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Q: hey
i'm doing a report on gangs
and i need to know about the crips.
like why do they kill people, who do they kill?
i know what they wear and stuff so i don't need that. but like how old do you have to be and are the dangerous friends.

thanks so much!

o to google and look up Tookie Williams
i guess you could say he founded the crips.

Q: do yall think that a guy would find it weird if you sang to him? im talking about if they were goin out. thanks in advance.

no, not at all.
unless your a bad singer. haha
my boyfriend often bugs me to sing for him.
so id assume they like it =]

Q: where can i buy cute black flatts? (any kind) thats not a lot? link please :]. thanks !

i think theyre like $20 na urban outfitters.

Q: mkay.well im 15.my guy is 15 as well. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over 5 months.(actually 7 months, but we broke up over the summer)I am honestly in love with him. and he really likes me as well, we just have a great relationship, we almost never fight. and when we do, like seriously in 5 minutes one of us is calling the other in tears to aplologize. so, i guess im saying that we have a great relationship. BUT. whenever where together, ALL he wants to do is makeout, and finger me, and go up my shirt. like seriously.at my house, the movies,the mall,school.i mean everywhere. we talk on the phone ALOT. in the month of january, we talked for a totaly of 1,658 minutes. most of it late into the night, usually 12:30 or later. im epileptic, so i really need my sleep. One of my problems is that i am SO embarassed about my epilepsy, i have so many great guy friends who care SO much. and are always right by my side when i have a seizure. but, im not sure how HE feels about it. he doesnt want to talk about it usually, but its not like he just doesnt care about me, and my epilepsy. BUt anyways my bigger probelem. whenever we talk on the phone, he ALWAYS wants me to masturbate while on the phone. ive done it more and more recently, i dont mind doing it once in a while, but honestly every night just isnt my cup of tea. and i feel a little uncomfortable. he also wants me to send him pictures of me doing things to myself.im really not up for that. ive already sent him like 4 pictures, but its just never enough, and he uses stupid excuses like "if you loved me" and "the other guys got to see it"(when i was in seventh grade, i got into a really uncomfortable sexual situation with older boys, and i told him about it, and now hes holding it against me) the other things he pressures me to do, is to give him a hand job and a blow job, and i REALLY dont want to, i mean i have never done that, and i just dont know how to. Am i too young for a serious relationship like this? Im not sure if im old and mature enough for this stuff, but i dont want to loose him, and he tells me that he will wait as long as he has to for me to get ready. but i feel really pressured. i DONT want to loose him,i mean i would be devastated. i have NEVER felt like this. am i too young? should i just let it go and wait until somebody else comes along later when im more mature? should i stay with him, and keep feeling pressured?i mean he doesnt pressure me, but i still feel rushed. i just HONESTLY need help. i would talk to my friends, but im in a group of realy goody goody friends, (im one too.lol)and im the only one who has ever had a real boyfriend, and so they think that making out is gross.
PLEASE HELP.
please and thank youss.

i hate to break it to you.
but i dont think this is a "serious relationship" like you say. it seems hes just in this fro the sexual stuff.
i dont think you should stay with him if you feel pressured.
if one of you is pressured then its not fair for the relationship because neither of you will get thee most out of it. (not sexually, more on a mental level.) sometimes pressure makes you believe that you are in love, but your really not. reconsider your options.
also, if hes holding bad expirences youve had in the past against you, than hes really not a great boyfriend.
and the more you give in, the further hell want to go.
i think you should first explain to him how pressured you feel. give it some time, if he doesnt stop, or if he does, but then starts again. then hes not the right guy and you should leave him. there are other fish in the sea, and this perticular carp smells like crap.

i really hope this helps.

Q: Ok well i look for sites to find an html code for my pics right? the only close thing i can find is putting it in is in a slideshow but i was wondering if there was any way where i could pictures in like 'interests' section..cause i went to a site where they gave me those codes, but only to certain pics... i wanna use my pics but put it different places like about me, and books and music n stuff...ive been to a lot of sites wondering how..any trick or certain i could put?

i'd suggest a photobucket account.
its freee and really easy to use, they tell you which code to use for different things, like blogs, bulitens, or just outting it on your page.
just go to www.photobucket.com
hope i helped.

Q: Hello =] This Friday we're having our winter formal, and I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions for how to do my makeup. I have extremely pale skin, blue eyes, and medium brown hair. I'm thinking of a pretty evening look, like the kind you see the celebrities wearing on special occasioins. Thanks!

id say really intense eyes, that show off the blue. like smoky use purples and browns, no black!!
really light pink lip stuff. but not lighter than your natural color.
just to magnify the eyes, you want them to stand out the most, blue eyes are very stunning when made up right

Q: I have this assignment for my English class (related to Cyrano, if you've ever read it) where I have to somehow obtain 9 insults.

I've come up with one:

If Vogue ever does an ugly issue, you'd be on the front cover.

I am having a really hard time with these. If anyone can help, please do!

Oh, and no "your mom" jokes, and no fat jokes.

Please help; I've actually put in hours of sitting in front of a blank page.

Thank you!

Don't let you mind wander - it's far too small to be let out on its own

You have a face like a Saint - A Saint Bernard.

Can I borrow your face for a few days? My ass is going on holiday

Calling you stupid would be an insult to stupid people

I'd like to see things from your point of view but I can't seem to get my head that far up my ass

you're so ugly,
just after you was born, your mom said "What a treasure!" and your dad said "Yes, let's go bury it."

thats all i got.
hope you enjoy

Q: Okay, so I'm confused when to use an ice pack or a heat pad if you:

Sprain something
Pull a muscle
Muscle ache
Cramp
Feet hurting from walking too much
From wearing heels
From uncomfortable shoes

AHH!! I just don't know when to put what..help?

if it's swelling then you'd want to put ice or something cold on it because it will reduce swelling. because cold makes things contract.
if its a pulled muscle then use heat because it will loosen up the mucsle and make it more relaxed.
if you want a scientific explanation for my reasoning just ask haha.

Q: When I do call him..he doesn't answer

if he doesnt answer your calls then you probably should just move on. there's other fish in the sea

Q: this is kind of a weird, and stupid question..
but what is like fucking

like im not really sure what it is , and everyones like fuck fuck fuck.. and im like yeah..haha

♥ kendra

haha. well that would be sex babe. any kind, just to clear that part up.

Q: I like this guy. He know's I like him. When ever i talk to him about calling me he says he will. But then he never calls. He says he likes me to but won't come and see me.

well. first off, boys are weird things we shall never understand. but i'd say take the initiative and call him yourself. its much easier than waiting and wondering.

Q: what the heck does PWNS mean?!?!

it means like something owns.
like its amazingly coolEo

Q: Will replacing soda and only drinking water as a drink really make you lose weight? If so, why?

yes it will. I think I know someone who did that but didnt change anything of what they ate and ost like 2lbs in like a week, they drank ALOT of soda though. id suggest eating healthier and switchin out the soda for a better effect

Q: My name is Alicia. I weight 190 pounds. I want to weigh 130 by Prom in April. Can you give me some advice on how I can lose that much weight? I'm desperate. My msn is chrislilsis07@hotmail.com

hmm 60 pounds in 4 months....i sont know if that possible without damaging your health.

but ill recomend (sp?) about 1200-1500 calories a day
and doing some kind of cardio for about
1 1/2- 2 hrs like running, swiming laps, dancing etc.
i think swimming would be the best cause it burns fat AND tones muscle all over your body.
plus you dont feel like your sweating.
hope this'll help =]

Q: when you are making out with a guy or even just kissing do guy like it when girls play with the hair (on the back of their head) or like massage their neck? what should girls hands do when making out with guys? thanks!

well u could run them up and down there neck, or just loosly wrap your arms around there neck, and link you hands. maybe hold the back of there head or if you guys are fun like that grab they bootay. haaha

Q: Okay me and my boyfriend have been going out for 11 months, and we were talking about a dream i had and then he started to tell me about his dream but then he stopped. i had to force him to tell me because he kept saying no, but he shouldnt have to hide anything from me. anyways he told me his dream. it hurt me so bad, i didnt show it because he seemed pretty upset and bothered by it also and ashamed but it realy hurt me , his dream was ; he was in his room or a room idk , with two other girls. having sex with them and stuff them doing stuff to him and stuff .......WHY W0ULD HE DREAM ABOUT THAT .. I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY THAT WAS IN HIS HEAD . he said he didnt know who the girls were, that they werent anyone, i want to belive him on that but i dont know . i dont know it hurt so bad to know that he was dreamin about fuckin two other girls. and i mean wht if this isnt the only time, i kno its just a dream but dreams mean something....does anyone know what this means?=/

i dont think it really means anything, thats how guys are, they like sex. haha. but dont spazz its perfectly normal.
everyone gets a little horny someimes =]

Q: kk so ive got 2 girls on the line here......u kno em but dont say anyhting or ill kill u lol.... what do i do and how do i find out if they really really like me?

well i wont say anything, i also dont know who you are. so i couldnt even if i wanted to.

it's kind of hard to tell if someone likes you, cause all girls have different flirting styles. some are really obvious some you'd never expect to like you. but if you have a gut feeling that they like you, then just ask one out . but its har to tell without knowing the person.

Q: hey kelly. theres this boy that im like in love with. we really good friends so im not sure i want to go to the next level cause im afriad it will ruin our friendship what do u think i should do

umm. well thats a hard question.
if you do anything with him move really slow, make sure he is aware lol.
cause if he doesn't no what your doing it could get very awkward.
but if you think he wants to be more than friends or just friends with benefits, go for it.