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I heard that the girl from Hairspray just sent in a video tape of herself acting and that's how she got the part. Can you really do that? If so where can I find a website that I can send in my audition tapes to? (link)
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That is what she did however, she sent her tape in to producers who organized an open call for submissions through the production company's site and other advertisements and notices. I know how this movie was cast as I worked on it as an extra in Toronto.
Directors, casting directors, producers etc. DON'T cast TV shows, movies or theater over the Internet or by picking people off a Web site. That's a classic scam where people have you pay for the shots to be posted on a phony site.
What you need to do is go to the SAG or ACTRA web sites in the U.S. and Canada and look at their list of reputable agencies. You want an agent for Background Talent. Call them, make an appointment and you'll find work in a large city near you as an extra on TV and movies being shot there.
NEVER pay anyone to represent you and don't hire anyone to be your agent that isn't on the lists maintained by SAG and ACTRA.
The only other agent you could get at this point is one specializing in kids/teens. A principal agent won't touch you yet because you aren't established nor have any credits professionally.
The only exception to the rule of NEVEr paying an agent, taking their courses, seeing their photographer is with KIDS/TEENS and BACKGROUND TALENT AGENTS. They can charge a small yearly fee because kids, their parents and those being extras for the first time often flake out when they realize it's not all fun and games. Shoots can last 18 hours at a time. You never know when it will end each day either.
So, the answer is there's really nowhere to send your audition tape to. If there were in the case of an open casting call like the one for Hairspray you would most certainly have to find an agent to send it in or you would follow the guidelines on the show's or movie's official site to do so. But this is really rare as most movies don't do this to find their lead.
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im 16 and i have a little bit of a lisp. every once in a while i get made fun of it either behind my back and sometimes to my face. even my friends have asked me to repeat certain words because i "say them funny". i dont find it funny at all because its something i cant control. i hate reading in class and this problem is making it so i loose confidence in myself when im talking to someone and i get really nervous when i have to speak out loud in class. i dont really know how long ive had a lisp. my orthodontist said i had a problem where i pushed my tongue against my bottom teeth, and she put metal prongs on the back of my teeth so i wouldnt put my tongue there. this could have caused this. but i need to fix it. i dont even want to hear about speech therapy, because i refuse to do it. i dont want to ask my parents because im embaressed of it, and i dont want anyone to find out if i was going. also i dont know if id be able to afford it right now. any advice at all would be nice i guess (link)
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There is nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to speech difficulties, lisps or stuttering. Did you know that James Earl Jones who is the voice of CNN and Darth Vader couldn't speak properly as a child and faced the same kind of ridicule you did?
How did he overcome it? Well, he engaged in his own kind of speech therapy putting small stones in his mouth so his tongue would hit the right places and fix his annunciation. This is an extreme way of fixing it but look where he is now. Incidentally. he couldn't talk period until he was 3.
If you look up on Google celebrities who overcame speech problems you'll get a long list of geniuses and other notables. So, hold your head high and dig into it with a speech therapist. The very thing you are embarrassed of doing is the VERY thing that will help you overcome it.
Why suffer needlessly than combat this now and fix it? I mean isn't is dumb to do nothing and have stupid brats get to you over this. Go and get the help for it and develop such a strong and distinctive voice that knocks everyone on their butt. You'll wind up maybe using it in school plays, speeches etc and for the rest of your life.
You NEED to tell your parents how upset you are and embarrassed over this you are. Odds are they know and were waiting for you to come to them. Even if they didn't they're on your side and there's nothing embarrassing about it at all as men, women, children all deal with it.
When it comes to speech therapy or seeing any doctor there's no way they would ever breach confidentiality or that people at school would know. The only way they would know is if you told them about it.
You can get speech therapy and help for your lisp at school privately by working with a teacher and going through the techniques that are out there and practicing words or you can see a professional or buy a book, download tips etc. and have your parents help you work on it. At either rate combat it some way and don't be upset over it.
These kids will respect not mock you when they see the results of you having worked to take care of this problem permanently. They're teasing you because they don't understand what causes the lisp and are ignorant. Once you show them that you A) don't give a shit what they say and B) combat the problem they'll have nowhere to go but to either shut up and move on or respect you and be a friend.
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ok so im 13/f and i have a problem with cutting myself. i understand that it is a problem so that is the first step to recovery.
i want to knnow if there are any places ONLINE that i can get help for my problem. i dont want any1 to know i have these problems so i cant go to see a person. also i cant let my parents find out.
thanks for the help. (link)
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You need the help of a mental health professional. An online group won't help you at all and may give you more ideas about how to conceal the problem and keep doing it. Online communities about cutting and self-mutilation are almost always like that.
You have woken up to the fact this is a problem. That is an enormous step. Your next step is telling someone you trust be it your parents, a relative, teacher, guidance counselor, friend's parent that you are in trouble with this issue. You can either do this in a letter or face to face but you MUST do it to get well.
Nobody will yell at you, hit you or belittle you or punish you for doing this. They'll be happy you told them and will help you on the path to recovery. They'll make sure you get evaluated by a psychiatrist and are placed under their care and maybe given medication to deal with the feelings that urge you to cut.
You won't be put into the hospital at all unless they think you'll harm yourself or others (ie suicidal or delusional or violent). You need to work with your family and with the doctor at becoming well.
This is your health we're talking about and you can't screw around with it as it will always come back to hurt you worse if you don't take care of a big issue like this. You're only continuing the cycle of pain and misery by not telling an adult that you're in trouble and over your head. Do the right thing as I guarantee your life will be 100% better when you do or well on the road.
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I need a job. I want to be able to buy my own clothes, and not have to get it off my parents, I feel bad when I do. I have put applications in at fast food places, even rite aid, but no where has called me =[
My boyfriend said putting men as my "people to call" looks better then women. True? I always put my moms friend, who is an owner of a company, I thought that always looked good. I don't understand why I get can't a job. I'm pretty, in sports, I just want a job. My mom knows the owner of Our DQ, should I try there? Any help? (link)
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You want the RIGHT job not just ANY job. You need to find a job that fits you and that you are comfortable in. The reason nobody has called you yet boils down to two things. First, it takes them weeks not days to make contact or they don't have openings.
Secondly, you either don't have any job experience or lack the job experience they need you to have. If you have no experience with fast-food they'll pick up on it and won't hire you. If your mother knows the owner of the local DQ have her try and arrange an interview for you. It doesn't mean you'll land the job but you have a higher chance this way.
You should also look into taking a baby sitting course and learn CPR as you can make a lot of money caring for people's kids over the summer.
Although the mall is 30 minutes away you can still get a job there. Your mom would either drop you off or you would learn the transit route you needed to take to get to and from there.
The one place that will hire you regardless of experience is a movie theatre. They have constant turnaround in staff and will train kids with no job experience to work for them. Try there!
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i have a mac...and all of a sudden things have been popping up saying that i have too many applications open and that my hard disk is too full,,,and so i went in and deleted a lot of old programs and stuff and documents and movies...but it still is popping up and it wont let me download any more programs...because it says it's too full. what do i do? what does this mean? pleeaaasse help me =] (link)
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Do you have an Apple Store near you? If you aren't sure check out apple.com or call 1-800-My-Apple. Go to the store and talk to someone about the problem. They'll tell you what your options are and will be able to send your machine out to be fixed.
You could also call the number above and ask for their U.S. or Canadian tech support phone number and they'll walk you through what you need to do to fix it or tell you where you drop it off or send it to for repair.
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My boyfriend and I dry hump a lot with our clothes on...at the beginning he would always ejaculate very early..and then he decided that he would listen to take his mind off of ejaculating. Then he moved off of music and he can now control his ejaculation. My question now is lately we have been dry humping and well he gets tired and then his penis goes down...i'm wondering is this me? Am I turning him off? Is there anything we can do? Or I can do? Does he not think I'm attractive? I'm really worried and I don't know what to do. Please help me! (link)
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It's a case of too much of a good thing too frequently. It's not at all your fault. If you keep doing the same activity day after day it becomes harder to get aroused through it and has a harder time ejaculating and loses the erection.
The best thing to do is to stop doing this activity for a few days and come back to it or try something different in its place. You'll find he will be aroused the same way he was before if you come back to dry humping later on.
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Well, the other day I was talking to my boyfriend and he asked me "how far I wanted to go". To be honost, I really don't know. I had planned to stay abstinent until marriage, but I know that as I get older, I might lose my current, or future, boyfriend if I don't want to do very much sexually. I mean, I don't know. I'm only 14 so I think i'm to young to be "sexually active", but it seems as if everyone's doing something like that.... I just don't know what to do...are guys going to pressure me to do this stuff when I get into highschool? I guess i'm just afraid of being the last person considered "prude". Thanks, any advice welcome. (link)
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If this makes you a "prude" wear that label with pride and a cheshire cat grin. You're not a prude nor are you foolish enough to get into something like sex when you aren't ready. If your current boyfriend won't accept the fact you want to wait and aren't rushing in to something this critical than dump him.
That's not the right type of guy to be with. Guys like that want sex and nothing else. odds are your boyfriend is a good guy and one who will accept and appreciate where you stand. If he doesn't it says more about him than you think.
Don't be afraid to lose a boyfriend or any guy based on wanting to keep your virginity nor should you cave. You'll find a lot of guys who respect your choice and want to be with you. Anyone who doesn't respect your choices about sex doesn't deserve to be with you. Don't cave in for anybody.
If you don't want to have sex until married than hold to that belief and conviction. If you change your mind in the future that's okay too but give it a hell of a lot of thought and make sure it's with the right guy who will stay with you afterwards.
Guys will always pressure girls like you in high school and even in middle school with the way things are going these days. Just tell them you aren't interested in sex until married. Regardless of what anyone says a lot of your friends are still virgins even if they say they aren't same with classmates.
These days teens are signing vows etc. to wait. Nothing wrong or out of style or weird being a virgin especially at 14. You should be at that age.
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Ok, so I recently had my Ipod stolen (( i'm still beating myself up for leaving it in my bag)) and it was unregistered. So, if whoever stole it registered it, would I not be able to use my itunes if I got a new ipod and registered it? Thanks! (link)
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Do you have the IPOD's serial number? I sure hope so. Why? you can go to Apple's web site www.apple.com and call their Canadian or U.S. technical support number and give them the serial number.
They'll put it on file as STOLEN so that anyone who tries to register it, use Itunes or synch it cannot. I know this to be true because I say a Dateline NBC report on people who stole unregistered Ipod's they left as decoys out in the open and got busted when they registered them through Apple. You're nowhere though without the serial number on the back of the IPOD.
You can also call 1-800-My-Apple for the tech support info to report it stolen.
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omg this is sooo annoying. ok so iwent out with this guy and we were happy for like a aweek then i broke up with him like 4 weeks ago and we use to be best friends and whenwe broke up he was saying how heart broken he was. well even now he will email me saying how he screwed up. he obsesses over stuff and im really tired of it. and i dont want to hurt him more than i already did. hes to where he is asking my friends to ask about me and stuff. and he like never leaves me alone. its kinda creepy. i mean sometimes i think he might hurt himself.. and he said he thinks he loves me so.... i NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Tell your parents about what he is doing as well as your teacher to make them aware of it. Have your parents tell him (or through his parents) that he's not welcome at your home, stop bothering you at school and that you don't want to be his friend/girlfriend and it won't change.
Document all his IMs and e-mails so that your parents can be aware of what he is saying about how screwed up he is and that he'll hurt himself. They can deal with it. They can also have him charged with harassment if his behavior keeps escalating and you feel uncomfortable at home/school or on the Internet.
Let's say he hurt himself which would be a horrible thought/thing it wouldn't be your fault no matter what he say/anyone else might. You can't control his actions and stupid choices or impulses. It's not your problem to deal with. You're guilt free.
This kid seems to have a lot of issues be they mental or behavioral and needs help from adults. He likely has nobody at all but you to talk to, be friends with or date. Even still when you tell him how it is he doesn't get it. If an adult lays things straight for him he'll likely never talk to or bother you again. He has to lay off by law by the way.
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i just started going to a psychologist once a week becuase i was just found out to have depression. In the meantime, i ALWAYS over think things, and its just like i feel everything 10x worse than everyone else! I hurt so much, even the slightest thing. Like I think about the boy I like, and i want to cry. Is there anything i can do to make myself feel better? Like any good ways to get myself to stop over-thinking so much and just be happy? PLEASE help! (link)
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It takes 6-8 weeks for anti-depressants to really have any effect. If you've just been placed on them this may explain why you still feel horrible. What you need more than a psychologist is a psychiatrist as they know this medication inside and out and how to help you deal with depression and give you back your life.
What you need to do is get a referral to one pronto. You can do this by visiting the emergency room (yes mental health issues such as depression are an emergency) and tell the people admitting you that you have been diagnosed with depression, have just been place on medication but feel ten times as worse as you did before being put on it.
A psychiatrist will assess the situation and tell you what to do. They may keep you 72 hours for observation just to figure out the right course to take and see that you can function or not or pose any risk to yourself or others. This is okay, no pleasant but gets you better.
You need to go and do that. Tell your family how you feel and that you want to go to the hospital and see a psychiatrist so they can help you because you just can't cope with anything and that the medication appears to have made it worse. You're not stable with depression yet. Inform this other doctor of your decision as it's the right call to make. How do I know? been there, felt that, did exactly that. At that point I was in crisis which may be where things are headed with you unless you seek more medical attention.
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I went a semester in a private college and earned no credits, then transffered to a community school and flunked out. With my past transcripts I'm afraid no school would ever accept me. I don't have the option of not returning to school. I'm afraid no college will consider me with such horrible transcripts. What are my options?
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You never mentioned why you flunked out of both schools. That makes a heap of difference in the responses you will get. If you flunked for not attending classes, partying etc. than there's not much you can do to change any school's perception in my opinion.
However, I think you may have flunked not because you didn't try but because you did and just didn't understand things or couldn't write the kind of papers at the level they wanted. I'm wondering whether or not you have focus issues and or an undiagnosed learning problem.
You should look into that as schools will bend over backwards to help students succeed and will give you another shot if you can defend yourself and explain what happened with test results and a diagnosis of one. They'll help you succeed provide note takers, tutors, special software etc etc.
If that's not the problem than perhaps you should look into a business school or a trade school where you could learn to be a carpenter, electrician, mechanic etc. or go to culinary school so that you can work as a cook in a restaurant etc.
I have a feeling you're a hands on learner and that's the only way you can function. Definitely, finding a trade or something you're really good at and making money off of it is key for you. Look in to those kind of schools and programs and tell them that you haven't fared well in other schools and need a hands on program and support to succeed. You'll find a much better atmosphere than at a college.
These places have low student-teacher ratio and can give you the one on one to succeed. You just need the drive, effort and determination to succeed above anything at it. Loads of options, failing out of those schools may seem bad now but perhaps it happened so that you go down a better path.
In conventional colleges grades matter on a transcript but it's not all that matters. The entrance exam and essay as well as interview is 80% of it really. They'll ask why you flunked but if you can defend it properly they'll judge you based on right now versus a few years back. It's about character and proper fit. But yes, you belong in a trade school doing something that you really feel fired up about.
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Ok so i always ask questions about things that are brought to my attention. So here's another one. If you are waiting for marriage to have sex is it wrong to masterbate (sp?) (link)
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Your bond with God and your religious convictions don't change any because you masturbate or not. As long as you hold on to what you believe and principles and values you're fine.
In fact, you're being very responsible as you're dealing with sexual tension and feelings without getting someone pregnant or becoming pregnant, getting STDs or going against your beliefs or doing things with random people. You have to relieve this tension and hormones some way. This is a natural, responsible, safe way to keep your head on straight and sex drive in check.
I've read that about 90% of males do it and 70% of all females of all ages and walks of life. Your classmates, friends, people you know etc etc. likely all do it but don't talk about it. It's fine and will not make you any less a Christian, send you to Hell etc etc.
It's also not premarital sex or having sex with another person who you aren't married to therefore it doesn't violate that principle and core belief in your faith.
As hard as it may be to do so you should ask an adult you trust be it an aunt, uncle, grandparent, parent, older sibling etc. if they feel it's a sin and against your beliefs. Trust me, most parents would be happier their kids are doing this rather than having sex and doing drugs.
What matter is whether you think it's okay or not. The answer most people get in health class is that it's normal to do it and normal not to and that you shouldn't feel guilt.
As I see it it doesn't change your beliefs or your relationship with God and isn't a sin or premarital sex. If you want to continue with it great, if not great but don't fret as only you know what's right for you and your own body.
If you enjoy the sensations it gives and feel happy continuing with it than do so. If not than that's okay too. Either way don't feel ashamed or dirty as it's perfectly natural and almost universal with teens of both sexes. It's also a good way of getting rid of stress. There's many health benefits as said below in other responses.
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Okkay, My sweet 16 is coming up and my parents promised me a new car.
I want a fast car but it cant be too expensive.
Can anyone give me any suggestions on what kind of car I should get.
By the way, im a girl & im girly.. deff.
& I want a car better then my ex boyfriends.
& He has an 04 mustang & it goes fast.
I want something I can beat him in a race in.
Please help. (link)
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Wake Up! Street racing kills people. Your parents ought to read this post. It demonstrates that at 16-years-old that you aren't ready to be handed the keys of any car let alone a shiny, new, fast one.
You have stated here with that comment that you aren't responsible or thinking with your head straight while driving. Wanting to have a car to beat your ex's in a race is downright dumb.
I'm not trying to be mean here but I'm trying to give you a much needed dose of reality before you get in to an accident, kill yourself or someone else from racing and other immature antics behind a motor vehicle.
Having said that if you rethink why you were given the privilege to drive and the responsibility that comes with it than maybe you should be given a shot at that new car. You need to think about safety before design and speed. You can't go wrong with the 2008 North American Car of the Year the Chevrolet Malibu starting at 19,000 USD.
One of the reasons I'm being hard on you is that one of my friends was killed by a drunk driver who was street racing. Ironically, this friend was a public speaker who educated people about such stupidity.
It's something you never forget. I don't want that person showing off and racing to be you or someone in an accident because of a bad decision to race a fast car. My pal had a lot to give but the 18-year-old kid that hit him ruined two lives for doing the kind of thing you're thinking about with racing a car and showing off.
Drunk or not you can ruin lives so it's not a remark to e taken lightly by me. I couldn't not answer your question when I read that.
Just because you can afford a fast car doesn't mean you have the skill to dive it and control it easily nor safely. It's a mistake to choose a fast car as your first vehicle while you're just becoming accustomed to every day driving. It's a lot to ask of yourself. Buy something with a great design that has a high safety record. Also buy thinking of what the insurance and other payments will be like.
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I just got an Imac for my birthday, and it has Ichat on it. It works fine, but i really hate the format. I would rather use regular AIM. I tried to download it from aim.com but it didn't work.
any idea what to do? (link)
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http://www.aim.com/get_aim/mac/latest_macosx.adp
That should do you ;)
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I just went to a concert on saturday night. it is now monday morning and my ears are still ringing. Is this normal? Or am I going deaf?
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How close to the speakers were you? It's normal after most rock concerts to have ringing in your ears for an hour or two afterward. It's because of how high they crank the sound over 3 decibels etc. It wears off quite fast.
However, if this has been going on for three days and obviously longer than 12-16 hours see a doctor as your hearing sounds like it was adversely affected. It's not normal after that length of time so says every article I looked up. Are you going deaf? I doubt it but its obvious the noise had a really bad effect.
When it comes to concerts and sitting close use ear plugs and I'd say use them no matter where you sit. It blocks out a lot of noise and you'll still hear the band no problem but without any hearing loss or ringing. Definitely, if it's still ringing in your ears right now see a doctor about it and sue the band ;) Kidding on that last bit.
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i know that this is normal. i know a high percentage of women dont have orgasms threw penetration. i would be one of them. although it feels great it makes it better.. i cant do it without something on the outside. this makes me so emberassed because i know my husband wants this. wants to know his little jhonny boy can do something. its not like it doesnt its just.. how i was made. so my question is if anybody know anything i can do to possibly have one while sex?? any tips.. anything? do i just have to live with never being able to give him what he wants? anything would be great thanks. (link)
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The statistics says that only 32% of females orgasm from penetration and intercourse alone. 47% of women first and only climaxed by masturbation. You're not alone. It's normal.
Stop stressing. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable and not mechanical. It's no wonder you're resenting your partner and the pressure he's putting on you. You need to tell him that there isn't a damn thing wrong with his penis and that you enjoy penetration.
Let him know that throughout life you have only been able to orgasm through clitoral stimuli. Ask Alice has a variety or articles giving advice here: http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0826.html
Try visiting your local bookstore and checking out their section on sexuality with your husband. There are bound to be plenty of books there on things you can try to achieve this. Also, the Internet has a lot of answers pertaining to this subject. If you try a search you'll likely find what you are needing. We just can't give out tips on anything related to sexuality here.
Tell your partner the truth and that it's bothering you and work out the issues there. One of the keys to orgasm is being relaxed and deeply involved in sex. It just happens from that. Being tense and obsessed with "I've got to have one to please him" is not going to help you. It does the reverse.
There's nothing wrong with your vulva, vagina or reproductive system here either. There's not a damn thing to be embarrassed or upset over because 32% of all women are like you. Tell him to focus on foreplay etc. as that's what pleases you the most.
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I'm a part time college student, and parking at that campus is impossible, so I end up parking in a parking lot that's a good 10 minute walk to my class.
On my route to class, there is this hallway type area (On one side there is a building with a whole bunch of garages where they hold mechanic type classes, and on the other side there is a wall with old cars parked against it). 95% of the time, the garage doors are all closed, and there are very few people that go through that way. Usually there are some men smoking at the end of this corridor (which is pretty wide, by the way, about 15 yards wide, and 75 yards in length.)
Now, I get pretty paranoid about going through this place. While I walk through it, I always make sure that I'm talking on the phone (with my mom), which should deter most (I think, rather hope) from raping or kidnapping me. Rarely ever do I see girls in that hallway, but guys about 0-5 depending on the day. They are always trying to make eye contact or checking me out. I've never been approached before, however.
Basically I need some advice on self defense. All I know is that the elbow is the hardest part of the body and guys don't really enjoy being kicked in the nuts.
I'm also wondering where I can buy pepper spray (and if I have to be 18 to do that), and other little self defense gadgets (like a sharp object that I could keep on my key chain, which I carry in my hand as I walk to and from class, in case I have to stab someone with my key, which I only have one of, so I can't hold it in my fist and make a weapon out of it, or in case I have to press the panic button for my car in case I'm being followed or I'm near it to attract attention i.e. help.)
I'm in search of a parking spot closer to class where I can avoid that hallway, but so far in vain, but I'm still trying. Having someone drop me off is out of the question.
Anyways, and tips, advice, stories, anything, would be appreciated. Thank you for taking you time to read my novel of a question.
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You NEED to tell your professors about where you have to park and not feeling secure. They will likely pair you up with a male classmate that can walk you to and from your car. As a matter of fact if college security is asked to escort you to your car even if it's 10 minutes away they really can't refuse.
I'm not sure where you would purchase pepper spray or if you have to be 18 to get it. I would assume so. I do know however, that when it comes to self-defense karate and kung fu teaches you how to deal with someone who is standing in front or in back of you.
90% of the time an attacker will knock you down and hover over you or drag you off. Those types of martial arts won't help then. You need to learn grappling skills preferably brazilian to take control when knocked on the ground along with choke holds designed to make them pass out. Brazilian Jui-Jitsu is best as is Russian self defense.
Here's a demo of the windmill technique http://www.expertvillage.com/video/6259_koden-kan-karate-self-defense-rear-windmill.htm
This technique is a good one to practice. I hate to scare you but phone or no phone you're a target. An attacker could easily approach while you are on the phone from behind and knock you down and launch the phone hurtling from your hand. Yes, it may deter some people but realistically it's not as much a help as you think.
I would find somebody to walk you to and from your vehicle for starters and then start taking self-defense classes so you have the proper tools you need if anyone ever approached you.
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So, my best friends party is just going to be me, her, & two more of our friends & it's going to be at Six Flags Saturday. One problem - I've never been on a roller coaster in my entire life. In fact, I'm actually scared of heights a little bit. I really want to go, but I'm kind of nervous, & I don't want to go on some ride that I'll start panicking on & yelling for them to stop the ride. Anyone who's been to Six Flags, what are some of the rides that I'd be able to ride...without freaking out on? (link)
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If you log onto Six Flags (sixflags.com) web site and select the Six Flags park you are going to you can click on "rides" and then "all rides" and it will list the names of every ride they have and give descriptions. It also gives you symbols that mean if a ride is very intense, moderate, for kids, family etc.
That chart will tell you what to expect. Maximum level of intensity usually means upside down, corkscrews, huge drops etc. When it comes to roller-coasters start with wooden coasters that just go up hills and down them to get comfortable with them.
My other recommendation is to go on as many of the intense ones as possible. This will get you used to them so that you have no problem. The first steel coaster you go on will be the scariest and then you can handle them all.
You see, what looks scary from standing on the ground isn't necessarily when you're strapped in and on it. The coasters take from 2 minutes to 3 minutes to do the whole ride so it's over before you have time to think about it because it goes 120 clicks an hour.
If you feel uncomfortable don't panic. That's the worst you can possibly do. Stay strapped in, don't move around or try to stand up (that last one is obvious but people have done that with awful result). Take a deep breath as the ride continues and let it out. You'll be okay as you can't die. You're safe as you're locked into the restraints.
Your friends are also there with you or next to you in the ride so they can help you calm yourself and get through it. When it comes to steel coasters start with one that has 1-3 loops and no more until you feel you can move up.
You'll have a good time. I'm sure of it just relax and go with the flow. Your friends also know which rides you would be best suited to go on versus avoid. Trust me, there has to be shit that not even they would touch in the park. Let me know what happens.
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well my dad broke up with his girlfriend and she cant pay the bill for my cell phone by herself so they have to turn it off. I asked my mom if i could go back on her plan for sprint but the problem is i have a samsung blackjack from AT&T, so she thinks that they can just let me keep my phone but convert the service to sprint, I myself dont think its going to work, but that is my question, can they? and if not can i get put on her plan and get a new phone? (link)
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Phones designed to work on AT&T only work on their network. You can't take the phone they gave you and use it on Sprint. The smart card is programmed for AT&T service. You also can't take a Sprint phone and try to use it on an AT&T network. It doesn't work that way. To prove that have your mother call them. That's the best thing.
You should get your mother to put you on an AT&T plan that suits you and is easy to pay per month. Why waste a perfectly good phone and never be able to use it again? That's stupid to be honest. Also, your dad's girlfriend might not be able to remove you from the plan at all.
If you and her are both under contract to AT&T she's likely roped in to those terms and can't make changes. Maybe you can get your mother to talk to her. I'm sure all of this will be ironed out in the end. Patience grasshopper ;)
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Okay here's the story so far...
I met this chick in Junior High. We became best friends and had remained that way til the end.
I started highschool this year. Me and my friend only had one class together so we talked as much as we could. But inevitably we didn't have the time to talk very often by the end of the first Trimester (we have trimesters not semisters here)
We had talked about me being bi and her being bi-curious...And of course it just happend that me and my girlfriend of two years had JUST broken up when my friend asked me out. We went out for about two weeks and had to break it off b/c well, we were friends! Not meant to be lovers!
ANYWAYS...
So the trimester ended. We barely talked anymore. She was having issues with her family and some "friends" of hers. She had told her ex boyfriend that on the next school cancelation she was going to end it all AKA kill herself...Now she and I both had said stuff like that often b/c well, we were a wreck! So people were used to her saying that and didn't take her seriously. She killed herself right before the winter homcoming...two weeks before X-mas. four weeks before her 15th b-day. It was on a cancellation that she did it. It broke me into pieces. The one person whom I confided in,practically 24/7, just left me. She left me behind!!! I've been a wreck ever since(more of a wreck then when I met her!)My friends are worried about me killing myself now and they try to help me but they really just make it worse...Now I know I could Never kill myself, but there's this overwhelming feeling of dred in me and I just want to die(not kill myself, just never wake up. Thats all.) I don't know what to do b/c the counselors want to pop me full of pills and everyone else just is annoying the hell outta me. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm against taking depression drugs. But do you have any advice that could help me cope...I'm just sick and tired of crying myself to sleep. Tears dont accomplish anything. Help?
**sorry that it is soooooo long of and question**
Abra Apocalypse F/15 (link)
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Why are you against drugs for depression? If they'll make you feel better and end your sadness by all means take them even if you don't think you need it. It would appear to be what you need right now.
Counselors especially at school or therapists who are not medical doctors are usually full of shit and know nothing about mental illness or depression. Their advice is pills because that's about all they know about this sort of problem.
What you need to do is see a shrink (forget the stigma just do it) and tell him/her that you feel guilt etc. etc. and pain, sadness over the suicide of a friend and sometimes feel so overwhelmed that while you wouldn't kill yourself that sometimes you wish you didn't have to wake up.
They will assess your problem and find a solution to it and if and only if they think you'll hurt yourself they'll ask you to stay 72 hours in the hospital. A mild anti-depressant and the help of this kind of doctor will help you more than you know to move forward and enjoy life. Isn't that what your friend would want?
Sadly, this was what she truly needed and didn't get to reach out for. You need to do this for your mental health and to get back to enjoying normal activity.
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