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Q: Hello! I was wondering if any of you know any good home remedies to get rid of pimples, besides toothpaste. Thanks!

Mix 1 tsp. of lemon juice with 1 tsp. of cinnamon, and spread it on your face.

Q: i need to get ready of my acne before school... in like a week... anyone know of any quick home remedies besides perioxde and tooth paste?

Mix 1 tsp. of lemon juice with 1 tsp. of cinnamon, and spread it on your face.

Q: I went to the beach today and I got burnt on my chest, lower back and thighs. Its not burned too badly but its sore and I can;t put lotion on my skin feels like its burning off and it blisters then scabs over. What are some thing I can do to help get rid of the pain??

Aloe Vera gel works good. If you put it in the refrigerator before you put it on, it really helps to cool the burn.

Q: what does bipolar mean?

Bipolar is a mental disorder in which the person has severe mood swings.

Q: well the thing is that most of my friends live far away and until i get my cell phone soon then i have no1 to tlk to at all except my fiancee whos away on business all the time..sumtimes i need sum1 to tlk to but there is no1 here to tlk to me cuz if i tlk to one of my sisters they all run their mouths and stuff and im jus confused cuz my sisters give good advice but sumtimes i jus need to tlk sum1 and not get all my business spread around..im jus sayin what do i do?..i mean sumtimes i really really need sum advice or sumthin but i have no1 to tlk to at all and it makes it hard for me..

Just do what you are doing now--If you need advice, just post your questions on advicenators!

You can also try to make friends that live closer to you.

Q: whenever i walk my left ankle always seems to click! its really loud and people say i should get it checked out, but the thing is it doesnt hurt at all!! what do you think i should do?

Sometimes when you are double jointed, your joints click. As long as it isn't painful, you don't have anything to worry about.

Q: Ok well....I like this guy lets say mike* and his friends name is steven. Well i like mike* and steven is always saying that hes better then mike*and that i shouldnt like him bcuz hes a player. BUt wut im realli confused about is y is steven sayin that? does he like me? bcuz i kno mike* isnt a player. Help! i rate!

I think Steven is jealous because he wants you for himself.

Q: I've decided that I want to give my EX another chance.. But whenever I talk about him.. everyone in my family starts sayin that I don't need him and that he's not worth it..I haven't changed my mind on giving kevin another chance.. I just wanted to know if anyone new how i could get my family to forget about the things that kevin has did to me and how i could get my family to like him...

*~Needing help~*

Unfortunately, there is nothing that you can do to make them like him. It's all up to him. He has to prove to them that he's changed. If he treats you good, then in time they will come around.

Q: Ok - I recently got a petsitting job about 3 weeks ago. It's great and I love it!!! But my boss is hitting on me. He's a older guy around his late 40 - 50`s (I am not good with age) And his wife owns it. She is the sweetest lady. Well me and him went on a client interview and somehow he brushed aganist my butt with his hand, I was thinking hmm ok whatever. Then just at different times it seem ackward, he was like after you and wanted me to go first and different things like that. Well when I first meet him I sorta did have this weird feeling in my stomach, but just thought it was nervousness. Well then I had to go over his house to pick up invoices for the clients. And I walked up and he was on the pourch and before we went in the house we were talking and he reached towards my lips and I backed away I am like what what he's like you had a hair .. and reached again well I took my hand and like rubed it across my face I am like oh ok. And that was weird. Well I told my mom about it and she said that that is very weird and everything and it's up to me if I want to quit my job or not. I mean I love it so much, it's just that freaks me out. My mom said whenever I was going someplace and we knew he would be there, she would go with me. But I'm just afraid since he knows my schedule what if I go to a clients house and go inside and he's in there .. or what if he's stalking me watching me walk around the dogs. Whats really weird too is that he always wears sunglasses and smokes cigars. I don`t know what to do tho. Also their was a misunderstanding about one day I was suppose to work and he like curked out on me. Then when I had to go to his house (my mom came with me) he was like calm. It's really weird. What would you do?? :-/

It's obvious that you don't feel safe around him. I think you should quit. You can find another job where you feel safe. You don't need to put yourself in a situation where you can get hurt. Get out before it's too late.

Q: I have been talking to this kid Rob online for a while now and we like eachother.. and were both from the same state and... my cousins friend Jack who is also my sorta friend i have been around him alot is Robs best friend.. and thats how we started talking.. wehave never met but we want to sometime... should i meet him.. i mean i know were the same age.. and i know hes safe since hes Jacks best friend....

what do I do..

and do u think its bad that i sent him a pic of me?

Internet romances are always kind of dangerous. The safest way to meet him would be to ask Jack to go on a double date or maybe plan an outing with a group of friends and invite Rob to come along.

Q: Okay...I know a lot of people ask what they should do if they're bad dancers and mostly they're told that they just need more confidence and that they can't be THAT bad. The thing is, I'm REALLY bad, and I'm not just saying it. There have been dances at my school and whenever I go I feel really stupid when I'm out there dancing because I know I suck at it. My boyfriend wanted to take me clubbing once and I had to make up an excuse because I didn't want to embarrass myself! Is there any way I can improve without taking classes? Or is it something that you sort of have to be a natural at? I don't want to have to avoid dancing situations forever! (okay, I'll stop with the drama) Anyway, any advice would help. Thanks!

The simplest and cheapest way to improve your dancing is to watch music videos and try to learn their dance moves. Don't just copy them though, you have to really pay attention to how their body's move in time with the music. When you practice, crank the music up really loud, so you can really feel the music. Also practice dancing in front of a mirror, so you can see how your body moves. Once you get more comfortable with the music and your body, you will have no problem dancing in public.

Q: i really like my best friend but i dont know how to tell him cuz i dont want to ruin wat we alreadii have...hes like my goofy brother but ive liked him for soo long! what do i do! thanks!

First you have to try to figure out if he feels the same way about you, because if he doesn't things could get weird between you, if you tell him. Just try to drop little hints and see how he responds. Then once you're pretty sure that he feels the same way-Go for it. Good Luck!

Q: Hey, a couple months ago me and my boyfriend got caught having sex. I'm 15 years old and my parents were not too happy with me. They had no idea that I was sexually active before. They grounded me and told me that I could never see my boyfriend again, but I talked them into letting me stay with him, thats all taken care of but how can I gain their trust back? please help..

The only way to gain their trust back is to prove to them that you can be trusted. The only way to do that is to be completely honest with them. Trust is a fragile thing, and once it's broken it takes a long time to fix it. And it can't hurt to be on your extra best behavior.

Q: I'm 15 n me n my boyfriend are in love, we've been together for a long time n we have been through everything together. We feel like we're ready to have a baby i just dont kno what people would think n stuff, if we feel liek we're ready should we proceed with it or not? helppp..

15 is definitely too young to have a baby. You are not old enough to have jobs that have the means to support a child. If you are truly in love, and ya'll are meant to be together, then ya'll can wait. Finish school and get a decent job, then get married, and get a home of your own. After you've accomplished all of that then you can think about having a baby.

Q: I am only 15 and I already have a kid and pretty much my life is ruined.I hate bein a mom at 15 it really sucks.The father of my child is wonderful though.He helps and supports my child as much as he can although both of our lives are pretty much over.I can't stand gettin up every 2 hours to feed her.I really regret getting in bed with the father.It was the stupidest thing ive ever done.I now hate my life.I have a beautiful baby but a messed up life.I ruined my life to fast.I should have waited till I was older and well now I just don't know what to do.I love my baby very much but im just not so sure that i can handle raising a child along with going to school and working to pay for the expences of my child....Plz someone help me.I really need to know what to do.I don't wanna give it to an adoption center but that might be my only choice.I really need some advice so someone plz help.

Desperate for my life back and confused!!

Every parent goes through times of anxiety. Your baby is now the most important thing in your life. You made the choice when you chose to have sex now you have to live with the consequences. Things will get better though. (Especially once your baby starts sleeping through the night.)

Q: Ok so like my parents are soo annoying and everything. Like I do love them and if they died or somethin i would probaly die too..but they bother me so much!Like they never let me go out adn they always wanna kno what I'm doin but I HATE IT..im only 13 but I have always been pretty responisible and they should be able to trust me...how do I get them off my back??plz help... thx!

I hate to tell you this, but you're stuck with them, for the next five years at least, and there's nothing you can do about it.

Q: Okay well this guy saw my picture in my advice column and started saying I was fat and shit and I was ugly...and well I don't know what I did to him...now I just feel like dying I wrote him back a message and I freaked out after him but not that badly I didn't swear to much well not like f*** or shit like that and well I just feel like dying man it's not my fault I'm fat god I got far with my life like I play pro junior basket ball for my height and force and now he calls me fat I feel so bad...I'mm putting myself down and I hate it...I wanna die can ne one help me??

If he's putting you down, then he's the one with the problem, not you. Don't let him get you down.

Q: Hey. i have a huge problem. see my step cousin that actully has no blood relation to me is actully the perfect guy for me. he wants to be with me and i want to be with him, do you think that is incesed since there is no blood relation to us since it is all by marriage. i mean i really have always had feelings for him even b4 his mom and my uncle met. is it wronge to be in love with this guy please help. I rate!!!!

There is nothing wrong with your feelings, since ya'll are not blood related. However, the rest of the family might think it's weird if ya'll pursue this relationship. So this may have more challenges than other relationship.

Q: Ok, I just started a relationship with a girl that goes to a different school than me. I will probably not be able to see her more than once every 1-2 weeks and I know theres gonna be a lot of guys hitting on her at her own school. Any advice on how I can keep her interested and make this work? I wont be worried after a few weeks have gone by, but this first little bit is going to be tough.

If she really cares about you, you shouldn't have to work to keep her interested. If you do, then maybe she doesn't deserve you. On the other hand, maybe you are just being paranoid.

Q: hi! ok well i just started highschool . and my best friend goes to dif. school then me . and were allowed to talk to much cuz her mom dont like me and its a long story . well she sneaks phonecalls to me . and ovr the summer we would talk bout dif. things and she was totally dif. ( good dif.) b4 she started this new school. and she called me 3 days ago and she was acting REALLY preppy , and her voice sounded fake . and she kept bragging bout her new friends and her boyfriend she has ( boyfriend , its only been 1 week since school started) . and like she'll talk to me for bout 5min. and she'll ok i hav to go , and she just hangs up and duznt evn say bye and she duznt evn giv me a chance to talk . and its pissing me off a lot!!! i dono wtf happned to her , shes totallly different and wen she called one time i missed the call cuz i left my phone in my car and i got it and i saw the # and called it bak and her NEW friend answers so i ask if jenna was there and her NEW friend sez " jenna! its ur lil friend" i was like WTF!! and its pissing me off and i dono what to do . do i sound jealous?? i dont wana sound like a bitch but she's turned INSTANT POPULAR PREP!!! help plz!!!!!!! :(

It sounds like ya'll are growing apart, or she may just be trying to hard to fit into her new school.

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I can give advice to anyone of any age, because I'm still young enough to be able to relate to the problems that teens face, but I'm not so young that I haven't had to deal with adult issues. So if you have any questions, just drop them in my inbox, and I'll answer them as soon as I can.