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Anywayzzz -- Hey loveys. My name's Martha and I'm here to help you on pretty much anything. Ask and I'll do my very best to answer. I love giving advice and a lot of people say I am a beastly advice giver...so, ask away!

p.s. my screen name is x0mrm0x if you don't want to have your question open to everyone. Also, if you need advice from a guy my friend mark gives good advice...his link is under my favorite columnists.


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me adn my friend brooke spend an auwfull lota time together.. and people are starting to call us twins... we look nothing alike.. well kinda i guesss tall and blond hair... we both hate it so much and always say no we don't!! but people just keep saying it !! ugh ..what should we do~!

just ignore them. you both know that they're wrong and that the two of you are totally different people. don't let it bother you, they just don't like the fact that you two are such good friends.

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I;m 13 f, and I've been having a lot of different thoughts about things. I have a little of OCD, if that might be a conclusion of whats going on..
Okay, it started just maybe a month or 2 back, and I've been having thoughts about sucicide, like overdosing on pills and stuff. That's all I think of, and it wont stop! What can i do to help this?

you might just have depression or something. OCD doesn't really have anything to do with suicidal thoughts and what not.
you might just have to talk your friends or something about how your feeling. and if you can't do that, then start a journal and let out your feelings...cuz this kinda thinking isn't too good.
hope i helped.

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same person... i kno 4 hours is safe but like r u safe if u wear one and then take it out and put another one in like right away

yupperzz. its all good. again--don't worry.

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u kno how girls can get the toxic shock thing from wearing a tampon to long , can u still get it if u like wear one for 4 hours then like right away put another one in

no, 4 hours is like, the normal amount of time. you're safe. don't worry.

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how exactly do you finger a girl? and do you have any other advise you can give to a guy that he should know like how to get started or hw to tell when shes ready? well just about any general info will work thanks

(advice from my frizzend)
well...you have to set the mood....um trust me you will be able to tell when she is ready.
(from me)
just stick it up there..haha

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do most girls shave their pussys?

yes...most girls do. guys like it to be trimmed and...under control.
hope i helped.

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ok so i liked this kid ryan like 2 weeks ago, and then i stopped liking him, and now everyone keeps asking me if im mad at him or if i still like him. And tonight my guy friend told me if i was mad at him because they were playing basketball and ryan told him that he thinks i am, does this mean anything?

it means that he is just bitter that you don't like him anymore. he wants you to drool over him. but now that he knows that you don't like him...hes just being bitchy. he just cares about the situation.

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I know that every girl down there is unique, but im not a lesbian or anything but i see pretty girls in magazines and all of them dont have any visible things in their bottoms. like my question is, is it unattractive to have larger "lips" than most girls and will guys be turned away by it? I dont wanna sound weird its just i dont know who to ask without seeming like a weirdo. lol thanx!

well i asked one of my guy friends if he has any opinions on this and this was his response:
"well if a guy gets underneath the girl's pants to the pussy, i seriously dont think they will give a shit wat it looks like, they will just be like "ill eat it out or fuck it.......if i got past 2nd, the appearance wouldnt matter"
thats exactly what he said...so, don't worry. and plus, you can't help the size or shape of anything down there...
and same with guys...its uncontrollable...so don't sweat it.

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um.. wuts a blow job??

its oral sex on a guy.
like, you basically suck his dick.
(the name has nothing to do with the actual action...you DO NOT literally 'blow'.)

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um is there anyway for a girl to shorten her period besides pills?

...not that i know of. sorry.
but you can reduce your PMS symptoms by drinking lots of water, avioding salty foods and caffiene.
hope i helped.

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So I went out with some friends and they played spin the bottle and I was dared to kiss this kid. I was so effing afraid to though, Im such a prude. even my best friend (whos a guy) had to kiss this girl and he did and I thought he was the same as me. I really wanted to, but im so afraid somethings going to go wrong. Anyone ever have this problem that could give me some advice? rate you for anything...seriously...

you just have to loosen up.
theres nothing wrong with being a prude...but if you wanna have fun, just go along with it...
your only a teenager once...experiment and have fun...don't miss out.

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can u get pregnant from giving bloow jobs? swallowing sperm>? help.

nope, only vaginal penetration can get you pregnant.
don't worry...but bjs can give you some STDs...im not sure what ones, but you can get them from doing that...

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me and my friend want to do a duet for solo tryouts. but we dont hav a song. can you plz give me a few ideas????. thx

~natalie and hannah~

hmm...i don't know...do you want like classic songs? (like oldies) or newer ones...
and it also depends on what kinda sound you want.
like pop-y, rock, etc...you know what i mean.
some good songs that i like (by females) are:
lemon (katy rose)
overdrive (katy rose)
going under (evanescence)
lose control (maria mena)

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I was just curious to know if it was wierd that Im in 8th grade and have never had a first kiss? Part of it is that I am too nervous but I just wanted to know...ThAnX I RaTe HiGh!! Maddie 15/f

no, its not weird. i knew someone who was 15 when they got their first kiss.
but don't be nervous about it. its not something that you can be good at or anything, just go with the flow and it will come naturally.
hope i helped.

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ok well, i live in PA, and i was in new jeresy at six flags today. Anyway well i was on medusa and this kid kept staring at me while we were waiting in line. Then when we got off, my friend went the other way and i felt really sick. So i went over to a tree and dropped my stuffed animal i bought and started throwing up. So he came over even though i didnt know him and put his hand on my back and he was help my hair back and picked up my animal..and then when i was done i looked up at him and he was smiling at me. I said sorry, but its like, it's okay come here, and he took me over to where him and his friends were standing, and he sent his friend to go buy me something to settle my stomach.. then after thati left and eventually i was in line for nitro and him and his friends were like 5 people behind me and he came up and put his hand on my shoulder and he was like, are you gonna be able to handle this one? Then when we got off i was walking down the stairs and i was like stumbling and hes like, you okay there drunky? and we started laughing, and then we split up again and then later we went on this ride that sends you over the lake, and i ended up getting broken away from the people i was with and i had to sit with him, and the sun was setting and it was so pretty. But then anyway, we were leaving, and i said bye, and i had left my phone with him because i was afraid i would drop it in the lake, and i opened it and i was flipping through the numbers, and it said tony with a heart next to it and his number. Just wondering, what does this mean?

aww. it means that hes like, IN LOVE WITH YOU! haha.
cmon, if he left his number in your phone...it obviouisly means he wants you to call him
if you do, and he answers, just be like, ohh i see you left your number in my phone, huh? and be casual/sweet/humorous about it.
(he sounds like such a sweet guy...go for it and see what happenes!)

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well like i really have a problem here. my girlfriend has braces and last time we hooked up, my tongue got cut, and i kno that everytime i h/u w/ her, sumthin is gonna end up happenin
ADCICE PLEEZ!

honestly, its rare to get your tongue caught in someone else's braces...
it most likely won't happen next time, its not like its a for-sure-to-happen-every-time-you-h/u thing. lol.
cuz...yeah, experience: i have braces--nothing happened to him.
hope i helped.

-->but if you really just want to take precautions, and not just wait to see if you'll g et cut again...just watch what your doin...

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wuts jacking off is it ejaculateing or w/e

jacking off/jerking off is when a guy...masterbates. (aka grabbing his...shaft [dick] and then going up and down, etc...[sry for the detailed explanation...but hey, you might have needed it])
and then ejactulating is when you cum (aka white...liquid comes out of the head of the penis)

sorry if that grossed anyone out. (hey i have to give all the information that someone might need)

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well since it's spring, and it's getting a lot warmer, I really wanna wear tank tops and halter tops, but I'm really self concious about my back. I have acne on my back, and even though I dont have a lot, I'm really scared that people might see it if I wear clothes that'll show my back. please help me.. is there anything I can do to treat my bacne?

i think you could just go to a local drug store (like a rite aid or CVS) and get some acne wash. i used to have mild acne on my face and i just went to a dermatologist and got 'zoderm' (a facial scrub and cream) it worked for my face, but i dont know about your back.
just look up some things on the internet or ask your mom or something...
hope i helped.

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Well, I'm not fat and that's what my friends tell me. Last year I lost a load of weight but the dress I have for the Spring Fling looks absolutely adorable on me when others and I look at it. It's just when I took a picture in it yesterday (not at the Spring Fling), I looked fat. My face was fat. My friend told me that the camera always adds a extra pound or so to you, but when I take other photo's with the camera's, I find that I don't like how huge my head is. Is it that huge. I want my pictures to be pretty . I don't want to look like a pig. So do I need to drop down to another ten pounds or do I not need to just loosen up. Is it the camera or is it me? Please, help me.

be happy with yourself!
you said that last year you lost a load of weight...so you should be proud of youself for even that!
don't worry about pictures, some people just aren't photogenic. (i know from experience, i take horrible pictures...)
and i know how you feel about people telling you that you're not fat when you think you are.
i admit, last year i used to be bigger, but i just grew out of it, and im still a little thick, but hey, thats just how your body is. (probably genetics...)
but yeah-->basically, just loosen up and be happy with your body (its the only one you get)

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Me and this guy i really liked just broke up awhile ago and he said that he thought we should just be friends and stuff well it hurt but i was being a good player and put a smile on my face we talked on the fone a couple times but then when we hung out it got all weird i wanted to put my arms around him and stuff like i use to but i couldnt cuz we werent going out he just kinda chilled with everyone else..i still like him i cant get my mind off him i want to still be together i dont know if i should talk to him about it and tell him how im feeling and see if we can try again or just move on. can someone please help me!

i think you should just stay friends. because if you stay friends, he might come around and realize that he misses you as a girlfriend.
for now, just pretend like you don't care and are just going with the flow.
it will get easier to stop thinking about him and stuff...trust me...
don't dwell over something that you can't change at the moment.
whatever happens, happens.

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