stole it. When i see somethign, i dont feel like i ened money to buy it, because its so easy. One time i almost got caught, but i was lucky and got away with out gettin introuble. I thought for sure this stopped me. But then i stole something the next day. THen after that, i was in a wheel chair for being hurt while playin soccer. And that was 5 weeks that i havent stole when i was at the mall or ne store for that matter. (wasnt physically possible) well i was happy with myself. And today i went to the mall w/o crutches or a wheel chair for the first time in 5-6 weeks. Andi was all happy cuz i hadnt stolen nething, and i didnt steal ne clotehs. but then, i stole a neclace. I dont know what to do. :-/ HELP PLEASE? (link)
Avoid places that are tempting.

When at the mall, don't bring any bags, get a wallet with a strap or something. Don't wear clothes that are baggy or have pockets.

Go to the stores with friends. That way you will fell less desire to steal stuff.

Learn how to earn and save money. Buy the things you want. It is very satisfying to buy something you've worked hard for.

Talk to someone. You might have kleptomania.


Sorry this is so long plz don’t pass it by
13/f
All my life I dreamed of being famous when I was six I wanted to be just like britney spears so when I was about 7 years old I joined chorus for about a year then I figured it just wasn’t for me you know so I quit then things kind of got bad between my parents so we didn’t really go to church anymore and then for about 3-4 years I played soccer was really really good at it then I quit that too when I was 11 and then my parents got a divorce and when I was 11-12 I took drama and acting lessons and now hear I am I’m 13 now and I really want to model I mean its like a passion for me I really want to be a model more than anything in the world because I figure it’s a good place to start if I want to be an actress when I get older so I want to be a model for like modeling clothes kids clothes and stuff you know I know I have the attitude to be a model I’m 110% happy with myself I think I’m pretty enough to do I have everything really but there’s one problem I don’t live anywhere near any modeling stuff or anything like that but I am about 3 hours away from Atlanta a.k.a A Town lol but and I just don’t really know where to start modeling or who to start modeling for does anyone have any ideas for me I really wanta reach my dream all my friends have already started on their dream I have a boyfriend who is an incredible gutair player friends how are amazing writers and are really smart but now more then ever I wanta reach my dream but I don’t know how and where to starts
PLZ HELP*
Oh yea I didn’t know what thins went under
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Get a portfolio done, and then look up places to send it to. The internet might be a good place to look.



Ok i'm 13/f and I've got a solo for our summer music institute "L'ho perduta, me meschina" of Barbarina from Act IV of "Le Nozze de Figaro" (aka. "The Marriage of Figaro")

The time signature is:

6
8


I know I should know, but my brain isn't functioning today. could somebody here remind me what the numbers stand for? Also it would be really nice if anyone here who has sung this solo to give me a few pointers on the piece???



♠ Sheila ♠
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8th notes are one beat, and there are 6 beats per measure.


hey♥ i have been with Tim off and on since february vacation but at the end up may we started actually getting close and can talk about anything now. we have been goin out and we hangout alot ( we`ve already had sex, so dont critisize) but today i noticed he asked me something that i was sort of worried about before. me and him were sitting at dunkin donuts and he was like " do you seriously love me" and he was the first guy i have ever said it to and i said of course i do, alot and i told him he has no idea what he means to me, then i asked why? and he was like i love you and like you alot, and sometimes i think you dont and your randomly gunna not like me and break up with me. it was so weird! like i dont understand why hed say that, should i be worried? then we were across the street outside and he was gunna go in and get something but these guys came out of a store and sat in there car and tim waited till they left to go in the store because he thought they would talk to me and id do somethin.. id never do that.. whats some ways i can show him how much i love and care?♥ thanksss! (link)
It sounds like he is insecure. Try doing little special things for him, like leaving short notes for him, candy, making his favorite foods, etc.

But be carefull. SOmetimes insecurity can lead to becoming very possesive, which can lead to abuse. So don't let him be too worrried. If he starts trying to control you, tell him that you love him, but you need your freedom.


Alright, so, as it's probably helpful to know a little info about me, I'm 16, female. And I'm in love, I know it, I can feel it's true just as surely as I know that 2 x 2 = 4. I find myself having a whole new perspective, a whole new outlook, on life. I realize that whatever happens, it's going to be alright, because I'll have someone there by my side who I can trust with anyone, and we can be there for eachother through whatever happens. (btw, Thanks to anyone who answered my previous question, the answers have helped me realize that going to seperate colleges, while tough, is something we can handle.) Now, I know he loves me, and he talks as though whatever happens, we'll always be there for eachother, but am I doing the right thing? I mean, there doesn't seem to be a doubt in my mind about this, or him, or whether this is the real deal. But I feel like I should just step back and take one more look, I mean, I'm 16, and this isn't something that usually happens at this age. Any thoughts? (link)
If you feel like you need to take a look at things, discuss this with your boyfriend. You should be able to confide your doubts in him.


Okay, I really want to start using ebay, not to sell things, but to buy things..I`m only 15 years old...so I don`t have my own credit card..I would pay for it ..I just need to use a credit card. The thing is My mom has said she doesn't like buying things online because she doesnt like giving out her credit card number out..I need some advice on how to convice her to let me use ebay. I would pay for everything, I just need her credit card to use..So how can i convince her To let me use Ebay? (link)
Paypal works very well to make sure you get your stuff and they get their money.


I know its always better to be yourself ive learned that. The problem is i dont know ho wot find out who I am and what to do when being myself. (link)
Just act however comes naturally.

Think: If no one was around, what would I do? Say? How would I act?

One thing that helped me was talking to people online. Since they don't see you (nor you them) You can act more naturally.


Ok, my hair is very thick and naturally wavy/curly. It takes two to three hours for me to straighten it and I need some other ideas for some hair styles. I tried using one type of gel that said if i scrunch my hair while blow-drying (with this gel in), it would make my hair look curly. But it didn't work. Is there any porduct you recommend? and if you could give me a website or tell me some ideas for my hair that would be great!!! Please respond!! Thanks! (link)
Get curling products and scrunch them in!

Mousse and gels work best. Also, try finishing cremes. They help to de-friss hair, and make it soft and shiny.

I recommend Citre Shine curling products. Garnier Fructis also works well. Or if you want to splurge, git the John Freida Frizz-ease line. Those ROCK! But cost a small fortune.


i want to go to Wake Forest university but i don't have good enough grades to get or the gpa level yet, i am only a sopohomore but i still want to get in, i do have another choice of UNCW whitchis a good college. should i work harder to get into wake forest or just settle for uncw? (link)
Work for it! You can get in.

Don't give up on your dreams.


my exboyfriend hurt me emotionally in ways that i never thought he would hurt me we have been broken up for over a year and im just now getting over the pain and hurt but i want revenge i want to get even i want him to hurt the same way i was hurting so what should i do to get revenge or get even without hurting my boyfriend (link)
1. Get a destructible object, or one you can beat severly.

2. Put the image of your ex on it.

3. Mutilate, attack, burn, and otherwise destroy the image of your ex. Spit on the remains.

4. Enjoy some peace of mind.


Do you know how to stop deoderant from getting stuck in clumps beetween the folds of your underarms? Im afraid to lift my hands above my head because of all the white clumps of this so called "invisible deoderant" next, when I shave its smooth and there is no hair, yet its all dark, because I have black hair. Do you know any way to stop all the darkness and clumpyness under my arms? And plz, no waxing, cuz im terrified. I rate high (link)
Get a sharper razor, and try using a new deodorant. Dove is good when you shave, because of the moisturizers, but can leave clumps. I use Secret usually, because it doesn't show, but have Dove for after shaving.

Get trial sizes of different deodorants until you find one you like!


13/f

ok my friend and I are going to babysit together. What would be a good price to have parents pay for our babysitting? there is 2 of us and we both need money. but also we cant charge too too much cuz then we wont get any bizness. also, is there anything else about babysitting i should know?

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5-6 an hour for two sitters is more than reasonable.

Bring a "goodie bag"! Pack age-appropriate toys and games, and bring it. Change the stuff inside everytime. That way, the kids have something to look forward to!


My boyfriend and I broke up a little more than 2 months ago, and about a week ago he told me that he still loved me and could never bare to tell his mom we broke up because it would make it "real." I told him that i still love him too, and, even though we had gone back to being best friends after we broke up, now that we both admitted to still liking eachother we have barely talked or anything. I'm starting to worry our frienship is falling apart, which is more important to me than ANYTHING. Is there any way i could make a move to tell him we're still OK and nothing's changed, anything u guys think will help...or, more importantly, any reason this has happened? (link)
Just confront him. Ask him why things have changed, and reassure him that you'll still be friends.

Or get back together!


ok im 13 years old and a girl and my sister just got me this baby-sitting job. Its for a 8 or 9 year old i dont know if its a boy or girl though she hasnt told me. But i was wondering what i could do to keep them entertained and busy for a the few hours that i'm with them. I mena i really need the money and i dont want to screw this up and end up gettin the job takin anyway. so please help me thanx everyone. (link)
If it is a little boy, play sports and/or video games. The boy will love you forever. ^^ Lol.

A little girl around that age likes games of dressup and pretend. For example, pretend you are having a concert. Dress up, and sing along to your favorite songs!

Movies work as well, and telling stories can be fun. Try taking turns making up parts of a story.


ok i want to have a bonfire on the beach...but is it allowed? anyone know any specific beaches that allows bonfires? i bet the beaches in NY dont allow ..or do they? (link)
Ask a police officer or fireman. They would probably know.

Don't just assume it is okay! One of my friends started a bonfire, without knowing she couldn't, and got arrested for arson! ((She's fine now, though))


Okay so i'm going to be 14 in August and my period still hasent come yet. My boobs are VERY large for my size (4ft 11in and size 32B).I also masturbate so i dont know if that is affecting it, should i stop? My mom got her period at the age of 11 so i feel like something is wrong. I'm anxious to get my period because dont want to get it at like a really bad time( example: down the beach with my friend). At least if i have it i'll no what/when to expect it. ALL my friends have it so i also feel VERY left behind. Will rate for good advice. Please dont tell me i'm lucky i havent gotten it or its not that great to have, or ne thing like that. Much love, Please help! (link)
Enjoy not having it! It is not fun.

Some people get it earlier than others. You may not have it until 16 and it would still be normal. ^^ SO no worries.


My sister and I planned a one week vacation in Paris. She lives in Colorado and I live in California so we do not get to see each other often. I made all the arrangements and was very much looking forward to going. Recently, she got back together with her boyfriend and has canceled her trip with me because she would rather do something with her boyfriend. I feel hurt about my sister's choice and resentful towards her boyfriend (although my sister says it was solely her decision). I say she can see her boyfriend every weekend and during the week too and that she can go on vacation with him next year. She says this is her only opportunity to go on a vacation this year with him and she doesn't want to miss it. I know my relationship with my sister is more important than any vacation, but I'm having trouble feeling ok about this. Should my sister have honored her commitment to me? Should I just get over it and wish them well on their vacation? (link)
You are more than justified in feeling hurt...

Talk to her about it. Tell her you want to spend time with her, and that you miss her.

WHy not invite her boyfriend too? That way you get to spend time with your sister, and she with her boyfriend!

If nothing else works, wish them well. There;s nothing else you can do.


I would like to find my biological mother.

She left my little sister and I when we were very little. We saw her a few times while growing up, but most of the experiences ended in not such good ways. A lot of it is tied to the problem of her not being able to just tell us shes sorry for leaving.

We exchanged words about four years ago over that issue, and have not spoken since.

I want to find her because my grandmother - her mother is going to pass away and has been asking about her. None of her kids are here for her - and I doubt she even knows whats going on.

So I am asking for advice on how to go about doing this. I tried paying money for the more popular finding people sites, and mostly to no avail. (link)
Try her social.

Or, if you need to, try hiring a private detective?


17/f
Alright, i feel silly asking this question but sometimes i feel weird that my boyfriend is a bit shorter then me. I love him very much and he loves me back even more and a feel like this could last for a long time. Should i talk to him about this (but i guess its not like this is going to change it) or what should i do? Am i stupid for feeling like this? (link)
Nope. It is a stereotype that the guy is taller, so you feel awkward.

Don't bug him about it. He'll probably feel self-concious or, god forbid, wear platform shoes.

If it makes you feel better though, wear flat shoes, so the height difference isn't so great.

But other than that, it will just take time to get used to. DOn't let it ruin a good thing. ^^




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