Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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so what do you do if whenever you get in fights with your mom your step dad gets involved too adn every time he gets involved i tell him hes not my dad so stop talking to me and hten he says yeah im glad im not bc if i was your dad id beat your damn ass ... idk what to do or to say to him and its really pissing me off! please help! (link)
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eww..step paresnt..you know..you can never win there...
Your step dad should not get involved in the fights unless it concerns him.
As far as him saying that he is glad he is not your dad..i am sorry but HOW super childish is that? Hello he is the adult...gag..he needs to get a real age.
You may never get along with him..and hey easier said than done wiht him..and if you have to argue wiht your mom make sure he is not around.
but your family needs to sit down adn establish some ground rules...and your step dad need to grow up.
Man ..i feel for you...nothing worse than an sult who acts like a child.
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I am on the orthro evra patch and i think im pregnant because my stomach has been hurting lately and i pee alot. im not sure this is what it really is it may be symptoms of the patch or it may be because i dont drink water. Can you help me? (link)
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ok..first of all get a pregancy test. If it is negative..you may have a unrinary infection...cramping when you are preganant does not start right away. If the test is still negative after another week or so go to the doctor.
Get the test..then contact your doctor...ok
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I am a 23 year old mother to an 11 month old son and I am still breastfeeding him. I am slowly introducing him to cow milk but he won't be ready for that full time for a month or 2 or 3, who knows. I love breastfeeding but am just about ready to be done with it even though I will miss being a size 36 C. The only thing I won't miss is going back to an A or B bra. I love the closeness and the bond my son and I share from it, but now it's like he's older so it's more annoying now because he is so clingy to my chest area not just to eat but for comfort. He eats 2-3 meals a day of baby jar foods and he loves little finger foods and he drinks juice but will not drink anything but that and breastmilk. He eats really well, but when he wants to be breastfed he gets so fussy and demanding and he puts on this really moody act wherever I am. I am sick of having to whip out my boob when I am with friends or family now. Not just because of how they look at me like, "you're still breastfeeding him?" but also because I am now annoyed by it, I want my freedom back. The problem is that my boyfriend works 2 jobs, he is on his feet from 6 a.m. until 1 a.m. 4 1/2 days a week and it is really important that he gets his sleep at night. Now we only have a 1 bedroom apartment so I need to keep my son quiet at night, so how do I do that? I breastfeed him all night long. It is hard to put him in his crib and keep him sleeping. I am still waking up with him at all hours of the night like he's a newborn!! Although I love to cuddle with him and wouldn't mind sleeping with him a little here and there I am sick of sleeping with him ALL of the time. I want to stretch out again and sleep for 8 hours at a time, not a 1/2 hour to 4 hours only. We are not getting a 2 bedroom apartment until April 1st, and believe me when that time comes things are so gonna change. But what do I do in the meantime? I can't afford formula, nor does my son like it. I heard something about mixing evaporated milk with organic milk until he is ready for full time cow milk. Does anyone have any suggestions? I want my son to become independent from his mommy's breast now. I'm afraid it is only going to get harder to keep him from wanting it the longer he stays attached. Urgent help, advice and suggestions are wanted A.S.A.P!! Thank you. (link)
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if your son is eating solid food from a jar...it is time to wean him.
I would not go straight to cow mild ..i would start with formula..athen do ease him into the cow mild. Could be that he does not like the taste.
He is ready.. know this is hard for you..the closeness is so special.
But as far as your cup size goes..won't you be glad to get bakc into your old clothes??And not leak everywhere??
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So I have been hooking up with this guy for a few monthes... lets call him josh. So josh is really cute and i do like hooking up with him. the only problem is, he is dating my ex-best friend. I havent hooked up with him while they have been dating, but i really want too, and im sure i could hook up with him if i wanted too. I go to a differant school then my ex-best friend but the same school as josh, only he is a grade older. I really wanna hook up with him again, but i dont know if I should because of his current girlfriend. Please help me. I don't want to be a slut for doing this, i just have liked him way before my ex-best friend has ever known him! (she basically stole him from me too)thanks for the help... i really appreciate all your responses!
- Katherine (link)
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ok..why is your friend your ex best frind?
As long as he is dating someone esle...foolding around with him is wrong.
see ig he cheats on her..he will cheat on you.
Tell him how you feel..and if he breaks up wiht her..it is fair game.
Ps as she is your ex best friend..the no dating the friends ex does not apply.
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okay so my boyfriend is turning 15 january 11th...im turning 15 decemeber 7th...im kinda already just THINKING of things to get him bc ive never had a serious bf lyke him and ive never got a guy a present...im kinda basing it on if he gets me a present then ill get him 1...but i reallie almost KNOW hes geting me one bc he gets me lil presents alot lyke when he went to vegas he got me a little keychain that sed my name...yannoe? just cute stuff like that but ii wanna get him something nice...hes a skater boii n he lykes H.I.M and BAM....ne ideas wat i coudl get him? (link)
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ok..surely shater boi's have a website that tells you what they like..thyere must be some kind of accessories to the skatboard..or get him a newly released cd..music is alwways good!
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Mk, I really like this guy named Mike. This past summer he asked me out on a a date twice, but sadly I had to reject him due to some things that had been going on in my life. So far this school year, he wont talk to me, but he will stare at me all time. But he asked some other to homecoming. I cant figure out if he is just trying to make me jelious, or if he has given up on me...I really like him and I want to figure this out! Please help!! (link)
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Can you sit him down and tell him that the problems in your life were what broke you up? Just tell him why you had to..then the ball will be in his court....this is hard..no guy likes to be turned down..but if yout ell him the truth..maybe his feelings will heal.
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I fall for men to quickly and then end up getting hurt. It is usually when you like a guy they don't feel the same way or vice versa. Now, I don't technically like someone right now, but I'd like to find someone I can spend time with and get to know so that I know something will happen. Any adive? I am nice, attractive, open minded, opinionated, spiritual, funny, love sports, love to talk, and just have a good time. I don't know what I'm doing wrong, but there has to be something. People are always telling me how beautiful I am, and then they end up asking me why I don't have a BF, and I ask myself the same questions. Thanks! (link)
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well if you are falling for the wrong guy..then that is why you do not have a b/f. It is always like that..but soon you will meet a guy that digs you the same way. I would chekc out guys doing the same stuff that I like to do ..that way I know that we have some things in commom. Like aclub or an activity.
You will ahve a bf/ and it will be the right onwe..not the wrong one.
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Ok... so there is this guy, he is a senior. I am a freshman. He came over to my house this afternoon and at first we sat across the room from eachother and then he threw a pillow at me and the we got in a pillow fight and then my dad came downstairs and told me to behave so "adam" says yea sit down and behave and pointed to the seat next to him, so I say down, then he put his arm around me and we just flirted around for and hour. Do you think he likes me?
Thnkz
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If he is at your house.and still stays after the parental unit came down..yes I would say he likes you. He may be taking it slow as you are a freshman....but if he calls you..then yes..he LIKES you!!
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now lori and alex are going out( if u readed my other questions you know that i like alex) well anyways alex is still flirting with me and omg he stares right into my eyes forever and i stare back and its like he can read my mind. our eyes justlock with each others. he is always hitting me like just playing around and i hit him back and lori gets all mad. anyways he treats lori like shit like if he doesn't care about her and he lies to her. but thats only when i'm there with them or near them. what does this mean? (link)
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ok ..this guy is dating one girl..and totally hitting on another..does anyone else think this guy is a BIG loser...what make you think if he breaks up with this girl..that he will nto do the same to you.
Once a cheater always a chaeter..but if that is what you want..go for it. He does not care about this girl if he is hitting on you.
SO he is open game.but do not be suprised if you get hurt too.
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Ok... There is this big ordeal in my family. My mom is incarirated and my dad is dead because of her. I live with my Uncle now. i used to live with my aunt till my uncle b died and my mother said my aunt couldnt handle me. Well I have been living here and I hate it. My mother wont listen to me about where i want to live or what i want to do she is only thinking of herself. How can i talk to her with out her getting all pissed?? (link)
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man...i am so sorry first of all..all this crap happening to you??
Of course your mom will not listen..i mean if she was concerned about YOu..she would not be in jail...jeez..plus she took your dad away from you.
You need to get appointed a guardian ad ligten..as your Mom is in jail and cannot be an adult to you.
But if no other realtive will accept you...you might have a problem. See if there is a free leagal clinic that you can get advice or type in quaradian ad ligthen to see what steps you ahve to do to get one.
I feel for you and am thinking of you.
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I'm an only child. Through my childhood, I spend a lot of time at home. I didn't have THAT many friends at school, and I didn't have any friends in the neighborhood, so I was at home a lot, and I spent a lot of time being with my parents. When dad was at work and mom had to go somewhere, I would go. When I was a little girl, I spend SO much time with my mom. And my dad. My friends and other family members would say that I went everywhere my mom went. By 7th grade, I started to get a little...crazy. I got very moody around them, and every little thing they did would bug me. I felt like I needed to get out of the house and get away from them. I got to the point where I would go to my room and cry because they bugged me so much. They weren't abusive, they weren't mean, and they gave me everything I needed and more. But just having them around and nagging bugged me. I disliked them so much. But I didn't tell them, because I had no reason to. They just thought I had developed an attitude. Now, I'm in the middle of high school, and my mom has threatened to leave before because I treat her mean and I get mad at her all the time. And I really shouldn't, I know that. She's a great mom. But now, its like she's always nagging at every little thing and calls me like every 5 minutes (not to 'check up' but she has to have me do something for her, or she has to tell me something that I already know). She doesn't understand anything. And she's nosey. God, I just don't know what to do. I do have an attitude towards my parents, they've given me everything I needed, etc. I just spend way too much time around them. I even told that to my mom one time, and she was crying and yelling at me, saying "Well then from now on, I don't even want to talk to you! You're always so mean to me! From now on, you find your own rides and I just won't have nothing to do with you!" When she told me that I started crying too. I don't totally want her out of my life...I'm so confused. What am I supposed to do? (link)
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You are older now..and being a teenager..and an only child is very hard. I mean if you had a sibling..part of their attetnion would be on them..not all on you. It must be very suffocating.
See your parents still see you as a child.
Tell them you love them..but you need some space. you are older now and even though you love them..you do not need them involved in every second of your life.(and they should not be..ok!!)
It is so hard for a parent to let go..that is why the teenage years are so hard..you want to be free..and they still want you to be that six year old that dpended on them for everything.
Find a moment that is calm..and explain to them that you need to grow now as a person..tell them again that you love them..but now they must get a NEW hobby..one that does not include YOU!!
This is so hard..i feel for you...but the more calm.and adult you are..the more they will see as older..,,not younger.
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well i have been trying to go out with this girl, chrissy, but she doesnt really want to. and now i want to be friends with her but she never talks to me. i dont know if she wants to be my friend or not....can someone help me figure this out. or tell me what to say to her to make her feel special to make her like me more? (link)
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It is easier to ignore the person than telling them..hey..i am not inot you.
She is just feeling weird. Giver her some time ot get OVER herself..if not..then she is histroy.
Sometimes the people we want in our lives..well just will not..be in our lives.
I know that sounds stupid..but you told her how you feel..now she is weirded out..you need to just let her be for awhile.
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i was staying after school waiting to be picked up and the 1 guy that ive liked ALOT with me. (he kinda had feelings for me but he is so hooked on his gf) well my dad called my cell and said my Aunt DIED, and he'd pick me up in an hour. so i started crying histerically, and Tom just came over and comforted me and i layed there in his ARMS crying. he literally wiped my tears and layed with me the whole time. Once i stopped crying he leaned over and kissed me. and then... we started making out for minutes straight, it was the most amazing/beautiful thing EVER. eventually i had to leave, & later Tom called & said how perfect that was & never had anything special like that. well he asked me what to do about his gf cause theyve been together for a year & he doesnt know if he should TELL her or NOT. hes really confused. so what should he do about his gf do you think he should tell? i dont want her to be mad at me and have all her friends threaten me and stuff. please help i dont know what to do about the whole situation, this is too much... (DONT TELL ME ITS WRONG WHAT WE DID CAUSE no shit I KNOW THAT ALREADY!!!) (link)
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ok he kissed you..and he wants YOu te tell him what to o??
The question is..is he going to break up wiht his g/f?? For if not you dump him.
And yes he should tell his g/f. To me..if a guy kisses another girl..that relationship wiht his old g/f is almost over..or something is wrong.
you can give comfort without kissing...
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I know there are always all sorts of questions about this kind of thing on here, but I figured I may as well ask and see what you think.
Our one-year anniversary is this sunday. I want to get my guy something interesting...something special. I'd get him jewelry or something, but he never wears jewelry, except one necklace he like...never takes off. I thought about getting him a Kama Sutra book (lol don't ask...my friend thought that up as a joke), but I dunno if I should. What can I get him or make him by sunday? Money's not much of a problem (for once, YES!! I HAVE a job!) so...I just need gift ideas. I appreciate any ideas. Thanks! (link)
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I would not get him that book unless you guys are intimate..and even then..it would have to be..like..um..no
Get him what he loves..not some sex book..that will eihter make him or you uncomfortable.
Take him to dnner..give him something he wants..and enjoy the day..
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Ok there is this guy Eddie Im like madly in love with him, but people in my family just wont except him because he is punk and wears eyeliner and black nail polish. they all of a sudden think he is all santanic. I dont know what to do...
Also he lives like a 30 mins away from me would this be a long distance realationship and would it work (link)
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just beacuse a person dresses differently does not make him satanic. Invite him to dinner wiht your parents permission. maybe if they talk to him..to see beyond the eyeliner...they will like him
Ps bet YOUR parents dated some real intersting people too..
heck I shaved my hair and dyed it blue..never ever would you guess that from me now...everyone when they are youngs does things that adults just do not get.
Ask him to dinner..let them see what you love about him...
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I just turned 25, i am single and have a 2 year old daughter. Alot of people find me attractive, but I am completly insecure of myself. I am addicted to attention from males. I fall for a guy very fast and are always too nice. I just cant ever tell if the guy really likes me or is just playng around so I dont stop looking for the right man. I am seeing someone right now and like hom very much but he can be so distant and hard to read. He's very nice and we see eachother often, but why doesnt he show more interst in being with me. He tells me iam hot and we have been intamate but I cant tell how he feels about me, does he want to be exclusive or doesnt he can i ask without freaking him out? either way i would still see him I just dont know what to do. (link)
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you are a mom...how about concentrating on that..and if a guy comes along fine..but if not..well ok.
You have to be a good role model for your child. If he is being distant...let me tell you..he is just not that into to you. That is a great book to help you weed out the creeps
if he wanted to ask you out he would
but..to a guy..taking on a ready made family is hard...if you meet a guy who is inot you and your child..he is a REALLY great person.
so..lose this guy..look for a good guy to let inot your chils' heart and yours.
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i'm mo and i'm female. my friend keeps saying stuff like 'our parents do something really bad. i wish i could tell you but i can't!'. It's really scaring me, I'm afraid they really are doing something bad. And unlike her, i really love my parents, and i dont want this to happen to them, or move out, or anything like that. HELP! (link)
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Your friend is totally messing wiht you..if your parents were doing something bad..that person would have told you as they could not keep it in.
IGNORE them..ok...unless she coems up with some proof...of it..they are lying.....
ok..no proof...a lie..
got it
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me and my dad...dont get along...at all..he takes the simplest things i say..so serious..and all wrong...for instance..the other day we were trying to decide wut to do for lunch...we all decided on something but then he jus had to change his mind. when they asked me i said 'i dont care can we jus go some place cuz im really hungry' his response 'well i dont like your attitude!!' my mom tries to calm him down but his final desicion is 'well i just wont eat then!!' he gets so mad at me for the stupidest things like that..and my mom steps in and tries to resolve it but he ends up mad at the both of us..and when he gets mad..he cusses...last year i went to a school..on the bad side of town(it was a magnet skool..for higher students..but all the peeple hoo lived around there went ther too) so i heard so much language i got sick of it....so one day when he was mad..i asked him not to cuz i hear enough of it everyday..well now..he still cusses..acts like that talk never happened..and he's my sunday skool teacher! and everyone thinks i live the perfect life when its horrible..my dad keeps telling me over and over how we may not have enough money for christmas this year...ive told my mom that i hate when he talks about stuff like that..i guess he thinks im to 'mature'..last sunday..we talked about 'controlling our anger' and he wuz like 'u decide to get angry' well he decides that a whole bunch! i just want to stop the fighting..and my mom and i have sat and cried after some fights..and i want to stop bringing my mom into these fights..i want to stop the fighting..but im not sure how..oh any by the way..im only 12 (link)
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Can i just say for a young adult..you have got it goiong on. You kow about bad language..unlike your dada..you want peace unlike your dad.
You have everything..your dada does not. Seems to me that you are the AULT in this situation.
I have nver gotten along wiht my father..and enver will.
If I argue wiht him..the only person who gets hurt is me.
So I would just say..keep your thoughts to yourself.
YOU ARE RIGHT...you are the one in control..seems to me that your dada is on big baby.
But when you keep your cool..you win...
So just walk away or say nothing..in the long run...it will make him look bad...
As to yor mom..i would NOT let my husband talk like that to my kid..so she needs to get a bakcbone and tell your dad to chill his behavior...For someone who is only 12..you are the ADULT in your family
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17f...hey im really really really close with my mom...shes been dating this one guy for like 3 years..they were SUCCCH an unstable couple though like they argued and broke up like every week...my mom even called the police on him once because the fight was so big..he has so much money though its crazy...parts of me thinks thats one of the reasons why my mom is with him..but neway i HATE this guy and my mom knows it..theyve called eachother sooo many names when they fight..it was such a dramatic relationship..im like a fucked up kid from it now because ive witnessed all of it..wheneever they would "break up" he would ALWAYS call my mom begging for her back and saying how sorri he is and blahblah..then they would get back together..theyve gone thru counciling, all of it..the thing is they "broke up" like a month and a half ago and he hasnt called her like once..my mom is SO DEPRESSED off it now..be4 when they would break up she would be like i dont want that asshole, blahblahblahblah..now since shes being rejected i guess she is soo sad..ive tried talking to her and telling her the obvious: its not a healthy relationship, u 2 agrue too much, etcetcetc...but she doesnt get it..i dunno how to help her..they ARENT right for eachother and i DONT want them to get back together..any tips on how i could help her move on? (link)
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well you have just gotten it..adults make really STUPID decision..and they do not have all the answers.
Your mom things this guy is the one. He is not..just from what you said..but maybe she is worried about the future so that is why she stays with him
can you do anything...no..she has no self esteem or she would not be with this loser.
but do not argue wiht him or her...see when you remain calm..and keep your mouth shut..it becomes all about them
It will end..it might take awhile..but it will end...one of them will move on.
will it be hard until then..yes..but keep out of the fights..and just listen..hopefully one of them will be an adult and grow up
I am sorry..this is NOT the kind of life you should be living...
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In 1999 I signed a car loan for my daughter then 18. 2yrs later I added her onto the title. I just found out she no longer is making payments and wants to hold me liable for the car she dumped on the street to be stolen.I am overseas, and have been since 99. Am I protected anywhere under any laws? Is she liable for payments at this point? (link)
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If the loan is in your name..the only person that is liable is you. Being on the title just makes it easier for her to sell it. Where is the car now? If it has been repo..it is on your credit report. I would chekc with TRW to see the status of this. You might ahve to go to samll claims court (undera certain amount) to get bakc the money she owes you.
Never ever..give you girl anything this valuable..she cannot be trusted to take care of it.
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