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before you go into the audition room to audition for a play at my high school, you are given your scene, so you can practice with the other people who have also been assigned that scene. you probably have anywhere from 5-15 minutes to practice. when practicing, is it better to do your part EXACTLY how you plan to do it in the room, or is it better to hold back a little bit, until you get into the room. the reason i ask this is because i have found that if you practice the scene how you plan to really do it, then the other people auditioning sometimes sort of "steal" the way you are performing it. especialy if you are being really wacky characters (ex. really happy, angy, sad, mad, silly, etc.). also, if the persons not a very good actor, you feel out of place acting to your full potential while practicing. however, obviously the point of practicing is so you can practice, so if you don't practice the way you plan to audition, you may mess it up when you go to audition. also, would it be mean to not really do it the way you plan to, until you actually go to audition (would it be to mean/shocking to the person you are auditioning with)? what is the best way to handle this situation of practicing with others? it would be nice to hear from someone who has been to auditions before, so i can get an opinion of what you do (or would do). thank you! (link)
don't give your best performance when you're practicing- like don't try to project or anything until you get into the audition room. Just make sure you know how you will do it.


like a part of my armpit has been hurting for 2 days now! its happened before.. but it hurts when its touched or if my arms push my armpit or something.. and i never knew why this happened! help! 13/f (link)
did you use a muscle you don't normally use?


theres this guy i like, his name is george and he knows i like him.
so the other day i asked my friend to ask him that if i was to ask him out wot would he say and he said no. but ever since he found out i liked him he's been acted soo nice to me like hanging out at lunch and that.
so how do i get him to regret wot he said? im not exactly asking how do i get him to like me bcoz i know that you can't make anyone like you.

any advice??

xxxx (link)
he's not going to admit to your friend that he likes you- even if he does. he's afraid he'll be made fun of.


If you're 13 or older you should try asking him out. Just remember DON'T use the word "date" or "going out".


he might like you.


hope this helps.


wear should i send audition tapes for young girls (13)?? What is the address of Broadway auditioning, any dancing academies, etc. I dont have any idea where to look. anything will help. thanks!
~EAS (link)
send it to walnut hill school of the arts if you're looking for a ballet summer program/boarding school.

www.walnuthillarts.org


but it really depends on what you're looking for. there are several camps/boarding schools/dance schools that require audition tapes.


google "summer dance programs" or "dance boarding schools" and see what comes up. hope this helps.


ok well recently one of my best friends max just transferred schools...a couple days ago so that day at school when i found out i was crying hysterically...i cried 3 times that day and cried again twice the next day and again the next night and i know i will continue with this. i think i might be depressed. im sad all the time and i have a lot of back pain which they say is a symptom. on google i looked up symptoms of depression and i have all but one and they listed about 15-18. im constantly thinking about max now that he left and i really need help! i dont know how to talk to my parents because i act like im happy and you'd never guess i was depressed if u saw me around people. if i try to tell them theyll be like..."ohh honey youre not depressed if you were you'd be acting like ____" when while they arent around im acting like that. they wouldnt get me medicine without knowing the cause and its really embarassing to say "well because max transferred" and theyll be like "oh its just a phase it will pass" but they dont know how i felt about him even though im only 13/f and have only known him for about 4+ months. what do i do? (link)
I have depression too- but I would like to ask you this question: are you a Christian? Because the Lord allowed me to "just snap out of" my depression. I was saved and he took care of all the things in my life that were upsetting me.

I think you need to ask God to help you too. But you really have to believe- with every corner of your mind. Because this depression could be a test of your faith. Ask him to fill you with his joy and wonderment. (i'm not kidding)

It's normal to feel sad about your friend Max. Wait until you feel better about it- and if you are still depressed THEN- you might really need to talk to a counselor or a therapist.


I hope this helps and I want you to know that you are in my prayers. Let me know how this all works out.


i have no idea why.. but when i sit, like the top part of the crack hurts.. like its a muscle or something i think. hmm i dont know why or how this happened :/ (link)
you might have used a muscle that you don't normally use.


that's probably the case.


Ok so my boyfriend and I just started having sex regularly and I doesn't feel all that great. I always thought it would be something amazing but I don't really feel anything. Please give me some advice on what I could do to make it feel better for me!! thanks =) (link)
maybe he's inexperienced. try getting him to vary his pace.

perhaps some new "strategies" would be good to try... like get a vibrator for your clit.



i'll be brief. dont worry! (;
i need some cute everyday hairstyles.
every day i either wear my hair straight
or in a messy bun or ponytail and it's
getting boring!! (curling takes too long)

what are some cute hair styles besides
the ones i mentioned??? oh yess and
pictures make me happy (: (link)
half ponytail.
headbands.
clips.
you really don't have to have like a photoshoot quality hairstyle every day... to be honest with you- no one really cares what anyone's hair looks like- you're one in like 5 billion people. (that's a good thing that i learned when i was obsessing over my hair)


but if you're really desperate for advice- just adding simple accessories can really "spiff you up".


Gr every time i log into myspace on my phone it logs me out when i click on something any suggestions? (link)
ur phone is retarded then.

maybe it's just a bug that myspace could work out.

have u asked tom?


he should be able to give u more info.


Theres this guy we are kinda going out he tells me he loves me and i love him as well but he says I love you to other girls and flirts with them as well.

So I'm thinking that I'm being played here

whats going on? (link)
he's one of those assholes who doesn't value you. there's no need to even break up with him- you could just stop having anything to do with him and he probably wouldn't even notice.

but, if he DOES- then just say "well go have fun with another one of your girlfriends!"


ok. I need like 101 good conversation starters for teens!! (link)
10. what kind of stuff he does in his spare time
11. what he does for fun
12. compliment him
13. fav subject in school
14. what hes doing this weekend
15. vacations


15f. I met a guy at a party who I liked at the time and wanted to hook up with, and I didn't tell him, but he told me he doesn't hook up with girls because he doesn't want his parents to find out. Now he calls me every so often and we have long conversations, and he tells me that asking this one girl out was the biggest mistake of his life. He and I flirted a lot at the party, which was about two and a half months ago, and grinded. Do you think he might like me? What should I do about it? I kind of still like him. He's not hot but he's very cuddly. (link)
well he might like you...

if you like him enough that you would want to date him why don't you ask him to go to a movie with you?

Then you'll both know if you like each other still.

GOOD LUCK!


ok theres this boy that i like and that i have liked for a long time and we would flirt and all like we would make bets and stuff hes a flirtnot only to me but others and he told me that he likes me as a friend but his friends and everybody around me tells me different and the thing is that he knows i like him and well sometimes he acts like he likes me more than just a friend and heres whats complicated i feel like im getting closer yet further and he knows my brothers and hes friends not good friends but friends he said that hes not scared of my brothers and he proved so on some occasions like at a party so he does act like he likes me but he never really says it or acts on it and i wonder why why act like more than a friend but not act on it and well another problem is that hes black and my parents and brother its a really really big issue like i would forever be disowened by them and the thing is that im usaually not attracted to black guys but its different with him everytime i think im over him he pops back up its like im so CLOSE BUT YET SO FAR ITS LIKE I CAN REACH OUT AND TOUCH HIM BUT YET HES UNTOUCHABLE PLEASE HELP (link)
try calling him and asking him to go to a movie with you. (don't say anything like "OMG I LIKE YOU SO MUCH I HOPE YOU LIKE ME TOO" or anything that has to do with your feelings for him)
he'll get the message that you like him- and if he says yes it will be a good opportunity for him to see if he likes you romantically too.
(i was in the same situation with my current bf- hadn't seen the guy in 6 months but i just randomly called him to ask him out and he said yes) :D
anyway- good luck and tell me how this all works out!!!!! (seriously i want to know)


I cry alot lately. I cannot stay focused on one thing. I often forget what I'm talking about. I hate the city I live in more than anything. I would do absolutely anything to get out of here. I can't stand half of my "friends". I don't have anyone that I can trust or talk to about my problems or whatever. I'm sick of boys. I haven't ate NEAR as much as I used to. I talk to my self alot, I know that's weird.. but true. I day dream alot, about things I wish would happen. I don't feel like doing much of anything anymore. I sleep more than I used to. I never think about suicide or ANY thing at all like it. But I don't know what's wrong with me or what to do. Should I go to a doctor, psychologist, counselor, etc? Or is there something else that can help? Ergh, please help.

If it helps; I'm not fat (i weigh 110) or ugly. I'm popular around my school. I'm 16 years old.

Recently, I made a HUGE change in my life. I used to drink alcohol, party alot, do things I should have never done. But now, I don't drink, cuss, go to parties, nothing. I attend church 2-3 times a week. I pray daily.

Could this have anything to do with it?
-ps; sorry this is so long. (link)
OH MY GOSH YOU SOUND JUST LIKE ME!!!
You might have what is called Seasonal Affective Disorder. It comes from not being exposed to sunlight and things like that. You also could be deficient in a certain nutrient that your body needs.

I'm getting a complete physical exam (with blood tests,etc.) to see what's wrong with me. I would suggest that you do the same- because there could be something seriously wrong that's physical.

I know that feeling of "I don't want to do ANYTHING I'm just going to sit here and mope and cry for no reason.". It's the worst thing ever- but it's been improving.

Are you getting regular exercise? Because your body might be low on endorphins (hormones that are relased through exercise in case you didn't already know).

I hope this helps- and let me know how it all works out. (really i want to know because i'm going through the exact same thing)


okay...so im 15 about to be 16...an ex boyfriend has already eaten me out..and it felt sooo good..but i have been with my recent boyfriend for 4 months now and we are starting to get serious...he started to finger me the other day...he was only using like 2 fingers, and it hurt. so he tried only one and it still kinda hurt. is that normal? should i do something to help it? (link)
he might have been doing it too hard- or in the wrong places too soon. You might need to be REALLY REALLY REALLY hot and bothered before it won't hurt. Or maybe if you do not truly WANT to go that far with him at this point- your body could be reacting with pain. If you're feeling cautious or anything that's probably the cause of this natural reaction.

Try making out longer or have him rub you/tease you really gently through ur underwear before you get to 3rd. Just make sure you're horny as hell and it shouldn't hurt.


I think he might have had feelings for me the last time he saw me (which was in the middle of june). He was like flirting with me but I didn't realize it at the time. And every time he sees me he like smiles and he sort of looks into my eyes- but I get all nervous and I lose the courage to go up to him and talk to him. He's older than me (but all my bfs have been) and I know I'll never see him again. I wish I could just call him and tell him how I feel- I feel almost certain that he's interested. But I don't know what I would say to him on the phone without sounding creepy and awkward. (I really don't know him that well and I haven't spoken to him since June)

So any advice on what to do (to get this relationship started) would be greatly appreciated. Like what should I say on the phone? (link)
I just asked him out and he said YES!


YAY! :D


Hi everyone,
I was wondering, how long does it take for your stomache to shrink from not eating??
Thanks for any help, guys!


(link)
Every time my stomach shrinks it can take anywhere from 3-9 days. Depending on how well you stick to eating small amounts of food.


Don't completely starve yourself, though.


The sims 2 is incredibly slow on my computer and also choppy. I really want to play it but I can't because it's that slow. Is there anyway I can make it more enjoyable to play by making it faster and less choppy when moving around? (link)
make sure the quality is set to lowest.


it's slow on my computer too which sucks.



I think it's just how crappy they made the game.


So I have been singing for years. You know.. for fun? Nothing serious so I don't think I'm a good singer.

My friend, I always thought had a better singing voice & she's in theater .. gets the lead parts and singing parts.

So I go to her for advice about singing and I told her how great she was at it.

Well, she sang something for me & sent it to me in a wav.

And it isn't her best singing.. at all.. she was out of tune and i dont know how to respond to her. it's not her best work.. but she wants an answer.

I can send you the link and maybe you can come up with something nice but helpful to say ?

it's not horrible.. i just don't know how to say that needs some work on it.. because I'm not a great singer. I'm a bit flat so.. if I tell her or imply how she's not that great.. it would be kinda stupid? Because I'm no better than her.

Help?
She's going to sing at her theater but i don't want her to embarrass herself or get hurt.. (link)
Don't say anything negative about it unless she was off-key for the WHOLE song. I think it's okay to mention it was good exept for being off-pitch. Or you could say "maybe it's not the best song for your voice."


if god wanted to, could he possibly build a rock too heavy for him to carry? IF HE WANTED TO & WE KNOW HE CAN DO ANY & EVERYTHING. (but yet, god is supposed to be able to carry anything)

So if he wanted to, could he possibly build a rock so heavy that he couldn't carry?

*my friend asked me this and it really made me think..what is an reasonable answer? (link)
well im agnostic/atheist so i dont believe in god.




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