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Q: Everytime i a guy likes me, and i like him...i back off even though i like him!! idk why! i'll like go out with them, then break up...agghh idk what to do!:-/

Some people are totally different in and out of a relationship.Maybe he wasn't like you expected. You could be afraid of committment.Or maybe you just haven't met the "perfect" one.It could even be you all just spend too much time together or maybe not enough.Next time it happens try not to be distant.

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Q: OMG i just realized one of my boobs is bigger than the other, WHAT DOES TAHT MEAN am i an alien? i must have a disease how do i tell my mom? what do i do?

Don't freak out!Really most people's are.It's nothing to be ashamed of really.Your not an alien.And you don't have a diesease.So if you want to tell your mom thats fine but really it's no big deal.

Q: hey

i'm a natural red head i was wondering how people felt about..um..us!

:D

OMG!What I would do to be a red head!If I could choose any color hair I would choose yours.I mean seriouly I pay to have red streaks in my hair.Be thankful for that color on your head!

Q: Oh man.. oh man.. I just met this guy 3 days ago and he told me today he was in love with me.. and I even have a boyfriend!! What am I supposed to say to him?!
Signed,
YIKES!

Some people just throw around the word "love". Most don't even know the meaning of it.Try talking to the guy.Tell him you want to get to know him and everything, but you have a boyfriend already and you don't love him.(Him meaning the guy you've known for 3 days)

Q: My boyfriend recently told me I was acting alot different and not being myself. I can see why he says that because I have been thinking about taking a break with him and I have SO much on my mind.
Tonight on the phone he kept saying he loved me and he never wanted to lose me AND our 8 month anniversary is this Saturday. Should I wait to call it off between us until after this Saturday or what?
I REALLY NEED THE ADVICE!!

Don't wait!If you really feel like you don't want to be with him than you should break up with him before.I mean think of it this way.I don't know if he's a big gift giver or not but....if he is and he gives you something like a piece of jewelery or some thing really big.....you might feel kind of bad then it will be harder to break up with him.Just remember to go with what your heart says.

Q: There is this guy I like at camp and popular opinion thinks he likes me too,but I've gotten mixed feelings from him lately. Last year, he was dancing with some other girl and this year he locked arms with her. But then again a lot of girls like him and he likes the attention...he hugs them and stuff...I don't know what to think I need a second opinion.

He's just trying to make you jealous.He likes the attention also like you said as a lot of guys do. If this camp is far away and you only see him once a year I wouldn't worry too much about him. Occupy your time with guys that can give you a straight answer and don't spend all their time hanging on other girls.

Q: im 14, and have been with my b/f for about 5 months and today i ACCIDENTLY stuck my hand down the back of his pants. i meant to put my hand in his pocket but i missed! he told me not to be embarrassed but i still kind of am! am i overreacting?

Your boyfriend was really sweet to be totally mature on the "incident".I don't think your overreacting at all.But your boyfriend seems cool with it so just try to laugh if something like that ever happens again.Just don't worry so much.

Q: Dear reader,
About a year ago I met the man of my dreams (guy #1) and we love each other dearly, but he lives in Central America and I live in California. The thing is that three months ago I met a wonderful guy (guy #2) that really loves me a lot. And I’m going on a trip to Central America where the other guy (guy #1) is and he’s expecting me to see him. My recent boyfriend (guy #2) has a really bad temper and the other guy (guy #2) is miles away and I love the guy #1 more that than the guy #2 but I know it won’t work out. The question is should I see the other guy and maybe be something again at least for a short while or should I stay with guy (guy#2) and try to deal with his hot temper?

First off don't ever deal with a guy who has a hot temper.Too dangerous and so not worth it.So that clears guy#2 out of the picture which leaves you with guy#1.If you don't think you two would work out then remain friends.But if you give him a chance you two could be together for a short while and keep in touch still.Because long distance probably won't work out.

Q: I had a b/f for 9 months. We broke up b/c he wanted to go to drugs and I didn't want to be with someone like that. I told him at the beginning of our relationship if he wanted to do drugs I'm not stopping him but he won't be with me. So he chose drugs...week later he wants me back. I finally stood up for something I believe in, and I know I won't take him back...but what do I say to him?

If he picked drugs over you then he is an idiot. Yeah i know we could all think of better words to describe him but we won't dwell on it.Explain to him that you don't want to get mixed up with people who do drugs.Don't lecture him but make sure you get your point across.Make sure he relizes how stupid his descision was.And don't take him back!

Q: ok i am a little differnt in school. i like it and all. But last year people got the impresioni was gothic, but really i just like to be wearing somthing differnt than all the others. I am so confused. also i just wanto to breack down and cry but i know no 1 will understand!!!
signed, GRL who isnt gothic!

I have that same problem.....but I've figured out that really it doesn't matter.Dress how you want not how others want you to.Tell the people that label you to go fu-.........I think you get my drift.And after a while when they start to see that you don't care what they think people will stop questioning you about the way you dress and will start to think that you don't care what anybody thinks.....at least that's what happenen-
ed in my case and people start to respect you a whole lot more.

Q: Hey ok ive ben hilighting my hair for about a year and i jus wanna dye it but my mom wont lemme do u have any ideas that will make my hair blopnder or any way i can get my mom to dye my hair ? thanx!!

Being since it is summer time put lemon juice in it and lay out in the sun.....that should work. Ummm.....if not than try those tempory dye things that just last a few days you can find them at really any drugstore.Which will show your mom how good it looks dyed and being since it isn't permanent if it sucks wash your hair many times and try a new color.

Q: Does any one know of any cute make-up styles to wear for a casual date? I have a budget but I do have a lot of products. Can any one help me?

If you normally wear makeup then I would go with smokey eyes and a nuetral colored lip gloss.If you don't normally wear makeup which I can't imagine if you have a lot of products go for something a little less daring.Or you can go with colors.Nothing too bright though.And try it out before you go on your date.....oh and always have a back up plan.

Q: ummm im 13 and i weigh 78 pounds is that what im suposed 2 weigh if not what is

It all depends on your height really.I mean if you were like 5'5,78 pounds would be a little too thin.But if your tiny which 78 pounds is that's fine but with height should come weight.

Q: ok, im 12 and im so flat! is it possible to grow boobs over 1 summer? im going to a new school and itd be cool if i had achest

am starting to grow. will i be able to grow in time? if so how big?
i know looks shouldnt matter but every girl i no has a chest
thanx

Don't worry about it really.I'm 13 and 5'8 and i don't have much of a chest either.Most of the time genetics determines these types of things.So if it doesn't run in the family your chances are pretty slim.Then you add in puberty which makes a big difference too.So as hard as it is just wait.In time they should come.Some people just develop later than others.And there's nothing wrong with that.I know people that are way shorter than me and their bigger up top too.It sucks....that's life.But most of the time girls that have them complain about them anyways.Your time will come just be patient.

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