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Had sex with a friend
Okay, well, I used to have a boyfriend (let's call him Nick), but we broke up about a week ago. Now, we are just really good friends. But, a couple days ago, Nick invited me over his house to watch a movie with some other friends. During the movie, he started getting close to me, and he hugged me when I was crying (for the movie). Then, while he was hugging me, he touched my ass, and started kissing me. Finally, he told me to go into his bedroom. Knowing me, I was so gulliable, and I went. We started making out on the bed. Finally, he took out a condom, and we started having sex. During it, we stopped for a couple mintutes when I hesitated. Some how, we fell asleep, and the next morning, I woke up, but it wasn't him! It was his friend, Steve! I went to the other room to tell Nick what happened, but Steve acted like nothing happened, and denied it. What should I do?
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You knowingly and willingly engaged in sexual contact with Nick, and he stopped when you asked him to, right? He didn't rape you. What concerns me also was that you fell asleep almost soon after and then woke up next to somebody different.
At some point Nick woke up and moved into the other room, and you did not wake up when this happened. How or why Steve joined you is the part the bothers me. You did not give Steve permission to join you, so he did violate a boundary there. But Nick, being that this was HIS house, allowed it to happen. This is not normal behavior from somebody that is supposed to care about you. This means that Nick is really NOT your friend, at all, and you cannot depend on him to act like one.
Unless you had a rape kit done, you can't say whether or not Steve did anything but sleep (and I don't mean have sex) with you. If you feel that Steve did something wrong, file a police report against him.
And for your own sake, sweetie, keep a large distance between you and the BOTH of them. Neither of them deserve your company at this point, and it will not benefit you to associate with them anymore.
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the person below me automatically assumed that Nick is an asshole. this could or could not be the case. seeing as how you were both hurt by the breakup, he was just as vulnerable as you. having sex with him without actually taking into account the situation was very dumb. but that doesn't mean just he was at fault. he didn't rape you, you willingly had sex. you are just as much responsible as he is.
i think this guy, Steve is the asshole. seeing as how you didn't agree to sleep in the same bed with him, and when you woke up he was laying down beside of you. if you were intoxicated or on drugs, you may have been raped. i doubt you were though. ask Nick about it, get both sides of the stories and if you can't figure it out, the best thing to do is drop it and not to put yourself in a position where that can happen again.
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This guy 'Nick' is an asshole. Full blown jerkoff and isn't your friend, please do not speak to him for your own sake. He took advantage of you in your vulnerability. I'm sorry about this, and I know what you're going through since a guy used me the same way before BUT you learn, become wiser and move on. Were you intoxicated at all? If you were and don't remember, you might have been raped by this other guy 'Steve'. You need to tell someone you trust and go to gynocologist asap. If you were clean and had no alcohol or drugs in your system, I'm sure you remember or not if you had sex with this guy Steve. If you're sure you didn't, then let the situation go, realize your mistake and be the bigger person.
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