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im 17/f
hes 19/m
so i've had about 13 or so boyfriends, and hes had about 5 girlfriends. (im not a virgin, he is) we met on a site called myyearbook and we met at restaurant ,had dinner and its been a week and we've hung out/gone out together 4 or so times. we've kissed,held hands,he compliments me,ect. im interested in having a mature relationship with him. not just a high school fling, if that makes sense.
he texted me "how do you like me so far?" and i told him how he was smart,cute,funny, and how i felt being with him, ect. then i asked him the same and he said "i think your really cool. i like that you accept me for who i am and that you want to hang with me?"
sounds like something a friend who say to another friend.
i didnt wanna scare him off by asking bluntly "are we boyfriend and girlfriend" so i texted him " what are you looking for in a relationship, if one at all" he replied "i don't really know right now...what are you looking for?" i fell asleep before i could answer, but he seems really into me when were in person. but we hung out yesterday and we started kissing but then when star trek came back on it seemed like he'd rather watch that.
im trying to be understanding that hes shy, and hasnt had a lot of girlfriends, but i really like this guy, but im so use to having 'in charge' boyfriends, im not use to shy guys.
i dont want to scare him off, its only been a week.what should i do?

i think that you should play hard to get, and when he leans in for a kiss, back up and wink at him. he'll understand that your not easy to have and that'll make him want you as much as you want him, because thats what he's doing to you. be mysterious, guys love that. and if that doesnt work, then just drop it. he's not worth it.
i read he's just not that into you. and if the guy doesnt ask you out, then there's your answer. if you let him do the work at first you'll know how he really feels about you. dont jump the boat and say anything to him till you know how he feels, some guys like it, and some guys dont. most guys want to feel like they're in charge, so let him do the talking. but give subtle hints like touching him. just drive him crazy but dont let him have a thing. :)

i hope this worked out for you. :)

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Alright then... This is gonna be long but, main topic: sex. Here's whats up. When me and my girlies were like ten haha we made this dinky little pact/promise that we would wait for marriage to have sex. And since then thats what Ive always wanted. I am a pretty strict catholic so not only is that like a big rule in the church, Ive just wanted it done that way. I wanted my first time to be with that special guy that Ive waited my life for, and will spend the rest of it with him. I'm a sucker for that romantic stuff hahah. Plus to me (tooootally not passing judgement here) Ive always found it kind of trashy to have sex in highschool. Not that I look down on anyone or think any differently of those who have, thats just what Ive always thought for myself, if that makes sense. Then again, when I made that pact and when I thought those things, I didn't have a boyfriend, I had never even kissed a boy. Those same girls have been my buds since pre-k and were still tight. I know they still want to wait... There are four of us girls k? Ones had two relationships, both wierd and awkward and not very physical, and the other has had a realllllly fast moving relationship and I'm not quite sure how far they went, could be third base, I don't know. And the last has only kissed. (Were fourteen/fifteen; freshmen by the way). Well I've been dating this awesome guy for like four months (Ive been friends and known him for much much longer) and we haven't gone past second base, skimmed third... kinda... hahaha. Anyway. The thing is, I find myself wanting to have sex with him. Badly. Maybe its just lust and its all stupid and dumb but I want to. Guys have tried to have sex with me before, and I wasn't ready. And when I started dating my current boyfriend (who is sixteen; sophomore) I let him know that I am not ready for sex. And he's totally cool with that. He's amazing, hasn't pressured or pushed it AT ALL, this is all me here. But I want to do it. But I don't know... there are certain things that make me not. The fact that its going against my religion, I KNOW my friends would totally not be cool with it, and I don't know, I'd feel dirty. But I want to. I want to so much. I love him and I think I'm ready. Maybe I need a reality check. So give it to me guys. Talk me out of it. Do something cuz I don't know what to do...

i think you should definitely wait to have sex. you have not been with him long enough to have sex. i was off and on with my ex for 3 years, we had sex and it ruined everything. he left me and now he wont even talk to me. he promised me everything but he ended it all. sex is not worth it, it honestly ruins everything. i think you should wait a year before you have sex with your guy. i know its really hard to wait, but its really not worth it and its a 50/50 chance that your either gonna stay together or break up. and most of the time its a break up. and no one wants to be attached and get broken up with, its the worst pain in the world. dont do it, wait a loooooooong time or whenever you KNOW he's not going to leave you. because no one deserves that pain, and honestly its really not worth it.

i really hope i helped you out. :)

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