Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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so there's this guy named R, and i had the biggest crush on R last year and i had 5th period with him. He's really nice ans sweet and i loved talking to him.I think he liked me, but then i wasn't sure b/c he's a really flirt. Then school ended and then it started again. So now me and R don't havge any classes together, but i used to see him in the hallways all the time, and i would say hi or smile. Then i did'nt see him for a while. Like 6 months. Then i started seeing him again starting this semester, and i know he sees me. My friend says to say hi, but i'm not sure b/c i think it'll be weird if i say hi all of a sudden after 6 months. And on thursday an amazing thing happened. Okayy so i see him rite and my friend was like omgg look it's him, and i was just looking down and smiling, and stuff saying no. Then she was like omg he passed, and i aws like whatttt and i turned around and we made eye contact, and he was smilling, but i think he was smiling before i even turned around. Then i was acting like i was looking for someone else. Then i walked away pretty fast. It was soo baddd..lol...
but what i really want to know is that a good sign??
and if i should say hi to him. (link)
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Dah.. of course you should say hi!!! How silly of you not to!
Honey it sounds like to me that you've got him in the bag. If you just let it slide he'll think you've got no interest and obviously thats not what you want.
Say hi, god.. have a conversation with him!
goodluck and I hope everything works out for the best :)
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okay. long story. okay. so yesterday "thursday" some kids dared me and this girl to kiss. so we did. and so someone convinced me to tell my b/f. and so did. and he got really pissed. but he "said" he got over it and he wasn't pissed anymore [[yesterday]] so today, i went to this thing after school. and so i got these 3 guys to call him and say "dude, your girlfriend is a really good kisser" and hang up. but i NEVER made out with any of them. and he got really mad. and he left a comment on my profile. it says. "I will never trust you again.You broke my heart.I trusted you with everything now that is shattered.you meant everything to me now you mean nothing i will remember you but hope i will forget.you were my life,but thats now over. I HATE YOU" i don't know if he means it. and i don't feel bad for getting them to call him. but i do feel a little guilty because i hurt him. but i don't really care about him. or i don't want to. because everyone i've ever dared to love has gone. and. i just need to know if i should care. i mean. we've been through alot. and i do think i love him. but i don't want to. i mean. i care. but. what should i do. i don't wanna loose him. i really don't. i can't afford to. i mean. he's been there for me through all my bullshit. and i think i hurt him really badly. and. i really just need to know what to do.
i don't know what to do without him. and i guess i do care. but i dont want to [[sorry for the repitition]] please help. everytime me and him have gotten in a huge fight i started cutting again or i've attempted suicide. i really need him in my life. i can't lose him. (link)
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You've hurt him really bad, there was absoltely no need to at all!
How would you feel if some girl rang you up and said yeah hey, your boyfriend is the best sex i've ever had or he kisses just fine or something like that??
What you did was cruel and degrating and I do not agree with it.
If I was your boyfriend I would never take you back! I'm sorry but you've obviosuly lost the best thing thats happened to you. He is going to find it hard to trust girls again all because of you.
Your after advice... stick to yourself for a while so you don't hurt anyone else until you mature! Just leave him alone now. Don't mess with his head!
That's all I have to say! I hope you've learnt a lesson.
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i want to get a tattoo of a quote across my foot, something like carpe diem... live laugh love. but i think those are overused, anyone have any ideas? (link)
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Why don't you get a tattoo that represents you? Something that can only mean something to you and no one else?
My friend is a singer and she's got a music symbol on her foot at it looks super hot!
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alright, this question really doesnt involve all you advicenator memebers to think that much, haha. All i want from you guys is to tell me about a relationship you had (guys and girls) that lasted for about over a year but then broke up. Why did you? Wasnt it hard because it was over a year? How is it now? What did you do after the break up? Im 15, male, and sophomore in highschool with a girlfriend for about a year. Any people with a long term relationship around my age would be perfect, thanks!...again, just a brief summary of what happend to your long term relationship, thanks!!!:-) (link)
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Hey, i'm 19 almost 20 and I had a relationship that laster for about 12months when I was 16.
It wasn't hard for me because I broke up with my boyfriend and he was the one who was still 'in love' so he found it very hard.
I figured that I was young and there were a lot more things out there for me to be experiencing. Also he was violent towards me!
I was single for a year and had the time of my life i had so much fun, now i'm in a relationship with my current boyfriend which we have been together for almost 3 years now.
I am having more fun now with my man then I have ever had!
I just think that everything happens for a reason! What's happened in my past has made me who I am today! That includes the people who have been in my life!
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okay. my school has alot of guys that think of sex ALL DAY LONG. every school does. well i was wondering why arent they scared? why am i so scared? i want to have sex but way to scared of anything to happen. does it hurt? need help with this! (link)
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To be honest, I think that most guys are scared too and they talk and think about it all day long because they don't know how to deal with the fact that their 'at that age' and it can happen any time and they don't know what to do.
They don't want their girl to think their stupid and don't know what happens so they act like they know all about it like they've done it a hundred times.
Or some guys just don't care... there are a lot of those and I hate them.
I wont lie, sex does hurt for the first time. But it all depends. It hurt me but it wasn't extremely painful like other girls have experienced.
Some girls are completely different to others. If you have lots of foreplay first to make sure you are 'wet' it wont hurt as bad because your body will be naturally lubricated.
You need to make sure that you trust the person you are having sex with and always remember to be safe... use protection! Remember that condoms don't just protect you from pregnancy but also for Sexually Transmitted Diseases. I work in a Dr's Clinic and it's definitely not a nice thing to have! It can get pretty nasty.
So just take your time in having sex, don't make any bad choices because it's something you'll remember forever.
Good luck and be safe :) Have fun!
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well yes thank so much for your help really i appreaciate that,but dont you think if we dont have enough money the reletionship between men and his wife will not be so hard ,even this couple was married after being in love ?? (link)
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I don't think that money has anything to do with love. Money doesn't make a relationship. People love each other for who they are. Not because of how much they have in their bank accounts.
Yes, money is important and no one can live without it. But that doesn't mean that two people can't love each other if they don't have any money.
Of course there will be times when the money income is a bit short but that happens with every couple.
If you love each other nothing should stand in the way of that. You don't need money to have fun or to make each other happy. All you need is love and support from the love of your life.
I hope I helped :)
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how much is money important to think about marriage?? (link)
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Depending on what kind of marriage you are looking for?
Think of it this way... It's your special day and its you that is getting married so therefore you don't need to have a huge massive wedding if you don't want to.
You could have a beautiful simple garden wedding that way it is already decorated with flowers. Set up some chairs and make your own decorations.
If you make your own decorations it will mean a lot more because you have put all your time and effort into it. You will also be saving loads of money!!
But in saying that, depending on how many people there are and the kinds of menus you are looking at it can be quiet expensive, you just have to do the bargain shopping for everything.
Don't be embarrased because you will be looking for bargains, anyone in their right mind would do that... including me :)
It all depends on your budget and how much you can afford to spend.
There is a lot of planning and costs involved so I honestly can't give you an estimate price but I think I could put a beautiful wedding together for around 6-7 thousand dollars!
Hope I helped! :)
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am i happy? (link)
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Do you feel happy?
Do you wake up in the morning and feel like it's going to be a good day?
Do you enjoy life?
Do you smile and make people laugh?
Do you laugh?
If yes, then your happy!
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(Those of you who are not familiar with everything you can read my last few questions)
Well TJ did ask me out yesterday over the phone.
(I said yes, of course!)
Well his brother Johnathan(SP?) told me at our morning recess in the gym that the reason TJ asked me out was because he called him a "wimp, chicken, (EXCUSE MY LANGUAGE BUT THIS IS EXACT QUOTE) and a pussy."
Now Johnathan lies.A lot.
So I didn't believe him, I just slapped his leg and we laughed at it.
I thouhgt ' Okay he's pulling my chain.'
But as today went on I started thinking, ' What if he's serious!?'
I got checked out and since TJ goes to a highschool and (He's a yeah older then me by the way) I'm in my final year of middle school, I only see him on the bus, usually anyway.
Well I'm gonna call later today and I have NO IDEA what to say or do! HELP! (link)
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Just be yourself, that's the most important thing!!! You don't want to pretend to be someone your not for someone to like you because they are so not worth it.
Even if his brother is telling the truth about your guy asking you out because he called him stupid names, if you be yourself this guy might end up really like you..... or he already does and that's why he's asked you out.
If you have nothing to talk about perhaps talk about school to start the convo off, he's in high school and your not so you could ask him what its like and the conversation might fly off from there.
Good luck...Hope I helped!
Ps.. it's probably not a good idea to let your guy know that his brother told you what he did about calling him names and stuff.
But if you feel like you need to know the truth then ask him but don't be rude about it :)
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Can a single mother give legal custody of her newborn to a friend to raise? (link)
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You haven't really given much information on what the situation is but i'll do my best to help you.
Depending on what the person really wants, they could always let the friend adopt the newborn child.
Other wise going to some sort of Legal Aid company (Free Legal Advice) could give a lot more information.
I guess also depending on which state or country the mother is from. Some places may allow it but others may not.
Hope I helped.
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so. my friend and i are kinda in a big fight. and.. he's winning. i mean. he has a good reason. he called me a poser [[well, that's not the good reason]] for cutting and he said i cut to get attention or what'ev.. so like. he's really mad at me for cutting. and he posted this on my myspace.
"You're such a fucking idiot
I wish you'd fucking stop
You think you really are
But you're really really not.
You've got no-one fooled
So stop tryin to put on you're little act
Put your notebook on the shelf.
You're really fooling no-one, but yourself, in fact.
Cut the fuckin drama
I will no longer tolerate this stupidity
Seconds after reading this you'll be cryin to your mamma
I refuse to tolerate your imbecillity.
You're such a fucking idiot
You make me wanna shout
You're such a fucking idiot
Find a gun, and blow your fucking brains out.
Get out of my life
Leave me alone
Bitch, you're whack
Take that shit home."
and this....
"If you really wanna kill yourself that bad
Go a-fucking-head,
Put your finger on the trigger
Of a gun full of lead
The people close to you
Feel the same fucking way I do
Go ahead, do it, you'll fill out lives with bliss
I highly doubt you will be missed"
and it hurts
alot... (link)
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Hey there,
Well first of all, perhaps your friend is scared and doesn't know how to help you with this sort of issue.
Perhaps he's had someone close to him do this before and he lost them and is afraid that it's going to happen again.
Other wise he is just very mad at you for doing this to yourself instead of asking him or someone else for help.
He obviously thought that you knew he was there for you and then you've done this instead of talking to him about your problems, he's probably hurt.
That doesn't give him the write to post those poems on his site or talk to you like that but as I said... he's angry.
Perhaps you should talk to him and apologise for not coming to him but you developed this issue and it was too hard for you to control in your mind so you eventually took it out on your body to make yourself feel like you were in control of it.
He doesn't know what you are going through but you shouldn't expect him to know. He's obviously in shock.
I say do the right thing and talk to him about it, he might have cooled down by now.
Hope I helped. :)
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how do you say "peppermint" in japanese? and btw do you think its a good name to name my girl hamster? (link)
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Hamster? Do you want her to be beaten to a pole?
Choose something less weird. I hate made up names
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On Dec 25th I'm leaving on a flight to Germany to visit friends and relatives there. That's all fun and great BUT I'm worried about the school I'm going to miss. I won't be back until January 20th so that equals 12 days of missed school. My teachers all aren't very happy about it and are discouraging me from staying that long or even going at all. The thing is I already bought and booked my flight. So, should I go for the full time or should I shorten my visit by ten days? Note: my mother is really angry about me changing my plans because it costs 200 extra dollars but THEY ARE MY MARKS, not hers. (link)
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You only live once and it's not the end of the world. Go on your trip and have a great time. You will catch up on your work that you miss out so don't be worried about it.
No one can make you feel bad about missing out on 10 days of school. It's not really that big of a deal when you think about it. There are worse things that can happen in the world.
Have a safe trip and a wonderful holiday, enjoy yourself and work hard when you get back!
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Hey everyone!
I'm 16 and a sophmore
i just recentally started tlaing to this boy who's a senoir at my school.
he's made it clear that he liked me and i certainly like him too
we talk all the time and he is perfect-funny, smart,cute, sweet, athletic and popular.
but that's the only downside, his popularity. he has soo many friends i'm not sure if he'll have anytime for me. At lunch and basketball games he comes see me but then has to go and make an appearence with all of his friends.- once we start going outthings may change?
should i give it a shot or so you think that should eb the deal breaker?
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Most definitely give it a shot. You just have to remember that he does have his friends, as you do to, and he has other commitments so you can't necessarily control his life.
But if your into each other, there is no point in denying your feelings because you don't think he wont have enough time for each other.
If you choose not to go for it then you might always think.. What if?! and thinking that always sucks! lol
Make a move hun.. before it's too late! :)
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okay, well sorry if this is sort of long!
but me and my boyfriend been together for a long long time(over 2 years) and the thing is that we always kiss. during school hours,etc.
but the thing is i dont know if i know how to kiss or not. i mean he isnt complaing, or maybe he's just trying to be nice.
but anyways how do you move your tongue in the right direction. i heard many times when you tongue kiss try to make a t.which i dont get. so how do you move your tongue? in what direction? lots of detail please.
oh yeah no advice that involves me telling him anything. if it helps 13/f (link)
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You don't always need to use your tounge during a kiss. If he's not complaining then he obviously doesn't have a problem.
Just massage his tounge with yours. There isn't a right or wrong way to move it around.
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can i get an STD by sucking a dick? thx (link)
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Yes you can. Use a condom if you are not familiar with the person. There is no harm in using a condom and if your guy as a problem with it then use your hands.
You cannot get rid of an STD so therefore you must protect yourself. I work in a Dr's clinic and somethings I see are not what you really want!
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i have a bf that lives about 25 mins away so we never actully get to see each other. we've been dating for about a week. and i havent seen him since he asked me out online. and overall i've met him twice. were hanging out and watching movies at his house tomrrow and were both excited. do you think we should try to kiss?or is it to soon?i'm ready and i will but i just need a 2nd opinion.
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I don't see why not. If your ready then go for gold!
Like you said you don't get to see each other much so this might be your only chance for a while!
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so the other day i got my first pube, and it was really long for some reason. it wasnt that curly but i dont know why it was so long, it didnt match the color of my hair either. IT WAS RED and my hair is blonde i dont know why this is happening. I am really confused because it was my first one and i am 18 and im quite nervous. My brother who is 12 said he has 6 already and im jealous of him i want more pubes. Should i shave them or cut them with some scissors or what im not really sure please help me (link)
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Your age doesn't really mean anything as to whether how many pubic hairs you have.
You are obviously going through puberty a bit later then most but it's completely normal. Every person is different.
The colour of your hair doesn't mean thats the colour your pubic hair is going to be. Pubes are normally black. Like underarm hair and when you shave your legs the hair normally grows back black.
Don't cut or shave your hairs. They will eventually grow, just give it time! Waiting suck I know but you will find that a lot of people don't like pubic hair so think yourself lucky that you don't have to go through all that pain of waxing and shaving all the time ;)
Hope I helped!
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um sometimes i feel so ugly and not worth anything....how can i believe tht im beautiful when inever have bfs or anything.....and the only person tht made me feel incredible likes my best friend and hes was talking obut makingout with her so wat should i do i want feel beautiful (link)
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I know that it's hard to feel beautiful all the time, but a nice smile and confidence will always make you look beautiful.
You will be surprised at how many people will think you are a beautiful person if you just smile and be yourself, just be happy.
You don't need a boyfriend to make you feel beautiful, if you think you are beautiful then it will show and others will think it too.
I used to feel like th ugly duckling of my group of friends when I was at school, I always used to feel like I couldn't be myself because everyone else was always to smart and too pretty.
One day I totally changed my ways of thinking and thought that I should just join in instead of being sour. So I did! and my life has changed completely!
So just smile and be yourself, that's what being beautiful is all about!
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Hi. Just so you know i am not used to getting advice about this subject. I normally am the one giving haha. But you see i can't really talk to my friends about this subject becasue I told them all I was going to move on to another guy. O.K. well there is this guy, his name is Ryan. Ryan has a girlfriend. I've always looked down upon people who cheat (becasue its happened to me :(.. ) Anyway I had never conversed with Ryan before the end of this summer. Partly because we didn't know eachother, only eyed eachother when crossing paths in the hallway. I am extreemly attracted to him. I think he is likewise. We both have a facebook and I know this sounds juvinile but the only person he ever writes back via wall comment, message, or picture comment is me. I will have a series of messages with him that will be 20 comments long, where everyone elses is only 3, where as he ends the conversation and keeps it going with me. i found this one movie and i thought he threw it in my car, well he didnt but thats beside the point. what he did say though was that we should watch it and call it a party (he origanly told me i should have a "party" and for people to watch the movie). after this i thought it seemed like he was flirting, and that made me nervous because he has a girlfriend (which is a younger classmen who looks up to me) so i then told him that i didn't know if she would mind but i didn't want do do anything that would upset her.. he said he didn't think it would and that it was no big deal. I haven't talked to him as much lately but he still runs into me (seems most of the time like is secretly planned out) and starts conversation. I don't know what i should do, I really want him, but I don't know if i should follow my gut or my mind which is telling me that I would probably shouldn't. what do you think he is thinking? what do you think i should do?... i'm really sorry this is so long i tried really hard to keep it short and to the point (link)
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Ok, Well first of all, obviously you like him. It sounds like that he likes you too!
Secondly, you are allowed to be friends with him and watch movies while he has a girlfriend, if she doesn't mind. As you said, you've been cheated on before so don't make any moves while he is still with this other girl. You know what it feels like to be crushed into little pieces!
Third, he obviously knows that your into him. You've made it clear. BUT..Yes there's always a but.... You need to make him understand that you cannot start anything between each other until he figures out who he wants to be with.. you or his current girlfriend.
If he ends up choosing his girlfriend, then thats something that your going to have to deal with when the time comes. But if he chooses to be with you, he needs to have broken up with his g/f and make it clear to her that he does not want to be with her before a relationship can come out if this for the two of you.
If he cheats on his girlfriend with you.. and if you two end up together.. who's to say that he wont cheat on you either?!
This way you are making him be honest with you and his g/f and even himself! It also proves that he's not a cheater and can be loyal.
I hope I helped and I hope you get your guy! Good luck :)
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