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Q: i have really wanted a trampoline for a long time and my dad said we will get it for you but i would really like to see you raise the money on your own instead of us just handing it to you.. so he told me to ask some of the neighbors if i can do anything to earn some money! so if anyone has any other siguestions on how to make money, please help! **i WILL RATE 5'S!

Baby sitting
Mothers helper
Pet sitting
Dog Walking
Lawn Mower
Lawn care-taker
House sitter (just take mail and water plants or something)
Plant waterer.
Helper of elderly
Car wash
Lemonade stand
Garage sale

And theres probably a lot more.

Q: Is giving a handjob to your boyfriend considered a sin?

Haha I have to say yes. Its premaritual sexual contact. Its a sin. But please dont go by wether somethings a sin or not, judge it when you are ready or not.

Q: okay so i started taking antibiotics last saturday and finished taking them yesterday. i know that you're not supposed to drink alcohol when taking antibiotics but do you think it's safe to drink tonight? remember: i finished taking them yesterday.

and i'm of legal drinking age so don't lecture me about that.

Well i think that you arent supposed to drink within 24 hours of taking a drug. Right? I could be wrong. But check in with your doctor.

Q: oh my gosh, you guys..I thought I was doing so great! 2 months ago, I measured my waist, and it was 77 cm all around, and since then I've counted every single calorie, worked out 30 minutes every day, both running and boxing and even some weight lifting, and also swimming, I made sure to keep it very variated, and today it's been exactly 2 months, and I looked to see my progress and it was 82 cm all arounf my waist! I've been crying for an hour now, how is that possible? How could I have GAINED weight, when I've done everything to LOSE weight?
I promise you I havn't cheated with what I've been eating, or my excersize..that's why I was so surprised, I thought I was doing so well!!

Help me please!!

Aw sweetie.. (tehe) dont be crying over weight. Its not worth it. Anyway.. you could be gaining muscle. Muscle is denser than fat.

Or you could be doing things wrong. You know to lose weight you have to burn more calories than you take in, right? Have you skipped out on soda? That is a big reason for obesity.

And you could have measured wrong! Good luck with losing weight! (But remember, beauty and happiness isnt in the size you wear, or how silky your hair is, or if you have perfect skin, its on the inside.)

Q: Ok well, my dad got offered this job in Philadephia and he took it. And we were all excited me expecially because i really want to move but i think my mom is selffish because, she doesn't want to quit her job she doesn't even like to move up there with him and therefore i can't go because we can't afford it. What should I do? Is she really acting selffish?

Your moms not being selfish. She could be afraid to move.. or she just could not want to leave her job. Your mom might really like her job and get good money from it with a certain schedule that she'd never find anywhere else. Or she could just love her job and the people she works with and doesnt want to be torn away from it. She might feel that it should be part of her decision too, to move.

Q: Do u think its to soon to give my number? I had met this guy at a party and I was attracted to him, I talked to him on myspace for the first time and I invited him to a party and gave him directions.......I also gave him my number incase he needs directions.

No thats good. You met him before. And you like him. Its fine. Good luck at your party.. with him!

Q: Me and this guy were kind of dating then he stopped liking me cause he met some other girl. Now, he is coming back to me and wants to have what we had before. I don't like him, the only reason why I would get back with him was to kiss him cause I have never been kissed before. What should I do? Go along with it and get kissed... how could I do that? Or just totally forget about him?

Getting kissed is not worth teasing him.. and possibly breaking his heart.. or him breaking yours. Dont use a guy for your first kiss. When you have your first kiss, you want it to be with someone meaningful.

Q: Loong so i'll give you 5 for answering..

I believe in God and Jesus and all that other stuff.. I'm a Christian and go to church religously [no pun intended lol]

well i've been reading those Left Behind books and it got me thinking.. There is a priest in there who was left behind in the rapture because he believed in God but it's almost as if he was ashamed of it kinda and didn't want people to know. And i feel like im the same way.

I mean people know i go to church and believe in God but i do alot of bad things [nothing sexual] and now im scared that when the rapture comes i'll be left behind.

So can someone tell me what i can do to be a better Christian and how to get these thoughts out of my head?

I'm sorry if this confused you :[

I dont believe in God or Jesus. But I was Catholic for 12 years. I wouldnt worry about anything.. but follow the 10 commandments.

Q: I have little red bumps on my legs, I'm pretty sure they're from shaving. Is it because I shave up my leg instead of down?

And how could you get these to go away?

Most people shave up. Thats what your supposed to do. Its razor burn. Try using more soap or shaving cream. Use lotion after shaving.

Q: i need a list of designers for a project. so far i have: dior,prada, louis vuitton, miu miu, versace, and fendi. anymore that you guys like? thanks

I love fashion, so I'm big on this.
Anna Sui
Max Azria (BCBG)
Michael Kors
Dolce and Gabbana
Calvin Klein.
Gucci
Cloé
Christian Dior
Dianne von Furstenberg
DKNY
Dsquared
Valentino
Stella McCartney
Ralph Lauren
Oscar de la Renta
Jill Stuart
Donna Karen
Kenneth Cole
Marc Jacobs
Moschino

Theres a lot more, too!

Q: Hello, I just turned 24 years old 2 weeks ago. You think I would be happy but I am not. I have never had a boyfriend in my life. I have never recieved and gifts from a man or even been out on a date. I have never even kissed a man. i remember when i was 16 my friends would laugh and me because i had not done ane anything yet. I thought i was a loser back then but now that I am 24 I don't think i am in the loser catergory any more. could it be that no one pays attention to me because I am over weight? (size 16) If that is true then why do I see girls who are way bigger than me with a boyfriends. Is there something wrong with me? Or am I just a loser?

Guys can be judgemental sometimes. (So can girls, though.) It could have something to do with your weight. You just have to try harder then. Find a guy you think is really nice (not just hott) and flirt with him and ask him out. Or you could ask your friends to hook you up! Online dating could work, but make sure you wait a while for him to earn your trust and then meet him in a public area. If you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!

Q: Heyya ! :)
I was just wondering, how many minutes a day would I have to jump rope to lose weight? Consider that I'm also eating healthy and walking 30 minutes to school, and 30 minutes back. How much would I lose in a week? month? year? if I kept going with this excersize/diet.

To lose weight.. you have to see how many calories you burn compared to how many calories you eat. There is no way to tell how much weight you will lose.

Q: When I saw both jessica simpson and kelly clarkson had proactive testimonals I was thinking about gettin proactive:S. I know it's expensive but that's not a problem.

My face doesn't break out badly...only my forehead gets 4-6 pimples and my cheek might get one or two. It's not a big problem and I never broke out really bad...

I was wondering if I shuld buy proactive? or should I get a next 3 step program (can u give me a name of it 2).

PS- I've tried loreal pure zone and yeah it works but I don't like the cleanser (wid micr beads) because the beads are tiny! So i switched it with neutrogena invigorating scrub...so please help me! I was thinking 4 2mrw evening?

Proactive works only sometimes. You can try it. It didnt work THAT well for me. It doesnt work at all for some people. I would try it, but if it doesnt work in 2-3 weeks.. ditch it.

Q: alright kids, well my teeth are horribly yellow, like, becoming greenish on the top of them. i know this sounds totally sick but what can i do to change this. don't say go to a dentist because my parents keeps forgetting. so what are some things i can do on my own for this?

Uh oh! Sounds bad. Do you brush your teeth? If not, start! And do it at least 3 times a day for your case. Definetly bug your parents about going to the dentist. There is this thing called Green Stain. But its very uncommon and more found in young children.. like toddlers. It may be from exposure to metals.

Definetly get to a dentist.

Q: I have had my period since two mondays ago. Right now it's monday, may 1st. I have had my period for two weeks. At the end of the first week it started to get light but then the next week started and it got normal again, and on one day it leeked through my jeans. I still have it now. I am very worried that this is not normal. Do I need to see a doctor? The first time I got my period was in January, so is it just irregular? Please help me !

I'm looking on the internet. It could be dysfunctional uterine bleeding. You should see a doctor. There could be different causes for this... some are bad. but a doctor could tell you otherwise. I would definetly go to the doctor just to check. Better safe than sorry, they always say.

Q: I`ve been abused by my dad sense I was little. He hasnt done it as much but he has been doing it still. Last night he hit my really bad with his fists nd choked me. I love my family so much but it hurts me so bad that I get hurt and I feel like im not worth anything. What should I do? I dont like living here but I wouldnt like living anywhere else! what should i do? My dad has been reported to the department of human services but they never do anything. Im 15 by the way. Im just tired of being hit and left with bruises and the emotional pain!

what should i do?

I realize that you love your family and you want to stay with them, but if you are beng abused.. you need to get out of there! You do not deserve to get hurt. No one does. So talk to an adult you trust.. or call a hotline like this one 1-800-422-4453

Just please get help. You cant live with your dad.

Q: I really liked this guy. for 9 months) I was at a school dance two days ago, and I really wanted to talk to him, but I was too scared and I'm too shy. I actually think he likes me a little more than a friend, but what can I do to open up and not be so shy? I'm 13 female/

Same age. Similar problems. Shyness is hard to deal with, because no matter what anyone else says to you.. its hard to get rid of. Just find your comfort zone. Feel hott in that one shirt? Wear it one day and talk to him. Think something you did over the weekend is funny, and would like to share it? Share it with him in a class or in the hallways. Just casually ask him what he did the previous weekend. Take your time with warming up if you need it. If he likes you.. he can wait.

Q: Hey so I am thinking about ordering some shirts from forever21.com & I was wondering if they really are as long as they appear in the picutres, because yeah.. theres a dress code at my schoool.

I love forever 21! Some of their shirts are long.. but probably not long enough to trigger a dress code vialation. Just make sure it doesnt say "tunic" Those are pretty long. And if you get it and its longer thatn you would want it to be.. then you can return it. Or better yet.. give it to charity. Or wear it on the weekends.

Q: I'm worried that my daughter, who's just turned 16, is talking to strangers online. Against my better judgement, I accessed her computer while she was at school. I didn't find much other than a short instant message from a male with whom she was just speaking to like she would a close friend but some of the things he said were fishy and he had asked her a lot of strange, personal questions in the conversation (like who she lived with, what her friends' names were, what the name of her school was, etc).

What are signs that I can look for that my daughter is in trouble? If I continue to access her computer and find more instant messages, what can I look for to determine for sure that this person means my daughter harm?

Thank you.

I am 13. I sometimes talk to strangers online. I know not to tell them any personal information such as where I live, what I look like (well not in too much detail), my phone number, my cup size, my full name, ect. Tell your daughter about these precautions and tell her the dangers if she doesnt take them. Make sure she understands that you just want her to be safe and protected. She will be fine.

About the guy... there are many creeps online... but as long as your daughter doesnt tell her information she shouldn't, then she really should be fine. Tell her that if she feels that someone is going to far, to block him/her.

About accessing her internet.. bad idea. Privacy is really important for a girl, and she could get very angry about your snooping- even if its for her good. Ask her before you do it, for your sake.

Q: Okay so this is my first prom.. ima Sophomore and my boyfriend is a senior so hes taking me. I want this to be special for him since its his senior prom but he graduated early so he really doesnt hang out with anybody but me now from our highschool anyway this night is basically gonna be all about us and he always calls me his beautiful princess and personally i dont think im anything close to the looks that he deserves so I really just wanna look like the beautiful princess he deserves. I never really dress up that much for him nor make sure my hairs done perfect along with makeup. my dress is fusha/magenta pink and my accent color is gold. theres gold beading on the dress so i got gold wedges for shoes and a gold clutch/bag. I know for my hair i want it in a updo and romantic and elegant my hair is a dirty blonde and curly its pretty thick also and right at my colar bone. how do u think i should do it? ive looked at pretty much all the websites i could find searching google and i couldnt find one that i reallly like. and for my makeup i know i want a smokey eye but with purples. because my eyes are green purple makes them pop. but will that be too much class with my dress? let me know. i rate high for good helpful answers

thanks

Aw. I am sure you are beautiful. First off.. if your dress has spaghetti straps, wear a pony tail. If the neckline is a sweetheart, wear a low bun. Its its halter wear a half updo. If its strapless, wear your hair down.

Pony- Try waves framing face and in back, or a pomperdour (http://cdn-channels.netscape.com/cp/fte/boldhairstyle/i/boldhairstyle135.jpg but less dramatic) Try volumizing your hair to make it stand out. (Pantene Pro-V Volumizing hair spray)
Low bun- Try having a pony tail with hair in front framing face a bit. curl hair in pony with about a 1in barrel and pin it as a bun. Then pin back hair framing face.
Half up- Waves are the way to go. Try the volumizing spray to get volume in the up part.
Down- Soft waves are good! Try volumizing moose, Finesse Beautiful Volume

(Seventeen mag.)

Makeup.. Purples may clash with dress. Make them a pinkish purple or really dark purple.

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