HEY EVERYONE, I'M KAT!
and i'm here to help :)
i love to give advice, and i've been told that i give some good advice, aswell.
i'm very dedicated once i get involved in someone's problems, and i'll probably make sure you're okay, and that my answer has been sufficent.
i don't 'sugarcoat' my answers, as just about every columnist on this site complains about, but i do present everything in a way that people will be able to handle, and relate to in their situation.
i could honestly care less about ratings, i just wanna help some people out. in my problems, current and past, i seek help through my friends, who i adore.
i'm a huge my chemical romance fan, and i know pretty much everything about them; so if you have a question on them, i'm here. go for it. ;)
i'm unique in my own way, so ask me for something, and i'll give you a fairly different answer.
XOXO
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What size (in inches) are the average wallet size pictures? (link)
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They are normally about 3-5 inches.
Hope this has helped. =D
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ok, i need help before 8:30, people. if you can help me, God bless you! My mom rented out a dress that's humoungous! and i have to wear it tonight to a party at my school whether i like it or not because she said so. But, i really don't wanna wear that! please give me ideas. talking to her won't help because i already tried that. please let me know. thank you (link)
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If you can, tie it up with pins, ect so it will look more fitted. YOu most likely wont be able to get out of wearing it, but I'd say you should acessorize. Maybe wear your/a friends jacket that matches over it, so it wont look as big, and you'll just be able to see the skirt part.
Good luck.
kat
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Thank you for your advice on my last question: but- how could drinking make me gain more weight? (link)
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Drinking dosen't usually make you gain weight all around, it usually will form a 'beer belly' first, though. It's mainly because of the MAJOR calories that are in the drink. Also, it's a very filling drink.
Just for future refference, too, here are some other things drinking causes if you drink too much..
*May stunt your growth if you're still growing
*Negative effects to the liver and brain/kills brain cells
*Causes heavy sweating
*Addiction (of course)
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k im 13/f
people say im really skinny and they dont know i have a fat stomach because i hide it alot is there anyway to make it flat like really really flat without crunches or exercisin is there any cream or sumthin to make it flatter i wanna look good in a bikini (link)
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Well, nothing will really work THAT well without the help of exercise, but i'd reccomend using a heat belt. It makes you sweat, so you can sweat off fats on your stomach. ((btw, a heat belt is a belt you wrap around your stomach and it makes you sweat))
Good luck, and really try considering exercise!!
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http://www.spirithalloween.com/index.cfm/fuseaction/products.detail/categoryID/307855fb-9545-47a7-a98e-6ef7a52aacbd/productID/482db256-b160-4eef-89ea-b20d450ab3a0/
is this slutty or is it cute?!
i need help! (link)
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It's not exactly meant to be a 'cute' costume, explaining part of the title, 'sexy'. Haha, but it all depends how you ACT in the costume. Don't walk around hanging all over guys, or trying to show yourself off in a short skirt,andyou'll come off as just wearing a pretty CUTE costume. =D
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well,im really small (4"11) im 13,and i think i'd be cool if i was a cheerleader,because i can help out the team and stuff.but im scared at what people will think,its not that im punk or goth or anything like that,its just that stupid cheerleader label. i HATE it. bleh. but i still wanna try out..im kinda afaid that my friends wont accept me,but i thnk cheerleading will help me meet new people...and have more fun + give me more to do,so,how can i be confident about this? also do you need prior knowledge for this stuff,its only 8th grade...or is it? (link)
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Believe me, cheerleaders in most places don't give off that vibe anymore. Actually, alot of the cheerleaders I've met (I'm on a team) weren't stupid, or strictly preps. Explain to your friends what you explained on here, and they'll realize that this is important for you to make new friends, and do new things.
You shouldn't need much prior knowledge. You may want to work on toe touches, or your gymnastics. Make sure your motions are really tight when you learn cheers to try out with. Also, make sure you're really spirited, Get out there!
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19/F
For Halloween I'm going dressed up as Tom Cruise in Risky Business... you know, the scene where he's dancing in his undies and a dress shirt?
Well, my question is this... do I wear the costume with black fishnets underneath, or beige pantyhose? I think the fishnets might make it a little less slutty (I'm scared people will think I'm really just wearing undies)
This is tomorrow, so I need opinions! (link)
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I'd wear the stockings.. the fishnets may give off a bad idea.
Good luck.
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I can't think of an idea for an anniversary present. I am 14 and a freshman in High School. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year now, but I don't want any gifts that are too serious or lovey-dovey, but I still want something nice. Any ideas? (link)
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WEll, I'd do two things. Try making something homemade, and then something an all around guy would like.
Like.. try something sentimental, like a card, or send him candy throughout the day ((just when he thinks the suprise is over, he'll get more, hah)) or maybe a GIGANTIC card with pictures of you guys together.
Then maybe get a video game or something like that?? He should really like that, or something involving sports, ect.
Good luck!
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okay,
big mistake, i know.
im pregnant, i have been for 72 days.
i took extacey.
just once.
is my unborn baby going to die?
i didnt know that could happen, my friends told me it could, and if so is there anyway to save it?
thanks (link)
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It all depends on the dosage/development of your baby. It could come out with birth defects, which could lead to problems when its older, but if you get yourself checked out soon, he/she should be okay..
I don't think the baby will die, but like the others said, there may be some consequences.
Try not to smoke, drink, do drugs, too much action, ect, and everything should be okay.
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Everyone tells me that I'm not fat but I feel like I am...I'm between 5'2 and 5'3 and I'm 110 pounds. Is this overweight? My mom says that I'm really not fat and that I see a distorted image of myself. But does anyone know of average weights for someone of my height? Thanks, all answers are appreciated! (link)
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You're completly average!! Maybe even a little under??
Most girls your height vary from about 105-120, so you're at a great weight.
=D
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does anyone know how to "lose weight" on your face? i really want my face to be sort of angular, so there's no baby fat/whatever fat on it. when i smile my cheeks go really wide and i wanna get rid of that. any ideas i'd appreciate it. thanks (link)
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Do any healthy exercises, and soon you should see some results, because the body consumes it's own fat from all areas, not just the body.
Also, you may take a bit longer, but everyone usually loses their baby fat at one point, so no worries.
=D
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Hey I have a macintosh and my boyfriend sent us a picture of us over aim. The problem is that when I drag it to the desktop, it is a picture clipping, and I was wondering how to make it into a jpg pic because I want to photoshop it.
Thank You. (link)
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I'd try copying it, and then pasting it onto a jpg file. Then you should be able to edit it under the correct file.
Hope this works!! =)
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I'm not a novice when it comes to the topic of suicide, but I am now facing a situation and I have no idea what to do. Over the past year, my friend(Hannah), and I have been writing letters to each other, even though we see each other every day. Well, I've found out things about her, and she about me, through these letters. She's really depressed and wants to kill herself. I've told her that if she wants to find someone who can help, I'll help her find someone. But, a few days ago, she told me that she didn't care whether or not she lived or died, so she wouldn't be helping me find someone to help her. So now, I feel as if her life is in my hands. My problem is, I don't know who to talk to. Hannah swears that she won't be mad at me if I tell someone, I just don't know who to tell. HELP ME, PLEASE! (link)
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Wow. Obviously this is a cry for help. It is normally wrong when people say this, but when she dosen't care if she gets help, it most likely means she WANTS help. Go to any adult with power to help her. A school counseler, teacher, parent, anything! There also should be hot lines in your area, check under crisis in a local phone book.
Good luck.. and make sure you get help ASAP!
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Okay. So Christmas is in 2 months.. and my boyfriends birthday is in 3.. and i have NO clue what to get him!! I would realy like some ideas.. We're both 15 and hes turning 16 in3 months.. thx a lot ..
chow. (link)
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I'd give him two gifts wrapped in one.. Sort of combining the last two answers. GEt your guy something like a video game (cheaper, lol) or maybe even something to add to a car he might be getting, since he's almost old enough to be driving. Also, love notes are good, and maybe put together a collage of pictures of you two together.
Good luck.
btw, it's ciao. =)
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ive been having the same screen name for atleast these past 3 or 4 years. someone has been signing onto my sn lately, and it signs me off! ive been trying to change my password. but when the security question "your pets name" comes up, i get the wrong answer. because i dont have a pet! and ive never had a pet! and plus i must've made up that answer like 4 years ago! i dont know what to do. but i do think its my boyfriend signing on.. me and him are like almost on break up mode! and he got mad cause i accused him! does anyone know how i can change my pw! (link)
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Sorry to say, but it might just be better to get a new screen name. It would be very difficult to change it now, and if someone else has your screen name's password, they could change your password at any point if they know the answer to the security question.
Make sure you do some research on your boyfriend signing on. Ask a friend to let you sign on, and wait until you see your screen name go on. Check the profile, because it might say where the person is coming from if they've done anything with it. Also, check if he's on when your screen name's on. If not, it may give away that he's the one doing it.
Hope this has helped at all, and good luck!
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I'm taking a poll and I'm curious what people think the most spoken language is. Don't search the site or look at other people's answers and see. I want what YOU think. (link)
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Um.. I'd guess Chinese, or something near that, since that area's so large.
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okay ... well i have like almost curly hair... i mean its pretty much curly.. i mean i would love to just like let it air dry and wear it to school like curly.. but there is 1 bad thing POOF!!! my hair is soooo poofy i mean its horribley bad..it poofs out like right when it drys. is there anythign i can to do my hair not to make it have little to no poof... i mean and i wanna make sure it works so if u have experience with it that'll be great (link)
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I'd say to put some gel in it. It will make your hair heavier, so it's not as poofy, and you'll be able to tame and style it.
Hope this has helped.
Kat
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19/F
This weekend I'm going to be meeting my boyfriend's parents. We've been dating for a month, and I'm going to be staying there for the entire weekend!
Does anyone have any tips? I really want to make a good impression. (link)
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Just don't worry. They're only parents, and they wont think your a bad person for even a few bad qualities. But some things you can do while still being yourself.. smile, help out, be kind. Those are major.
Just don't worry, and I hope everything goes great!!
Kat
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I’m 14, and I’ve been having some serious issues lately.
First of all, ever since the beginning of September, I’ve been feeling drained and empty, and all of my energy has disappeared. The only way I can move is to force myself to move; my limbs feel numb, like they’re just filled with water. My period hasn’t come for 2 months. All of my emotions are gone. I never feel happy, I only feel relieved. I don’t feel any other emotion except for sadness and extreme loneliness. Whatmore, my sense of compassion is gone, and I can’t seem to know the difference between right and wrong. I hear about brutal murders, and I don’t feel that they are bad. I remember when I was taught the importance of being a good person, but I don’t see why I should anymore.
I can feel the evil taking over me, and there’s still a little bit left in me to fight against it. My mind is engaged in fighting the evil 24/7, and because of it, I can’t eat, sleep, or do work. If I relax, I know that the evil will completely take over my mind, and I will become a criminal/human monster. Whenever I hear of a murder, I picture myself as the murderer, but the good side of me fights the evil.
Sometimes, I have an urge to do very evil things. But that little bit of sanity holds me back. I have never done anything remotely evil, though.
I know that if I let the evil consume me completely, then my life will be ruined. I will turn into a criminal or something equal to that, and everything that I’ve worked for for the first 14 years of my life will be gone.
I am not a Christian, but I believe in evil. The only thing I want right now is to know the importance of being a good person…….I don’t see why I should be a moral person right now, but I know that if I become a good person like I was before, I will definitely live a better life and be a happier person.
Seriously, I’m not an emo or anything. But how can I protect myself from the evil and become a good person again? I don’t mean by doing good things….I already do good things for people to mask my evil, but I still have evil in my brain. How can I get rid of the evil and become a genuinely good, compassionate person again? How can I re-learn compassion? I will do anything to get back to the way I was before.
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Try to get some good friends to talk to. This will definately get your mind off bad things, and may help you to be around other good people. Also, it will give you someone to be compassionate FOR.
This wasn't much, but I hope it helps in some way, and I hope everything works out..
Kat
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I was always against abortion. I am 16 years old and pregnant. I have a boyfriend for 5 monghs now and we never had sex. The problem is that on a night out with a friend of mine "girl" I got raped. Somebody must have sleeped me that ruffy cause I do not remember anything and woke up the next day feeling like my head is going to explode. That happen over 45 days ago.
My parents now, we told them its my boyfriends and it is my fault cuase my parents have been through a lot and I really dont want them to know. I consider myself mature enough to battle with my own problems and mistakes. I consider it to be my fault since I was not carefull enough. Plus, them knowing would change a lot.
I definately do not want to keep that baby, I definately am not ready to become a mother especially on such an occasion and already too many people know. My parents want me to keep it even though we are not wealthy at all.
I know that after 3 months you can now longer have an abortion so I am running out of time. How do I convince my parents to let me do it? And...if they dont allow me to, I ll do it myself. What could change then? How will I be able to make them, accept my choice. My boyfriend has been really understanding with the hole situation and really helpfull. He is the one willing to give the money for such an...act.
I am ready to do anything it takes not to have that baby, If I have to punch myself in the stomach, I ll do it.
People from my church also know. They will never take me back after such a thing. My boyfriend sais he could move far away with me were we will work and go to school at the same time. (link)
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You may not like this answer, and I may not be paying attention to the major question, but if your boyfriend's willing to spend money to move away and all, you should be okay to take care of the baby.. This is a very difficult situation... and it all depends on your morals, but do not, I repeat do NOT try punching yourself or anything like that. Also, if a bunch of people already know, you shouldn't worry about your reputation i bring pregnant...
All I'm saying, is to think this over..
Kat
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