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Q: 16/f

Today when I got out of the shower I found that I had a mole half on the bottom of my nipple. It's never been there before, and it hurts very badly with only the slightest touch. I'm a little freaked out. It's definitely dark and mole-esque looking except for the fact that it's very elongated, raised, swollen, and most importantly, EXTREMELY painful. Again, this is a new occurence. I've never had this mole before. Any advice? I'm freaking out, because you always hear about how messed up moles or occurring moles can be an indication of cancer, and although I know i sound completely ridiculous for worrying about something like that...I am. So, please, any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
If I were you, I'd ask my parents to go to the doctor to get checked out.
You can give yourself a breast examination (if you don't know how, google it.)
Also, cancerous moles are usually asymmetrical and inconsistent in color and shape.

Q: is acting cute bad? cos i look cute and sayy cute thing sometimes but after i reilised people like myy best frieds and stuff like me being cute/ ditzy, i started kinda 'playing up' the cuteness and stuff. is that bad?
Being cute is completely fine. But if you go too far with the ditzy, you'll become annoying. Cute is fine though.

Q: What is a painless way to do anal sex?
There really isn't a "painless" way, I'm sorry. But there are ways to make it hurt less (like a LOT of lubrication.)

Q: Im a girl, and gay kissing turns me on. Am I gay?
Gay kissing, as in two boys?
Think about it. Guys like looking at two girls kissing. Should there be a double standard? This is completely fine.

However if it's two girls, that still won't make you homosexual. People can fantasize about anything. If you actually partake in kissing someone of the same gender, you might be homosexual. I cannot determine for sure.

Q: I got the flu shot again this year... however I feel awful I had it about a month or two ago. But I woke up and my nose was really runy, my body hurts I am cold and shaking... this is the exact symptoms I had when I had the flu a couple years ago.... but I had the shot???
When you get a flu shot, they inject the dead virus cells so your white blood cells and antibodies can, you could say, become accustomed to the virus. This lowers your chance of becoming sick when the actual virus comes into play.

You're feeling this way because the white blood cells are "fighting" the virus. I don't know if this can happen a month later, though. Flu shots don't guarantee that you are flu-free.

Q: what do girls use to wash down there? i've been using regular bar soap since forever and i think i should switch, but what do i use instead?
Using regular soap is fine. You don't need a special soap or anything. I don't recommend douching, however.

Q: ok im almost 13 and i havent gotten my period yet.is that normal??
It's completely normal. Girls get their periods at different times.

Q: I seriously have no idea how to do this I really want to know how to get an audio file url so I can post a song onto tumblr and then it will play on my webpage on tumblr (Because I put a streampad thing on my page) someone on yahoo answers said that you could get the url thing on playlist.com but I tried and it didn't work it wouldn't play the song at all and also I barely have any music on my itunes so how can I get the music (Without downloading or doing anything illegal) off of like a site like playlist.com where it just plays music?
Just search "*song title* mp3" on google. Click the first few results. The URL is usually near the "download" area. If you need other help, just ask me!

Q: I do not know what to be for halloween. I am a 17 year old girl and I will be going to a party, not trick or treating. I don't want anything too extreme or done up, and I was going with more on the sexier side, rather then hunorous. Not slutty though. I was thinking of just earing like a little dress and adding accesories to make it into a costume. For instance like a little black dress with like a sailor hat or something. Let me know what you think.


Thanks and happy halloween!!!
I was a bee last year. Little wings, leggings, a yellow/black striped shirt, yellow shorts, and a yellow headband. It was pretty cute.

Q: 20female.

so i'm going to see my crush in a couple weeks. he plays hockey so we're going to watch him play and then hang out with him after. i just don't know what to wear tho! obviously i want to look cute for him :) i'm not a fan of sweatshirts. if you were to "label" me i'd say i'm a preppy girl. i don't wear skinny jeans even though their in, i don't wear leggings or anything. i usually shop at places like the buckle and express. any idea of what i could wear? i don't want to get too dressed up because i mean it is a hockey game but i still wanna look real good!

also he has two games, on one friday and one on saturday. i was thinking, maybe i could wear one of his sweatshirts or jacket or something from his new team he's playing for on saturday and friday i can look cute haha. i just hate asking people to wear their stuff though. and if he said no, i'd be a bit embarassed. i want to "represent" him though at the game. what do you think i should do?
This would probably be a good time to wear jeans or leggings. On top, you could wear a (cute) warm cardigan or sweater.

Q: When i use tampons and i go to take them out, there is skin or something that i have to move over in order for me to be able to succeed in removing the tampon. Is this normal or should i get it checked out?
That's completely normal. It's called a labia. Every girl has it.

Q: Halloween is coming up and that means it's time for scary movies! :) Does any one know of any good movies that have a good story plot & makes ya sit on the edge of your seat?!!
If you want gore, watch any Saw movie.

But some really scary movies are
-the Ring
-the Strangers
-the Uninvited

Q: My boyfriend and I are sexually active and we both like sex a lot haha but I'm kind of into experimenting. He's just happy with whatever I guess, because we talk and are very open about stuff, but he doesn't really have any things he wants to try. Like when I asked him, he said "I love sex already, it couldn't be any better". But the thing is, I kind of want to have rough sex...I'm not sure why but I think that would be a major turn on for me. But I don't really know how to explain to him what I want...like if I said "I want rough sex" he'd probably ask me what exactly I meant by that and I don't really know what to say haha. So basically, how should I explain this to him? And also, if you're a guy, would it be a turn on for you? I know everyone's different but I'd like some other people's opinions :) thanks!
Just tell him beforehand (or even during sex). I really don't think he's going to say no.

Q: I played volleyball today.
My right arm hurts. I think it has something to do with muscles and stuff, because my elbow hurts when I do sudden straight movements with it.
It got better, but now I realized that when I straighten it, it hurts in the.. Inner elbow? I’m not sure what it’s called. I think this was because I used too much arm muscle when I tried to overhand serve it and then I accidently missed it.
And then now, I realized when I curl it (No clue what it’s called when you bend it toward you) really hard toward me, then it hurts too. Ahhh .
Does anyone know what happened to my arm ?
It's not bruised or anything.
Assuming you don't play volleyball too often, it's just a little pain from playing. It goes away after awhile. Just rest that arm for awhile. If it continues hurting for more than a week, then there might be concern.

Q: I use to be very insecure and if i felt like i looked so good something would always change that and i would only see flaws,ive changed but theres still some insecurity there what can i do to change that?(:
It's all about mentality. Convince yourself that you do, in fact, look GREAT. This may take awhile, and you may need encouragement from a friend. I had the same problem, but also realize this: people don't always see the little flaws about you. Only you do.

Q: I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!
Well, I would ask one of my friends who is friends with him to look at it. If it's bad, the break up with him. At least, that's what I'd do. You shouldn't have to hide things from your BF/GF.

Q: what if my period stopped?
Stopped? As in, ended early or it is late?
If it's late:
If you aren't having sex, it's pretty normal.
If you ARE having sex, then you might want to take a pregnancy test.

Q: I have a full scanned book pages in which I have to make some changes for my new publication. From where I can do this?
I use zamzar.com to convert files.

Q: when you go to the aquarium how can you be sure that the shark tunnel wont breaka and collapse on top of people? the way i see it is it's probably thousands or millions of pounds of water on some glass. wouldnt it be easy to break?
The glass is VERY thick. I used to be scared of this happening when I was small.

Q: Okay, so i am your typical teenager gilr. I am going to the 8th grade, well alot of my friends have made out and sent some pictures to there boyfriends well i dont really know if i am ready for that. I am the far behind one because i cant talk to my mom about kissing or anything she will spaz out. But is this a bad thing that i dont know how to make out.? I just dont understand the point in it. And i ge made fun of all the time because of it. So should i do this or should i just say the way i am.? Help please.
First of all, they shouldn't be making fun of you for this. In eighth grade, I didn't even have a boyfriend yet.

You aren't far behind. They're too far ahead. Don't be pressured to have a boyfriend, because most likely the one you have in middle school won't be there for long.

When you're ready to kiss your boyfriend, (normally) you don't start with making out. If you aren't comfortable with doing that, tell him. If he objects or complains, he isn't worth it.

About your mom, most moms freak out when their daughter talks about kissing. Ask her to remain calm and let you finish what you want to say beforehand.

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