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I'm 18 and about to enter my sophomore year of college. Feel free to ask me questions about anything- I'll try to help in the best way possible! :)
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Wait, do people have like parties and ceremonies when you get your periods? None of my friends did that...
What do they do at these parties and why would you have one its personal.
I think I know what question that you're talking about. People in our culture usually don't celebrate their periods, but in other countries and religions, it's part of their culture, and every girl goes through it. Don't worry, you're not a lone, I don't know anybody else personally that has had a party when they got their period. In other cultures, I think it's letting everybody know that they are now a woman, and some maybe that they're ready to get a husband/have babies.
There's a song that rarely comes on the radio, I'm guessing it's like years old. It goes like this:
"As we go on, we remember, all the times that, we had together."
And it would be a great song to play at a graduation, I'm pretty sure they do.
Tried google, didn't come up with anything.
---Many thanks.
Graduation by Vitamin C!
why do girls moan when theyre doing sexual stuff? what makes them moan?
Because they're in pleasure, or some just do it to make their partners feel good and more aroused.
16/f
i stayed with one of my friends monday night and we were watching a movie but she fell asleep before it went off and her brother walked by and saw me by myself and asked me why i wasnt asleep yet because it was like around mindnight. i told him i wasnt really that tired and i couldnt fall asleep yet and he asked me if i wanted to come play ps2 with him in the living room and i said sure. well, were playing and all of a sudden he put his hand on my inner thigh and like started rubing but he was still looking at the tv. ive had a crush on him for like a year so i scooted closer and he moved his hand so he could put his fingers under my shorts. i cant really remember exactly how it happened but we ended up fooling around until aorund three but we didnt have sex. well then tuesday before i left that afternoon some girl came over and picked my friends bro up and she said it was his gf and i didnt even know he had one so now i feel really bad but is it really even my fault? i mean, he knew he had a gf and i didnt. isn't it his responsibility to tell me had a gf and he made the first move so waht to do? sorry its so long.
It's definately not your fault. You had no intention on making a move on him, and he made the first move on you. You wouldn't have even done anything if he didn't bring it up upon himself. It was his idea, and it was his responsibility to tell you that he had a girlfriend, or to not even do anything. Don't worry, it's not your fault. Don't feel guilty. You might want to say something to your friends brother for playing both his girlfriend AND you.
you know how there are the outer lips and the inner lips? well, myinner lips kind of peek out of the outer ones all the time. is that normal?
Yep, normal. :]
what are the different bases? because people always have different opinions.
A lot of people do have different opinions, but here are mine:
1st: Kissing/Making Out
2nd: Fingering/Handjobs
3rd: Oral
4th/Home: Sex
whats the difference between a blow job and a head job??? can someone clue me in plz!! thanxxxx
They're the same thing, even though I haven't heard anyone call it a headjob since I've been on this website. :]
16/f
This is a long, somewhat confusing question. I realize that it is a lot of work to figure this out so any serious answers will definately be rated appropriately. I really appreciate any advice.
For the last couple of months, I have had several 'downs' and few 'ups' with this situation. I am being harassed by girls from my school, some are "ex-friends" and others are just people who don't know me. I am wondering what is the most beneficial next step to take.
Involved People (females aged 15 to 17+):
Myself - Usually in a good mood, polite, kind to others, strongly opinionated, willing to stand up for causes which I believe in. Straight A's (with very few exceptions) and a dedicated student. Last summer I went to many parties. Strong willed, self confident and "always dressed up" describes me.
Tracey - One of my best friends, ex-best friends with Annie, used to be good friends with Danielle and Kaya.
Danielle - Last summer we were best friends, she is a "party animal," low grades, jealous of her best friend, Kaya.
Kaya - Danielle's new best friend, many insecurities, low grades, treats people badly to make herself feel better (laughing at overweight people), acts like she is amazing.
Annie - Used to be best friends with Tracey. Follows Danielle and Kaya with whatever they do.
Here is a basic timeline of the sitation for reference, I have all of the recent activity documented carefully on my computer:
November - Danielle and I got in an argument. I was talking to people at our lunch table about how I was worried about her. I also said she is friends with people then just ditches them and that I was thinking I should talk to her about it. It got back to her before I talked to her about it, she got mad and I apologized. She said tons of mean stuff to me so I ended up not talking to her for weeks. I was excluded from everything and always ended up at home doing nothing.
December - Things were great, Annie always told Tracey how much she disliked me (behind my back) but we started to become friends. At the end of the month I was excluded from "secret santa" because of my dispute with Danielle, and everyone (lunch table people) said they didn't want ME making conflict.
January - Conflicts were slightly resolved but Tracey and I noticed we were being excluded from all events and birthday parties. We started to become closer and hang out a lot.
February - Some "tough/druggie" girls attacked me, saying I "dress like a / am a tramp" and I was hit in the back of the head. I walked away from them but everyone was talking about how I "ran away crying." I still do not see why they did this and it is completely unfair. I do not dress out of the ordinary, usually - when I wear a skirt I have long legs so it looks short, but who cares anyways. I always avoid walking that way now.
March - Annie began to get mad because Tracey and I were so close. She started talking behind my back again and to Danielle and Kaya (Annie did not like Kaya at the time). Danielle, Kaya and Annie began to grow closer due to their hate of me. The 3 of them would always make plans infront of Tracey and I and purposely not invite us.
April - Danielle wrote a blog about people she hated, and I said "Honestly, do you consider me one of those people?" In reply, she went crazy and said a ton of mean things about me. She said I shouldn't bother replying because she did not want to start a "bitch fight." I was outraged, and told her to say it to my face. At school she couldn't look at me and was afraid.
April Cont - Kaya stood up for Danielle and said I was "attacking" her. I was just not letting Danielle walk all over me, I no longer wished to be friends with her and immediately stopped talking to them. I told Kaya that it was not her business. One day at lunch, Kaya and I got in a big arguement and she ended up leaving the table.
April Cont - Kaya, Danielle and Annie went to the "tough/druggie" group of girls and told them what was happening. I started to be harassed by these new girls (I will call them the hawks) and they threatened to beat me up. I backed off, feeling overwhelmed. I completely stopped talking to all of those people.
April Cont - At the same time, Tracey told Annie that she felt excluded, so Annie went against her. It was now Danielle/Kaya/Annie against Tracey and I.
May - Danielle tried to start a fight with Tracey over the computer over nothing. Pointless things continued to happen even though we weren't speaking to Danielle. I started talking to Annie and Kaya again (I regret this now) and we were fine together. I tried to be nice and work things out since the whole fight was over very little. I tried to resolve things with the "hawks" but I was still constantly stared at by them at school.
June - Tracey, myself and two of our other friends made a funny video and posted it on facebook. It wasn't about anyone it was just a pointless music video dancing around in big coats. Danielle, Kaya and Annie "copied" our video but tried to "copy our make-up, clothes and moves." They exaggerated everything and acted like completely sluts (I can honestly say that) then told everyone to "say whose is better." It was obnoxious.
June Cont - They began to harass me on MSN but I said "haha yeah you're great at being us. bye!" and blocked them. Kaya was me, Annie was Tracey and Danielle was my other best friend from the video. One day walking along the street after our friend's birthday lunch, Danielle and Kaya rode by on a bike and yelled "ugly ass sluts!" to us. We ignored them. Later on, Annie and Danielle apologized to Tracey and included me in the apology (it was never sent to me) and Tracey "accepted" their apology.
June Cont - Annie and Danielle left for a month long student exchange trip in Europe. Kaya found a new "best friend" (Ellen), whom I used to be friends with last summer but we rarely saw eachother. Kaya and Ellen posted pictures in short skirts and tanktops saying "oh ya.. this is how (my name) stands and dresses" and posted them on facebook. Kaya, Ellen, Danielle and Annie have all been put on "limited profile" for my facebook and cannot see anything except my name and a nearly blank page.
Ellen lives on my street, like a two minute walk away. She has been in many fights and now I am feeling threatened because in my honesty box on facebook, Kaya threatened that if I went to any bonfires or parties this summer that she would fight me or get other people to. Annie and Danielle are gone for three more weeks, but Ellen and Kaya are so close. In addition, they have all of the "hawks" on their side.
I have just been staying home/inside to avoid conflict and I am sick of this harassment. Please help. =(
That's rediculous! Danielle is completely immature for starting all of this, just because her friend said that she was worried about her. She's being immature by getting her little gang of friends that have no self esteem so they bring down other people, and getting the 'tough druggie girls' to go against you. That's something I think girl would do in, hm, 3rd grade? She knows that she's hurting you and causing you pain, so that's all of those girls keep bringing you down and trying to scare you. They know that you'll stay home, so they keep threatening you. I think that you should seriously NEVER talk to those girls again, even if they apologize. They've all turned their backs on your before, and they can easily do it again. They're immature and heartless enough to do it. I think that you should have a fun summer. Go out with Tracey and your other best friends, and have a good time. Those bitchy girls shouldn't stop you from having the time of your life. They know that you're threatened, and that's how they're getting amusement out of it. Show them that they're not threatening you, and have fun. Then they might start to back off, because you're not afraid anymore. Sure those druggie girls are on your side and you're trying to avoid conflict, so whenever you see them, just look straight past them, don't even GLANCE at them, make no eye contact, and just ignore them. They're acting like the girls from the movie Mean Girls, by mocking your friends. See, you don't even do anything, and they'll do ANYTHING to make you feel bad. They're all just insecure about their lives, and they probably are even jealous that you're smart and you know yourself/are true to yourself. Just go against whatever they say, and ignore them. Don't even make eye contact or any form of contact with them. They should get over it eventually, unless they really are that immature. If they try anything new, just look them straight in the eye and say 'Okay, I get it. You don't like me. Why don't you just drop it? I don't do shit to you, so how about you grow up, act your age, and get the hell over yourself. You try to scare me, but it's not working. If we both hate eachother, why keep the war going? Let's just not talk, or even acknowledge eachother. It'll save a lot of stress for both of us. Get over it, this has been going on for over a year, and it's just old."
If you really feel like it's a threat to even go out, then try talking to your parents. If it's to the point where you're afraid to be beat up or even killed by these girls (sometimes it really can lead to that), talk to your parents and say how afraid you are. If it will make your life happier, maybe they can even considering moving you to a new school, or moving.
Good Luck. =[
I'm going to see the Transformers movie tonight with my boyfriend and some of his buddies from work. I want to know some about Transformers so I know what's going on in the movie.
Anyone want to fill me in?
I saw it the other day, and don't worry, you don't need to know who any of the Transformers are to understand it. I thought the same thing because I don't know any of them, but it makes sense without knowing.
burnout..if some1s a burnout what does that mean?
Somebody that went nowhere in life. Didn't accomplish any goals, and basically just sits around, doesn't have a job, and can't support themselves. A loser. Probably did a ton of partying/drugs, or still does, and lives with their parents at the age of 35.
On my inner thighs I have these lines. They're a few shades lighter than my skin color. My mom and I are pretty sure they're stretch marks. The only reason I noticed them was because I've been getting darker and they don't tan like the rest of my legs.
Anyway, I always thought stretch marks are red/pink when you first get them and they fade to a darker shade? I'm not sure if mine are new or not because they used to be about the same color as my skin, I'm guessing, because I never noticed them. I see them now that I'm tanner. I'm sure they've never been red or pink because I would have noticed red or pink marks on me.
Also, you cannot see them when I am standing up straight, only when I'm siting, or my knees are bent, stretching out me skin. So I'm not entirely sure what they are or how to get rid of them.
If it helps any, I'm 5'4 and 112lbs. But I when through a phase when my weight fluctuated quite a bit.
Yes, they most likely are stretch marks. Tons of people have them, including guys (even though they're more common with girls). I have them on my inner thighs too, and mine are lighter. My mom always tells me to rub cocoa butter on them and it helps them to fade a bit, even though they do fade over time. They won't go away completely though.
how long do you get your period for? like is it 4 days or a week? i get mine for only 3 days and it gets ligter every day. is that normal?
Yes, it's completely normal. I ususally only get mine for like, 4 days. It really varies from person-to-person. Some people get it only 3 days, like you, while others get it for a week or longer.
im not sure if this is in the right category or not. i brush my teeth in the morning but five minutes later i get this bad taste inmy mouth like morning breath but i still have a kind of hint of teh toothpaste. how do i get better breath and keep it without hte mint fading within ten minutes?
Do you brush your tongue when you're brushing your teeth too? Your toungue carries a lot of bad breath causing bacteria, and brushing it really helps. When you're done brushing your teeth, I suggest using a minty mouthwash.
14/f
last night in my sleep I sort of had this dream thing where it was like my clit was being fingered really really hard, and then I started to orgasm and I sort of woke up in the middle of it, and that was all i remembered about my dream last night.
I'm a girl... is it weird that I orgasmed in my sleep? how come this hasn't happened before? how can i get it to happen again?
This is normal, don't worry. I've read or heard about somebody that this happened to before, almost daily. I don't hear about it often, so I don't think it's too common, but it's fine! I don't think that you can get it to happen again on purpose, you just have to hope that you're gonna get lucky again that night. Haha.
okay well i just turned 13 all my friends are older than me by a few months but i have fingered myself before and im the only one am i 2 young?
sports and thank you so much!!!!! please help
You're not too young, a lot of people begin to explore their bodies at a young age. Masturbation is perfectly healthy & normal, and you have nothing to worry about. Your friends might have/probably have already tried masturbating, but they're too embarassed to talk about it and admit it. Many people, especially girls, find it embarassing. It's pretty cool that you can admit it, though. It's a personal choice, so if you're comfortable with doing it and it's not taking over your life, then it's healthy. =)
i know how to have sex ok
what i'm not sure about is the erect penis bit
do i have to give him that
it's weird i don't mind having sex with a guy
but i don't like the fact of giving him a b.j
i don't mind so much with a h.j but was just wondering if you HAVE to have that step before you have sex
i would rather the sex than a blow job
Many people go in order with handjobs, blowjobs, then sex, because they get more physical as they become more comfortable with their partner, but you don't have to. If you're uncomfortable with the idea of giving a blowjob, you NEVER have to do anything that you don't want to do. If you want to skip that step and just have sex, that's perfectly fine. If your partner tries to push you, then he's not worth it.
okay i just turned 13 and i fingure myself 3 or 5 times a day it dosnt affect my social life but friends also havnt got their peroids and i have im just wondering like am i weird or different. like i cant come up with the word but i want to know if im to young?
p.s. thank you ans sorry its sorda long..=)
Don't worry, you're fine. Masturbation is completely healthy, even at your age. Your friends might even do it. Some people start masturbating at an even younger age. As long as it's not taking over your life, it's fine that you do it.
my best friend is lissa. her mom and my mom are good friends too. well, lately i've been making some new friends. i sort of had to, because i made cheerleading and i want to get to know the other girls, who i didnt really know before. but i still hang out with lissa all the time, so its not like i've dumped her for my new friends or anything. anyways, whenever i do something with my new friends, the next day lissa's mom calls my mom and tells her all this bad stuff about my new friends. like that she heard they're really mean, or that they did something bad, or that they're really stuck up, etc. well, i think some of it could be kind of true, but some of it is just stupid gossip. she's always been a big gossiper. but i'm wondering why lissa's mom is doing this. do you think it's because she's really worried about me hanging out with people she thinks are bad? or is it cuz she's afraid i'll make new friends and leave lissa behind? (i wont do that tho).
It's probably that she think's that you'll leave Lissa behind. Are you leaving her out of your new activites? Maybe Lissa feels that way, even if you aren't, and is telling her mother. Her mom probably wants to help her out, and is afraid of her daughter being hurt. Just talk to Lissa and ask her if it bothers her that you have new friends. Say that she'll always be your best friend and you'll never leave her behind, but it's alright if you both hang out with other people besides eachother. Tell her that your new friends really aren't all that bad and they're actually good people. Maybe if she feels a little bit better, she'll talk to her mom and her mom will hopefully stop. Also, tell your mom what you said, that it's all stupid gossip. Your new friends really aren't bad people.
how can you make brown eyes really stand out. they're not deep brown just idk brown?
i really want them to stand out.majorly.
any make up ideas?
Try using bright, different colors other than brown or black for your eyeliner. Try teal or turquoise. I used to do that, and I have brown eyes. It actually looks pretty cool. Now I use a sandy-whitish shimmer eyeshadow and swipe it on my bottom lid before I put mascara on my bottom eyelashes. Finding a good mascara that really lengthens and defines your eyelashes really works, too.
14 /f i dont normally masturbate. But recently i've had the need to do it. But the problem is that i'm never alone. I'm always with my family or friends. Can you help me? Tell me what i can use. When i can masturbate and where i can do it in the house. Thanks
Before you go to bed, if you're kind of noisy, turn on your radio or if you have a TV in your room so that nobody can hear you. Close & lock your door, or just go under your covers and try not to get extremely into it just in case if you have a walk-in. Also, you can also just go into the bathroom. Say that you have bad cramps so you just want to take a bath, and you can do it in there. Or run the shower water and say you're taking a shower or shaving your legs in the bathtub, and you can do it then.