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how can you reduce air resistance in the sport of surfing? *for a project. thx in advance

To reduce air resistance in the sport of surfing, you just need to wear a wet suit, basically.
-Karen

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The boy "C" I have been talking about is starting to talk to me again. Well not actually talking but I'll hit him and he'll hit me back and he'll sit next to me. Anyways a whole lot of people is telling me that they like him and they have way more better chances of going with him than me.But you see I really really like him. We havent actually had a serious conversation because of all those girls that always all up on him and if there not around then his little clique is around. I really need to know what to do around like 1:30 today it will help me a lot!

These girls are just assuming that they have a better chance than you with him but they probably don't because "C" is the only one who knows the right answer. When there is a chance that these girls aren't around him, talk to this guy and tell him about these girls and find out what he things about them. He might like you because if a guy hits you back in a flirty way, it means that he's interested in you. Talk to him and let him get to know you and you can flirt more too and this will help.
-Karen

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This boy we call Pogo thinks I like him but I dont at least not anymore. At first he was all I thought about but now since I got a really good look at him he is ugly. I mean he has yellow teeth and he cant walk straight he smells funny and look so gay.I dont even want to be his friend anymore because he is so annoying. So what should I do?

Just ignore and avoid him because a boy like this is someone that you don't deserve to be with. It doesn't matter that he is ugly but it does matter if he smells, has yellow teeth, and so on because that's just incalled for. You need to tell him straight up that you do not like him anymore and that he is annoying. If he still annoys you, then ignore him and pretend that you never even heard about him when someone talks about him.
-Karen

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hey everyone
well today is report card day. I'm home from school because of it (today school is 1/2 day) What happens is our parents go to school to pick up our report cardds. Right now i'm a nervous wreck! It's because i still have to wait a few hours befor getting my grades. I'm really stressed. Is there anything i can do to relieve the stress untill later??
please help (and no answers like "do drugs") thanks!

You need to distract yourself and find something else that you will not make you think about your grades and such. You can watch a movie or read a book. You can go outside and take a walk to relive your stress. Anything that will distract you will help you feel better.
-Karen

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What are solar nails?

Solar nails are fake, false nails.
-Karen

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I need help deciding what i should do this summer. I wan to go to camp, but my mom wants me to take a college course at North Western, which would be okay, because I would take Journalism, which I like, but then I can't go to camp. I really like them both, well, I like camp more, but Taking a college course now will look REALLY REALLY good on, like anything. What do I do???????? Thanks! I Rate!!

You should go to camp because there are going to be those times where you can take Journalism at another time and it will still look good but you only can go to camp during the summer. You should pick your interest that you like to do more but it sounds like you want to go to camp, rather than taking this course. Talk to your mom and tell her that you will always have time to take Journalism and not going to camp.
-Karen

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Okay me and this guy have been "together" for about 8 months now...well were not technically going out but were kinda friends with benefits i guess...he said that he wants to not have a commitment bc he is going through alot right now but he doesn't want either of us to hook up with anybody else...just eachother...so should i take that as were going out or as were just friends with benefits? and also should i say we can hook up with other people or no? thanx ill rate a 5 to nebody who answers

You could take this as you two are going out but he is probably just telling you that he isn't ready to be committed and that he wants you to stay with him until he is and that's basically what you told us. If you two are "together" but you aren't going out, then consider that as you teo are just friends with benefits but that will change, once this guy is ready to be committed. If he told you that both of you aren't going to hook up with other people, then it's true and you don't need to say that you should.
-Karen

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Ok, this one girl keeps saying stuff about me that isn't true. I don't know what I should do!!!!!! I don't want to hit her I just want her to leave me alone!!! Any advice would be great!!

Well, you could start a rumor about her but then things will probably get worse between you two. You need to just tell people that what ever she says isn't true and that they should come to you and ask if it is true and such. If you think about it, everyone will ignore her, eventually, because if she talks nonsense about you, people will actually stop listening to her. You could try talking to this girl and ask her why she is talking about you. If she continues not leaving you alone, tell a teacher or your conselor and they will make this girl stop. People who talk about other people are just dumb and need to find something else to do, rather than talking about them.
-Karen

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so at my school if you dont live in greystone {The rich part} or wear abercrombi (which i think is pointless to pay 80 bucks for prefaded and pre riped jeans)any way if you arent privledged then ure pretty much the scum of the earth.All the punks have spiked or really long hair and wear black shirts and riped jeans. all the preps wear collerd shirts and north face jakets. any way they label the rich kids preps and the middle class to lower class punks. So punks hang out with punks and preps with preps but, this prep likes me and i like her and every one knows so we are both hated by our own soacial clases. so what should we do

If you really like her and if she likes you, than that's what matters and nothing else. Who cares if she is a "prep" and you are a "punk"; if people talk, ignore them. No one has to follow the rules of dating their own "kind" and if you want to go out with this girl, then go out with her. Labels are only for soup cans and you just need to ignore these ones at your school. If everyone doesn't agree about this, then just ignore them, that's all.
-Karen

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Everyone is always saying "I hate tanlines" blah blah blah. Is it wierd that I actually like them? Like if you wear a tube top after wearing a bathing suit that ties around your neck, or if you had cris cross straps on your back. I think its kind of like a sign that you tan. idk, I think its kind of cool...is that wierd? I don't like tanning lines after you wear shorts, or a farmers tan...

Nope, it's not weird at all to like tan lines because it is a sign that you tan and you aren't the only girl who likes them because I sometimes like them too. Everyone likes different things and I do agree that I wouldn't like a farmer's tan or when you wear shorts and get tan lines too. Don't worry, it's not weird to like tan lines.
-Karen

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i just got over this huge break up and i've finally moved on and the guy i moved onto always makes me laugh and we always flirt and i realized i have feelings for him. I want to tell him that i like him, and well i did..but he said he kinda liked me and he didn't want a girlfriend and wanted to stay friends..its so weird cuz i think about him day and night and i just want to be with him...can i say something to him to make him give me a chance? please help!

You really can't say anything to him because he told you that he didn't want a girlfriend and that he wanted to stay friends. If he kind of liked you, then there is always that possibility of having a chance with. Just flirt and wait it out.
-Karen

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Ok so there is this guy that i really like. And i really wanna tell him i like him, but i don't want to risk the friendship if he doesn't like me back (even though everyone says he does) what should i do?

If you like him, then you definitely need to tell him because if you don't, you may miss a chance of being with him. Before you actually tell him that you have feelings for him, tell him that you don't want what you are about say to affect your friendship with him. If everyone says that he does like you, then he probably does and he may confess is feelings to you too, once you tell him how you feel. If he doesn't like you back, just pretend that you never told him that you liked him and still be friends with him.
-Karen

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okay i don't understnad when people say or its on an icon or something what dose it mean when they say its ther Anti drug?

This means that this is one of the things that they do that helps them stay away from drugs and not do them. "Anti" means against so if your anti-drug is softball, for example, it means that you enjoy playing this sport and not doing drugs.
-Karen

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what dose "bisexual" mean? sorry it might be dumb but what dose it mean?

"Bisexual" means that a person likes both the same and opposite sex. "Bi" means two and this means two genders for the meaning of "bisexual."
-Karen

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so there is this girl at my school and we used to be best friends and then now we're just friends but i found out that she is baliemic (dunno how to spell it but its when u make yourself throw up) and im like wow b/c shes a really sweet girl and is not fat at all so im thinking now.. should i just not eat anymore? cause im starting to get a bit chubby... so what should i do?

Never ever let yourself get an eating disorder because there are so many other ways to lose weight healthy. You DO NOT need to become bulimic in order to lose weight. This girl is just going through a stage where she thinks eating disorders will help her lose weight and it won't because when she wants to not be bulimic anymore and starts to eat, she will gain all the weight back and she will have so many health problems. If you want to lose weight, you need to EAT and eat healthy. Watch what you eat and exercise daily. If you are starting to get chubby, do some abdominal exercises such as crunches and sit ups and run or jog on a treadmill. Please, do not become bulimic or anorexic because it's unhealthy for you and you will eventually gain all the weight back. I was so close to becoming anorexic not too long ago and I almost hurt my body. Just lose weight healthy, please.
-Karen

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i saw a girl post how she has hair on her upper lip and she dosent know what to do and so someone said shave it off... i was just wondering... my grandma told me that if you do that it will leave hair like when guys shave not hair but like little bits.. ok that doesnt make sense but if anyone knows what i am talking about-is it ok to shave ur upper lip (im a girl) thanx

Yes, your hair will be like a man's moustache and there will be hair left too and your upper lip hair will be thick and dark once you shave for a long time. Your grandma is right and this does make sense. DO NOT shave your upper lip hair because it's not okay too. For some people, their upper lip hair won't grow back dark and thick but for others, it will. I used to have noticable upper lip hair too and I use Nair Upper Lip Hair remover.
-Karen

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I have this problem because I have hair on my upper lip just a little bit kind of and what should I do about it?? I tried bleaching it should I try waxing it but I am afraid it would hert please help me (age 13 1/2) thanks!

I used to have hair on my upper lip and it was sort of dark, since my nationality makes you have dark body hair. I wouldn't wax your upper lip hair because my skin is scarred from doing it and your hair will just grow back darker and thicker. Try using Nair Upper Lip Hair remover; I use it and it works great and I have a better self-esteem, since my self-esteem used to be low from having noticable upper lip hair. People will stop making fun of you, once you use this Nair hair remover and you will feel better about yourself, trust me I know how you feel. It only costs about $3.00 to buy and use it and you only need to use it about 3-4 times a week, depending on how fast your hair grows back. DO NOT shave it because it will only be worse.


As for this guy who makes fun of you, just because you have dark arm hair too, ignore him because I am just like you; I am Polish and we have dark body hair but not that dark. Try using Sun In to lighten your hairs up. DO NOT shave or wax your arm hairs because it will only make things worse. You can slowly and slightly go over your arm hairs with a razor and it will make them shorter. I know how you feel and you aren't the only girl out there who has this problem, trust me.


-Karen

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ok..this kid who i have been "falling " for....well i told him..and he said he was falling for me too...well i like him..but i dunt kno if i should go out with him or not...cause people would be all weird and be like ARE YOU GOIN OUT WITH ******?but i really don't know what to say to him...should I go out with him or not?

If you like him and if he likes you, then definitely go out with him. Just because people will bug you and say that you are going out with him, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't go out with him. Just ignore them and tell them to stay out of your love life. Go out with him, since you two are falling for each other.
-Karen

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Heres whats going on...see theres this guy I really like and we go to school together and we have known eachother for over 3 months now and we went out on dates and everything like that and when we went on our first date afterwards he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes and then the next day he told me it was a mistake and that he came on to me to fast and well we hung out some more and everything and we hang out everyday at school because we have to classes out of 4 together and he gets mad whenever someone asks him if me and him are dateing because we kinda act like we are like by flirting and everything and well on our second date we held hands and then the next day he told me once again that he thought it was a mistake and that he was just trying to make me happy by holding my hand and like one minute he says that he likes me more then a friend and then the next minute he says he only likes me for a friend "For Now" I mean I dont know what I should do...because he is playing all of these childish games with me and if anyone could help me out with this it would help me out so much...If any guys out there who reads this knows whats going on with this dude and why hes doing me like this please help me out...Because I dont know if I should stick around or move on and find someone else...thanks to anyone who answers this for me...sorry its so long!!
Signed:Sad, Hurt, And Confused

If this guy is telling one thing after the other, it tells you that he doesn't know how he feels about you. You could just wait until he figures out his feelings for you but that may take a while. If he told you that it was a mistake of asking you out because he came on to you too fast, then it's probably true. You should talk to him and ask him why he tells you different things such as liking you one day and then saying he only likes you as a friend, for now. Tell him that if he doesn't know how he feels about you that you will move on. You should move on and find someone else, rather than waiting for him to figure out how he feels about you. Just decide what you want to do and go for it.
-Karen

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well it goes like dis:some times i dont no wheter my friends are my friends or not cause first day talk 2 me like day really ma friends then lata they dont talk 2 me like i'm a stranger or day TRY 2 dis me around people. what should i do? i am confused. are day really my friends?

If your friends are different towards you each day and diss you, it shows you that they aren't your true friends. Friends shouldn't act different and treat you wrong and this tells you that you deserve better friends who won't do this to you. You need to talk to them and tell them how you feel. Ask them why they act different each day towards you and they will tell you if they are your real friends.
-Karen

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