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Ok so theres this guy named Jason ive known since the 8th grad, i am not a junior in hs. I used to like Jason in the 8th grade and he knew it, but i was always a total bitch to him. Like i would roll my eyes everytime i saw him, basically i was on some little kid crap. We recently started talking after all that time and he told me that the reason he never approached me was because he wasnt really sure if i did like him. Well ok so weve been talking and everything is so different now he says he likes me etc. Today i was on aim and i viewed his away message and and it said his name && some girl there. Uhmm idk what to i really like him, and im guessing he has a girl. I dont want to loose him, again but i know its totally wrong to keep talking to him. Idk any help/advice? = ( (link)
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You can keep talking to him, it's not wrong, and I really think you should. Right now he might be in a relationship, but how often does that really last beyond a few months? Be there for him when it all falls apart and you'll be in to be his girl.
If, on the off chance, it doesn't dissipate in a month or two, let me know and I'll give you some tips for breaking up relationships while still keeping yourself looking like an angel.
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I'm 17/F USA and taking college classes so dont treatme like a kid. thank you.
I was watching pretywoman and ws wondering.
Why is prostitution illegal?
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Prostitution is illegal for a couple reasons...
Firstly, it can spread STDs. Really fast. So if the government slaps an illegal sticker on it, they think they can get the STD problem under control... Yeah... I know what you're thinking... I think that too.
Secondly, because we are a religiously based country, no matter how hard they try to separate church and state, prostitution is morally wrong because it is A, sex before marriage, B, disgraceful, and C, can be adultery. So, again, the government thought that if they slapped an illegal sticker on it, they could control the whole morally wrong thing... Woo government.
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I am a 17 year old male from PA. I have a younger brother of 15. He completely manipulates my parents to think he does no wrong (actually had my mother say this to me) and I get all the blame. And the kid is a real jerk. I mean class "A" moron. And I just don't know how to get him to stop or to get my parents to see the truth. I have tried telling them and I still get yelled at. Please somebody help me. (link)
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That is what younger siblings are for. Growing up my step-sister got all the blame in the family for anything that went wrong. I'm the oldest but I didn't live with my dad full time, so I just got to watch as my youngest sister tortured the hell out of my step-sister. It was awesome.
Anyways, my step-sister finally got my youngest sister back around your age. She intentionally set up a huge... bust... for my youngest sister and wasn't there when it all went down.
He has to be caught in the act of doing something god-awful, and you can't be anywhere on the premises when it goes down. Be creative, since you know his weak areas. If you play this right you could even go so far as to get him arrested.
Hahahahaha.... I'm evil.
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this might sound like a weird question, and i know that it's different for everyone but i was just wondering where you put your legs on the guy when having sex? i heard some wrap their legs around his waist, but i'm not really about that. but you have to spread them right? so what are different ways girls do that! thank you!! (link)
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Spread em in the air, or set them on the bed while they're spread, or wrap them around his waist, curl them up (bent). Some guys also toss them up on their shoulders or try to bend you in half. I prefer spread but sitting on the bed. It's comfy and I do little. Lol
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I used to date a friend of mine, and then we broke up, then stayed friends.
Then one day, we had a fight, and we've been antagonistic to each other since.
I tried a long time ago to mend the friendship to no avail, and settled on just hating.
It's been over half a decade now, and since common interests and such keep making us encounter each other, I'm getting tired.
I'm tired of being afraid of being hurt emotionally by her, I'm tired of being angry with her, and I'm tired of hate. Honestly, if I don't drop this negativity that's weighing down on me, and wearing down my self-esteem and my psyche, it will probably kill me.
I'm debating just sending an email or something. Just saying I'm sorry, and that I'm tired of this feud, and I want it to end. While it'd be nice to have one of my best friends back, I'd settle for just not being enemies anymore.
The only thing that's keeping me from doing this already is the same fear. I don't want her thinking I'm trying to get back with her (something she brought up against me, but was never my intent). I just... I just really really want to let go of all these negative feelings I have towards her. How do I get this point across to her, and have her understand what I'm trying to do? (link)
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Don't try to explain it to her. Sounds dumb, I know. Bare with me.
I've had to deal with this a lot recently and I have discovered that the more you try to explain to them the worse things get. What you do, instead, is send a simple email/letter. Say something like: "I'm sorry for all the animosity that we've had between us, and I hope we can find a way to resolve it in the near future." That's it. No explanations. If she responds with something snide or hurtful, don't respond. Ignore it. You said your piece.
When you see the ex somewhere treat her like someone you know, not someone you hate. Smile, say hello and then move on. If they return the smile and nod, or say hello and try to start a conversation, feel free to ask them how they've been and create polite conversation but don't force it. If a sore subject comes up, like you might wanting her back, simply say you think it's better that the conversation end there and that you hope to see them again. Don't argue, don't be rude.
The more you do this, the more nature it is to do. It's like when you're sad and people tell you to smile. The act of smiling releases endorphins that actually make you happy. Being nice to people you hate can actually cause bad feelings to disappear between the two of you.
Don't try to meet for coffee or something for a while, though. Not until you're sure the air has cleared... and that could take a while.
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I've been best friends with this guy for like three years, and there's nothing more than friendship going on, and probably never will be. But, my mom is just convinced that I'm his girlfriend. I used to deny it everytime, but she keeps going on about it, so I stopped saying anything....ugh I'm sick of it. I tried telling her that we're only friends, but she won't believe me...what do I do? (link)
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It's a mother thing...
If he has a girlfriend, introduce her to your mother (have a mini-party or something).
If not, it becomes trickier. Sometimes you have to be aggressive with parents. I'm not saying push her down the stairs, but next time she says that look her dead in the eye and say something like "Mom, he's a friend. I am not his girlfriend. I do not wish to be his girlfriend. If you call me his girlfriend again I will scream. This is NOT okay anymore." Something like that. Firm but respectful. You have to let her know you're serious. It can be hard but it works.
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Ok, so my name is samantha and i was dating this girl named jamaica for about 2months. In those 2months i had met a good friend of jamaica's twice. She's a very beautiful woman, we have been texting and calling eachother for about a month now. She is talking to someone at the moment, and myself and jamaica have broken up because of lies she has told me. This female, Mikayla, we have so much in common; i feel like she's my other half, and she tells me that she feels the same way; and when we hang out, its incredible. My ex found out that me and mikayla had been talking and she hates it. Now all of jamaica's friends have been giving me and mikayla a much of shit, and its getting to both of us; and mikayla's just so confused now and she doesnt know what to do. I know that i want to be with her, but she still has a thing for the girl she's talking to and she has feelings for myself. Should i stick around and see what happens, or should i just start looking for other females? I want to be with her so bad, its undescribable; but there's just so much drama that my ex is causing and the fact that Mikayla is confused. What should i do? What do you think should happen? im at a loss and dont know what to do anymore. Plz help (link)
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You have to think about what will be better for Mikayla's mental state, and yours as well. There is so much drama that it can't, really, be good for either of you.
That's the issue with hooking up with an ex's friend. It just happens. I think you should probably stay in touch but start looking around. She's confused, you seem frustrated and there just needs to be a little space. If you keep in touch, there is always the chance that you two can date later, when things settle down.
For now, though, I think you should move on, just for a little while.
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Okay I haven't been dating my boyfriend tooo long but we are very close. I go to church with him and his family every Sunday. We go to the park and he plays with my son. He treats my son as if he was his child. He has this habbit of "scarying people" yelling out the window of the car, hes beeped at two people while i was driving (whom happened to be girls).. he tends to talk about "banging" celeberties and he will talk about his past relationships. when i had talked to him about it. he said hes a guy its not like hes going to go cheat on me. is it wrong for me to feel a little upset about it or do i feel this way because every guy i have dated previous has cheated on me?? (link)
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It's not wrong to feel a little upset about it, and the being cheated on repeatedly thing is probably contributing.
My boyfriend isn't this way, in fact we're the opposite. I'm the loud obnoxious one. We're making it work though. He had to sit me down and tell me I was being a real jerk about it and that there was no real excuse for it.
We compromised. I no longer talk about my past relationships and he joins in on talking about celebrities that are hot and we want to bang. Seems silly, I know, but it really did help... I've been known to harass people still... it's actually one of my favorite past times, but I make a point to lay off a bit when he's around...
You just need to tell him that it seriously bugs you and that being a guy is no excuse. Tell him that it makes you uncomfortable because you've been cheated on, and that it's hard to let that go. See if the two of you can compromise like my boy and I did. Our relationship has never been better.
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Hi. 17/M
I want to ask girls out but there's just a voice at the back of my head that's constantly saying "Why would she ever want to go out with you?"
I'm a really funny guy and I can always make girls laugh, and I know that's a sign that they like you, but I still can't get rid of that damn voice. Where did it come from and how do I get rid of it! (link)
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That is insecurity, and it comes from life. Lol.
There are a lot of ways that you can deal with this. There's the "Ignore the Voice" method, which is hard. It's really hard to make that voice shut up.
There's the "Booze" method, but you might make an ass out of yourself.
I recommend the "Practice" method. Get a chick friend and practice asking her out. It'll be dumb at first, but it really does help. Then, just take a deep breath and spit it out to a girl you like before that voice can kick in.
It's hard, slightly unpleasant and I do not envy you, but I had to do it... so you can too. ^_^
I promise it gets easier and that voice goes far far away to a land where anorexic girls feast on lard.
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ok well i got a new boy frined we talked for like 2 weeks and i blame my self for not getting to know him completely but i didnt think things would change like they have when we were talking he was the sweetest guy to me he made me realy happy and special he asked me to be his girlfriend and i said yes we have been together 3 weeks and well im not as happy any more he doesnt do any thing now it seems like he doesnt care he wont call or text unless i do it first he doesnt treat me like his girl friend i dont know what to do i want him to care about me show it and mean it like he said he would i have talked to him about this and he said i am to sensitve and i get mad to easly but im not even mad im just confused and kinda sad on why things have changed i dont like it what should i do i mean i have guy friends that show me they care about me more than my own boy friend does :( i want our realtionship to work i like him alot what should i do??? (link)
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Awe, sweetie... Men are crappy like that... a lot.
The bottom line is that you can't change him, there's no magic phrase you cna say to make him pay more attention. If you're unhappy you'll have to either leave or adjust. I don't believe in adjusting.
There are some women, like myself, who believe in training men, but the problem with that is that it takes time, unless they come pre-trained.
Do what's going to make you happy... even if that means leaving him.
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First off I'm a virgin but I was just wondering why I don't feel any pleasure when I use a dildo. I have to use a vibrator for clit stimulation. Whenever I try I just don't feel anything so I have to use my vibrator for my clit. Is this normal? Is there anything I can do to change this? Please help!! (link)
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There are all sorts of reasons you might not be getting there, and virginity might be a factor too. To be honest, knowing many girls that couldn't get there until showed how, you might be doing it wrong. If you're comfortable with the sort of thing, a more experienced girl can often show you a thing or two. It doesn't make you gay or bi. It's just like someone helping you ride a bike, except a lot more intimate.
Another answer is that you're probably expecting too much. There's no magic button in there that will send happy orgasm feelings throughout your body. Sex is fun, but you have to have another person around for it, obviously. Dildos are something you have to experiment with to use correctly. Different sizes, textures and girths are better or worse, depending on girl. Using different "thrusting" speeds, pressures, and whether or not to couple it with clit stimulation (which I recommend) is also girl-variant.
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I keep losing my processions and it's driving me crazy. In the past month I lost my camera, my scientific calculator, my pe clothes, my entire chapter of math homework, these drumsticks I borrowed from someone, a pair of shoes, my favorite vest, and today I lost a friendship bracelet that my friend got me from Mexico.
I never used to lose things though. Does this have some kind of symbolic meaning in my life. Like is this supposed to represent me being "lost" on the inside. Because I have been feeling lost lately, and now I'm losing everything. I don't even know what my question is but I need help. (link)
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If you feel lost, seek spiritual counseling. It can be really helpful for you. In the meantime, here's some spiritual counseling from me, though you might not share the thoughts. Lol.
I don't know if you'll believe me on this, but in my opinion it sounds like you have a bad case of pixies...
Yeah, I know I sound totally batty, but I'm a pagan, so it's okay. They tend to steal things. Sometimes they bring them back, sometimes they don't. Leave them some honey-bread and milk and they might bring things back. They can also steal your security, hence the feeling lost.
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okay, about a year ago i dated this boy and when we broke up we didnt talk about it or anything. it was basically done. then like june we started talking again then started dating, we only dated for like a week because he did something stupid and i didnt wanna deal with it. well that was the end of june. after that we still talked everyday, from when we woke up til we fell asleep. we talked ALL the time. i told him everything, he told me pretty much everything. all summer it was like that. at the end of the summer he started dating someone who used to be my best friend, we werent enemies at the time, just werent as close. he pretty much stopped talking to me then. not in a mean way, just idk..we became distant. i was so upset, because i thought i really liked him. i just couldnt tell him and have what happened before happen again. well him and that girl broke up, and like i told him i liked him.. and then we talked about everything and he told me that he was sorry but not like reaching out and talking to me and wanted it to go back to how it used to be.. i was so happy. but then i got thinking..whenever i date him, i dont like him as much as i did before. but whenever he doesnt talk to me for a while i am hurt. i think that i like having him as like a best friend or whatever. idk what im really asking, just asking what you guys think. oh im 15/f btw =] (link)
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It sounds like a similar situation I have.
To make a long story short, a guy I used to think I was in love with is now my best friend and I wouldn't have it any other kind of way. We just aren't relationship material, but I couldn't see my life without him, and maybe that's what's going on here. I love him, and he knows that, but we just aren't compatible. Ha.
Sometimes that's the hand life deals you, and so long as you figure that out you can find a great life in friendship with this person. Don't fret. It's really very nice to have someone you can be so close with, and you don't really miss the dating after a little while.
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sex doesnt feel good. it doesnt feel like anything actually. it doesnt hurt either. more like rubbing i guess. except when im on top. when im on top, i actually get an orgasm. why is that? (link)
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It can be caused by a number of things but the angle at which he enters you is probably the most likely culprit. When you're on top you control everything, so you decide angle, roughness, etc.
I think you guys should try some different positions. I know missionary can NEVER get me there and I'm too lazy to be on top long enough to get me there. My man an I favor doggie style and sometimes the spider (which I honestly think is too much work, ha).
You just have to find a position that works for you. Every body is different and needs different stimulation.
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my vag is like sort of shaved but not really...i just want to shave the whole thing because i hate the hair there its gross and sticks out sometimes but i dont really know what to shave and what not to...like do i shave all the way down there? or is that dangerous or whatever? i wanna shave as much as i can.. thank youu (link)
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You can shave it all. I do. Never had a problem.
If it's your first time shaving "the area" then you may notice red bumps pop up. Be sure you put lotion on the thing... It really doesn't like blades. I recommend waxing...
Just be sure you go slow or you'll nick yourself, and that is some painful healing right there.
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how do i get rid of it? i've had it for like a year now. i always use acne stuff on it in the shower but it just doesn't work. (link)
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A pumice stone. Traditionally these are to smooth out your feet, but they are actually very useful for getting rid of body acne. Simply apply soap to the stone and scrub your back with it.
Backne is often caused by not getting the dead skin off of your back. The stone will scrape it off better than a sponge or washcloth and your backne should disappear in a couple of days.
If you're having minimal results, put rubbing alcohol on your back as well as this will eat off the dead skin and clear away any oils that you may have back there.
This technique works for any part of the body that you have acne problems with.
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I have one of em, and I really want my comments to be hidden on there. Does anyone know I would do that? Sorry for asking such a stupid question, but I don't now how to do shit on there! If anyone can help I'd really appreciate it! Thank you very much (link)
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Paste this at the end of your WHO I'D LIKE TO MEET section without the quotes.
".FriendsComments table table { display:none; } .friendsComments td { height:0px; } .FriendsComments td { background-color:transparent; } .FriendsComments td td b a { display:inline; }"
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Hi i have a problem them i know is not normal but i dont know what to do about it when i make out with my GF i get a boner and then orgasm a real short time later. dose anyone else have this problem. how can i stop this? were both 16. (link)
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The easiest way to "gain control" is to masturbate more. Sounds whack, I know, but think about it, if you're empty it can't happen.
An exboyfriend of mine had a similar problem. He solved it this way, however the entire thing stopped even being a possibility when when he lost his virginity.
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what are the easiest and quickest workouts to lose the love-handles? workouts without any equipment. thanks! (link)
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Aerobics. They have videos for it EVERYWHERE. Lol
Also crunches/sit-ups are superb for getting rid of those love-handles that you dislike.
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ive been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 months and im soo happy with him. we havent said "i love you" yet because we both want to really mean it when we do. and we're moving kind of slow, which i like and im not complaining. i was just wondering how long does it usually take before couples get sexual? (not actually having sex just like feeling up and all of that) we're moving the way we want but i just want to get an idea of what other couples are like so any stories or experiences would be appreciated =)
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It depends on the couple. I've had boyfriends that I made wait months and months and months... I've had boyfriends I knew first and we dated after fooling around... and then there's my current guy and we got into it on the first date. So it's all up to you.
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