about

I'm a 19 yr old mainly agnostic ex philosophy student with rather strong views about a lot of things. I'm very liberal, love the diversity I live in in London and hate that America hasn't separated church from state.
I'm engaged to the love of my life, but agree it is a little bizarre to get engaged at 18.
I'm confident, quite literally crazy, caring and crippled. My manual wheelchair is called Sebastian and he gets scared when he goes too fast, my electric is called Jermaine (after the Flight of the Conchords character) and he really does not like ice.
I can read Braille and I know basic sign language because I believe everyone should be given equal chances. I dislike it that money doesn't have Braille on it.
I'll do my best to help out with your situations, I've been in and seen many a family conflict, I've had my fair share or love life crises, I've had about every illness known to man (could tell you a lot of amusing stories about psychiatric wards) and I'm "The Queen of Hair Dye" so hopefully I'll have some idea about advice. If it looks like I don't give lots of advice, it's because I only advise on things I know about. I also detest poor spelling and grammar so although having dyslexia makes me a bit hypocritical about this.

advice

I want to die SO badly but i dont want to leave my friends
ahh i wish there was a way i could stay and leave.. ya know ?

ehh i just want to feel better :-/

ive been to theripsts, nothing helps anymore

anyone got any tips ?

Its so hard feeling like you want it all to end but knowing you cant leave everyone behind. Just remember that you CANT leave your friends, and if nothing has helped you to feel better, you just have to learn to live feeling like that, as horrible as it is.

I have a mental condition that makes me feel teh wrong emotions for things, so i know how you feel and its horrible, but just hang in there, it will get better eventually. If you need to talk send me a message on here or something

Take care xx

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Hey! I really need to make a couple of CD's so I was wondering if any of you knew some good songs. I am into rock, but not metal. I like some R&B, some pop but I just hate rap. So if you could list some songs I`d appriciate it! Thanks a bunch! I`ll rate if you want me to.

Prettymuch any Jimmy Eat world, esp the authority song, pain, lucky denver mint, any of them really, they all rock.
If you like indie, why not some snow patrol, or some belle and sebastian if you want something slightly jazzy.

Nizlopi are always good too. Although not many people have any of their music so you might have to buy the album rather than download it.

Have fun & Take care!

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Is the song "May Angels Lead You In" by Jimmy Eat World about someone passing away? I'm very confused and I'm not good with what songs really mean. Thanks!

Its actually called 'Hear You me' and yes it is about someone passing away, the angels are leading the person in, to heaven most probably. Its also a very slow sad tune, which tends to suggest something like passing away.

Hope I helped, great song isnt it! I saw them live :D

Take care

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Okay, what are some turn ons for girls?
WHat does a girl look for in a guy?
what do they like in a conversation??

thanks lots!
I rate high!

Umm well most girls like guys kissing their neck, and it sounds a bit ick but ears too, biting them.

A girl looks for personality and looks usually but it depends on teh girl in what ratio they are in.

They like a normal relaxed converstation, like they woulr have with one of their mates.

Take care

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16/f. I'm going on vacation tomorrow. What stores sell plain halters, tanks & spaghetti straps for really cheap and in different colors? I just want the plain kind... nothing on them, and I want to buy a few of them. Thanks.

Well if you are in England, then primark. But if you are in teh states or somewhere else im sorry i have no idea

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my *area* down there is constantly ITCHY!!!!!!! i don't know why! *female* i can't have crabs because i shaved the hair off it. i'm not sure if that was a good idea but once again, i really don't want to ask anybody in my family because they might make fun of me or embaress me etc. its REALLY itchy please help!

its probably itchy because of the stubble, like when you get your hair cut and all teh hair goes down your back and it itches like hell because all the ends are sharp. This might take a while to go down, untill all teh hair is re-grown.

On the other hand it might be a yeast infection if it started being itchy before you shaved, in which case you need to get some cream for it, either from the doctors or from the pharmacist.

Hope i helped
Take care.

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When i shave my bikini, i see little black dots beneath the surface. I know they are hairs but why can I see them?? Is this normal? How i prevent this? I shave with the grain.

Yeh thats perfectly normal, its just because there is hair under a thin bit of skin so you can see it but not shave it. Dont worry about it, and if it does bother you that much, why not wax it will get rid of it all!

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I have these jeans that are way too long.... I'm suppose to cut them up the side right?



I rate 5's....

Cut them up the side? :S

What you need to do is put on the jeans inside out, turn up the ends to the right lenght, pin them, then take them off and stitch them and cut off the excess.

Hope it all goes ok!
Take care!

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my g/f wants to hook up [french kiss] and i just dont no how to do it like i dont no how to can someone please help me

Pretend you are writing teh alphabet with your tounge, but dont stick it all in her mouth and gag her! Have fun!

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Hey, I'm 14.f and something has been bugging me. So many people have been starting to have sex, and i think its like, pathetic, how can teenagers, want to give blow jobs and hand jobs, i mean hello, its kinda weird for 13-16 year olds to do that at this age in my opinion. Does anybody out there agree with me that this stuff is stupid at this age? There have been so many questions on here about sex and hand jobs and everything and i think it is plain out pathetic! Teens shouldnt be worried about that kind of stuff at this age. Does anyone out there agree with me at all?

Thanks-

I agree, people should stop worrying so much, when it happends it happends and if it doesnt, its ok because there are plenty more years for it! especialy if you are only just 12 or something! Its stupid.... Society is brainwashing the kids of today...

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i babysit this little boy and i am not so good with cooking. any ideas for cooking for a little boy. he likes chocolate and milk and he also likes cheese, but i don't know what to make for him that he likes or will like. any ideas? i rate really high!

Umm well if you are going for a whole meal why not try sausages and cheesy mashed potato, put a bit of grated cheese into the potato, it makes it a lot more tasty!

Or perhaps if you are going for a desert why not try chocolate milkshake, made by putting chocolate ice cream and milk in a food processor and giving it a quick wizz, its nice!

Im out of ideas now, hope it goes ok!

Take care

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I wear a DD size bra. Like, does that make me fat? And do boys like boobs that r like, DD size? Is it common do wear DD, or is that like wayy huge. Please be serious nd just answer, i'll rate high

that doesnt make you fat, that makes you lucky! And boys will like boobs no matter what size but the bigger the better so yes almost certainly! And DD isnt an uncommen size. So dotn worry about it.
Take Care

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i love to sing and i have a pretty nice voice but i dont know were to start and wut kind of songs to sing i can sing high but im not that good at singing low.how do i start out


PLEASE i need your help

I sing too and Ive been singing since i was little, but i find the best things to sing are actually old folk tunes, like the miller of dee, and sometimes even nursary rymes(yes i know it sounds stupid) then move on to soft songs, not too high not too low. The important thing is not to strain your voice.

Also try voice exersises, sing vowel sounds alternating up an octave, and then change the bottem note (for instance eeee,aaaa,eeee,aaaa).

Remember to keep your vocal cords moist with water at all times, so you dont stress your throat. Also when singing open up your throat as much as possible, like how open it is when you yawn.

Hope I helped, sorry its so long.
Take Care.

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okay, i know this is pretty weird, but i read on this health site that if you take your height from when you were 2, and double it.. it`s your adult height. does anyone know if this is a true fact and if anyone has their height from when they were two and you are fully grown .. can you let me know =] thankss!!

there is something you can do thats like that, but it isnt that exact formula, google it see what you can come up with
Take care

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I just got my earlobes pierced for the 3rd time. The last two times failed because after a week or so of my newly pierced ears, they would always swell up and get infected. It would hurt and itch! Now, I got them re-done at Claire's and now my ears have formed a rash around the earring. I'm cleaning them everyday but they're still itchy! It's red and gross..I don't know what to do! It's my 3rd time..please help and is this normal?

You are probably having a metal reaction, the most likely thing is you are allergic to Nickle, a lot of people are, so try nickle free earings and that should die down. If that doesnt help try other metals like titanim but if you are still reacting its likely that you wont be able to have your ears pierced because you react to the metal. I can only wear titanium in my piercings.
Take care.

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I'm 15 and one of my inner labias is about three times the size of the other. However, this wasn't always so. It started about 2 years ago when I started masturbating with the showerhead. (Could this be the cause of it?) Anyway, I figured it was just swollen, and the swelling would go down. However, as time went on, it only got worse. It's now a more purple-ish, darker color, and bigger. Anyways, point being, instead of it getting better like I assumed it would, it only got worse. And it's now two years later, and I haven't told anyone about it. I would really like to, but I am too embarrassed. Also, I'm afraid if my parents take me to a gynocologist or anything of that sort, they will find out I'm not a virgin anymore, WHICH CAN NOT HAPPEN. I've been a huge emotional wreck ever since, and I really need to find out more about this. Any advice, information, help, or ideas would be SO greatly appreciated. I rate 5's for any attempt. Thank you.

well unless you ae worried about how it looks, i wouldnt worry about it, its bound to be just because of the pressure on it frequently that it has expanded, and even if you go to a gynacologist, they cant tell your parents you are not a virgin.
Take care.

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well my ex boyfriends birthday is coming up and we decided we were gonna spend the day together after school or the following day together! weve been broken up for almost 7 months now! ya i know a really long time! but through it all weve been like best of friends and we talk all the time! and weve hung out twice this summer! well he does tell me he knows we both want to be together but it wont work right now because he is dating another girl but they arent going out cause she cant have a boyfriend! and even after being broke up hes like i love u and i always will! and just last night he said he missed us! and i still really care about him! but anyways for his bday i wanna do something really cute! i was already thinking about making him a cake and decorating it all cute and getting him a card! but i was trying to think of something else special i could do to show him how much i care! any ideas? thanks so much!

The cake and card idea is cool, but as i dont know your ex, or you i cant think of anything that would be good, maybe a dvd he once mentioned he wanted to see or something, something that will make him thing, wow she remembered! Hope I helped a bit,
Take care

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How can I get guys to like me....Im 13 and have never had a boyfirend...is that like abnormall?

Of course it isnt abnormal! I know everyone says that, but its true. Guys aren't the most important thing in the world.
Take Care

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hey! i am having a birthday there will be boys and girls, i don't wear skirts and i want something casual! any ideas

some baggy jeans and a cool t-shirt, maybe showing a little cleavage if you feel comfortable in, but remember, if you feel comfortable in something, its going to look better than if you look really uncomfortable!

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Does anyone have any tips for how to redecorate your room with very little money? I don't want to paint it or anything, but I want it to look less plain.

Put a couple of strings of fairy lights up! they look pwetty!

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