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I joined this site when I was very young (hence the ridiculous username) but now I feel I'mn old enough to give out advice.

Ask me anytime. I have had my fair shares of family issues, as well as good at solving relationship problems.

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What is some good alternative music right now? thanks

I've answered this question to another person before, so i can give you the same answers

The Kooks
The Feeling
The Foo Fighters
Plain White T's
Scouting For Girls
Hadouken
Snow Patrol
Artic Monkeys
The Wombats
The Hoosiers
[a little] Cobra Starship
The Academy is
Razorlight
Nickelback [ a little]
Boys like Girls
Red Hot Chilli Peppers

Hope I helped = ]

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How does a love triangle work? It dosent make sense to me. Lets say theres a boy, M who likes a girl N who likes a boy O who likes a girl P who likes M. Isnt that a square? How do you get a triangle?

A triangle involes three people

say there is A , B & C

a likes b
b likes c
c likes a



Here is a really easy picture to help you if you are still a little confused,

http://i27.tinypic.com/2l8kvmr.jpg


Ps : gender wise, A [boy] likes B [girl] and C [boy] likes the girl - but if c is gay, then he could like a

wiki explains it in the first line
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_triangle

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hi im 13
about a year ago i started getting pubes and i was wondering if it is normal for me at this age to be getting them.they are about 3cm long and is that just prematuring or is it a natural length? now there are a heap of pubes all around my penis-area and i am sort of worried

Don't worry you are totally fine. Your just going through puberty and changes. Getting pubes is natural and nothing to worry about at all! Pubes do grow, they are hair! The majority of teenagers get pubes - so it's not just you. Hope I helped = ]

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I have the coolest English teacher ever, he's so funny, and doesn't give a shit as long as we pay attention and do the work (like we can drink or listen to music in class)
Today was the last lesson of English(tomorrow is the last day of school) and I'm really gonna miss him over the summer (I have him next year as well)
:\ Is that rally fucked up?
I get along with him well, and I donno...I just miss him? :\

Is there anything wrong with me?

There is nothing wrong with you

You just have a lot of respect for the teacher because he doesn't treat you like a kid. You either have a crush or you just deeply respect him because he is quite laid back.It's natural to miss someone who made lessons interesting and cool! Nothing is wrong with you.! I have the coolest english teacher too - she buys us dougnuts randomly and is really funny. Your just mature and know how to get along with adults

Hope I helped = ]

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theres this guy and we kinda flirted when we didnt know eachother, then i found out that hes my best friends ex boyfriends older brother. so he added me on myspace and we talk. alot but hes going out with my friends cousin. and i like him. so what do i do. i think he may like me. Idk. please tell me some signs and tell me what to do.


thanks. and i know its confusing..lol

If i was you i'd maybe stay away from him for a little. Your best friend may not be confortable with it - so speak to her about it & neither will your other friend, so tell her. But dont talk to the boy for a while and stay away and till he's single, because if he did break up with her - it maybe because of you - and you wouldnt want to be blamed. So dont get too friendly with him & tell your friends, then you'll know how they'd feel about the situation

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I have a friend who constantly needs attention. It was my friends birthday, but she made everyone pay attention to her. She thinks she's above everyone, and is 'different' just to be 'different', rather than being herself completely. I know thats a complicated concept. Anyway, the other day she was being mad annoying and i told her to be quiet and she blew up on me. She just recently told me how boring I am, so I think its my turn to tell her how attention-seeking she can be. Any suggestion?

first off when she wants attention don't give it to her. No matter how much she tries to grab your attention, tries to annoy you, ignore it completley -that's firstly how she'll stop

second of all, when it is someones birthday party or something, make sure you remind her " it's so and so's birthday - dont spoil it right now" or something along those lines

She called you boring only for you to get a reaction - so she can have more attention

the only way to stop it is to completly ignore it , and not let her get the better of you. Remind not to take the spotlight from others and just ignore anything she does. She wants attention so dont give it to her. You've tried enough for her not to look like such an attention seeker, so leave her to do it by herself, she'll be the one looking like a fool. It sounds mean because it isnt right to bail on her but maybe leaving her to do it will make other people tell her and then she might just listen to them and realise you aren't the only one telling her to stop. Ignoring is the key

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so i told this guy who was crazy about me that we should be just friends. and i said in a VERY nice way. he said he was cool with it. i didnt feel like we were clicking as more then friends, you know? but later that day, i could tell he was not happy about my decision, and he was really bummed. now i feel really bad. and i cant keep my mind off of him. what the heck does this mean?
do i like him? or is this a normal thing to do?

i think you feel slightly guilty and MAYBE regretful

Maybe you weren't clicking more than friends. But HOW do you know unless you give it a try???That's why people go on dates -to get to know eachother.

Either : Keep to your descion

OR

Talk to him and ask if you guys could go on a date and just give it a try because you're not sure what your feeling at the moment

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What should i do if a guy is obsessed with me?

The only way to stop it is to confront him

Tell him EXACTLY how you feel

Make sure you get through to him your not obessed with or you dont like him [etc]


Dont ignore him
Dont get others to tell him to leave you alone

He needs to hear if from yourself

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i need website ideas that will make the website popular and ideas that will be easy to do.
i really need to make some money, please help :)
ideas i already thought of:
myspace layout website
website on a celebrity

any ideas are appreciated :)
if you can be specific or descriptive of why that idea is a good idea, please add that too

Maybe you could do a website for teenagers?& Have a variety of subjects on it

- celebrity pages
- topic of the week - where the viewers can comment
- new songs,music,reviews
- videos of the week
- games
- links to other wesbites like freebies
- free backgrounds and layouts
- personality tests like "what type of music are you"
- voting and polls like "who is better hilary or hayley duff?" and people can vote
- chatboard


Those are my ideas - i recommend you see the advicenator "theymos" if you want to specifically HOW to make websites and stuff

hope i helped

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Perhaps some of you have been in this situation. What is your opinion on how best to deal with friends who rarely make time to nuture the friendship? Sometimes it seems so one sided with me putting in the most effort. I have always been there for her through life's ups and downs, but when I am down, or when I simply want to get together it feels as if I am bothering her. This is a 30+ year friendship and there have been times when I just quit making contact because I was frustrated. I am about at that point again, but maybe I am in the wrong and should just keep trying, and inviting and calling etc. I tend to get dissapointed though because I look forward to getting together and usually she declines.

I wouldn't say I have so much knowledge on this friendship but i have that's a 12 year friendship.

I think that because you guys have been together for such a long time that she maybe taking you for granted. You guys are probarbly so close [ well not now] her declining, you'd understand. Maybe she is just tired and stressed. What you should do is ask her to go out - somewhere nice like a restaurant or a spa and make sure the date is early in advance so she cant say no. If she refuses let her know how you feel. I think she doesn't know that you friendship is decaying. But the only way you can save it is to tell her how you feel. Maybe when you are down - she can't support you because she doesn't know how - some people arent good in situations like that. Tell her how you feel - you never know, she might be thinking exactly what your thinking.

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so i like this guy [[shockerrrr]] im 16 female [[again shockkkerrr]] anyway i like alot since i met me we instantly clicked and got along and had a great time talking and laughing together it was like the best night ever. He said he had liked me to when i acually got the nerve to say something like a month later only thing is he had a fling with this girl [[not making up a name shes just her or girl]] well they dated and were together for two months untill she broke up with him for another guy. well he was super upset about it and i hate seeing him upset its like even if he doesnt act like it you know from his eyes what hes feeling or at least i can. He's an amazingly wonderful perfect guy. She had no right to play with him like she did and im pissed at her because she did. But it was like when they were together i was invisable he talked to me when she wasnt around mostly cuz i hated seeing them together because i wanted it to be me blah blah. After they were together [[FYI i was the reason they got together =[ bust or what?]] well it turned out she didnt even no his favorite color and didnt care one bit about him. NOWW there broken up and hes single and i realli like him but im not sure how to tell him. my friend told me just to tell him and see what happends but the last guy i liked kinda murdered my heart so its not realli up for being spontaneous atm. my friend told me i was beautiful and he would be stupid not to care and thats realli what he said im not being cocky. im just scared he wont care

help?? anyone.


[[sorrry its like freakishly long]]

Well you had your heart murdered

& now, his is too [after the girl played him]

Be there as his friend, and when you see he is less upset and vunerable make the move then. Don't confuse him whilst he's upset. You like him a lot right? Well be patient with and then tell him you really like him. After he has cleared his head - he might just see that you being a good friend for him, could be the best thing for him right now. Wait and then ask to date

hope i helped = ]


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is there a website for guys or emo people to just talk about things about life and relatations thanks xp

there is a website called www.vampirefreaks.com - its similar to myspace and bebo but you can also rate people, there are chat rooms, message boards ETC. Its for mainly "emos" and "goths" - it's quite good

here is the link ;


http://www.vampirefreaks.com/

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there is this boy who i flirt with a lot and whenever we hang out with a group of friends that group always talks about how we should go out which makes things really awkward and they also dare us to kiss each other but i don't want to do that yet.

how can i handle being put in that situation?

when the boy isn't around tell your mates how you feel. Tell them to leave it and you'll tell him you like him in your own time [even if you don't]. Don't get embarassed or too annoyed at them because they will only pressurize you even more and won't leave it alone. So just try to ignore it or laugh it off. Make sure you talk to the boy you like and apoligize for your groups behaviour - that will make it less awkard for you two to talk to eachother. The main thing you have to do is tell the group how you feel, and apologize to the boy. Whatever you do don't give into peer pressure, when your ready to date or kiss - date and kiss - DONT do it just because your friends think you should. But don't take it personally with your friends because they are just having a laugh - just try to ignore it and dont get annoyed. Tell your friends and the boys what you think, hope i helped = ]

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the other day i just met this guy and he's really cute well we all spent the night at his friends house and i slept next to him and we cuddled and talked for about 3 hours and talked about alot so i like his personality and more.Now i really like him but i don't go to the same school and barley see him and i dont no what to do

Just because you don't go to the same school doesn't mean the relationship wouldn't work - sometimes thats a good thing, you wouldnt get sick of eachother or clingy. Like someone said below - keep in touch and let him know your interested. Being in different schools can be a really good thing ; you can talk to eachother and catch up on stuff and noone from your schools and butt in etc hope i helped = ]

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I really like this guy and he likes me aslo!
We have been talking for well over a year now and we have had feelings for each other for about 6 months! He has asked me more than once to go on a date with him and also asked me to be his girlfriend but im scared and I dont know why! I have been in relationships before and never felt like this! Its not thats I dont like him in that way, I have really strong feelings for him! whats wrong with me?

I don't there is anything wrong with you - just simply you are afraid - maybe you dont want to wreck such a good friendship or you dont know how to handle these strong feelings. If you like him a lot there is nothing that should hold you back - there's no problems. If he asks you think about it and then make your descion. There are no excuses for you to turn him down but a lot of points that say that you should date. If you both have strong feelings, you know eachother well then just go for it! Dont be afraid, he is someone you know and it shouldn't be awkard. But since you have turned him down before hand, maybe he is scared to ask you, maybe you should make the first move. If you like him, tell him otherwise you might regret it - noone waits around for someone for long x hope i helped = ]

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I eat a ton then get full, then 10 minutes later get hungry again!
Im 14/f
120lbs.
what can i do to stop this?

I was totally the same, but the basics are you are bored, comfort eating, or just simply hungry.
If you are bored, eating is a way to pass time . But instead keep yourself occupied and if you find yourself going to the fridge, go to fruit bowl. If your comfort eating [eating to hide away pain] talk out your feelings or keep a journal. And if your simply hungry - eat yes, but healthy things - fruit , veg, smoothies,nuts juices, yougourhts, meat, fish, healthy soup. But don't deprive yourself of somethng fattie - have a biscuit or two as your treat. Before you go to eat also think about it - do you REALLY need to eat at the moment ..are you REALLY hungry?

Hope I helped

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well today i told my boyfriend that i had sex with another guy back in december when i cheated on him and he called me a slut but then he was the one who had like 25 girlfriends and slept with all of them i feel really bad for sleeping with the person i cheated with. am i a slut or did he make a bad judgement

you're defiantly not a slut, but doing repeating it would make you a "slut" and a "player". As long as you regret those actions it's okay. Your boyfriend is uspet and that's why he called you a slut, but don't take it to heart. Just don't do something like that again. Why did you date someone who had "like 25 girlfriends" anyway? " Forget about what he said, don't listen to it. At least you told him the truth which was a nice, honest thing to do. But I don't think the relationship can be repaired after that damage.

Hope I helped
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I look up all these cute songs about love and relationships & i play them for my boyfriend of a year and all he does is say okay or yea and i play them for the reason they make me think of him and he never says anything besides yea or okay.

some boys don't like to open up and show their feelings. They are boys, they do like to have some of sort of "manly pride" at times. It doesn't mean he doesn't care or he doesn't feel the same, its just some people don't know how to show and open up their feelings. Chill, everythings cool, hoped i helped = ]

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So one of my friends cuts. hes been cutting for a while, and hes been on and off with cousellors and stuff. Hes always talking to me about his cutting but never about how hes handling it or how he wants to stop. So tonight I kinda flipped out, im trying to help him by giving him suggestions on what he can do to try and figure out his problem. You see hes so stubborn that hes always trying to find something wrong. He started calling me little miss perfect, saying stuff how im always trying to fix peoples problems. So I got ticked. I told him if you dont want help dont ask for it, because everyone seems to ask for help and when I give them it they turn and treat me like crap.

So now apparently hes going to the hospital. Im assuming because he cut himself bad after our coversation. The convo didnt end well, infact it didnt really end at all, i just signed out. Should I feel bad? Does it seem like I made a poor choice in how I responded to him? I know that hes sensitive but why should I always "baby" him or cover up whats really going on when he needs to hear the truth. I've tried the nice way, the funny way, the boring ways, and tonight i've tried the mean way. Regardless, im always listening to him whine and complain about how he wants to stop but he never takes it uppon himself to really find ways to stop. Im just so frustrated with it.

Feel Guilty or not guilty?
I think not guilty but I just need to see it from someone elses side.

I know you've tried everything to help your friend but flipping out on him was not right . I know if i was you i would of lost all patience too, but it wasn't the right move to make. If he can't come to you about it who can he go to? I don't think you should be guilty of his cutting however, your anger got the better of you, and it hurt your senstive friend. I know you inintensionally meant to upset him but you did - that's where i think the guilt should come in. Never the less - you are RIGHT - if he doesn't want it he shouldnt slate it but just rememeber, sometimes there is stuff he wants to hear but you don't give it to him. Let him know what you feel, like what the cutting makes you feel and how you don't want to lose him. Just be there for him and when he comes for advice, let him know what you think but try to look at it in his shoes too. He probarbly has so much anger because he gives in all the time and then you give him feedback he doesn't always want to hear [im just guessing, i mean im not him]

Hope I helped = ]

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I love listening to songs from incubus, snow patrol, lifehouse, coldplay...are these alternative bands? and could you temme more songs/bands like these?
f/19

I've answered this question to someone else, with the same advice, and since it fits in the nicley, i'll give you the same ideas i came up with -
The Kooks
The Feeling
The Foo Fighters
Plain White T's
Scouting For Girls
Hadouken
Snow Patrol
Artic Monkeys
The Wombats
The Hoosiers
[a little] Cobra Starship
The Academy is
Razorlight
Nickelback [ a little]
Boys like Girls
Red Hot Chilli Peppers

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