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confused relationship
ok well i got a new boy frined we talked for like 2 weeks and i blame my self for not getting to know him completely but i didnt think things would change like they have when we were talking he was the sweetest guy to me he made me realy happy and special he asked me to be his girlfriend and i said yes we have been together 3 weeks and well im not as happy any more he doesnt do any thing now it seems like he doesnt care he wont call or text unless i do it first he doesnt treat me like his girl friend i dont know what to do i want him to care about me show it and mean it like he said he would i have talked to him about this and he said i am to sensitve and i get mad to easly but im not even mad im just confused and kinda sad on why things have changed i dont like it what should i do i mean i have guy friends that show me they care about me more than my own boy friend does :( i want our realtionship to work i like him alot what should i do???
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I've had the same problem, multiple times.
Bottom line is, this kid sucks at relationships.
It's not that he doesn't like you. For a lot of guys, they flirt with girls they like to get them to like them, and then once they get the girl, they treat them more like friends than anything else, because they aren't trying to attract you to them, because you already are attracted to them.
I promise I'm not trying to sound like I understand guys because I'm some teen psychologist or something, this is what my guy friends have actually told me.
As for the whole texting/ calling first thing, some guys like it if the girl texts/calls first because it makes them feel like the girl wants to talk to them. Not saying he's that way, but it IS a common thing among boys. Girls feel the same way, thats why you're upset about him not calling or texting first. Haha.
I understand why you're upset too. You got used to him showing all that affection, and then the abrupt stop jostled you. I know the feeling, it makes complete sense to anyone that it's happened too, unfortunately, it probably doesn't to the guy, he most likely doesn't see the difference.
Let him know exactly what you want him to do. If you like holding hands, tell him so. If you want him to text you sometimes first, tell him so. Make sure he knows what's upsetting you, but don't talk to him in an accusatory tone. Don't walk over and say "You never call me". Because that's showing that you think you know what he does and doesn't do. Instead, try to say "I'd really like it if you called me sometimes." or something along those lines.
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Awe, sweetie... Men are crappy like that... a lot.
The bottom line is that you can't change him, there's no magic phrase you cna say to make him pay more attention. If you're unhappy you'll have to either leave or adjust. I don't believe in adjusting.
There are some women, like myself, who believe in training men, but the problem with that is that it takes time, unless they come pre-trained.
Do what's going to make you happy... even if that means leaving him.
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