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The Things He Says
Okay I haven't been dating my boyfriend tooo long but we are very close. I go to church with him and his family every Sunday. We go to the park and he plays with my son. He treats my son as if he was his child. He has this habbit of "scarying people" yelling out the window of the car, hes beeped at two people while i was driving (whom happened to be girls).. he tends to talk about "banging" celeberties and he will talk about his past relationships. when i had talked to him about it. he said hes a guy its not like hes going to go cheat on me. is it wrong for me to feel a little upset about it or do i feel this way because every guy i have dated previous has cheated on me??
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It is definitely not wrong for you to get upset or annoyed. The reason a guy has his group of guy friends is to talk about such things, and not to their girlfrends. His 'reason', that he is a guy, is just an excuse! If all guys used that as a 'reason', I don't think women would ever consider men. It is totally inappropriate and rather immature! Nobody wants to hear their own boyfriend talk about getting dirty with another women! I suggest you lay it down, tell him you totally dislike his atitude, say what EXACTLY you don't like, being too vague doesn't realy help him. And those guys that you have dated, were a bunch of jerks, and did not deserve you. No one deserves to be cheated on, if someone is unhappy, they should talk about it, and either work on it, or not. A relationship is a dual thing, it's about TWO people, and if anything changes, the TWO people have to come to the conclusion. So talk to him about it, and let him know how you feel.
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It's not wrong to feel a little upset about it, and the being cheated on repeatedly thing is probably contributing.
My boyfriend isn't this way, in fact we're the opposite. I'm the loud obnoxious one. We're making it work though. He had to sit me down and tell me I was being a real jerk about it and that there was no real excuse for it.
We compromised. I no longer talk about my past relationships and he joins in on talking about celebrities that are hot and we want to bang. Seems silly, I know, but it really did help... I've been known to harass people still... it's actually one of my favorite past times, but I make a point to lay off a bit when he's around...
You just need to tell him that it seriously bugs you and that being a guy is no excuse. Tell him that it makes you uncomfortable because you've been cheated on, and that it's hard to let that go. See if the two of you can compromise like my boy and I did. Our relationship has never been better.
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