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Hey everyone! I I have this boyfriend, and he's cool, but I think we would make better friends than b/f g/f. But when I told him I want to just be friends, he ignored me and now he still thinks we are going out. No matter how many times I tell him, he won't accept it. Now he started to ask me to do inappropriate things and he won't accept no for and answer. How can I make him accept my decisons?? (link)
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You're going to have to put your foot down. If he doesn't accept no for an answer to your relationship, then you're going to have to down right demand that your relatiohsnip come to an end. You have control over your life, not him. I would try to pull him to the side and tell him seriously that your relationship is over. You may have to scream it, throw a fit, or SOMETHING that makes him think "ok, there's no way that we're going out anymore." Speak up, and if he doesn't listen then I guess he's not a very good friend either. It sounds like this guy is really stubborn. If worst comes to worst, try to give him the silent treatment for a while. That always works.
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I met this guy, he is soo sweet and hot and he treats me like a princess and we JUST met! I saw a picture of him and assumed he was about 16 or 17 and when we talked on the phone, he completely sounded like it too! Well, he asked me how old I was and said 15 and he said oh man I'm younger than you, I'm 14! :-/ Oh geez.. is it bad to be with someone a year younger than you especially when youre a girl?! HeLp! (link)
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I would try to get to know him a little better first. Being with a guy who is younger is nothing bad. I have several friends who are actually married with an older woman in the relationships. It really doesn't matter just as long as you two really like eachother and can respect eachothers age.
Most people in today's society just expect an older man, younger woman relationship just because it's like a trend and because girls mature faster when they're younger. Most females expect a guy who is more or just as mature as them. If this person's personality is tolerable, then I wouldn't consider age an issue.
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I need to earn some cash 4 my summer vacation. We leave July 15 and I really need to save and make some $ so I can go crazy spending!!!! Lol. I get $20 midmonth and end of the month so when I leave, I'll have $40. That's ok, but I'd like 2 make some more by then. Any suggestions how 2 make some extra cash working around the house or anything? I can't babysit, no little brothers or sisters. If u have any ideas on how 2 make fast and easy $ doing work around the house, tell me!! Thanx.
Luv y'all, Erin (15/f) (link)
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If you have close neighbors or family friends, you can offer to mow their lawn and pull weeds for a little money. You'll be surprised to see how much some people are willing to pay people for tending their yards.
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i used to be the first to fall asleep ( normally at other peoples houses during sleepovers) but lately i'm always the last person to fall asleep, like just last nite or this mornin, i didn't fall asleep until like 2am, and i "went to bed at like 11:30" idk if it's my matress or if i have insomnia, can u develop insomnia, or are people just born with it?
but i just cant get to sleep, i've tried warm milk, counting sheep, and wut used to always work, puttin on the tv, but i just can fall asleep, it's just like im to exhausted to sleep, is there sumthin wrong wit me (i've had tha matress for about 3 years... is that it?) but i also dont think it's the matress, because whenever people visit they sleep in my bed, and they think it's super comfortable, i just wanna kno wuts wrong, should i see a doctor???
or is it normal for a 14 year old to sleep like this
usually i also wake up n e where between 8-10am (link)
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Your body might be adjusting to one incedent when you might have stayed up really late or a day when you skipped sleeping. If you had traveled anywhere far away, that may have shot your body's sense of time off balance. If you drink a lot of caffeine, or eat a lot of sugar or carbohydrates, that can also keep you awake longer than normal. Your body might not necessarily need as much sleep as it did before because you might have stopped doing as many physical activities. In order to get yourself more tired and fall asleep faster, I might suggest taking certain sleep aid medication, or maybe even try to do more physical activity.
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My best friend has a lot of shoes. all of them are really cute but every time she wears a pair they never match her outfit. how do i let her know w/ out hurting her feelings that her shoes dont match. signed,
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You should tell your friend the truth. That's what friends are there for. I don't think that she will take it personally. Personally, I would appreciate it if my friends helped me on my fashion issues, but who knows. Your friend might be setting a new fad.
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I have another friend that needs help her name is chrystal and she is 17..she had liked this guy named Ken..since he was in the 7th grade and he graduated in 2002..and he say he think of her as a lil sister..and she dont think of him like that.Her uncle herb told her to keep trying and go after what she wants..and never give up on him..any ideas?
-Hal (link)
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Your friend should give up on Ken. She can't change what he thinks about her, and I think that it's just a waste of her time to continue liking a guy who will always only think of her as a "younger sister". She can like him as long as she wants, but just remind your friend that there are a lot more people out there. Not just Ken.
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how did u get your coloum like that?? it looks great! (link)
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Oh, I took web design in as a hobby last summer so I know how to read and write java script, html, and css. If you want me to help you make your column look cool too just ask me the specific things you want your column to have and I'll help you.
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well everyday or so i go to my bestfriends house an theres always her guy neighbors over therre an there is this one that i really like! his name is jay an hes just a year older than me an he is always grabbin on my ass an saying funny stuff to me... like to day he wuz like "miss do u know were anyone can gimmi a lap dance?? do u by any chance?" i think he was kidding but like ive only known him for like a month or so an i REALLY REALLY like him an all my other friends ask like "do you like michelle" an he "smiles" den my friends ask like "would u go out with michelle?" an jay goes "only if she would go out with me" I DUNNO IF I LIKE HIM OR IF I SHOULD MAKE A MOVE OR WHATS GOING TO HAPPEN I REALLY NEED HELP IM REALLY CONFUSED!! plz answer asap i gota go soon an im going to my friends (yes that friend) house tommorrow!!! xoo michelle
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I'd say go for it. Add some spice into your life! You don't have to ask him, but just flirt back. Even if nothing actually happens between you and Jay, make some moves and have some fun. That's what it's all about gurl ;)
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I have this friend with really dark hair on her arms and I think it bothers her. Well we got in this fight about how like she thinks I am bossy and I think she is slutty. Well even though we aren't friends anymore I still know her, she goes to my school and is in some of my classes in 9th grade. I want to help her with her arms because I think she feels really insicure (or however you spell it. I know she doesn't want to wax it and I think shaving arms is dumb,so is there anyway she can dye or bleach her arm hair blonde-PERMANENTELY!!!! For like ever so she will feel better I hope. I still think she is slutty but I care. Please help my friend ASAP! B/cuz theres a rumor that she is moving to Colorado and I live in Nevada. Please hurry and help b4 she moves!!!! Thanks and much love!
Sincerely,
Lilly
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Oh, my friend bleaches her arm hair too, but it's not permanently bleached. I'm not sure where she can get her hair permenantly bleached. She can get her hair surgically removed, but it's really painful and expensive. Otherwise I would just stick to good 'ol cheap bleach for her hair. It works on my friend, so I'm sure that it will work for your friend too.
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ok does ANYONE know any good summer camps in california? but like cheap ones? i cant go over like 300$ so i need a cheap one someone please help me i want to go to a summer camp like the kind out in the woods with lakes and cabins and stuff so someone please help me i really want to go to one this summer!! (link)
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Walden West is really fun! A lot of my friends work there, and a lot of kids go there too. There's a stream, cabins, campfires, etc. It's located in northern CA by the coast. You can look it up on yahoo.
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hello, i am a 23 year old female. i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for six and a half years. we have had our share of problems, but nothing really bad. i think that our biggest problem is communication. whenever we are involved in a heated discussion, i start crying and he gets mad. i'm a very emotional person and i can't help it. i tell him this all the time. however, sometimes he yells at me and says mean things to me. i have told him that he can't talk to me any kind of way. he never says disrespectful things, but i still feel disrespected by the way he says things. i think that this is something that we can work out if we could communicate better with each other. if i start to cry he gets angry and doesn't want to talk anymore. we recently had an argument, i got really upset and told him that i didn't want to be with him anymore. i didn't mean it and i would like to talk to him about it, but i'm afraid that if i call him, he might make me feel like he doesn't care or doesn't want to talk about it. he has been a major part of my life. he has been there for me through so much. i love him and i know that he love me. what should i do? a part of me feels like if i give it too much time he might not want to be with me. another part of me feels that he needs time to see what he is missing. i'm so confused about what to do. (link)
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I think that you should let the situation be. Your constant bickering will get you no where in the long run. Can you actually see yourself get old with this guy if you always argue? Trust me, my grandparents argue all the time. They're not divorced, but they're so miserable together that it's just annoying. Even if you still love him, there's no guarantee that he still feels the same way. Let him come crawling back to you and let him be the one to work things out.
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hi. i've been with my b/f for about 5 mo. and i'm 14 and he's 16. i REALLY want to have a baby! i don't know why i just ReAlLy do! but also my cuz whos 20 's g/f just had a baby and she was 17(now 18) and they really struggle with financial problems. then his bro was dating a woman last year and just 2 weeks ago found out he was a dad. i really want to have a baby! what should i do?
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14 is a very very young age to have a baby. You'll get many people descriminating you at school and your social life will most likely go down the gutter. Also, many young mothers who have children before they get into college have to drop out of school after their required years of education (sophomore year) Perhaps you could take in the habit of babysitting or even ask your parents for a baby sister or brother.
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I have a friend and as a person she is great but our friendship isnt the best. I always feel like im the one screwing things up and sometimes i feel like she trys to make it so that im the bad person just so its not her fault like its her way of getting out whats inside of her but yet it makes me feel so horrible and im not the best person for taking things lightly. i dont really know what i should do so help me? (link)
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Hun, that's not a real friend. A good friend should make you happy when you're upset and at least be able to tell that she's hurting you. I would try not to hang out with her as often even if she's one of your better friends. Find some more happy go lucky people to bring up your spirit.
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There is a guy I like his name is PJ but Im not sure If he likes me.WE hang out together we share snacks we are both afraid to go off the highdive and we always want to sit next to eachother are we better off as friends or should I start flirting more?? (link)
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I have always believed that it's best to stay friends with guys because if you two do get hooked up and you go out, chances are that you will break up. Then in most cases you won't be friends anymore even if you say that you will be. I would just keep things steady with your friend PJ and maybe wait it out a few more years to either make sure that he's the guy for you or if he's not the guy for you. Give it time.
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well i was in gym one time and i fell off of the rope i was climbing. i hurt my arm really bad and my gym teacher told me to stretch it out. he didnt let me go to a nurse. when i got home i went to the emergency room because it hurt really bad. they x rayed it and turns out i fractured it. what should i do about my teacher? (link)
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You should probably tell your parents and get them involved. I'm pretty sure that your GYM teacher worstened the your arm condition and didn't notice how bad it was. Don't blame him too badly though. No one ever likes it when they get sued by students' parents.
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Im 13 and im like 5'3 and i weigh 110.I dont know if thats normal are not but it makes me feel bad when im with guys and i sit down there is like a huge thing of fat om my stomach..and my thighs omg they are huge!!Does anyone know what i can do? (link)
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Don't feel fat. That will lead to many self confidence issues, and eating disorders. Be happy for who you are and accept your appearance. If you really want to lose weight though, I would suggest getting your tonsils out. I just got mine out less than a week ago and I lost 15 lbs. Also, the fat flab on your stomach and inside of your legs is normal. All normal girls have that flab, so I wouldn't worry about it too much. If that flab goes away then you're probably too skinny.
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i just got a pet..its a goldfish..what should i name him? (link)
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Sharkbait Hoo Haha
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Hi. I am obsessed with anime and manga. Is there any way to turn myself into an anime character and jump into an anime?
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I know the way that you feel. I really wish that I could jump into DBZ and fly or go into Love Hina and steak Keitaro; however, after much concentration, I have concluded that it is impossible to jump into the anime world. The best way is actually in your dreams. It works!
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well you see, i am not sure and i am not saying that this is true, but i have a chance to be in the show biz, but i really want to go to middle school. I have been waiting for ever to get this far and when i was in preschool, i thought that i was going to stay there. i have been at my ele. school for 6 years k-5th grade. And i am sad and all but i wanna get out. And i did! but i might go to a acting school, and i might get job in show biz, it is about 50 50. What should i do? (link)
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You should follow your dreams and continue into show buisness. It sounds like this is a chance of a life time. If you would really like to act, and you feel that you're doing the right thing then I would go for it; however, if it doesn't feel right in your heart then you can always turn back right now. Just follow your heart, and make sure that you have no regrets.
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i dont no how to u will have to tell me (link)
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