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HEYYY :D i'm in college and i'm a psychology major. i've had many experiences with boyfriends, crushes, friends and family. i know quite alot about sex and sex related issues, so feel free to ask me anything about that! i will be completely honest because i would want the same in return.if you drop one in my inbox, please try to be as detailed as possible (like your age & gender) so i can be as helpful as possible :D
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okay so im going over somebodys house on saturday. its going to be my friend, her boyfriend, me, and my boyfriend. so im pretty sure that its going to be fun and everything and we're going to make out and stuff..and i've never made out. i am soo nervous and excited.
any tips?
and like any tips over all for the night?
Well, I'm pretty sure the couples are going to pair off and go seperate ways lol. There aren't any tips to give for making out. It's something you have to experience, not something that can be taught. When you start kissing and getting into it, you'll know exactly what you're doing.. and go along with what he does! Just be sure not to go too far with him yet, guys can be reeeally pushy.
I have recently started talking to a friend I met in 7th grade we are both now in 11th. We dated in juinor high and were friends after the fact. We have always had a love hate relationship. I knew she had just gotten a boyfriend and I hadnt talked to her in a while because my girlfriend is insicure about her talking to me. So I havent spoken to this person in a while. The other day I was quite bored and out of the blue my friend called me. She told me that a movie that we saw when we were dating when we, was on tv. I was surprised at this because that date was very significant in our relationship. I was even more surprised she would bring this up because I knew she is dating this other guy. She was nice in the begining of the conversation and then our usual her calling me and idiot jokeingly and such started to happen. I then thought to my self when we hung up was she flirting with me or something. Dose anyone this event could mean anything or am I just being paronoid.
In love-hate relationships, they never seem to end or go away. When a girl comes out like that, actually making a phone call to an ex, it means something. Usually girls won't make a drastic move like that, unless they're serious. In my opinion, if I wasn't over an ex and after some time passed and we were still friends, I'd call if I missed him terribly.
Okay, I'm turning 16 in about a week. I've had my period since I was about 11.
I'm developed in the sense that I have breasts, my hips widened and I have pubic hair.
I was just thinking about it earlier, randomly, and I want to know how normal is it for a girl to be developed and years after getting her period for her to continue to develop? As in, her breasts grow more (not due to weight gain) or her hips widen more, etc.
Also, at what age do women completely stop developing?
I don't really understand your first question clearly....but, girls/women start to level off and stop developing in their early 20s. Your breats will continue growing for quite some time, if that's what you're wondering. Well, your whole body will keep developing too.
17/f
I was dating my boyfriend for about a year and half when he cheated on me. He didn't just kiss another girl or hang out with her but he had sex with her at a party after we had had a fight. He didn't even tell me and i had to find out from the girl herself. She didn't even know i was hius girlfriend and she asked me to give him his ring that he left at her house.( the ring was a promise ring we gave to eachother awhile ago) up until this happened i thought i could spend the rest of my life with him. I haven't talked to him since but he is always with my brothers. I just don't know if he went so far that i should throw away everything we had. Where is the line of going to far to be forgiven? Do i just give up and say let's be friends?
I'm sorry you're put into this situation. But alot of questions are important here. Was this the first and only time he cheated? If it was more than once, please end it immediately. Ever hear of "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."? Did you let him give you an explanation? It might be heard to hear, but letting him explain to you everything might give you a better understanding. Is he friends with this girl or did he ever like her? If it's a yes to being friends, I think it's fair to tell him "If were going to try and make this work, I would appreciate you not being friends with her or contacting her." If she's an ex gf of his or someone he's liked, it's better to end the relationship because it will probably happen again. You have to let him know it's unacceptable and ask him to put himself in YOUR shoes and how it must feel. Is he trying to reach you? Is he begging for you? If he is, he truly cares. Give him a chance and see how things go from there. If he's just letting things flow, he's not worth it. Take a day or two to make up your mind.
15/f
my bf (15/m) and i have been going out almost 3 months and today we were making out and i wasnt totally sure if it was just an accident but he had his hand on my chest... i thought maybe it wasnt intentional cause he would move it to my shoulder after a few seconds but then later im pretty sure it was intentional. weve already talked about this and he said that it wasnt something he wanted and he wouldnt do that to me. so im confused. i dont think im ready for that, but i dont know how to ask him if, first of all, he was intending it, and also if he could wait because im not ready. how do i bring it up? i mean i would feel weird if i was just like hey were you trying to feel me up or what? i need a subtler way to say it or i wont be able to say anything at all. thanks
Honeslty, don't bring it up to him. Wait. Wait for him to actually start to do it again, and stop him. Pull away and just calmly say "I don't want to do that" or "I'm not ready for that yet". Anything along those lines. Don't kiddingly say "stop" or laugh because he'll think you're playing around. Look him in the eyes and he'll get the point. Let him know you need time and don't want to rush anything. If he respects you, he'll never do it again until you're okay with it. The only way to get things done, esp with boys, is to speak up and do it! =]
Say you are 2 months pregnant and miscarriage. You go to take a pee test how long after the miscarriage until the test shows up negative?
I'm just wondering by the way. Thanks.
I was in that situation, but I went to a gyno. Do you have one yourself? I suggest getting one and talking to him/her and they will check you out and make sure everything's back to normal. If not and you really don't want to do that - Make sure you're not bleeding anymore at all. Wait a week after that. Then take 2 pregnancy tests to be sure, first thing in the morning. Morning urine is actually the most accurate to use for testing pregnancy.
alright,
i currently work at a seasonal amusement park and when i applied there, lots of my friends had done it and they higher anyone who applies, so you just go and tell them that you want to work and you basically have a job. well, after summer ends, i will need another job, but i'm not sure how to go about getting one. how do i know if someone is hiring if there isn't a sign, and then what do i do to actually get an application?
no guesses, please, i could do that,
but if anyone could explain what to do, i would be v. thankful.
Don't worry about looking for a sign. Find a place you would like working at. Believe me, don't just apply anywhere, because you want to enjoy working wherever you're at. Go in the store or wherever you're applying. Ask the cashier or if there's a customer service desk or something like that, ask them if you could get an application. You could also ask if they are hiring first. The worst they could say is no and then you move on. Don't go with a friend or dress inappropiately, it's unprofessional.
Okay so I'm going to take a crack at this advice thing. I'm female.
I want to know what the heck is wrong with me. I dont think I am completely ugly and I even lost weight thinking that if I did that then maybe someone would be interested in me. I'm getting older and I am in high school. I've never even been asked out/ been liked.
Are all guys into blonde, stick thin, popular, sort of slutty type of girls?
I'm tired of seeing all my friends have relationships and stuff and im sitting on the sidelines. I hate this feeling. I dont want the advice that i just need to talk to guys and be friendly, because that doesn't work. Because I do talk to guys.
Maybe I'm just unlikeable. I have no clue.
Honestly, I have a good friend who was never asked out/liked, but was actually very pretty and smart. All of a sudden, during high school she met someone amazing. They're perfect together, and have been dating for a few years, still going strong. I think it's a good thing you haven't had one, so maybe you'll end up like my friend! In my experience, it's the slow starters who really end up with amazing people and wonderful relationships. No rushing or searching! It'll happen for you out of nowhere.
what does it mean when a guy cumms? (sp??)
When a guy "cums", he ejaculates. It's usually during oral sex, masturbation or intercourse. It's a whole bunch of sperm!
if a girl gets fingered would the guys like it if they shaved before?
99% of teenage/young guys do. In my experience, they like it completely shaven, or close to it. Hope things work out for ya!
Ok, my cousin got her period on August 7th and she is 11 years old, her b-day is in September.
Well anyway. She got her period on that day and it lasted until the next day, then it whent away... but she wasn't peeing blood? And on the 7th she was getting cramps in her stomach, so I told her that, that is what happened to me when I got my period so she is ok with that. And her mom said that next month she is going to get her period stronger because the first time was the begining. Is that right? And will her stomach hurt her again when she gets her period the next month? Tell me anythingyou know.
Please Help!!!!!!
She should expect to get it next month, around the same time. Tell her to mark it on a calendar so she knows and can be ready. Yes, cramps come every month right before your period, sometimes during. They suck and hurt, but medicine helps! She'll probably have a stronger period next month, since she's just getting it and her body is still developing into these changes. Nothing to worry about, it's girl stuff we gotta deal with!
Usually i am pretty confident with the way i look. i mean sure there are things i dont like about my appearance but i chose not to worry about it because i dont see a point in worrying about somthing you cant change. But i always do worry when people say things about what i dont like about my body. like im 16, skinny, about 5'6", and im a 36A. Im worried that im done growing and my boobs will stay this size forever. When will i grow? Does anyone else have or had this same problem?
You're definitely still growing, don't worry another second! Expect to see alot of devolpments until your early 20s. Every single girl, teenager, and woman has a problem with confidence/security, even if they swear they don't. If someone says something about your body or looks, obviously there confidence level is too low and there trying to bring yours down too.
im a girl by the way....
does anybody know a good way to shave "down there" without causing liek irratation or anything? like any good nair type things or w/e.
When I shave down there, I sit in a warm bath for awhile to let the hair soften up. Then I use ALOT of shaving cream. Not a cheap brand either, use Skintimate or something like it. You HAVE to use a brand new razor, I suggest a razor with triple blades because it literally takes the hair off with one stroke! Afterwards, pat dry (do NOT rub) and use baby powder all over the area that was shaved. In a few hours, it'll be nice and smooth with no irritation.
All the products I mentioned can be bought at any drugstore & altogether will amount to $15.
does anyone know a techno song, it goes like "dum duddi[?] do, dum duddi[?] do di dum. and its a really fast beat. I tried google and yahoo but nothing helpful came up. thanksss.
is it a girl singing it? cause i do know what song your talking about, cause it starts in the beginning with those lyrics. i do not know the name =[ i'm sorry but i did have it on my myspace. i got it from searching for A&F on the music page there. so you could try looking for it on myspace!
well i dont really wanna get a wax and i hate shaving down there because i can never get it to work out right. is there any other options i have like certain razors that i can use and stuff? or like can you wax there yourself?
help!
If shaving isn't working, you might be going about it all wrong. Buy a brand new razor, and a good kind (not cheap) and put ALOT of shaving cream/gel on that area. I would soak in the tub about 10 mins before doing it though, because it makes the hair and skin softer. Believe me, if you try this it will work out =]
My Grandam is very sick and might die!! I cant deal with the pain it is causing my family ecspecially my dad! Every time a tear comes to his eye it comes to mine!You see my grandpa went down to cincinati to have open heart surgery and he made it through fine. That night my grandam started to not be able to breathe so they took her to the hospital. Now she has to have open heart and is sooo frail she might not survive! Is there any way to stop me from crying all the time and to be sad some of the time not all? ANd any ideas on how to cheer my grandpa up? Let me know thanks!
I do know what your going through, because my grandmother is also very sick. You have to think positive though, to help yourself and your family. Don't assume that she might not make it, push yourself to believe that your grandmother is strong and will make it through okay. The more you think negatively, the more your family will too. Also, remember your grandmother lived a long life and many people do not get that oppurtunity AND many people do not have a family who care about them that much, like you care about your family. Your grandmom knows how much you love and care for you, and remember to show your grandfather and dad all the love and support. As long as they know you love them unconditionally, that's all they need. Keep your family close and support them. You could also try keeping busy with school, friends, a job, etc. Living your life is also important, so try not to stress too much. I hope everything works out for you and your family.
does anyone know any good places where a teenager going on to the age 16 might be able to find a good paying job with flexible hours because i travel alot for sports but i could really use the money and im a really hard worker. thanks for the help!
I know that department stores are definitely hiring right now because of the holiday season. You could practically get any job at a department store/clothing store (Macy's, JCPenney's) because they need to help. Just make sure you let them know what hours you can work before you start!
I have liked this guy for a long time and sometimes he likes me but he has a girlfriend and he is in love with her! He knows I like him but he just messes with me and I really want to get over him but I can't because I'm in so deep. The worst part is that he won't tell me that he doesn't like me...no, the worst part is that everybody is trying to get him expelled...like my friends are...the reason for that involves sexual harassment...he has been expelled for things like that and he did a few things here...nothing too big but so many people want him gone...I really don't because I know that deep down he is really a good guy...please help me...I don't know how to get over him...I want to march up to him and tell him that he has to TELL me I'm only a friend to him...it just really hurts. I'm sick of games being played with my heart...Sorry it's so long...XOXO
Crushes are HARD. To be perfectly honest, you need to move on. This guy has a girlfriend, is accused of sexual harrassment, and plays games with you. He KNOWS you like him and he's playing on that and he's def not planning on telling you he doesn't like you, he loves the attention. This guy has pretty much everything! A girlfriend AND a girl on the side to flirt/mess with. YOU need to take one of those people away from him, and you know exactly who. You deserve to be appreciated, respected and loved. This guy does not show any of those things to you and will hurt you in the end. Your friends already don't like him and try to see their point of view. Think about all of his negative qualities and try to find other guys. In time, you'll realize what kind of person he really is and by then, your next boyfriend will have showed up!
Do guys dig chicks with glasses? I need to get glasses I think, and I'm already short, fat, and kind of ugly. Now I need glasses. Now will the boys think I am uglier than before?
Actually, glasses are HOT this year. I know so many people that wear glasses, even though their eyesight is perfect! It's a fashion statement now and it really does make you look studious & intelligent. I think boys will notice you even more now! Of all the guys I know, from ages 15-20, they LOVE when I wear my glasses so don't worry. Chances are, there gonna compliment you about it. If you don't make it a big deal, they won't either.
Okay, well, I used to have a boyfriend (let's call him Nick), but we broke up about a week ago. Now, we are just really good friends. But, a couple days ago, Nick invited me over his house to watch a movie with some other friends. During the movie, he started getting close to me, and he hugged me when I was crying (for the movie). Then, while he was hugging me, he touched my ass, and started kissing me. Finally, he told me to go into his bedroom. Knowing me, I was so gulliable, and I went. We started making out on the bed. Finally, he took out a condom, and we started having sex. During it, we stopped for a couple mintutes when I hesitated. Some how, we fell asleep, and the next morning, I woke up, but it wasn't him! It was his friend, Steve! I went to the other room to tell Nick what happened, but Steve acted like nothing happened, and denied it. What should I do?
This guy 'Nick' is an asshole. Full blown jerkoff and isn't your friend, please do not speak to him for your own sake. He took advantage of you in your vulnerability. I'm sorry about this, and I know what you're going through since a guy used me the same way before BUT you learn, become wiser and move on. Were you intoxicated at all? If you were and don't remember, you might have been raped by this other guy 'Steve'. You need to tell someone you trust and go to gynocologist asap. If you were clean and had no alcohol or drugs in your system, I'm sure you remember or not if you had sex with this guy Steve. If you're sure you didn't, then let the situation go, realize your mistake and be the bigger person.