Iam 14, and pretty smart I guess, and wise (and humble about it too :)
I am really into peoples feelings but i still tend to tell you like it is, theres plenty of people out there who are always a pain in the butt and making everyone around them feel like crap, i dont want to be that person.
I awnser a wide variety of questions even ones i dont know anything about, in hopes i can help maybe even alittle bit, but dont ask me retarded stuff i dont want the drama queen stuff, im here to help if your not here to whine.
Also dont ask me gross sex problems im a christian and i dont know anything about 'blow jobs' so dont ask me about them...also if you dont like the awsner i give you then dont read it.
And just for the record I could care less about the rating you give me, so if you got a negative comment send it to someone who cares, and low ratings are good for me there showing im saying it how it is.
In all christian love, 2tammy2
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ok well yeahh me and my friend might go on a double date tonight and well my boyfriend isn't a virgin and i am...but i sort of am prude..i mean ive made out and everything but like he told my friend he wants to finger me....i feel kind of weird asking this but like when i guy fingers a girl, he gts like stuff on his finers rgiht? do they think thats weird at all.....help me!! (link)
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ok seriously my gut tells me this guy is a total freak, first things first why is he telling your friend stuff about your guys sex life, or lack of one and believe me you are not a prude your a smart girl who is waiting for the right man(im told if you wait tell your married sex is about a million times more special, besides id amagine if you had sex alot it would get boring- i know were just talking about fingering here but he probably wont stop there) and ya he probably would get stuff on his fingers because it will turn you on and most likely something will come out of your vagina it is totally normal and not something you can get around, and he shouldnt think thats weird considering this isnt probably his first time so hes probably used to it.
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i was reading an answer from a columnist and in there answer there like "Hey, thats exactly me, haha. Theres nothing that you can do to make your thighs smaller in a healthy way. Working out will just gain you muscle and make them even bigger. Just embrace them & love them because its what youve got and what God wanted to you have."
is that true??
- FYI: i didnt ask the question she answered though. (link)
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yep pretty much but just remember alot of guys find curves sexy...
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how do i get guys to think im not prude? (link)
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ok first off im not sure what you mean 'prude' but ill take a guess that some guy forever ago called you one because you wouldnt have sex or something, so i guess if they think you are then just prove them to your not but remember dont think you need to have 'unprudish' behaviors to be an awesome person and have plenty of boyfriends in fact you might find they will respect you less if they think your not a 'prude'
well hope my advice helps
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My parents are getting a divorce and getting seperate houses (of course). I will be getting two different rooms and I've looked everywhere on the web but can't find any ideas on decorating my bedroom. Any ideas? (link)
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ok when im older i want to be a phsychologist when im older is it possible your trying to escape possible sadness by worrying about your rooms when you really are just extremely sad anyway enough of that :) lol go to ikea.com or google it or whatever there is cool stuff there and you can get it through the internet incase there isnt one near you, anyway this probably didnt really help but i hope it does
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Okay, today me and my boyfriend were hanging out, just a regular day. We rotated his car tires outside and then went inside his house just to relax. (His house was empty). So he goes on his computer and checks this car website while I sit on a chair, I even grab a granola bar to munch on. So afterwards he approaches me and starts to kiss me intently. Obviously, he was looking for a hookup. Then, I push him back lightly because when ever we go to his house and it's empty, we ALWAYS have to hookup! I don't think that it's always necessary to hookup on these occasions but we always do. I mean he's not a hormonal-hookup-monster but I mean what kind of guy doesn't like them? Anyway, I told him no, and I also said, why is it that whenever we go to his house we always have to hookup. Can't we just talk, relax and maybe even watch some t.v for the period that were alone. I told him I don't want our relationship to be predictable and boring. Like for instance, whenever I go to his empty house I don't want us to have the mentality that we are going to hookup. I'm a kind of person that says, "If it happens, it happens". I don't want it to be predictable, you know? Anyway, we had a huge fight because he says I always do this but i don't, I did it once before and it was for the same reason. We resolved it before, but now it seems we are not getting anywhere on this matter. Anyway my question is how do I approach the matter to him and how do we come to an understanding on the matter that can make us both happy.
P.S: It's not that I don't want to hookup, I would have if I could. But I just don't think it will help our relationship. I don't want to get bored with him. I like him way to much to let our relationship to turn predictable and boring.
Sorry, it's kind of long. I have a lot to say. (link)
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ok maybe tell him its to predictable excitement is good but dont nag no man wants a nagging women.
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I have an interview tomorrow morning to be a tennis instructor for a girls jewish camp. The man on the phone told me it would be 12 kids at one time. My dad says do not accept minimum wage ($7.15 an hour or something like that) He said $12-13 an hour is fair because its so many kids at once. Do you agree with him? How would i go about letting the guy know in the interview? I was planning on telling him how i've played tennis from 7th-12th grade for the school and how i coached t-ball so i can handle a lot of kids at once. I think i should ask how much i would get paid an hour..and if he says 7$ an hour what should i say? My dad says i should tell him i wont do it for less than 10 or 12 an hour.
Other tips on what to wear is also appreciated. Would you wear sporty clothes or nice clothes like dress pants?
18/f
thanks! (link)
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ok if your only 18 and have limited experience dont demand money unless you can tell hes a cheap loser who needs to cough up more money, and also were sporty clothes your teaching not going to church right? you should look ready for the job and like your totally ready to jump in and help kids not look like your dressed to nicely to do that.
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okay... so theres a guy i know. we were friends and talked frequently at school. i liked him and didnt tell anyone until recently. on the last day of school, a month ago, i told one of my friends that i would email a picture to them. then he was sitting nearby and said email a picture of me to me. i said well i dont have a picture of you. then he said well take one, so i did. then a minute later i forgot that i didnt have his email. so he gave it to me. then i emailed the picture to him a couple days later. my friends boyfriend is like his best friend and he thinks this guy, lets sat joe, likes me, but he wont admit. i told my friend that i liked him. but i dont know if he really likes me or not, because he wont admit it to his friend. (link)
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ok you dont sound to old and neither does this guy you like, give him a break hes probably and hopefully a newby at this whole thing and just dosent know how to handle it, believe me having his friend badger him about wether he likes you or not isnt going to help in fact it will discourage the man of your affection, lookes like you got a winner here (just my gut) dont screw it up, and for sure dont stalk him or try to hurry up the process it screws everything up (i know from expreince- but sence i didnt totally screw it up I might still have a chance with him-enough about me) also if you really want him and he notices you play hard to get maybe alittle but not enough so he finally gives up and moves on
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Okay so i dont get guys at all.Me and this guys relationship is really complicated we both loved each other but he moved away pretty far so we had to break things off.Its been a year now.And 2 months ago he messaged me on myspace saying that he wascoming to visit and that he wanted to know if i wanted to hang out with him for a day or two and well i wasent on myspace for like a month and he called me like 3 weeks after he wrote that message but i didnt read it till like a month later and i asked him when he was coming and stuff and he never answered me back.And like i tried to move on before i delated his text messages and his phone numbers and like delated him off my myspace but then like a month later he saw that i delated him and said i was really surprised that you did that and so i added him again.The thing i dont get is that we will not talked for like 2 months and randomly he will start talking to me again like we have some odd weird friendship where we wont talk for 2months.But like okay for example on myspace he will write me a comment or message and i write back but he never answers me back.So thats what i dont get.How come he will like talk to me and leave me messages when he feels like it, but when i try to like message him or talk to him he wont answer me back.So ive given up on our friendship but like he will randomly keep talking to me i dont get it.Could someone tell me what this means? id really appreciate it thank you! :) (link)
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Ok guys (from my limited experience) are like so weird nothing like girls, what i think is going on is, alot of guys one:have really, really bad memories and he may say hey ya ive been burping with my friends all day for 2 months its time to email whatever your name is.
2) guys are not so into commitment maybe hes nervous and feels to emotionally tied to you if he emails you all the time, my thought is just message him whenever he does, dont rag on him and realize he probably likes you maybe even like likes you but you guys are still pretty young (or you sound like you are) so relax realize guys are like reaching the level of maturity we reach 2 years after we do
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Hey. I'm working on a slide show and I need some verses along the theme of "Not as I will, but as you will" (Matthew 26:39). Just about like everything happens for a reason, God's plan is best etc.
any help would be really great.
thanks. (link)
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Romans 8:28
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See this is my first time of getting married. You see my parents have done everything to get this wedding on the ball since it is next month. But she thinks it should be all about her, I don't want to be a bad niece but I don't want to have someone that is gonna be taking the pictures to try to ruin my day just because she isn't involved in every little bitty thing we do in the wedding. She thinks that me and my sister in law(Matron of Honor) going out for a Bacholorette Party is so bad that she should be involved. But she isn't a drinker, she's a very negative person and I don't want that while we're trying to have a good time. Plus she's a nark. I can't deal with this anymore, please if anyone can give me better advice than talking to her about it I'd really appreciate it. Thanx. (link)
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ok i am the kind of person who tells people how it is, i wouldnt hide your feelings i wouldnt totally blow up either just inform her you dislike what shes doing, and confront her on how much it bothers you, and if she continues to do this things might get ugly.
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sry if its in the wrong catorgory but i need help.
when i'm with my friends, i always seem to assume things like "she hates me" and "shes mad at me" and it always gets me upset. deep down i know its not true but i seem to be paranoid about it. i know they're my friends and i shouldn't worry about it, but how can i prevent myself from thinking that all the time? sometimes it seems like its true and it makes me really upset.
please help and thanks in advance (link)
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oh geez dont worry about it, im the same way its just a teenage girl thing to do, your probably just not confident in yourself so you think that they hate you, i dont know really why i did it its a subconcious thing just when you think that tell yourself that is so not true what am i thinking or ignore it soon you wont even think about it any more
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basically, me and my dad don't get along.
i know you'd all say something like "try talking to him" or "tell him how you feel".
...no.
he's not the kind of person that i can just go up to and tell what i'm feeling. if me and my dad do ever communicate without it being bad, it's very short and to the point. but that rarely happens. not as often as our fights at least. i don't know what to do anymore. he get's so aggravated with me that i feel like killing myself. he pisses me off more than anyone ever has or ever will. he yells at me for having clothes on my bed (3 things, mind you), he twists his stories around trying to make it seem like he's right, and he makes me feel like shit. i don't know what to do. ARGHHHHHHH
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seriously i know where your coming from my dad is not quite like that but i cant really tell him stuff, first things first i know he sucks but he is better than not having a father like some people, i would see maybe from your mother how his dad was see my dads dad was abusive to him so my dad has come along way, try not to argue with him even if you really want to your relationship will be better, maybe he is really stressed from his job or something so do nice stuff for him, and i know he makes you angry but killing yourself (or cutting like my friends) is not the awnser it will only hurt you both more (yes i know its hard to believe but i know he really does care) and everyonce in awhile i think its okay to tell him what he is doing really bothers you and would he PLEASE not do that
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does anyone know any diet pills that are effective and that 14 year olds can buy? and that are also not too too expensive? i need to lose some weight and what i'm doing is not working out.
and i'm probably ruining my body but i don;t care anymore. 121 pounds is too much for me.
anyone who can offer any advice thank you very much :] (link)
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ok im 14 and im an inch shorter and 116 lbs or maybe more im not sure, anyway i feel fat but everyone always tells me how skinny iam and its true iam besides guys really like curves they like me better now then if i were skinnier im sure.
i walk a couple miles a day and i try to watch my food not working lol, but excercize is wonderful it makes me feel really good out in the fresh air.
Besides the only thing i've ever heard about diet pills is they make you crap your pants all the time i think guys would like a girl with curves more than one that is poor(from buying pills) and smells horrible.
And this saying helped me so maybe it'll help you:
Look at yourself in the mirror and think what your grandma would say and whatever comes to mind is probably true
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I'm a singer, and recently my voice has been breaking a ton. Just a few months ago- i honestly DID NOT HAVE A BREAK! and I could switch registers so easily and perfectly without breaking. Now my head voice sounds all breathy and breaky and my chest voice breaks a lot too.
What happened? I got very sick a lot of times this year, could that have something to do with it? For a like maybe a month or 2after may, I wasn't singing very much, or at all... because I wasn't performing any or having voice lessons.
Do you think I can get my voice back to the way it was in december?
If I practice every day and do warm-ups will it go back to normal? After how long? or will it never be the same? (link)
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i have no idea if it will help, but this woman who always yelled at me and her voice broke and she would suck on peppermints and her voice was better so do like reguluar warm ups and stuff and if your voice breaks try it
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I'm not sure what's wrong with me, and wheather it's paranoia, or OCD, or something else. This is really hard to explain but i'll try my best.
In my head while i'm doing something, i'll make like, a 'bet' with myself. Like I have to do something or else i'll die. It's about really stupid thing, too, but it's just become a habit ie: You have to fast forward through the opening credits of this tv show, otherwise you'll die. I found a way to kind of 'derail' it, by instead of saying,"Otherwise you'll die," saying something like, "otherwise beyonce will gain a pound," But now saying that has because an obsession. I used to do something kind of like that, but with music videos on MTV. And whatever music video I saw last before I went to bed I thought would be a representation of the next day. Sometimes I would stay up for an extra hour because I was so paranoid that if i saw a video like, 'It end tonight' I would die. I've developed this stupid habit of looking at the clock and creatingf math problems. If it were 1:01 i'd say to myself, "Addition," and "Subtraction,"(because one plus one is zero and same goes for minusing). I'd also do things like that for multiplication and division. And it's become obsessive. Like every time I look at the clock I HAVE to name a math problem, or else somthing bad will happen.
Lastly, I have this nervous tick where i'll count out the sylables to everything on my hand really quickly. And for some reason it has to either be ten or five sylables. And since th phrase,"otherwise beyonce will gain a pound," is ten slables, i find myself almost always involintarily counting out sylables.
(I don't have an obsessionover beyonce, or anything, I just said it once and it stuck)
What on earth is wrong with me? And what can I do to just be NORMAL? Please help me (link)
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ok i so had the same thing, and i had symptoms that are like OCD i just dont go to a doctor anyway i used to have this obsession of counting the letters of words and i had to know what it was and it needed to be even, ok and now like 2 or 3 years later iam just fine(ok maybe not iam a teenager and everything) just ignore it ok and practice something else like every time you think about it say thats stupid and push it out of your head atlease for me it will eventually become boring and you wont even think about it.
Just dont freak out that tends to have made it worse for me remember youll get through it.
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what things turn girls on (things you could do to them, not type of people or ways to dress ext..) (link)
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it totally depends on the girl ask her
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About a month or two ago I made a promise to God that I would not masturbate until I turned 14. Several months ago, probably like 3 or 4 maybe 5, I turned 13. But, I broke that promise. And I know it's really bad to do that, and I'm a Catholic! But the really bad thing is, that I keep telling God I won't do it again, but I do! Sometimes when I cross my legs my clitoris throbs and it feels good, does that count? A part of me feels like he forgives me, partly because it was the time of my period when you're in heat, but part of me feels like he won't forgive me and I don't deserve to go to Heaven. I feel like I've broken my promise, God never breaks a promise and I feel unworthy. I talk to God a lot, I pray a lot, and praise him a lot. But sometimes I'm not nice to others like I should be. Like lying, or making fun of someone and not apologizing, although most of the time I do, yet I do it again! I truly, truly, truly need help to keep my promise and stay un-horny. Will I go to hell for this? Will he forgive me? I feel so scared, I want to go to Heaven! I worship God with all my heart, I really do. And I believe in Jesus and his commandments and in the beatitudes. But one night a while back, I wanted to sort of have my own way of getting an immediate answer with him. Years ago, I bought a statue of Jesus from Canada and the hands broke off accidentally. So I took one hand and fell alseep with it in my hand and asked him to have me wake up with it on the right side of my bed if the answer was "Yes, you will go to Heaven." and it go to the left side if the answer was no. It landed on the left side underneath me! I'm scared. I've done this before, and I asked him if I would meet my sisters in Heaven (I never met them) and it landed on the right side. Is this kind of witch craft or something? Well I'm really scared, so please answer this question! (link)
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wow relax, God didn't intend for you to worry like this, ok so im a baptist so are beliefs differ... i think that if you have accepted Jesus Christ as your personal savior and that he died on the cross for your sins, and ressurected on the third day and is soon going to come back down to earth to take his people to heaven forever then your a christian you dont have to do the hand thing I dont think its wrong you tried to do that or anything its just Satan feeding lies in your head so make him upstet dont succome to it.
Ok and as for the masturbating thing, it is totally, and i mean totally normal to feel hormones that tell you to do that, i used to look at porn but i dont anymore what i had to do to recover and i did have some times when i had relapses but basically pray, and read the Bible and set goals for yourself but not ones that are impossible or you are setting yourself up.
In christian love,
2tammy2
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why is it that when you love something you let it go? what the hell (link)
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maybe it's because you love (them?) or whatever so much you realize it's for the best.
and also maybe i have a weird habit of like almost punishing myself, so see if your doing it for a good reason or just because you cant handle the passion for this person or whatever that you want to give up because its emotionally difficult.
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hi, im 19, my brtother passed away as a baby when i was around 3, i was wondering, although im no medium or anything is there anyway i can contact im on my own? if so please let me know, and wold he be able to talk? as when he passed away he couldnt, do they "grow up" on the otherside? (link)
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ok Im a christian so i wont get to preachy but i seriously suggest just remembering him as much as you can when he was still alive.
How do you know that its just a demon and not him, 'speaking' to you i mean hold on and live your life in the future and not the past that dosent mean forget him just keep moving on in life you'll see him again once you live out your life
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whenever a guy flirts with me,
for some reason i always say something mean, back, or kinda mean, maybe its just the way i flirt?
but i dont know how to act to them?
this sounds so stupid, oh well (link)
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Iam the exact same, i figured out it had to do with my relationship with my dad try to figure out why you do it, and besides some guys who are flirting with you kind of like it or they werent flirt maybe, just dont change yourself for a guy theres going to be a guy out there who loves your personality.
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