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Q: Ok. Last night i used Neutrogena Acne Treatment...it normally doesn't burn my skin but i woke up this morning and the spots where the zit's gone but there's a big red spot that itches and burns. I wanted to go to the mall today to look for formal dresses for our 8th grade dance but i don't want to go to the mall looking like how i do. It's not helping because my eyes look pretty bad even though i got 9 hours of sleep my under eyes are all puffy and concealer doesn't work if anyone knows how to get the puffiness under the eyes to minimize down that would be helpful too. Thanks!

if you put ice or something cold on your eyes swelling shoould go down.
because the cold makes things compact bcause of transfering kenetic energy and what not
so just put ice on it and for your bump thing, go with a friend and you both can put like a sticker on the spot on both of your faces or a bandaid.

youll look stupid, but since your with a friend and you match its okay.

Q: in the movie the hills have eyes why are all the manikins in the town?

because the setting for the movie is in a nuclear bomb testing field. they want to make it seem as realistic as possible to see how nuclear bombs will effect a town.

thats also why the people the live in the hills are so distorted.

Q: Okay well to make it short me and my boyfriend have been dating for a yr and 1/2. And a few months ago we started arguing alot. Im scared hes cheating on me and i dont know what to do. He seems annoyied with me all the time he never calls me he always yells and screams at me. And he never likes me looking through is phone he like has a fit if i ask to see it. And theres this girl that likes him. He wont admit she likes him but lets not state the obvious. So anyway i was looking at her myspace, she had a hat on and my boyfriend has the SAAAAME exact hat and they are both in the same lunch. They were sitting at the lunch table together with a few other people but sopposibly "He sits at a different table" I know its his hat he told me plenty of people have that hat. BUt i mean seriousily how many people in his lunch have that hat im sure not many. And when i looked at her comments on the pic soem girl was like haaa i wonder whose at that is.? Is it me or is he cheating on me i dont know? I know everyone says OHhh youll know when hes cheating on you BUT HELLO I DONT KNOW! some one please help.!!

i really think your overreacting.
its just a hat.
chill out lol.
mine was the same way, guys can be asshole, btu very few of them are low enough to cheat.

Q: What exactly does cherry poppin mean? Where is the CHERRY?????

oh that means that a guy broke your hymen.
the small piece of skin in your vagina, it happens if you lose your virginity, thats partly why it hurts so much and bleeds.
also i could happen if you get fingered to hard.

Q: how do you keep a ficus alive?

lauren.

feed it. feed it nachos. haha

Q: Okay so i have been best friends with this guy since 6th grade. and this year ( 8th grade)he finally asked me out. we wnet out for A DAY. he asked me out in 3rd hour and broke up with me the next day. he says that he needs to mature before he has a serious gf. he is going out with this girl and he says its just for awhile. he always say " were gonna get married oneday" and he like wait until i grow up. i doubt we wil end u pgoing to the same highschool. and i really do love him. should i just move on ( I really just wantto be with him) or keep trying.?

thats a tough one there.
if he thinks his not mature enough for a girlfriend than beleive him.
the last thing you want is for him to ask you out again before hes ready and treat you like shit without realizzing it.
trust me.

i recomend dating other people and if you end up falling in "love" with them then move on.
but if not, then wait for him to be ready.

or just chill with him alot and be friends with bemifits or whatever. it may just be sexual tension because you guys have been such good friends for so long and are confused about your feelings.

Q: hey can someone please explain this quote for me

An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.

it means that if you retaliate to someones actions, then it can turn out bad.
just like two wrongs dont make a right.
so hes saying that if everyone retaliates when someone does bad to them, then there wont be any good left in the world

Q: Okay...is a hickey basically when like youre making ut and then like the other person...a boy for me in my case...will just move down to my neck and bite?

I'm confused as to how it all comes about with getting one and stuff...

hickeys come from sucking any where on a persons body.
its actually just broken capalaries

Q: hey...well my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a couple of months now and we were doing really well...now we've been through a whole lot and we pretty much know how it is with each other...it hasnt been so great...it seems that ive been the only one putting in effort into the relationship and he says himself that he doesnt care about most things...i changed some things about myself for him but when it comes to him its like he doesnt even try...i would say everything on here that happens but theres way too many things that go on...it seems like now its comming to an end and at the same time ive learned a lot from it...i talked to him last night and he said that he doesnt think we're right for each other...i couldnt bear with what he was saying i felt so hurt but he wants to wait a little longer just to see if it gets anyt better all but i dont know how long that'll last and i dont know if i should wait...i need some advice on how to get over him...ive stayed up all night for weeks with this...missed school...cant concentrate..i cant let him go i just cant see him with another girl it hurts too much...and i dont know if i should end it...i know i should but i cant...thanks for anyone who tries to help i really appreciate it...

17/f

this is probably hard to hear, but hes not right for you.
you have to get over him.
if he says stuff that hurts you or stuff that makes you upset then hes not the right guy for you. you need someone who will put as much effort into the relationship as you do. the fact that he doesnt care about alot of things says something, that means he might not care about you the same way you care about him.
i went through the same situation, and i really thought i loved him. but he always made it clear he didnt care about anything. and at times he was the sweetest guy in teh world, but in the end he was just an ass hole.
thats how this guy may end up. so id suggest leaving him now.
cause if not, hell break up with you, and it will end in you crying, alot.
if hes making you miss school, and you cant concentrate, than hes deffinatly not a benefactor to your life.
there are no good ways to get over people, but to get them out of your head. stop think ing about it, dont even think of the bad things, dont think of the good.
just try and stop caring, youll move on eventually maaybe in a couplar weeks you can get over it.
but it will take a while.
so give it time, and dont think about it and you should be fine.

Q: Ok today in science we got a worksheet with wave lenght problems . . .well i figured out the answers but for 2 of the problems im not sure what the units would be, can anyone help me out on that the problems are

1- I have to use the equation v=d/t and i had to find d, what would be the unit for distance??

2- I used the same equation but had to find t, what would be the unit for time??

THANK YOU!

distance is measured in meters.
or metric system (psi), like kilometers or centimeters.
whichever portains to the frequency of the wave. or size of the wavelengh.

and time would be meassured in meters per second (m/s).
or anything in teh metric system haha.

imma huge science dork so if you have any more questions hit me up.

Q: 16/f
Firstly, I am Catholic. In the bible it says it is a sin to sleep with a man that you are not married with. I have a boyfriend, and once in awhile I will sleep over at his house and we will sleep in the same bed. WE DO NOT HAVE SEX, but we "sleep" together. So, is it considered a sin to do this because he is not my husband? I am just really confused.

haha no no its not a sin.
you have to have actual sex for it to be a sin.
=]

Q: ok so me and my bf just hookedup and he asked me not to tell anyone what does that mean?and what do i do?

it probably means he doesnt want people questioning him about it. or he just doesnt want people to know. idk.
just dont tell anyone.

Q: you know when people suck helium and talk and they have like this funyn cip munk voice? you you suck it and talk as much as you can til the helium is gone or do you swallow it?

well id suggest not doing it at all.
you body wants oxygen not helium. it degrades your cells n stuff.
its like #2 on the periodic table and oxygen is like...8. they arent the same. dont breathe it.

sorry if i sound like you mom.
but its true =[

Q: does anybody know any good web sites that have backgrounds for myspace..a lot of people have those layouts where they are white on their about me section and then in the background it has like a design..does anybody know where i can get those backgrounds? thanx

btw..whateverlife doesnt have what i am looking for so please dont suggest that even though i do love that place lol

createblog.com

best layouts ever. i got mine from tehre and its uber cool. lol

Q: How do women get those great bodies? i mean not the twig models but the beautiful, healthy, fit girls? i try so hard but there are so many excercise and beauty secrets that i just dont know....oh ye and i dont eat fatty foods but my breasts are a 'c' cup and im only 13...my mom couldnt be more flat chested my grandma is a be and everyone in my family is like an a or b, even my cousin who weighs 240 pounds but i am on the average side but y breasts are big, not preky, but not disgustingly saggy. i dont know... any help at all??????? oh yeah wait, i think im ugly sometimes, then pretty, a lot. my friends tell me im pretty but no guys go after me, even at the dance there was this girl who didn't dance well but a guy (fuckdanced her) then more and more guys went after her. what is it about me that they dont like even though im average weight and stuff? is there any secret? i am not a 'bitch' either, and mi not blonde but that girl is blonde but a lot of girls got fuckdanced.

confidence is what draws boys in.
you boobies sound perfectly fine, if you dont like how they are shapped then get a pushup bra or a more supportive one.

but the best thing to do it love yourslef teh way you are cause if you come off as insecure guys wont want to be with you cause theyll think they have to watch what they say around you and not be themselves

Q: I'm 14/f and I really need to know how to get rid of this excess belly fat! It's hard for me to go outside everyday and exercise, like jog or walk, because the weather here is always changing. I do about 200 crunches everyday, but it doesn't seem to be working. I DO eat healthy and have a healthy eating lifestyle. I hate it soooo much...and I want to start slimming down a little before the summer. Does anyone know an effective exercise routine I can do inside that will actually work or a website that has one?

i agree with the girl below me. the girl who first answered this doesnt know what shes talking about.
doing crunches just builds extra muscle which cause your stomach to stick out further.
id suggest doing anything cardio.
get a treamill.
and if you dont have the money, go to sears. they let you use the exersize equipment for free sometimes. my friends and i play on it all the time. =]
if you do cardio first then its ok to do crunches or sit ups or whatever.
but makesure you do teh cardio for about 1-1:30 hours a day at least 4 days a week.

Q: by this summer i am going to be sixteen years old and i would like to get a job jusst over the summer. Does anyone have any ideas for part-time job other then like bag and check, coldstone, and wild rivers. PS i live in southern cali if that helps for any reason (and i know i am not going to have a lot of options but if anyone can give me some ideas that would be great)

if your a good swimmer you could be a life guard.
i dunno if california is the same as florida on the lifeguard cetification age, but they should be about close.

Q: I am mostly happy with my appearance. I think if I lost about 5 to 10 pounds around my tummy and thighs I would be perfectly happy with myself. I know you cannot target weight loss, but since I seem to really only have fat there and not much elsewhere I thought maybe they would be the first places the fat would come off? I am at a healthy weight for my height now, but losing 5 to 10 pounds would not hurt at all. My spring break is the first week of April, and my birthday is during the second week. I am probably going to an island during spring break, which I am very excited for. I decided that by that time I want to look my best and feel my most confident. The thing is, I am not too creative, I'm the kind of person that needs straight forward specific directions to accomplish anything. So can anyone give me an idea of how many calories I should eat at each meal, or specific meals to eat even? I can eat anything for breakfast and lunch, but I don't always make the decision when it comes to dinner because my mom cooks a lot, so I may have to adjust there. As far as exercise goes, for the next 3(?) weeks I have training for an hour and 15 minutes 2 days a week, which is a group of girls from my school and a personal trainer. Most of the time we do a lot of core workouts, so I don't know if that burns many calories. I also have thalassemia minor, which is a kind of anemia (blood condition) and it just causes me to have to push harder during exercise to keep up with other people. I still play sports, but they can get very difficult, since I get tired so much faster than everyone else. So in terms of exercise there, long distance running isn't my favorite choice... I can try, but I won't like it. What are some other options that would help me out, and how often should I do them? Sorry that was so long!

anything cardio. swimming would be the best in my opinion, its ledd tiring than running but you use all of your muscles and burn the same amount of calories. do that for about 1- 1 1/2 hours a day, 4 days a week
eat about 1200-1500 calories a day, you dont have to cut stuff out of your diet. eat what you want just in moderation.

Q: there is this boy i really like but i think i love him and his name is drew.. and i really like him. but the problem is that i have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend. and i told one of his best friends and he said he wouldnt tell drew that i liked him (and i trust him)! i think my boyfriends about to break up with me but what if he doesnt? but Drew (the boy i like) he has his girlfriend and we have gone out before and i still REALLY like him. and im thinkin about tell him how i feel but everytime i write the note im afraid to give it to him .. its always better said then done! so i really need help so please help me! please and thank you!

if your boyfriend doesnt break up with you, you should break up with him. either that or you should stop thinking about this drew kid. cause if you like drew and your dating someone else it isnt fair to them cause they arent getting the most out of your relationship, your not showing them love.
once you and your boyfriends are over (if thats how it happens), just do it! work up with guts, walk on over and hand him the note. if you want something done you have to actually do it. and if you still can't after a while or TRYING ask a friend to give it to him. they wont be scarred to do it

Q: hey, well my eighth grade graduation is coming up in may. im 13/f and i need a dress for it. does anyone know where to get sexy/flirty dresses for grad?