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Q: I really want a boyfreind...I mean one that is dedicated to me..but I think im scared of commitment..any ideas?

hey i was afriad of having a boyfriend because i didn't want to be in a serious realationship but when i just went into a real realationship a few months ago it was great! It isn't bad just take time to think about what you really want.

-Katie

Q: I told my best friends boyfriend that i thought my boyfriend did too much tounge and my friend's boyfriend is bestfriends with my boyfriend so ik he told him what i said. but when i asked him if he told my boyfriend what i had said he denyed it and said he did tell him but now my bf seems to be kinda scared to kiss me now. i feel soo bad about what I said!! what should i do?

talk to your boyfriend and explain things to him! it's that simple he will listen to you!

-Katie

Q: if i see a boy i like i will go and talk to him but like what kind of things should i say as in do wat mi cousin does and drop things and make him pick them up

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No don't do that because that has been done by so many generations and sometimes they don't work just go talk to him ask him how are you doing? and complement him on things like if he plays sports or something say i saw you last nite at your football practice and you were great! stuff like that and don't be nervous i know it is hard to control that but just try to stay calm!

-Katie

Q: my boyfriend and my best friend have been fightin alot latly and now there r not friends n im stuck in tha middle wut should i do?? i dont wanna loose either 1 of them

Okay sit them both down and just talk to both of them and work things out and come up with an agreement thats all to it!

-Katie

Q: anyOne knOw any depressinq lOve sOnqs? Or b/f,,g/f lOve sOnqs?like anythinq hip*hOp Or pOp.nO cOuntry :-)
thanks

Oh by the Clarks-Penny on the floor (i listened to it when my boyfriend broke up with me)
Britney Spears-From the bottem of my broken heart
And
Jessica Simpson-I have Loved You

-Katie

Q: ok like what do i do to make a guy like me what turns them man an i don't wanna look like a slut so please help

Hun all you have to do is be yourself and where pretty clothes that he hasn't seen before! Just kinda be yourself and kinda flirt alittle with him and show your interested in him (it turns a guy ON)

-Katie

Q: THIS IS A QUESTION 4 A FRIEND OF MINE WHO CAN'T REGISTER....YEAH, my ex asked me to be in her quincearea and i dont know if i want to be in it. i would do it out of respect for her because we did go out, but i'm not sure if i should because i heard alot of sh*t about her that wasnt good, and it like made me feel stupid. Plus, if i am in it, its gonna be like "oh all the shyt she did to him and he still comes back what a p*ssy whopped b*tch" and i dont know if i should do it or not...can u help me?

Yeah i think you should do it for her it would be really nice and it's not like your going back to her ya know so just go and help her out alittle.

-Katie

Q: hi, i have a neighbor and i like him alot and i think he knew before i called him and really told him what i felt and i asked him what he thought and he asked me if he could get back to me...do you think he WILL get back to me? :-/ i wana know i cant stop thinkin about it!!!

To be honest with you i don't think he will call you, you must call him because i think we ALL can agree that boys are not really reliable on calling the girl when he says sometimes. Hun you must call him.

-Katie

Q: My boyfriend said that on the first date he wanted to have sex with me but I don't think I'm ready to. I told him I wanted to wait and he said okay we'll wait but now everytime I talk to him he still brings up the subject of "doing it" on the first date. What do I say to him to tell him that I don't want to go that far on the first date?

Just tell him STRAIGHT up, "Hun look i am not going to have sex with you on the first date! i told that already, we can talk about it but i am not ready to have sex with anyone right now!" Believe me he will understand and if you need anything else email me or right me a letter.

-Katie

Q: I cant get my mind off this boy well i might as well tell the story first so...
Well when I was in 3rd grade I met a boy named Tyler Lyons… he was a scrawny blonde showoff… I found out he liked me… I didn’t really like him… word got around the school and every time I walked through the hall I would hear people whispering “There’s the girl Tyler likes” and other things… so one day I just gave in and went out with him… we grew on each other and had a good relationship… I would call him every night at like 8 o’clock and we would talk for at least an hour… we would also talk on weekends… one night we were talking on the phone and he invited me out on a date (with his mom sadly)… we went out to dinner at the pizzeria… and we were about to go into the movie when Amanda (his ex and girl he supposedly still liked) showed up… we went and saw evolution… Tyler sat in the middle of us… then we all got in the car and we had to drive home Amanda… when Amanda got out of the car we both kinda layed down… my head was on one side of the car his on the other… it was very weird… the moon roof was open as well… so I just watched the stars and the moon… then the head games started… we would be on the phone and his friend would come over so we would get off the phone and he would pretend that he forgot to hang up and he would say things like “ I don’t really like Kati I like Amanda she’s hot!” It was so upsetting… I dumped him quite a bit but I would always take him back because I loved him… one day I found out that it would be my last school year in Resica and that I would have to go to Middle Smithfeild for 4th and 5th grade… I was devastated… I did not want to leave my friends and I definetly didn’t wanna leave Tyler… but I lived out the rest of the school year like normal… One day Tyler wouldn’t really talk to me… so at recess me and all of my friends (which was A LOT cause I was miss popular!) chased him all around the playground… and when we finally stopped him he was at the bottom of the fire man pole… my whole posse and I were all at the top I was in front and everyone was behind me… I asked him, “whats going on?” and he said “I don’t like you… I never did” I was CRUSHED! I turned around and ran I pushed through everyone and ran into the field crying… it was one of the worst days of my life… I don’t think I ever talked to him again… I will always remember the last day of school in the 3rd grade because it was the last time I saw Tyler… I was on my bus crying and Tylers bus was right next to mine he was sitting there playing gameboy laughing with his friends… < and i have been thinkin about him so much i love him! and i think hes the reason i have been acting so weid lately i havnt been myself at all... like im usually outgoing and the life of the party but not lately idk what to do!! HELP!

Okay Kati at first when i read your letter it freaked me out (in a good way) i have been dealing with my own problem a bit the same as yours. I will tell you mine and how i fixed it. I was in 8th grade and i found out that this fat blonde boy liked me and i really didn't like him, he asked me out like 5 times and i said no and then i went out with him because i felt bad for him. I then started to fall in love with him (his name is Sean (shawn) ) well sean and i were on this on and off realationship for 6 months like he would break up with me or i would break up with him and then i would take him back because i loved him with ALL of my heart! well a few weeks ago me and sean were at his house (just talking and a few kisses) and i thought everything was fine. Then the next day i called his house and a girl answered (not his mom) it was his old crush Corey. She was at his house and they came down to mind. the whole time they were here he was acting weird. Well I found out that he still loved her and i couldn't beleive it well I broke up with him and ever since that i could only think about him! I love him still. See our problems are kinda the same and the way i got over him sorta was i thought about the good things with out him, like i don't have a boy holding me back from who i am and what i wanna do and the same goes for you Kati, just think your free now and he has no way of breaking your heart once again and a girl heart shouldn't be broke that many times probably like yours and mind. Your seriously better off with out him and he isn't worth your time if he does that to you. You will be okay and i know that you will live and you don't need him. Maybe if you call him and talk to him things will be okay but i am warning you if he is mean to you on the phone do not stay on hang up and go on with your life and NEVER EVER cry over a boy anymore you hear me Kati? i have cryed over Sean to many times and that is why he is so mean to me now because he knows he can make me cry and Tyler probably knows he can make you cry also Kati so you will be okay and try to move on with out Tyler. i hope i helped. anything else just email me or send through here.

-Katie

Q: I'm 15 years old and I'm pregnant. I don't know what to do and who to turn to. I've only had sex once with my boyfriend and I took a couple pregnancy tests, which all came out positive. No one knows about it and I'm so scared. My parents will be so disappointed in me, it'll kill me and they'll probably make me get an abortion. I'm also scared my boyfriend is going to leave me because of it. What should I do? I really need help.

Sweetie all i can tell you is take one step each day and i think it is best to tell your mom and dad and maybe they won't make you get an abortion and you should tell your boyfriend also because it is his problem too and he can't just leave you! Talk to your parents and your boyfriend and take care of yourself hunny!

Q: okay well im turning 13 in november... and i havnt gotten my period yet... is that abnormal??? all my friends got theirs already?? if ya help me out then thanx!

Kati

No kati i have a friend that is 14 and didn't get her period yet. the only time to really worry is if your 16 and you never got it!

Q: when is the best time to have sex without having to worry about getting pregnet?

there is no BEST time to have sex with out getting pregnet you can get pregnet anytime you have sex if you started your period already. Use pretection and be careful!

Q: my boyfriend is really short, its kinda embarresing to be seen w/ him, and his breath always smells bad! what should i do?!

tell him to brush his teeth and you really can't do anything about the height of him but tell it to him straight, "hun brush your teeth" or "here's a mint!"

Q: ok...my boyfriend isnt that great of a kisser. hes not bad, hes just not...great lol. should i just let things move along and see if he gets better at it or like...i dunno? lol, advie please!

okay everyone starts out as a not so great kisser he will improve in time and until that time comes just teach him a few things about kissing as in having fun (means you should have fun with him!)

-katie

Q: whats the best way to stuff...to make it look like ur boobies are bigger when they really arent?

Oh the best way is to get a sock and fold it in half and then put it in your bra. I have a friend that does it to make her boobs look and seem bigger or theres always jello or pudding in a baggy! they work also looks and feels real. i hope i helped.

-Katie

Q: okay... if u go to ur regular doctor or u gyno. can one or the other or botht tell that u have been fingered, or nething happen down there... lol??

no they can tell you that your not a virgin anymore (which you should know) but they can't find out if you fingered your self unless you tell them!

Q: first of all i want to thank you for your answers you are really sweet... anyway... I never really have a boyfriend... my friends are really pretty and im not... im tall and really skinny and have a really weird voice says alot of ppl... the only boyfriends i get are really unattractive... and i hate it... i have only had like 2 boyfriends that were actually good looking... plus my family doesnt have alot of money so i dont have alot of nice clothes... im really bad when it comes to boys and love and i really hate my looks... what do i do???

okay you sound like me, my family has not alot of money and i am not the most perfect and pretty looking girl there is out there. People do change and you are perfect and pretty in your own way. You voice is probably fine people just say stuff like that to make you mad. Because they are jealous and that is the truth you are special in your own way. And beleive me i have had some really nerdy boyfriends in the past and i lived. Money isn't everything try making your own clothes or deal with what you have right now. And if a boy doesn't go out with you because they say your ugly then they are not worth your time you need someone that can love you for you and what you are inside! i hope that helped. if you need anything else you know where to reach me.

Q: okay well im 13 years old and all of my firends have made out with a boy.. I never have... its really weird... my best friend since forever and I WERE the only ones who hadnt made out with a guy untill she went out with this kid joe... so now im the only one who hasnt... and everytime im going out with someone and the subject comes up i get really nervous... idk im just really scared to show affection... like I will hug my boyfriend without a problem but when it comes to holding hands and kissing im scared... i have been kissed but never made out... i know what to do but at the same time i dont please help me!

Kati

okay well kati there is nothing to do when makeing out with your boyfriend except just kissing him. you can kiss him using the tongue or whatever you feel is right. My boyfriend and i went out for 2 years and i wasn't ready to make out with him then so i waited and he did also until i was ready to make out with him and you should just wait til you feel like your ready to do it. but if you are ready then just kiss him and do what you feel is right when your makeing out with your boyfriend like put your hands on his back or something. if you need anymore help please ask me and put a letter in my inbox and we can talk about this more.

-katie

Q: im soooo bored, do you know any sites i can go to to keep me occupied? not BORED.COM cause ive already been there. thanks alot

what about neopets.com or something like that... or maybe you can talk to me or someone on here. if you want to just ask...

bio

I am here to help teens like myself deal with pressure of relationships and parents and sex! Things i go through as a teenager are normal but i can't talk to my parents about them like sex with my boyfriend if i think it is right and if i am ready for it right now. That is why i am here because i know there are other girls and boys out there that have the same problem and i can help.

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Age: 15
Birthday: 01/16
Color: Red and Pink
Dream Guy: Heath Ledger
Eyes: baby blue
Fears: being alone in the dark and heights
Greatest love: Victor
Hair Color: Blonde
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