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how do i get over my ex boyfriend? i dont want to date him again, but i always think about him. i am fifteen and a girl. (link)
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Well I would just try to stay away from him. Not like always thinking, "Oh I see him. I need to stay away" Just keep it normal, try to forget about him. Go out and do other things with friends. The thing that will make you get over him the best would be finding another guy you like. Thinking about another guy would stop you for the most part of thinking about your ex. Good luck!
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so i dated a guy for about 3-4 months in the beginning of the year. everything was good but i felt him as more like a good friend than a boyfriend, so i ended it- i told him this, which is the complete truth. at first he was fine with it and said it was mutual. so we were on good terms, we still talked and were good friends still. then over the summer we hungout and he just randomly kissed me. i was shocked but i kinda just went along with it to see what would happen (just a kiss nothing else). then after that night we started hanging out more and went back to like we were dating again (hooking up, sexual stuff, etc) only not official. i figured it was just a casual friends with benefits relationship and it wasn't going to hurt anyone since he said the breakup was mutual. then after like a month or 2 i told him that i couldn't do it anymore because it didn't feel right to me. he accepted it and we were just friends again. then after another month or 2 he out of the random got mad at me and told me i was a bitch and that i screwed him over (randomly). i don't even know what i did that was wrong and he wouldn't tell me. he told me to delete his number(i did). and he deleted me off facebook and everything. it really bothers me that i don't know what i did to him. can you figure out what he might be thinking of from what i said? and i deleted his number but i can get it back. should i text him? its been like a month since he flipped out on me. what should i do? i've tried to just ignore it but i feel like an awful person because i really didn't mean to screw him over and if it was that bad i want to make it up to him. thanks. (link)
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Well honestly, it doesn't sound like any of this is your fault. He said it was mutual and if he wanted to he could've said that he still wanted you so that you guys could watch what you do. So yeah, none of this is your fault. If he wants to talk to you again and try to fix whatever happen. Let him. Don't try to talk to him about it. You should just try to forget about it. You did nothing wrong so don't feel bad. Good luck!
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i need hellppp and i dont know what i do
i work at a place that i realllly enjoy and i love all my coworkers. i've been working here for about a month but last week i got offered a job at another place where this guy that i have always liked works. We have always been friends but never anything more, and i was really excited to work with him and see him alot more. But the job is really boring and pays alot less. its not about the money but for so many other reasons i want to stay at my first job but everytime i think im going to turn down the second, i see the guy and imagine how fun it would be working with him, i dont know what to do, should i stay at the job that i love? or quit and work with the guy who i have always had a crush on???
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I would stay with the job you have now. Yeah, maybe it will be fun to work with the guy you like. What if just doesn't work out or he isn't exactly the guy you thought he was or you're just not into him anymore? Then you're stuck with the job that you don't really want. So I think you should stay with your job now. Choosing jobs because of boys isn't really a smart choice. It is smarter do be doing something you actually like than revolving it around a guy right? Good luck!
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Okay, well, I've dealt with my boyfriend long enough and it's not getting anywhere and he hates almost everything that I like. His sister and I are also best friends and when I tried to ask her advice on what to do, I think she hinted that she would hate me if I broke up with her brother, so now I'm freaking out on what to do. I don't want to lose my friend, but it's simply not working out with this guy. We're just too different... Any tips on breaking up? (link)
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Well you know it's gonna end and either way it's gonna happen. Go talk to your best friend. Tell her that your gonna break up with her brother because it just isn't working out and it would be way better if you were just friends. Tell her you still want to be her best friend but it just wasn't working with her brother. If she gets mad, she'll get over it. If not, then it wasn't a very good friendship. Just simply tell him that it just isn't working out for you too and end it. I hope everything goes well for you!
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My boyfriend and i have been going out since the beginning of the year and i have always known him to be a loving and caring man towards me. Even though we have overcome some deep problems which almost ended things quite a few times i never lost faith in him. I feel he loves me and i love him back but for some reason for a while now he has started acting differently towards me again. A few times he has said to me "everything is always about you you you.. you must really love yourself". Then he says i was just joking relax. And i'm not the kind of person like that at all, in fact i consider myself the total opposite. I am not a boastful person and i never brag about anything i have no idea why he started saying this to me out of the blue. He also started making excuses to leave early when we're together. I'm starting to think he's getting tired of me? He's also recieving more phone calls then usual, later saying that his employees are calling him when we are together. I dont know but its like his personalities are always changing on me. I feel like we are getting distant again. Also if this has anything to do with anything, i have also found his profile on a few dating and sex sites, i've went into it and saw that it had no incoming or outgoing msgs. I asked him about it and he said he just opened it out of stupidity but never used it. And these secret profiles of his were registered to a whole nother totally different email that i was unaware of, he opened it after our 3 months being together. I actually ended things with him because of this i just acted like i disappeared and he would write and call me all the time and showed up at my house a few but i showed no response. He later on deleted all of the profiles and the email address, and everyday for a month later he convinced me back to him. So we are back me having giving him another chance, and now a month later he is starting to act strange again. I mean i just came back from a date with him and we were talking online and i told him i loved him, and you know what he said, "you got me all worked up today". I dont think he even saw what i wrote. And yes thats another thing every date we go on he is always too touchy feely. I wonder sometimes where's the true bond in this relationship. Always wanting to sleep with me or get a little quickie, but then sometimes he stops himself saying your more important to me then that. Split personalities... i dont know what to say or think. Maybe thats why he says it always about me, because i dont give him what he wants all the time. Any advice will be most appreciated. Thank you very much in advance. (link)
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Well I think you should talk to him about this. You don't want to be in a relationship where you don't feel loved. Ask him why he'd say the whole, "It's all about you" thing. Even if he says he's joking, ask him how it came up. Tell him that you don't feel like he loves you anymore and just talk to him about it. Don't let him use excuses though. You don't want to stay with a guy who doesn't care when you could be with someone who really does. So right now you should just talk to him and see where that goes. Good luck!
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I started dating this guy freshman year (last year) when I was fourteen. He was a sophomore and sixteen. Well, we had a pretty good relationship in the begining. We had fun and laughs and he made me feel special and all that jazz... Well after about two months of dating, while we would be making out, he would slip his hand down my pants. And I'd pull it out... He'd put it back, and I'd pull it out... and it just kinda went like taht. We never really talked about it... then one night I don't know what happened but I just let him finger me... And I dunno, it didn't feel like a big deal at the time. After that things in our relationship started changing. He got a lot more possessive and mean and I became a whipped little puppy dog to him. I would do whatever he said and that's NOT the kind of person I am... I really really liked him though for some reason. To the point where I fell in love with the guy. It was a strange love but I DID care deeply about him... He continued to finger me when we'd hook up and eventually around month four he started asking for handjobs. And I'd keep saying no becuase I dont know, I was fourteen and I just wasn't ready for that. Well.. One day he basically just pulled down his pants, grabbed my hand and started making me rub his dick. I tried to pull my hand away, at least I think I did, but I couldn't. Either because his grip was too hard or because I was just so shocked that he did that. Then I started crying... and he let go but we didn't even talk abotu it! I just let him get away with it, I don't knwo why I was such a stupid stupid idiot. Month six rolls around he wants a bj... No, no, no. I kept saying no but he would aslmost try and perseude me. He'd say things like "If you loved me you'd want to make me happy. And I make you feel good but it's completely one sided." I started to just feel so guilty (and he had me so whipped) that I just did it... God you have no idea how much I wish I coudl take it back. I was sooo stupid! He dumped me four days later. He said he didn't even like me anymore but he wanted the bj before we split. He said he only stayed with me for the last three months cuz he liked the physical part of me. He told all his friends and basically the entire school, "she put out. We'd make out aaall the time and she gave me head". And I guess I deserved that... I was stupid for believing him. And letting him just used me like that. I just can't over this... I'm still hurting and I don't know how to make it go away. All of that physical stuff made me SO connected to him. And I was so owned by him that I don't even feel like my own person anymore and it's been like five months since we've broken up... I like this new guy but now that we've started kissing and stuff I feel so... Ugh I don't know. I just can't get over what happened and I don't want to trust guys... or myself. And as crazy as it is... I still like my ex... Whats wrong with me?! Can anyone please talk some sense into me. I don't even know what I'm asking withthis question I'm just lost and I don't know what to do... Please help. (I'm fifteen, sophomore) (link)
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So you made a mistake, everyone does. Something similar happened to me too. I felt so used and he'd do that kind of stuff to me. It seemed like all he wanted was sex from me. At least know that you're not the only one who has had this happen to them. The thing was that we let them do this. I finally broke it off with him though and I have a new guy too.
It takes time to get over stuff like this. Enjoy the new guy. Hopefully you have better choices of guys after what happened so that you could learn to trust him. If you know this guy isn't bad and won't try to persuade you to do things with you and will talk about stuff like this beforehand then don't feel so closed in.
If your new guy starts to question you about how your feeling and why you aren't trusting him. Just try to explain to him that you were used and hope he'd understand and give you time.
Just think about it logically. Your ex really hurt you right? You deserve so much better and you know that. Just really try to forget about that guy, he's not worth any of your time. Good luck!
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I stupidly told one of my "friends" who my other friend liked when I know I shouldn't have and he promised not to tell anyone. We have had a fight and he is threatning to tell her that I told him. I know it was a stupid mistake, but I can't take it back. I don't want her to find out or I might lose her as a friend. What do I do?!? Plus, I thought I could trust him. I feel as if, I can't trust anyone anymore. He was one of my good friends and now it seems like I can't even trust my friends. (link)
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Well, he doesn't really seem like a good friend but you know you can't take it back. So you're just gonna have to move forward with this. This isn't gonna be something that will last forever so just think of it that way. You know never to tell that guy anything else. I think you should just tell your friend that you had told him her secret and apologize. She might be mad but that's ok, she'll come around. Everyone makes mistakes. Just be honest with her and it would make it easier if she already knew that finding out from your "friend". Good luck!
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I'm fifteen, sophomore. It's been five months since me and this guy I dated for seven months broke up. He was my first boyfriend, first kiss, fingering, hj, and bj... It was a really unhealthy relationship and a super long story but to sum it all up, he really hurt me. He became sooo much a part of me that when we broke up I felt like I had nothing to distinguish myself with anymore. Even now, he doesn't even feel like a person to me, more like a whole part of myself. But its an empty space... We don't talk. Hang out. Nothing. But I still think about him every single day. I sometimes still cry over him... It's just wierd. Because even thoguh I hate him for all the pain and betrayl he put me through I miss him like crazy. And I feel like a different person now that he's gone... And I hate it. I want it to go away SO bad. I just don't understand. It took him days to move on. It's been five months and I'm still hurting. Whats wrong with me?? (link)
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I agree with the person below me. You need to put effort into getting over him. What I've learned is that you need to find things to do instead of think of him. Go find other guys to like. There are soo many better guys out there who won't hurt you like he did.
You need to sit and think about this. Your ex hurt you and totally broke your heart. Think logically about it. He just moved on. You need to move on, you already know this and you want to. So if you try and put some effort into other guys and your friends and you keep telling yourself you're getting over him then you should. Good luck!
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Ok so I have a boyfriend and we have been together for almost seven months. I love him but I am starting to like someone else too. I am not completely sure if he likes me and I'm also not completely sure if he is flirting with me. But I think he does and is flirting with me. I just love being with him because this guy brings excitement in my everyday life and he makes everything feel new. But I also love being with my boyfriend because he makes me sooo happy. But what I am trying to say is should I stay with my boyfriend or should I leave him and take a chance? (link)
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I've been in this situation. I was with a guy for 10 months and had a thing for another guy. Actually, he was one of my close friends.
I would first find out how this other guy actually does feel about you. I mean, if he is just flirting and not actually wanting a relationship out of it then maybe breaking up with your boyfriend was a bad idea?
You could stay with your boyfriend but then you're always gonna have another guy on your mind. If you decide to stay with him, you better hope this guy leaves your mind.
But this is all your choice. Just think about it carefully and first see how this other guy feels then go from there. Good luck!
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He had me text her to ask what she thinks of him: So here is what I texted, "I work with someone I think you know, what do you think of him, would you ever go on a date with him?" and she texted back an hour later, "No thanks." I never brought it up to her again. It's been weeks and it's been awkward at work. All he talks about is how great she looked 2 days ago when he saw her again. He has had rejections like this before and has taken it really hard. Poor self-esteem. How do I break it to him that, she's just no that into him, softly? (link)
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Just tell him. He should have gone up to her himself and tried talking to her. What girl would want a guy who has friend text her? But just either show him the texts or just tell him she's not interested. Good luck!
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Is it a good idea to pursue a high school relationship during senior year? I can't predict the future of this relationship, whether or not it will last, but in all likelihood we will be separated by college. I'm going on to college and the girl is still going to be in high school. Is it worth it? (link)
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Honestly, I think it can work. But only if you want it to and you see yourself with her. As well as if she wants to put effort into your relationship. If you both want to be with each other then you both can make it work. If you can see yourself with her and you two talk about it then it can work. Just make sure she realizes since you'll be going to college that not all your time is gonna be spent revolving around her because of work, ect.
If you don't plan on this relationship lasting, don't get with her. If you want to make it work, then you can if you both want it. Good luck!
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