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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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Are these shoes still in becasue I bought them..and Ill wear them anyway..but are they in style?? http://www.gojane.com/13572.html Thanks I rate highh Caitt

They're more for the fall season but they are very cute and they are still in.

Do you think that it's ok for a girl to date a guy who is shorter than her?

Yes it's okay. Why wouldn't it be? If they both liked each other a lot the height shouldn't matter.

you got some fat tits them bitches are nice yeaaaeeee yeaaaeeeee

Uhm, okay???

hey teza! you give like suchhh awesome answers so i am asking you my question! =]
okayyy well i really really like this guy jim. and i just got braces on today and i TOTALLY picked the wrong color (hot pink) and i looked soooo much better w.out them! im so scared i totally lost my chances w. him now cuz he likes me too ! what do i do ?! =[

Oh my gosh, you are over reacting!! Sooo many girls have braces and yet they tend to have plently of boyfriends. Everyone knows that braces are normal and that guy won't just stop liking you because you have them. I don't think he would be that shallow but you just need to stop worrying and make sureyou still talk to him and keep flirting! Your braces are no big deal but you still have your chances with him.

hey. im in cheerleading for a highschool and im a flying, and i've goten alot heavier and i want to loose weight to still be a flyer. what are somethings i can do to loose weight and NOT gain muscle. because im not fat just musclular. thank you so much and your so pretty xox
- amber

You should just exercise and that's all you need. Cut down on sweets and fats and you'll be fine. Go to toneteen.com and it will give you some good exercises for each part of the body. Thanks babe!!

Well im going shopping and i don't know what to get should i get jeans or a purse ?

Omg i just love your pic you look soo f*ckin gorgious in it ! I ♥ YOUH D0lL !

♥ Samra !

Which one do you need more?? I would get jeans because you can always get a purse and I bet you have many. & thanks so much babe!! I love ya!

ONE OF MY BEST FRiENDS ALWAYS TALK ABOUT THESE OTHER TWO GiRL'S BUT WHEN THE OTHER TWO GiRL'S COME AROUND SHE COMPLETLY iGNOR'S ME AND HANGS
WiTH THEM..iT MAKE'S ME UPSET AND ANNOYED BECAUSE SHE ALWAY'S TALKS ABOUT THEM AND EVERY TiME i SAY SOMETHiNG ABOUT iT SHE GET'S MAD AT ME AND THEN GOES AND TALKS ABOUT ME. WHAT SHOULD i DO?

That girl is very immature and childish. Is she in like 5th or 6th grade or what?? I don't even know why you even let her do that and why you're still her friend because if I ever had a friend like that, pshh... I'd tell them like it is. Whenever she talks about those girls just tell her look stop being a little fake as bitch and if you want to go talk shit about them then tell it to someone else because I don't care and I don't want to listen to your bull shit anymore. Just tell her something like that. If she gets mad at you, so what!! It's not the end of the world and people like that don't deserve friends at all. Those other 2 girls need to know what kind of person she is. Just don't say anything else to other people because that might start a lot of drama.

hi. i hope you had an awesome new years. but yeah so i have a boyfreind right now but im kinda getting bored of him and im really crushing on one of my best guy freinds. i dont know what to do. i mean my boyfreins great and all but i just have sooo many feelings for my guy freind. should i just break up with my boyfreind and be free to flirt or what?

I did have a good new years, hopefully you did too. It's difficult to be in your situation because it's so confusing and you just don't know what you want at that point. If you're loosing interest in your boyfriend you should break up with him. It's wrong to go out with someone that you don't have any feelings for because it might hurt him. You can always be friends with him and flirt with him. Flirt with that other guy you like and maybe he might like you too. Just take your time and see what happens.

alright
well

#1- Your GORGEOUS

#2-

Well there's this kid i like. and well i thought he knew i like him. but he doesn't. but ever since i asked him he's been bothering me to tell him who it is. But all i tell him is that she is my best friend and i can't betray her; even though its me. How can i gain the confidence to actually tell him that i like him?

thanks!

Thanks babe. It's better if you just tell him the truth and that you like him then keep comming up with these stories because that might make him kind of angry. If you just tell him that you like him, you'll feel better. I mean what bad can you get out of it? You don't have to tell him you like him right away. Flirt with him and give him hints.

Hey! Does anybody know when Paris Hilton's CD comes out?! Thanks so much!

No one knows yet because it hasn't been announced on television. I'm curious on how it will sound. I just heard one of her songs but it wasn't all that good.

when someone says theyre sprung..what does it mean?

It means when a guy is whipped by his girlfriend. Like he does everything she says.

I have a friend, and whenever I go online, she almost always Instant Messages me. I was cool with it for a while, but no it's just irritating. I've put an away message up, but I always eventually come back. What can I do (It has to be nice)?

If she's bothering you, why can't you just tell her the truth? She is more likley to leave you alone by being honest then by going away. You could just tell her you're busy or your computer is freezing up or that you're mom wants to get online but I still think you should tell her to stop IMing you as much and for you to be honest.

what goes best with a black tube top..

- dark blue jeans
- denim mini skirt
- or white white

thanks. i rate 5's

Jeans or the mini skirt.

Hey this is the same girl who asked about the situation with my bf and the 2 girls..thanks for the advice :) I did tell him how i felt.. but he was still trying to convince me that it was ok .. but then he said that he wouldnt go if i didnt want him to go, and i said i didnt care. But anyway, he knows how i feel about it, but he still wants to go, but he wont go if i tell him not to go. should i tell him not to go? or should i let him go?

You don't want him to go so don't let him go. He seems to really want to go and smoke it and that's his decision so you can't change it. He's being a good boyfriend asking for your permission and opinion. Smoking weed won't do much damage to him, but why are you so worried? If you're afraid that he might do something with those girls then go with him, but you don't have to smoke just because they are. You shouldn't of said you didn't care when you really do. You don't want him to go, so just say don't go.

I'm 17/f if that helps.. My friends Lisa and Rachel (who are friends with my boyfriend) asked my boyfriend Derek to get them some weed (cause hes got connections). Then they asked him to drive them somewhere like a park so that they can smoke it.. and my boyfriend wanted me to come along. I dont want to go because i dont wanna smoke weed.. but i dont want my boyfriend to go and get high alone with 2 girls either. He told me that he wouldnt go if i didnt want him to. But it seems like he wants to go and i dont want him to feel like im controlling him.. should i let him go or not?

You know that you don't want him to go so just tell him that. It's for his own good and you aren't controlling him because you're just being there for him. If you do go with them you don't have to smoke and nether does he. This decision can only be made by you. If you don't want him to go, tell him. If you don't care, tell him. Whatever is on your mind, make sure you tell him. By the way, why would they go smoke weed at a park??

i know it's early to be worrying about this, but having an idea will help me sleep at night. really. haha.

i've been with my boyfriend for two months now. i've never had a boyfriend for valentine's day. do i give him anything? if so, what?

also, what would you expect to get FROM a guy?

thanks so much.

You should get him something. Get him some chocolates & a card.

Guys can be romantic but most of them just follow the tradition. Flowers, teddy bear, chocolates and a card.

okay im 13/ female.

i've done this for a while -
i watch movies that have lesbos in them & like kinda masturbate?

i like the way it feels.
& sometimes i do it to guys+girls.

i've never been kissed/or had a boyfriend.

i just dont know whats wrong with me ahah

any ideas?

Nothing is wrong with you. It's eather your hormones or your bi. I don't think you're bi because most girls do this and it's normal.

I need some good rap songs for my party. Can you list some? I'll rate 5's I already have Shake , There it go, Badd, Laffy Taffy, and When I'm gone. Include the artists please. I'll rate 5's.

I'm in Love With a Striper
My Humps
Shine On
You Already Know
Fireman
Smoked Out
Red Rum
Put your dick in her mouth
^ Those are by Three 6 Mafia

MK ... SO i HAVE LiKED THiS GUY FOR A LONG TiME ... AND LASS NiTE WE WERE AT MY FRIENDS HOUSE AND HE WENT UP MY SHiRT AND LiKE iDK i CANT GET OVER THE FACT i LET HiM DO iT TO ME , AND i'VE BEEN CRYiN A LOT ... & i JUSS WANNA GET OVER iT HOW CAN i GET OVER iT iF itS BOTHERiN ME REALLY BAD?

Well, why is it bothering you so much? I don't think that this is a very big deal at all and it's not like you did anything bad. If you feel guilty then I understand that but it's no big deal because it doens't mean you're a slut or anything. If you didn't like him or something just don't let it happen again but if you did then don't cry about it. Things like this will happen to you .. guys are horny & their hormones kick in lol but just calm down because it's nothing big.

In case it matters, I'm 15/f.

So, lately I've had alot of guy problems going on. I'll start with my ex-boyfriend, Brett. We were together for 5 months, and what I have for him will probably never go away. We've been broken up for almost two months and he already has a new girlfriend. I know 5 months isn't very long, but it was my longest relationship and I think that may be part of the reason why I have so many strong feelings for him. I've tried moving on, and for awhile, I was talking to this guy named Alex. We've hung out pretty much everyday for a month. A few days ago, he was at my house and we were watching a movie and we kind of got "in the moment", I guess you could say, and we had sex. There was this other guy, Dustin, who really likes me. I think I may have led him to think I have the same feelings for him. We were supposed to hang out for new year's but instead I went to a friend's house. She had a few guys over, and one of them was this guy named Tyler. He's really hott and I've always had a "thing" for him. Not so much a crush, just I've always thought he was incredibly gorgeous. We were laying down together and he had his arm around me and we ended up making out. On top of all of these guys..I like this other guy named Justin. We've never really hung out lately, but we talk all the time online and he calls me sometimes. So here's my question. I don't know what to do with Brett, Alex, Dustin, Tyler, or Justin. I know I need to get over brett, and tell Dustin the truth (that I don't really like him like that). But do you think Tyler likes me? Or was he just being the typical guy and "getting some" from me? And what about Justin? Should I just try to get over him, or keep talking to him? And what about Alex? Have I led him on too? He doesn't have "serious feelings" for me..we're just "friends with benefits". hmm, I'm so confused with everything. Sorry if this was complicated to understand.

I think that you are using these guys to get over your ex. I don't meaning using in a bad way or anything, but you just want to get over Brett so badly that you don't really seem to care about another guy in that way. 5 months isn't a long time but when you start to have feelings for someone like that in a short amount of time, that's something and it's hard to let go. I don't know why you guys broke up but just try to forget about him and a good way to do it.. metting and hanging out with different guys and you already are doing that. In a way, it might seem to be working for you. I don't think you have strong feelings for Alex. You can't take back what you've done and hopefully you don't regret it because you would just feel really guilty. Dustin, he seems to be like a nice guy but you shouldn't keep him waiting any longer. Tell him the truth. Yeah it might be hard for you, but you'd feel a lot better when you tell him you only like him as a friend. That might hurt his feelings, but you're doing the right thing. It's hard to tell if Tyler likes you. I mean all you guys did was make out but if you guys hung out more, maybe then you could tell if there is something between you guys. You want to get over Justin and Brett? You can't just start to like every guy you are with and then if something doesn't work out and then try to get over them. You're making it harder for yourself. You don't have to make a decision on who you want because this isn't any kind of competition. Take your time and figure out who you really like. As time goes by you will be getting over Brett and everything will make more sence. Flirt with the guys but don't take it too far with them because it will hurt you. Make sure the guy likes you too before you get into anything serious because you might get hurt again. Take your time, flirt with them, hang out, be friends, talk and then if you ever seem to like one.. go after him.

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