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Q: Sorry this is in wrong
category
Hi,
Week algo my Grandma Found dead butterfly and Gave it to me. and I was wondering anybody hase good Idea what I can do with it? i had one with about picture frame? or any ides? and yet anything I need to do with that don't get you know runie? sorry bad spelling,
thanks

...uh why would you keep a dead butterfly..
i would say maybe fame it like you said or scrap book ? im not sure i don't like keep dead bugs..

Q: so my mother whos is a cancer patient had a bottle of mophine pills sitting out and my friend and her bf who i dont really know that well came over, i was talking on the phone in the other room for a bit, while they were watching a movie in the other room with my little brother who is 6. when i cam back the bf was acting really wierd, and kinda out of it and my friend was acting like she was hiding something from me. what i want to know is what does a person who took morphine (who didnt need it) look or act like? it was a 60 mg morph sulfate.
i just want to be sure before i accuse..
thankyou!

its a pain realiver so someone would probably act really high... hah like all happy and laughing probably and just looking out of it most likely

Q: listen i don't need a speech, or advice that urges me to talk or to be patient or to help. i am borderline and that would just be useless so save it.... in anycase i am generally a well liked person... i used to believe that the world in good, and i FRIGGIN help everyone i know or don't know for that matter and i am super nice to everyone but i've had it. i can't stand my sister and i honestly think i will commit sucide because of her. i have heart burn headaches and stomach pains because of her and i am on high zoloft and lorazepam dosages because of her. there is no changing who she is. i use to think that humans are inherently nice or good but i've been proven wrong! she is the epitome of wickedness. i am from a collective community where family and friends and the whole town is part of your family so there is no escaping this and no way i could just break off and not talk to her ever again... worse yet... my father forced me to go to college with her.. i had to take 3 years of sucky university and when she graduated we moved to a "better" university ... I DIDN'T WANT TO GO! but if she isn't with me then i don't go to college! i hate her i really want to commit suicide! please if anyone has any other advice that could help i am willing to listen just don't say talk (because SHE WONT, she is anti social and i don't want to hit her with a rod or something and go to prison next time she run into me like an angry vengeful bull throwing me to the ground and almost dislocating my shoulder... twice) and she doesn't need help (at least not from me because she is a sick animal who needs psychiatric help and hormonal testing) and don't tell me be patient because she is no longer a teenager. my parent's don't see anything wrong with her because she acts differently, and when they see it they don't care and say it's our issues we should deal with it....yet they force us to live with each other... help me please! she's driven all my friends away it's like i'm hostage and she is the beast keeping me!!

i think you should both seek professional help..
you should be thinking of suicide just because your sister is a B****.. you need to calm down and breath and think about your options wisely i don't know how old you are but if you really can't live with your sister well think of all the things you can do and just get your own place.. just see a professional to help you with all your feelings first

Q: Okay I am babysitting a year old who be 2 in 4 months. anyway he just start walking and hes good boy. I been babysitting least tiwce or 3 time a week and his father work at home. he need help somone watching him while he can work and do outside work stuff like that. how ever. I try to entertain little boy. play with him thing is he is very clingy to his dad. well he dose everything. little boy dose hase a mom she works everyday till least 3 or 4 i think. thing is he dose it to her to. and I am sure its hurts her she feel unhappy child not want his mommy. thing is father good father he seem more like housewife. couse he around him more. anyway i don't really know how to explain what i am try to say. i just thought anybody know what i am saying. they in age of there 30ths.

..this doesn't really make sense theres a lot of grammer wrong... and im not sure what you need advice on? but maybe the baby isn't so clingy to the mom because she isnt there a lot and he doesn't see her as much as he sees his father since he works more, usually its the other way around because the mom stays home with the baby. But you shouldn't worry about it your just the babysitter im sure theres nothing wrongg..

Q: some cute camouflage pants? for a sk0ol dance we have to wear camoflage :)

just about any store sells camouflage pants
try JC penny or any store in the mall really

Q: whats a good song to hint that i want to have sex with my boyfriend
but if he asks i want to deny it

vengaboys- boom boom boom boom

Q: hello my name is seanicka and im 18. Im in a long distance relationship and I was wondering do you think seeing my boyfriend every three months or two is bad? we love each other dearly and willing to make it work.

well if you guys are really in love and trust each other then i don't think its bad.. i mean i wouldn't be able to be in a relationship like that i have to see my boyfriend at least 4 times a week but if you two are willing to make it work then i think its fine, that must be really hard though

goodluck!

Q: Im 13 years old and ive been working out for about 2 months now and i was just wonderin when you on ur period does it help you lose more weight since you work out and lose blood?

thanks.

you only loose 3 tablespoons of blood during your period.. and when you work out, you gain muscle mass witch ways more then fat.. so unless your eating right and exercising with the right exercises your actually gaining more.. and you don't loose weight when you have your period.

goodluck

Q: are rottweiler dogs scary? if so, why? can they kill people?

they can be scary..
depends how they were raised.. the Rottweiler image is them being a scary mean dog thats why people think they are, but in reality it just depends how they were raised.. they can kill people if brought up to, like police dogs.. all there lives they were trained to attack .......

Q: Before this summer started I really liked this guy named Matty. Matty had told me he liked me to and we went to a party together and I was really excited because I couldn't wait to see him. We were together all day/night but after a few drinks I didn't know if he was all there, he kissed me, and I was really happy and kissed him back. When he sobered up he acted like nothing had happened and before I left the party he came clean adn said he just wanted to be friends because we lived too far away. It killed me.

A month or so has passed and we still talk all the time. I find out he still likes me (he doesnt know i know) and I still like him but I don't want to admit it. He talked to one of my close friends about how horrible he felt that he hurt me and how it wouldnt want to do it again and such. Now i dont know what to do? Im hanging out with him in a couple days but im kind of afraid. I really like him but I dont want to get hurt again. How do i know Matty won't do this to me again?

well it sounds like you have to options.. take the chance of being hurt, or don't and day dream of what could have been.. i say take the chance you only live once and there are many fish in the sea if he ends up hurting you again, forget about him in that kinda way just be friends but it sounds like his feelings for you have become more then just friends so just try it the worst that will happen is he will say i just want to be friends, no biggie just blow it over

Q: I know that nobody of this site are doctors, I so intend on visiting on real soon. Anyway..

I previously asked this qwuestion..

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=546688

And the answers I recieved said i may have Vaginismus. So I decided to research into it a little, and I found this list of symptoms:

- involuntary (against your will) spasm of the muscles in the vagina,
- fear of pain or real pain,
- intense fear of penetration,
- loss of sexual desire if penetration is attempted
- pain if penetrated by a tampon, finger or penis.

I definitely have pain when penetrated by fingers and penis, but not by tampons. I am also not sure if its muscle spasms im having or just some other problem. The rest, I do not have. I get in the mood for sex, and really want it, but when it comes to actually getting down to buisness it really hurts, like something is being hit.

On the link below, it lists possible causes of Vaginismus..

http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/articles/article.aspx?articleId=386§ionId=5

None of thos have happened to me!

Im realy stuck of what it could be, does anyone have any ideas of what it may be other than vaginismus?

And possible ways I can possibly help myself overcome this?

i think i answered your question before..
sex isn't the same for every person some people like it some don't some feel pain some don't.. i think that if your really worried like you sound to be.. just go to the doctors like you said nobody on here can give you a straight up diagnoses it could be a number of things wrong, and it could be something serious so just see the doctor.

good luck

Q: **15/f**
I get weirdly nostalgic about things. I can't throw away stuff from when I was younger because I'll just have this guilt tugging at the back of my mind forever. Like, three years ago I gave away my dollhouse and I STILL feel guilty about that.
And then when I look at old pictures I cry because I know that I'll never get to go back to that time in my life ever again. That's why I can't throw things away, because I feel like I'd be throwing part of ME away. Does that make any sense?
I gave away two old Britney Spears CDs last year because I figured because I don't listen to them so why still keep them? Well I felt so guilty (over throwing out CDs of a singer I clearly don't listen to anymore) that I had to go all the way out to the store and replace the two CDs. And now they're back on the same shelf they were before, collecting dust.
But it's nice to know they're there.
Weird right? I really hate this, it sort of takes over my life you know? Is there any advice out there that could help me get over this?

it sounds like you have OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder)..look into it

Q: 15/f
ok heres the story.
i started having this "stomach ache" on sunday, and it has been the worse thing i have been through, i swear. One night I was in the bathroom every 15min, diarreha. Now, ive had it for almost 7 days, constant pain, i want to throw up every once in awhile. And now, it's mostly when i eat, about 1-2hrs later, im in horrible pain and i have a harder stool. I've been hearing that this is a stomach virus going around. All I know is that I am sick of this, I would like to be actually eating again and enjoying my life without constant pain and running to the bathroom. I've tried pepto, idioum, anti-dirreaheal pills, like everything! My mother refuses to take me to a doctor because she thinks it's just the stomach flu, which i heard can last like 3-6 days? And I am in 4-H and am going to take my horse to the fair this coming week and I am going to be very active. So I need this stomach ache to go away ASAP! I dont think what I am eating has affected my stomach pain, I think it's viral. But please please please please please! I need some help like now!
Thank-you!!!!!

tell your mother to get over herself and take you to the doctors!

Q: ok so I'm 15 yrs old and my right boob is bigger than my left boob. it's really really weird.
will this go away as i get older???

over half of the female population have this problem haha don't worry , sometimes it evens out, sometimes it doesn't, and nobody will probably notice it every girl usually has one thats slightly bigger then the other

Q: whenever myself or my boyfriendstimulate my clitorus it feels really uncomfortable like 99.9% of the time

any ideas why this could be?

some girls are really sensitive compared to others, its not a big deal but the only way to become less sensitive is have it "touched" more

Q: how much does it cost to legaly change your name?
and where do you have to go to change it????

you have to go to court and get a court order and change your records it depends where you live on the price where i live i think its somewhere around 210$

heres a webs site about it: http://www.soyouwanna.com/site/syws/changename/changenameFULL.html

Q: i was like extremely close with this guy. and he would come over alot. kind of like a best friend! and my parents love him so much. and ive really started to fall for him! but the thing is my ex- boyfriend when he finds out were dating he's going to get pretty upset. because he was my first love. and we went out for a year a a half until he moved. :( but i really want to move on and its been a while since me and him broke up. so do u think he will forgive me for falling for someone else? i just dont want him to hate me. any advice?

i understand he was your first love but, you shouldn't hold back from moving on because he will be upset, if you too are truly just friends then he will understand that you need to move on and he won't be angry with you, even if he does get angry he will eventually get over it if he wants to stay your friend

Q: how much does it cost to get plastic surgery on your boobs? cept for making em bigger i want to make em smaller(from my DD to a B) how much would you think that'd cost????

heres a web site all about it..and it talks about price if you scroll down
http://www.plasticsurgery.org/patients_consumers/procedures/ReductionMammaplasty.cfm?CFID=103212349&CFTOKEN=34169418#nine

but sadly nobody on here can give you an estimate price it all depends on where your location is, how much experience they have ext...

goodluck

Q: lol, this is kinda embaracing, but, i have a hemoriod, its not that big, kinda small actually. but my question is, how do i get it to go away?!!?!?!

heres a list of over the counter medication you can perches if you don't want to go to the doctors

http://www.dealtime.com/xDN-Health_Aids--hemorrhoid_relief-over_the_counter_medicine

also just go to google.com
and type in "hemorrhoid" or "hemorrhoid treatment"
a bunch of things will come up and home remedies if you can't buy anything..

goodluck haha

Q: Recently my judgement took a turn for the worst, and I had unprotected sex several times rather than wait for my boyfriend to get some condoms. And now, at the early age of fourteen, I might be pregnant.

This doesn't shock me because I knew what I was doing, but my parents will absolutely die! I've always been their perfect daughter. Really, I'm convinced they only like me because I bring "bragging rights" to the table. So I'm genuinely afraid for when I have to announce what will surely make them hate me.

And that's not even the half of it. What about my aunts, uncles, and grandfather, who are all more than a bit old-fashioned?

Most importantly, I worry for my younger cousins, who are all under 10 years old. They like sand castles on the beach, Hannah Montana, and animals. :) They have always looked up to me as a rolemodel, putting me first in front of their own mothers as the one who decides what they do and say. I was flattered before, that they would think so highly of me; now I'm worried of what they'll think when they see my stomach grow bigger and bigger and wonder why I, unmarried and still a kid, am having a baby. I don't want them to follow in my footsteps or, once they're older, be ashamed of me.

I know I could just have an abortion and put an end to all my worries. But I've decided to take responsibility for what I've done and raise my baby, with help from its father and perhaps my grandmother, who is a very understanding woman. :)

I don't want to lose my family. They're the most important thing in the world to me. But I don't know how to do this without them completely ignoring the fact that I was ever alive. Help? :(

first thing is first,
find out if you really are pregnant ..
once you have done that then your going to have to tell your parents, maybe you have a parent that your more close to if you do i would tell that one first to try to make it a bit easier and you have to understand that no matter what you have done your parents are not going to as you said "hate" you.. sure they may be disappointed and ashamed for a while but they won't you, the farther you are along in your pregnancy they will come to understand that yes it shouldn't have happened to you so young but is has, they will see that. Its really important for your health and the babies that as soon as you find out to schedule an appointment with a doctor, the longer you wait the worse your doing for your baby.

I understand you how your feeling about your whole family and finding out and you have to get that, yes I'm sure they will all be disappointed in you and in shock that your a fourteen year old and your pregnant but it won't always be like that you have to keep telling yourself they will get over it and see that whats done is done. As for your cousins I'm sure they will be confused about whats going on but when there at the right age and you think there mature then sit them down, tell them how you feel about how you made a mistake and you hope they won't do as you do. Once they see you at 14, having a baby and all the stuff your going to go through with being a teen mother, I'm sure they will understand what your talking about, how you don't want them going through what you are.

i hope i helped a little bit
goodluck, and don't worry things will get better!