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Q: What if u took a test and it said no. Then u still miss it.

take two more. then if still negative and you really are unsure have a doctor do it. and if youstill don't get your period there are many other reasons you may not be getting it.

Q: Hi I am 15 and I really ned some advice. I'm a week late with having my period and I think I might be pregnant. I'm scared of what ill be called at school and I'm afraid of what my family will think. I don't know if I should keep the baby or not... the father is 18 and I'm afraid my mom will think it was rape when it wasn't . I'm so scared I'm not ready for a littl baby :(

first of all ignore that other person who was basically an asshole from the first sentence. you are not a bad person for "opening your legs" as they put. But before you even freak out. FIND OUT YOU ARE PREGNANT. you might be getting hype over... well nothing. which is fine that you are cautious, but no need to stress if you don't even know. so go find out first.

Q: I need to make converting from flv to avi files, but don't know the best variant how to do it?

have you tried the youtube downloader?

Q: I have a 4 inch feather tattoo on my left side. The "stem" of the feather is pointing downwards so the top of it is on near my bra line. It doesn't look realistic, it is more of a shaded sketch. It is beautiful.

However, since tattoos are very addictive, and my side is a very valuable canvas, I would like to add onto my tattoo.

I need ideas.

hm.. what about adding like little feather pieces like the feather is being blown by the wind so you can see little small pieces of the feather

Q: My first love did me horribly wrong. And now he just forgot about me and I don't think it's fair that he gets to be happy with someone. What happened to karma? It's not fair he needs to get what he deserves. How can he just walk away like that. I just want to get over him and not care what do I do?

About over a year ago i was in your position. The first person i ever loved or at least believed to love... destroyed me. so much that not only did i feel so empty but still till this day i still don't feel myself or confident in my appearance... and he is with someone else.
so the truth is sweetie. SHIT HAPPENS.
you move on. you put on a smile and you move on. there is nothing you can do. you should know you deserve better anyway.
And i can't say you're going to get over him easily because you're not, but you will gain strength from this.

Q: I'm a freshman virgin and I Was wondering if the older guys found it hot to have sex with girls that never been touched down there? Is it a turn on for the seniors & juniors?

Unfortunately turn-ons are not defined by grade levels. Everybody has their own set of turn ons and turn offs and what they are attracted to.

Q: I became a vegetarian over a month ago and I've been eating much healthier meals and consuming much less calories than I used to, and no I'm not starving myself. But I haven't lost any weight at all? I'm overweight so believe me there's a lot of weight to be lost but why aren't I losing it?

Because becoming a vegetarian ISN'T a form of a diet. It is a lifestyle choice. Not all vegetarians and vegans are skinny. In fact I know an overweight vegan. So if you're using it as a diet... you may find yourself disappointed.

Q: s it weird that i just want to wear regular panties? all of my friends wear thongs like all the time now and they keep telling me i should to...but thongs look really uncomfortable i dont want anything stuck up my but im totally comfortable wearing my normal bikini panties...shud i try wearing thongs?

no, why would you want to do something just because your friends said too? It's not like they are the ones wearing them for you, you choose what you wear. I mean if you want to try them, then by all means go ahead. But don't make yourself uncomfortable for what other people tell you, you should do.

Q: okhay, so me and my boyfriend dont wanna have sex yet we wanna wait. but he likes to rub his penis on my vagina and it went in alittle bit like the tip did. did i lose my virginity does that count?

Hmmmm... well it depends on what you consider "virginity" if it's having contact with the penis and vagina or intercourse, you kind of did. But really what is considered losing virginity is the breaking of the hymen which would need more then just a tip.

Q: Hey guys,
Okay so I'm looking for any recommendations on a good book series? I love reading series as I find I get really engrossed in the story lines and characters. I've already read the harry potters. The twilight saga and my personal favourite the hunger games.
So any of you have any suggestions?

Thanks! :)

Vampire Diaries. Sweep.

Q: I have a boyfriend,we've been dating for almost three years and we really love each other,well a couple of months ago I met this guy who totally fell in love with me,I liked him and I like him,tough, but only as a friend,so now every time I run into him,he looks at me as if I owed him something,it makes me feel like a miserable and horrible person although I know it's not my fault,what can I do with this guy?I wouldn't like to dump him,he's not a bad guy,help?

Well... sweetie, you can't do nothing you can't help that you don't feel that way for him. And that you already have a boyfriend. You can try to be just friends and make it clear to him just friends.

Q: 11/f
Can you have a baby if you did masturbation once? Like, will u get preggo? Please help! I think i accidentliy did it in my sleep!:( im scared!!

Uhm hahaha sweetie, no. you can't even get pregnant through masturbation unless for some psychotic sick reason you put sperm on your finger and repeatedly finger yourself while reapply sperm to your fingers and you go in and out...
then maybe it's possible.

Q: Hello, so I've been with the same guy for only about 3-4 months. In the beginning, I didnt want to date him, I just basically hung out with him a lot and liked him a little.He was extremely obsessed with me and I just didnt like that. As soon as I finally gave in and decided to date him, things started to change. We began hanging out a lot (maybe too much) and he didn't seem as happy to be with me. I asked him about it and he basically said that he just isn't as excited to be with me as he used too and that he used to like me so much more. This hurt me so much because I finally started to really like him. He made it seem like the only reason he doesn't like me as much is because we are ALWAYS with eachother. I want to start giving him space but I'm scared that he will still be bored of me. What should I do to make him feel like he used to feel in the beginning?

it seems you landed a "Tom". If you are familiar with the show Tom and Jerry, Tom is the cat who was always chasing after the mouse Jerry. Your boyfriend is the cat and unfortunately he caught you and now is bored because he has nothing to chase after.

Q: Hi, i'm 14 and I have size 34b-c size breasts and I really need a boyfriends! I am tanned, slim, clever but all the boys only like me as a friend! How do I make them think otherwise? I also love to dance, sing and act! 14f

considering the fact you introduce yourself as a 14 year old and then tell us your boob size instead of telling who you really ARE i really doubt you have the maturity to handle a real relationship nor do guys see you as material for a girlfriend. You should also properly work on your grammar skills a bit hun. =) but good luck. ^_^

Q: the guy i used to hook up with started getting more and more distant lately and i found out he has started a relationship with someone else. now he doesn't talk to me like he used to. should i forget about him? i'm 21 and he's ten years older than me

well considering the fact he distanced himself and recognized you as only a "hook-up" AND THEN pursued a relationship with another person...
there is nothing you can do.

Q: Ok so I reccently broke up with a guy and I still love him. I broke up with him because he was issolating me from my friends. He said last night that he still likes me alot and then today, I caught him wheeling my best friend. He says it was to make me jealous but I honestly was in so much pain not jealously. It is painful to see him at school all the time. I couldnt stop thinking about him last night and I fell asleep to mine and his song and everytime I hear the song, I start to cry because I love him but let him go. None of my friends likes him for issolating me and my best friend (the one hes wheeling) was talking to me today and she said that he pushed her but she kinda acted like she liked it. I love him so much and I told him this and he said that he doesnt want to have to wait for me forever. Its painful to see him and talk to him and I cry when mine and his song plays, I love him so much. What should I do?

In all honesty, why can't you just sit this guy down and talk to him and try to work it out? Why can't you just tell him you need to time with your friends as much as you need time with him? I mean... honesty and communication make a good relationship so if you couldn't even tell him that you wanted to spend time with your friends without him freaking... your relationship wasn;t that great.

Q: There is this dude I dated for 2 days. The I broke up with him. Ever since then he has been really close to me. He gives me a lot of hugs. He hangs around me a lot. He is always around me. He also wrote me a poem. In the poem he calls me his girl and talks about getti g back together. I really dont want too. He also ask my friends about how I feel or what I think about things before and after he does them. It is really starting to get annoying and irratating. How do I let him dow without hurting his feelings. He is a good friend and I dont want to break his heart or hurt his feelings.

Why not just sit the guy down and explain to him you are uncomfortable with this stuff?

Q: Hi, 20/f, my boyfriend has been away for a few days and I have been masturbating like twice a day.. is this normal?

Nope. Not at all. you probably have a high sex drive and no boyfriend means "no sex" so... this is the result.

Q: "I am a 13 year old girl and i go to a nice catholic school and have never kissed a boy or done anything sexual! today i was going pee and saw something that looks like a bubble or pimple right outside my bikini line where thereis some pubic hair to. i have shaved there maybe twice but not recently. i dont do sexual things unless your count simple masterbation with a pillow. could i have herpes? and if so how?!?!

0_0 sweetie, i really doubt you have herpes but you are aware that one of the things about shaving is you can get bumps and pimples down there, right? If you weren't aware, now you are. it especially happens if you didn't get the whole hair follicle out right which happens.

Q: I want to kill myself...I've been getting bullied since middle school & my family hates me?

I really want to kill myself. I'm always depressed because I get picked on at school & my family members treat me like I'm a piece of crap. they think I'm a weirdo because I'm quiet & they tell me I don't have any friends, but if I told them I was getting picked on in school they probally wouldn't care or believe me. My family always fusses at me & talks about me like I'm worthless, they don't understand me & I don't want to talk to them because they never will understand.They say a lot of things to hurt my feelings & then I go to school & get picked on by kids because of the way I look. I have been being picked on since the 6th grade. If they found out that I cry in my room they probally wouldn't care or think I'm serious. I'probablyslapped before by a kid just because they didn't like me. I'm tired of being picked on at school & my family always putting me down. I'm not a ad kid. I make good grades, but I hate my life...When I get depressed I just go in my room and cry because if I talk to family about it they probally won't care. I don't even want to talk to anyone I just want to kill myself. I don't have a gun so I think the best way is to just use a knife.

Listen, sweetie. The fact that you want to kill yourself is stupid. I've been picked on since kindergarten and i'm turning 19, people still treat me like shit INCLUDING my family. And you know what. im still living hun. You can't let what others say to you bother you. There is ALWAYS going to be someone who doesn't like you or has a problem with you so what you need to acquire is the non-giving-a-fuck-disease. Stop caring about what they say. they don't matter. and focus on school and getting done what you need to because when you leave high school. THOSE PEOPLE DO NOT MATTER. and get on your game. make sure your grades are good so you can get into a good college maybe away from your family and during high school immediately look for a job, save up because just in case you don't get that full ride to good college you can at least afford to leave tht house.

bio

Hi, thanks for coming to my column.

The name is Diamond but Dia is fine.

20, female, jersey girl at heart. mixed race taurus natured woman.

So...the reason I made this was during the start of my senior year of high school I had reached a point in my life where I didn't want to live anymore. I was tired of fighting and didn't see the reasons to fight. It was a random stranger that made me realize I would be stupid to take my life and to stop fighting.

So if you think I'm going to tell you life gets easier, I'm not. Let's face it, it doesn't get easier. Through pain you get stronger and learn to open your eyes to those things that give you strength to live.

Mine happen to be music, writing, dr. pepper, anime, the color black, the way rain sounds, and an amazing boyfriend. What gives you strength to live?