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im 18 and my boyfriend is 20 years old we've been dating for one and a half month.well,im not sure how the topic about his ex girlfriend of 2 years came up and he said that he misses her we got in this whole big arguement now im not sure,if i should stay with him are not b/c i feel like he shouldnt be missing an ex . (link)
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2 years is a lot longer than a month and a half. It's natural for him to still have feelings and miss her. I'm madly in love with my boy of two years but there are still guys in my life that I miss, and that's just human nature.
Let it go. Give it time. He'll miss her less the longer he's with you.
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16/f
i have this question about age differences. why is it that there are married people and people dating that are 10 yrs apart, but it's not okay for a 17 yr old to be dating a 21 or 22 yr old?
your technically allowed to date at 16 right?
i need some insight from people.
thanks. =) (link)
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The laws for "dating" are actually about who you can sleep with. They're different for every state.
The reason that adults date in large gaps is because as you get older, the differences between yourself and the older people around you are minimal. You're 16 now, would you like to data 6 year old? Or even a 11 year old, that's only a five year difference but the mental differences are vast.
17 year olds and 21-22 year olds have a lot of differences. 21 year olds are trying to establish a life, get serious about figuring out where they're going, whereas a 17 year old is still about having fun and still trying to get through high school dramas and things that 21 year olds tend to see as immaturity.
But hey, whatever makes you happy, love.
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so for christmas, i'm pretty sure i'll be getting a digital camera.
i'm just not sure what kind is very good.
like i want one that isn't TOO expensive, but it's a nice, thin one, that takes high quality pictures. like a digital camera, not one of those photography ones.
something that is about as thin as this, and has the same type of looks. but not color. haha
http://www.digicamera.com/features/thinzooms/casio_s500.jpg
i just want it to be nice looking, not too expensive, and good quality. also, any personal experiences on good or bad breakableness. ha
thanks! (link)
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http://www.bhphotovideo.com/
This is the best site to check out cameras on.
I'm a Nikon gal, myself. I love Nikon. They're well-made and great quality. Leica is a good brand too. Avoid Fugifilm.
Check out the site, though. It has all brands and will tell you the specs on each so you can compare and pick one that is best for your particular needs.
^_^
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16/f
i'm extremely scared to go to a clinic, and whenever i do go i always end up going by myself.
my grandmother died of cancer this year and ever since she died i developed hypochondria.
i'm so paranoid i have cancer... lol.
what should i do about my estimated hypochondria?
and my last experiences at this clinic have been extremely bad - terrible service... making me never want to go back there again.
what should i do? (link)
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I don't think you have cancer, but WenMD.com can tell you better than I can. It has a symptom checker and will tell you what's wrong with you, to a point.
Hypochondriacs are, classically, treated with placebos. That's where the doctor will prescribe you some sugar pills and tell you they'll fix what ails you.
In general, I think you should talk to someone, like a counselor, that can get to the root of WHY you are now a hypochondriac. It could be some mild mental scarring from your grandmother's death and s/he can talk you through that.
But again, I don't think you have cancer.
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16/f ok so this year I'm a junior and I get a lot of work, but I have a problem. I'm really really easily distracted. Every day when I come home from school, I think to myself, ok, I'm gona start my work now but I don't end up actually starting until like 2 or 3 hours after I get home from school and end up staying up really late to do my work. I feel like the only time I effectively finish my work is when it's really late at night and I've waited until the last minute and I'm under a lot of pressure to finish and this isn't necessary because I could have finished it 3 hours ago. I've tried everything, like pretending that its already really late when it's actually early but it didn't work. Does anyone have some specific methods I can use to start and finish my work earlier and not get so easily distracted? (link)
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You sound like me!
I had the same issue in high school. What I eventually found, though, was that I just liked to work late at night. Sure, I was dog-tired but it was just my better working time.
If you find you have a procrastination problem, don't come home to do the homework. Go to the library after school, where there are little to no distractions. I eventually employed that when I started to really have problems functioning after an all nighter.
It worked for me, maybe it will work for you.
The main goal is to separate yourself from that which distracts you. Figure out what distracts you and separate yourself from it.
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Ok so this is probably a weird question. For about 4 years ive been cutting, not out of control or anything just a comfort thing for me. This isnt a question about how to stop or w/e so please dont tell me anything like that. Well when i first started and for about 2 years after, I felt really bad about it and felt like it was stupid and wrong and just all around bad. But lately i find myself seeing it as just a normal part of life, it doesnt phase me anymore. I have no real desire left in me to stop because i dont personally see it as a problem. what i want to know is: is the fact that i no longer see it as a problem, a problem itself? or since it just doesnt bother me, should it not matter? obviously im seeing things irrationally, but in anyone elses opinion, is this bad? (link)
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I used to cut, and just between you an me and the people that might read this I still do on occasion, like when my world completely falls apart about once every three months and I can't take it anymore. It's not healthy. I took psychology, I know that. I also know that it's just a part of my life as well, and so does my shrink. But I'm a bipolar, we do stupid stuff like this. Ha.
It's a problem for us both, you and I, that this doesn't phase us anymore because it shows that we've accepted an unacceptable behavior as normality. That's not good because it can lead to worse habits. (Told you I took psychology.)
So to answer your question, yes it's a problem. It's a very big problem.
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My mom, jeeze where do i start.
Well, she kind of over reacts its like she worries for me. Example: i'll have like a project do tomorrow and she'll be all like "Do it now." and all concerned and I'll be all calm. Btw, I have a bad case of procrostitnation[sp?] It's not like i never get it done i do and she knows that too. i'm a straight A student and she's still concerned that i wont get it done.
Jeeze, dont get me wrong my moms nice and all and i love her to death. she just drives me crazy sometimes.
I don't know what I'm asking here ,but maybe you can figure it out and help me and what not. Maybe like give me some ways to beat procrostitnation[sp?].
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Procrastination. ^_^
Well, the easiest way is exactly what your mother is telling you. Do it now. Or, you need to set up a schedule to follow. Like, okay you can goof around until such and such time, but you need to buckle down and do it AT THAT TIME. It's hard, I know. I procrastinate more than anyone else on the planet, but once you have a system it's pretty easy to keep up with things.
She worries because she doesn't want you to fall behind. She just loves you. My mom was the same way in high school and such. That's just what they do.
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okay, so i met this kid through my friend and he had originally liked my one friend..but after we hung out more he liked me instead. well we would text and he was really talkative and would text me first. then we hung out like 2 times and the texting like slowly stopped..i would have to text him first and if he would respond it would be like one word answers that would make me feel annoying to text him. So, we hung out again after that and he was all cool in person and like talkative, flirty, blah blah blah. well then texting him the days after it was back to one word answers. he goes to another school so i never see him in the week and we hang out like once a month because he always seems to be busy and im not sure if hes worth liking. i mean i really seem to like him and dont really know why but i just don't know what to do
i dont want to just give up but my friends keep telling me hes a jerk...and really hes like not..like in person haha
i need some help =] (link)
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Guys are just like that. My boyfriend used to text me tons and now he just responds, acknowledges my text and maybe says something one word, and it's not that he doesn't love me or anything he just doesn't text. I don't know why.
You need to figure out some way to see this guy more often though. Like study together or something like that. I always managed to see guys from other schools by studying... or not studying and telling my mom that I was... lol.
Tell your friends to shut up and hit them. They don't know what they're talking about.
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ok My ex boyfriend from 7 months ago started to reasntly talk to me. He was my first and he knows I still love him and how can I stop? I want to but I can't. Well today my friend got dumped and told me she was wishing they would get back together and I told her not to wish anymore because it was poitless and she knew it was because I have been wishing for me and my first to get back together. Well I texted him about it then was got into a fight. Then he said "I don't know why I was thinking about wasteing my time with you again"..Anyone know what that means? if it means he wants me back how do I get him back to that level? I am so confused on top of that a guy I have liked since last year hit on me today. He dated my cuz and I thought that he didnt like me but then today he help me and kissed my head. I dont want to move on from my first if he wants me back...but then again I am confused about if I really want him...and what if this other guy likes me...should I give him a shot??
I AM SO CONFUSED! (link)
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Getting back with ex boys rarely works. Like ever. This guy said something that proves that "wasting my time with you again". He isn't REALLY into you. He's either toying with you or he wants you back just because he knows he can get at you.
Don't go back to that guy. I know it's hard to let go of a guy, I've been there... A LOT... but it really is better for you to move on and find someone else.
And it sounds like you may have found him. Go after this other guy. I can't say for sure that things will work out there, either. What I can tell you is that nothing gets you over a guy like another guy. That is why rebound was invented. This guy doesn't have to be rebound though. You sound like you're at that age where you can freely go through men like kleenex and if you want to, do it. You've earned that. ^_^
Go get the new guy, kick the old one to the curb and have fun, damn it! KIRBY DANCE! (>^-^)>
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Well, if you read my other questions, you know me and my "bestfriend" both 'like' the same guy, although i don't think she ilkes him. .. but whatever.
So now she's being a complete witch(if you know what i mean) to me. And she doesn't think so. But i know so, everyone says she treats me bad, but she thinks opposite, that I treat her bad.
We've been bestfriends since second grade, and I don't want that to end. But i don't know if i can handle how rude and witchy* she's been to me. I tell her about it, but all she does is 'backfire' it, and say it back to me. HELP! What should i do ? :/ (link)
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You have two options.
One, take the high road and put up with it until she makes a move that will either repair or break the relationship. This would mean that you just try to work it out and try to be understanding about it. I did that in high school, a lot. I kept a lot of my friends but they weren't the best relationships.
Another move on the high road is to cut it off and let her flounder out there alone. I know that seems mean and that it will hurt at first, but you would probably be better off without that static in your life. I did that my senior year and I lost some friends but better ones took their place, and in the end I got most of them back. They just had to do some growing up.
Your second option is to go the low road, which is a lot more... mean. Show her what it is to be mean to her and slap her in the back of the head. Torment her, and eventually she'll figure out that you weren't being mean before. I did this Junior year. Between hitting people and stealing men from them I was amazed I survived. It's not the option I recommend, but I do have to say that it's the more interesting and entertaining of the two. Ha.
Seriously, option one has two good choices for you... ^_^
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18/f. I graduated from high school this past May but I am still close with my high school English teacher. I was going through a rough time last year and I went to him a lot. He really understands what I am going through and he is one of the few people I can talk to. I still go and visit him and we can talk for hours on any subject. I trust him with my life (considering he did save my life). Is normal or even okay to have deep feelings for him? Like loving him as a best friend.... Keep in mind he is like 45ish years old, but very cool. I just feel weird even asking this.... (link)
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It's normal to have some affectionate feelings for him, so long as it's not romantic. I had a lot of teachers like that. By the time I was out of high school, most of my friends consisted of my old teachers, and I really enjoyed the time we spent together. It's normal and okay. I promise.
Older people can be your friend, and they tend to know what you're going through better than your peers. It's nothing peculiar and I'm glad that you've found someone that you can go to for anything.
Technically, because you're 18 and out of high school, if you had other feelings for him that would be acceptable as well, though I don't recommend going after a guy that much older than you ^_^
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I know when you're having your period, you retain water. I weighed myself and i weighed about 4lbs more than i usually do, but i havent been eating unhealthy or anything, so i'm pretty sure i haven't gained weight. Is this normal? Girls, do you find that that when you get your period you weigh a few lbs more? And how long do you retain water for? Throughout the whole period, or just at the beginning?
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That sort of thing varies, but 4lbs is about right. It can last through the whole period or it could just last a day. It depends on the hormones your body sends out that particular day.
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were can i get the plan b pill? (link)
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Planned Parenthood.
It is a saving grace.
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my bfs parents r tryin to break us up, n we cant see eachother alone, so wheres some good places we can go ina group of our friends n both us. that would be fun w him n with friends (link)
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Tell the parents that you're going to a movie with a large group of friends. Have the friends pick him up and everything, and then have them drop him off with you at a place of your choosing.
THAT is how you do a secret rendevous.
But places with friends are haunted houses (tis the season), the rec center, movies, mall, restaurant, someone's house for a scary movie night (the Exorcist and Emily Rose are classics for that) and ya know, just stuff you do with your friends.
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my boyfriend fingered me really hard on the last day of period. i wasn't like bleeding cuz it was just like ending and he used one more finger than usual and was doing it really really hard.
is it swelling becuz of how hard he was doing it or do i have some kind of infection???? (link)
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It could be either of those reasons.
How long ago did the "event" happen? If it was recent, like within the past three days, it could be that he was too rough.
If the "event" was further out than that I would be picking up some cranberry juice, has amazing effects on the vaginal area. It'll flush the system and keep out any infections out may have.
If it would make you feel better, you could also douche and that will clean out most bacteria lurking in your nether-regions.
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I am dating this guy, he is really a great guy we have been togehter for about 3yrs, but i don't know whats wrong with me. My quesstion is? i don't have any feelings for him like i used to, i don't want to have sex with him either, the only time i can be around him is when i drink. Is there something wrong with me? can some one help me? I dont want to loose him but i am worried, thank you. (link)
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Sometimes the spark just leaves. I went through it with my man. We just didn't wanna bang anymore. I thought about breaking up with him, because I thought maybe he could find someone better. I didn't though. I held on, and explained to him that I was just having a hard time. He understood, gave me some space and we're fine now.
In that space I went to see a shrink though, and she really helped me. Once I felt better there wasn't a way to keep me off of him. I think you should find someone to talk to about it. A counselor, a shrink, your mom, even your best friend. Just talk, see what comes flying out of your mouth when you aren't paying attention.
I don't recommend drinking so you can be with him. Sometimes it's just over and no one wants to admit it. You just have to deal with it, I'm afraid.
I hope I helped.
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omg ok so im 15 and im sick and tired of hearing life something about reality is coming around the corner you have to be ready for it and something about being on top. basically im retarted and its not going to happen i want a job something HELP i cant even explain. (link)
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Planning isn't for everyone. It happens. You're not really old enough to get a job right now, but there will be plenty of positions for you.
I don't think you're retarded, however, but I know a lot of the time it can feel that way.
I have a friend that dropped out of high school and just went and got a job and he's doing alright for himself.
You'll be okay. Snagajob.com can hook you up with some hourly jobs in your area and once you have some experience you can get some other kinds of jobs.
Best of luck.
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im 18 years old/female
this friday my best friend turns 18 and i took off the whole weekend for work because of course we're going to be celebrating! well her and her friends decided that on her actual birthday (friday) that we're all going to go out to eat, go to the club and then go back to her house. the only problem is, ive NEVER been to the club before, i just never wanted to go. i dont know how to dance for the life of me and it made me mad because she knows i dont go to the club but of course im going to go because it's her birthday, and i wanna celebrate it with her! all her friends are club junkies and go to the club pretty much every weekend so they all know how to dance. she isn't a very good dancer, just like me but she doesn't care she still wants to go. i just feel akward dancing with people i don't know. i've never danced with a guy before (not even at school dances) and i DONT know how to grind or dirty dance with a guy, which is all they do at the club. all her friends are like its okay just dance with all of us and if a guy comes up to you, and you dont want to dance with him we'll take care of it. but i know that there going to be dancing with guys so i don't want to just be standing there looking like an idiot and my cousin's crush is going too so im sure that she is going to be paying alot of attention to him and she said that if she danced with anyone, it would only be him. im pretty sure guys are going to want to dance with me (because ive been told by so many people im gorgeous) not trying to be conceited at all! but i just dont want to dance with guys! i dont know what to do, someone help me please with this situation. i'm going to go, no doubt because it's my best friend but i just hate dancing!!!! and i know people say it's easy to grind but for me i have no rhythm and i look like an idiot when i try!! i don't want to make a fool of myself out of EVERYONE there! (link)
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Honey honey honey! Relax.
Your good friends here at Advicenators will help you.
First off, if you don't want to dance with a guy, the easiest way out of it is to lie and say you're gay, then eye someone in the group seductively, but thank the guy. That REALLY is the best way to get out of it. Some guys might try harder to get at you, and at that point just tell them to F*ck Off.
Second, your dancing phobia is pretty common. I'm not a club junkie anymore, and I didn't start out liking it either. Just dance alone, close your eyes and pretend you're alone at home. I know that's hard but once you get over the sheer terror of it you'd be amazed how much rhythm you really have. I speak from experience.
Finally, you would not believe how BADLY people dance at clubs. I don't know if it's the booze or what but people just DO NOT know how to dance, which made me feel better when I first hit the club scene.
If worse comes to worse have someone buy you a couple shots. Carmel Apple Shooters do wonders, and they're yummy too. A little booze will take away all the inhibitions you may have. Or you can bring booze with you, drink in the parking lot and then go in. By the time you leave, you'll be sober. Promise.
I hope I helped, and I hope you have fun. ^_^ It's really not so bad once you get in there.
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Did Jill know the killer in 'When a Stranger Calls'? Because she looked pretty shocked when she saw his face. Who was he in the movie? (link)
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This was actually a remake.
She doesn't know him in the first one. It's supposed to be shock that there was, in fact, someone in the house that was really trying to kill her.
The old one has a whole series of badly written movies that come after it where Jill is repeatedly the victim of this guy, and I think one other guy.
But no, she does not know him.
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me 15 him 18
my best friend and i dated for like 2 weeks this time last year but when it didnt work out cause he wanted to be with "the love of his life" and then we became best friends. Well we are on the " I secretly like you and want to be with you" kinda thing. we agreed we wouldnt acculy do anyhitng or say we loved each other. Then this week he started to say he loved me and I said it back because I did, and i thought it was as a friend kinda thing. Then this weekend he was in town and his girl friend wasnt so he asked me to hang out with him. it was 2 in the morning and I said no. Then he said well I want to do stuff with you and I asked like what he said "sexual" things. He is still a virgain and he knows I am not. So I told him that I was going to bed and he said he loved me and he always would. I thought he might have been drinking or maybe he was high so I didnt repliy to him. now he keeps saying it and saying he wants to be with me this weekend. He said that I am number 2 to his girlfriend but it might not be like that for ever. I want to be with him more then anyhting and I am so confused on what he wants cause he says he loves me but loves her a little more...I love him and he knows it but what do I do right now? (link)
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Never settle for being number two. Let him know that if he wants you that you need to be first, and only, in his life. You're worth more than that.
Second, and this is going to sound REALLY bad and I'm sorry, he sounds like a major moron. He's trying to cheat on his girlfriend with you, and that makes him a cheater. Once a cheater, always a cheater, and he's not even TRYING to be crafty about it.
It's fine if you want to be still be friends with him, and if you want to be sexual with him, that's cool too. I have a friend that I'm like that with when I'm not involved with someone and I love him more than life itself, but I WOULD NOT lower myself to being his number two gal. He knows that. He also knows that we could never work as a couple because of how he is (a cheat and kind of a whore) and your guy sounds a lot like mine except that he's still a virgin.
You're better than being his backup, and you need to sit down and tell him that you won't be his second. All or nothing.
He's lucky you don't rat him out to his girl in MY opinion. Guys like that infuriate me.
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