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Ok well me and my boyfriend just started going out and he smokes but I dont. We havnt kissed (meaning made out) yet and I was just wondering if when I kiss him will it taste like cigarette? And also could I get any type of cancer just from him kissing me? Ill give a 5 to anyone who doesnt make fun! THANKS! x♥x (link)
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First of all, you can't get cancer just from kissing this guy, but if he smokes around you, the secondhand smoke could cause you to have some health problems. If he keeps his mouth clean, he shouldn't even taste like a cigarette when you kiss him. Unfortunlatly, some people don't seem to think this is necessary. I hope he's one that brushes and uses mouthwash regularly.
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Im 12 && Female.
My boy friend is 13. Me and Him have been dating for 2 years. We've had the best relationship ever. He doesnt get Jealous easily, I dont either. We buy gifts all the time, and Hang out alot. We "study" together. We've only gone as far as making out.. But a few days ago on the phone, he said he wanted to go a step further, but I told him, Im too young && not ready for that. He told me, if i wanted to be with him any longer I'd do it. Then i hung the phone up on him. i dont want to do it. Im not going to, But i feel so empty inside, Its crazy. I never heard him talk to me like that. We havent talked for 2 days. I dont know if i should call him, Im scard to call. (link)
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If you're not ready to go a step further with your boyfriend, you shouldn't feel like you're obligated to. Don't be afraid to call him. Just call him up and tell him that you aren't comfortable with what he wants you to do. If he really loves you, he'll understand that. And if he says something to the effect of "well a good girlfriend would..", or whatever, you'll know that you'll be better off without him. If you're not comfortable with the idea, DON'T DO IT. Don't let yourself feel obligated. Because you aren't.
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I have a friend that I feel expects lots out of me yet I get nothing in return. I had invited her over for new years eve to my appartment. She doesnt have hardly any friends and I sort of feel sorry for her.
Well I had invited her to spend the night over before I found out that not only do I have to work on New Years Eve until 6 pm, but I also have to work on New Years Day and my shift starts at 1pm.
Originally I was going to have her sleep over but after I found out I had to work the next day I changed my mind.
The other thing that sort of annoyed me was that after I told her I had to work on New Years Eve until 6, I was hoping she would say she could find her own way over, but she didnt. She doesnt have a car so I have to pick her up right after work. I'm going to be exchausted and had hoped she could get a ride with her mom or a cab.
I told her that she couldnt sleep over and she sounded mad. I then explained to her that I had to work the next day. She doesnt even have a job and would probably sleep in until noon if she wasnt forced out.
I feel bad for telling her she couldnt sleep over but she needs to be more understanding. She also said she couldnt pay for anything. I was thinking of ordering pizza and she said "I can't afford it". She never offers me money for rides or even brings anything like snacks over. I'm putting on the whole show.
I really think I'm going out of my way for her. I'm hosting this get together, after working my tail off have to pick her up AND drive her home, plus pay for everything? I'm sort of feeling used.
Do I have a right to be annoyed? SHould I say something? (link)
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Yes, you should say something to your friend about her mooching problem. She's taking advantage of your hospitality. Even though she doesn't have a job, she should try to be understanding about other people's work schedules. Honestly, I thing you should tell her that she needs to start kicking in a little bit, otherwise the rides and free entertainment are going to stop. I can understand a person with a job not being able to afford to be the hostess all the time, but she could at least bring over some snacks or a movie... She's just using you for your money and car. I would tell this girl to either start paying or stop expecting invitations.
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ok there is this guy that i like but he is like 2 years younger than me cause im 15 and he is 13 and i dont know if i should go out with him cause it would be kinda weird cause we go to separt schools and the age difference so should i give him a change anyway ?? (link)
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If the age difference bothers you a lot, you should maybe wait a little while before going out with this guy. In two or three years, that age differnece won't matter at all, but right now it would be sort of ackward for you to be dating someone that much younger than yourself. I can't tell you what you should do because I don't know you.. but if the age difference bothers you that much.. you shouldn't go out with him right now because it's going to keep coming up over and over again and there's nothing either of you can do about it at all.
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There is a guy named John I recently met who has really taken a liking to me. We've gone on a couple of dates, we get along well and I know that he'd probably be very good for me, but of course, I'm still hung up on my ex, Tom. What's more, Tom and I are still kind of seeing each other, too. We've decided to just go with the flow and seeing what happens, rather than just jump back into something or decide against it.
I made this clear to John on our first date so that I would not be maliciously leading him on. This didn't change John's stance at all and he still seems to want to pursue me. Even though I've told John everything, am I still leading him on by talking to him on the phone and texting him a lot? John and I haven't even so much as kissed but I still want to be careful about this. (link)
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You're not leading him on. He knows what your situation with your ex is and he probably knows that you could decide to start seeing your ex again at any time. If you enjoy spending time with John then you should continue to do so. There's nothing wrong with texting him or calling him as long as you don't say anything to him that would make him think that the status had changed between the two of you.
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I have pimples here and there. I have tried like almost everything. Proactive doesn’t work for me so don’t say that! Pulse half of you just say it because everyone else says it works because you just want a good rating. I need any home remedies or anything I can buy. I have oily skin btw if this helps! Plz what can I do?? (link)
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I apologize if this sounds REALLY ghetto.. because it probably is.... but I use rubbing alcohol to get rid of my pimples. It has the tendency to dry out your face, so I don't reccomend putting it on more than twice a day. This is one of the only things that works for my acne, and it's really cheap.
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I need community service hours but its hard to find places where I can get them. If there are any ideas... please list, it would make this a lot easier. Thanks (link)
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A few good places would be.. hospitals, nursing homes, the YMCA, and homeless shelters.
If you don't like the idea of working with old people, there are ususally other things for hospital volunteers to do. I was in a program at my local hospital where you had the choice of doing "behind the scenes" things, or being around the patients.. so you might wanna check some of that out too.
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What do you do when you've liked a guy for a really long time and are finally dating and you decide that you don't want to date anymore, but then after you break up with him, you like him still and now your best friend is going out with him?
Age: 13
Gender: Female (link)
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Well, you're probably not going to like my answer, but you need to try to get over this guy. He obviously didn't fulfill your needs when you were dating him.. which is why you aren't dating him now. Your friend is dating him now, and interfering with their relationship isn't going to get you anywhere. Just try to move on with your life.. any guy that dates your friend right after dating you isn't worth your time anyways.
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ok i know it seems weird soem girls just talk about how horribel it is to have small boobs but i feel insecure about myself becasue i have realy big boobs adn i am only 13 i have a size D cup and i here guys talk about girls who have big boobs liei soem of my friends and say how big boobs are hard to work with and that big boobs are good to a point i dont knwo if i shoudl try to reduce the size of my chest or keep it normal i need help thanxs so much and no stupid remarks pleezzz (link)
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The only reason you should get a breast reduction is if the size of your breasts are causing you physical problems. You *are* only 13, and you're still growing. Puberty is a really ackward and horrible thing for everyone, so I guess my advice would be to just live with it unless you're having problems with your health because of your breast size.
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I'm 27 years old and my ten year highschool reunion is coming up in the new year. Well I feel that by my age I should have acomplished more than I have.
For one thing, I'm still single and don't own my own home or have children. I thought by now that I'd be married, have either a successful career or be a housewife.
All I have is a ten year old car, a small appartment that I rent, a part time job that doesnt pay that good, and some nice furniture and lots of movies, cds, and large television and computer. Maybe I shouldnt complain, I guess things could be worse. Some people from my class are in jail, or had to move back in with there parents for financial reasons, or became single parents.
How can I feel better about myself so when I do go to the reunion I won't sound like such a loser? (link)
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I can't really tell you how to feel good about yourself.. that's for you to accomplish on your own. You should already know that you're not a loser, and that you managed to avoid a lot of the unsavory fates of your ex-classmates. Having a car, an apartment, and a job is A LOT better than being in jail or not being able to have the extra things you want because you're worried about paying for all the stuff that kids need... And you don't have to worry about that stuff.. because you're a free woman who can go out and have fun without having to ask permission from a husband or worrying about having to find a babysitter.
What I think you should do... is just take a look at all the good things you've got going in your life and not worry about the things you haven't done... There are tons of people who would LOVE to be you at that reunion.. especailly the ones that moved back in with their parents...
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i have this grandma SHE is a total neat freak and sometimes just plain wierd she will not let me watch pg13 movies even though im 15 so when my mom buys me one we have to keep it a secret. when im with her all day i juat cant wait to get away . i still love her though. and after christmas me my mo and her are going to tenneessee for 10 and when my mom drives she pretends there is a fack brake petal and pushes her foot down. now tell me how will i stand her for 10 days straight? i RATE HIGH!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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What you need to do is get a personal CD player, lots of batteries and something to keep your mind occupied while you're with your grandma. I have to deal with this kind of thing every summer, and keeping myself busy and out of the line of fire is what works best for me. Your grandma is from a different generation than you are, and sometimes that age gap is really evident... Things that are perfectly acceptable in today's world were just NOT done in your grandma's day. That's to be expected, but it sounds like your grandma is having a hard time dealing with it. Definatly take my advice about keeping yourself busy, though.. Check out some good books at the library, or pretend to do your homework or something.
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my nose is very sore and irritated from blowing it so much. what can i put on it to soothe it?
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This is going to sound really gross, but what I do is to put some Vaseline on my nose where the irritation is. I don't go out in public with my nose covered in Vaseline or anything, but doing this right before you go to bed will help it to be less chapped. I would reccomend using regular lotion during the day for it, but the Vaseline really helps me out; Especailly during the winter when the air's dry.
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I haven't eaten a real meal in 4 days. [small snacking occasionaly] I just haven't been hungry, I've been so busy with friends I really haven't even thought about food much. And to be honest I like not eating, I've thought about being anorexic for a week or two to lose a few pounds cause nothing ever happenes when I diet or exercise.
The thought of eating makes me feel sick, is this anorexia? Or is this just .. weird. lol thanks guyss xo. (link)
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It's not wierd at all to feel like this during the holidays when your mind is on many other things. It's perfectly okay not to feel like sitting down to a big meal all the time. What you're experiening is NOT anorexia, and although I've done this myself.... I would have to advise you against starving yourself to lose wieght. It's not healthy and can do a great deal of damage to your body in the long run. As long as you eat and drink SOMETHING, you should be fine. Even if it's just something small a few times a day, just make sure you're taking in some food.
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quick and easy...
is there a way to send a comment to everyone on your myspace at the same time if it is the same msg.?? (link)
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What you want to do is post a bulliten. Everyone who is on your friends list will be able to see it and read it this way. It'll save you a lot of time too. I'm sure people have already answered this question, but I just wanted to do the same.
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Thank you for your advice! Im so glad you replyed! Only one last thing, the thing that is REALLY bothering me.... how do i deal with him saying he doesnt wanna live wenever i wanna break up with him? My friends have told me dont fall into this he is just saying that so you'll take him back.... Are they right?! Because that is the only reason im running back.... I duno what i would do if he ever hurt himself, because of me.... thats why i am so scared and weak! (link)
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Your friends are right on this one, I think. He's only telling you that he can't live without you because he knows that saying this will make you stay with him. Whatever you do, don't fall into the trap again. Just tell your boyfriend that he'll have to find some way to live because you're not going to be a part of his life anymore.
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I have been dating my boyfriend now for 1year, and our relashionship is just getting worse. First of all, all we do is fight and they aren't just small fights they are HUGE! We always end up breaking up. Second of all, he's VERY controlling picks my friends, checks my phone bills and is VERY jealous! Here is the problem... I have tryed to break up with him, but when i do he gets all emotional and says he doesn't wanna live, that i am the only thing he has ever loved! And that scares me so i always just go right back!Im 21 im not happy at all and wanna move on and get a real life! Can you HELP ME PLEASE?! (link)
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What you need to do is detach yourself from this guy completely. Even if that means changing your phone numbers and the locks on your doors. Just pack up and leave, seriously. Because if he's that controling when you guys are just dating, imagine how he'll be if you were to get married. This sounds like it has the potential for abuse. If you really want this guy to leave and he won't take no for an answer, don't hesitate to get the police involved. A restraining order is a lot less hassle than dealing with a guy like this. If he's checking your phone bills, there's something wrong with that.
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how can i buy or get makeup with out my parents knowing that i have it? (link)
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You can buy it at the store when they're not with you, or send your friends to the store to get some for you. Getting the makeup is only half the battle, though. You can sneak it into the house with no problem at all, wearing it without your parents noticing it the real problem. I wouldn't reccomend trying it, though. You'll probably get in trouble.
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I have gym and I am 13 and dont know who to ask, anyway gym class you know how girls go through theire monthly surprise and I dont know what to do! and i cant miss a class or I have to make it up and do like 40 laps alone! (link)
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What I reccomend doing is taking extra feminine products to school with you (pads, tampons, panty liners.. whatever) and changing them before and after gym, that way you don't get leaks or anything else that could embarass you in front of your class. Unless you're in a swimming class, there's really no excuse to miss class. And even if it is swimming, just use a tampon for class.
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okay im a f/16 and i shave down there. is that weird if im not having sex at all and dont plan on it any time soon? does anyone else? (link)
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No, there's nothing wierd about that at all. It's more of a comfort issue than a sexual issue. You don't need to shave down there to have sex, obviously, and just because you do shave there doesn't mean that you need to plan on not being a virgin.
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I need some dressy pants for chorus and the concert is coming up in about 2 weeks. Where can I get some dressy pants cheap? I know Forever 21 has some but where else? (link)
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You should try looking at places like Target or JcPenny for dress pants. They ususally have a good selection of cute dressy pants that aren't old lady-ish or really expensive.
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