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I feel like I have no family a lot of the times or as if I was some adopted outcast or something. My family is pretty much close minded about most things and despise those who are different than the normal person. They're homophobic, they hate those people with piercings and tattoos, black is the color of the devil, rock music rots kid's minds, and you get my drift? Well, I feel like I'm the complete opposite. I'm bi, which I think is part of the reason why I dislike my family and feel left out, I love piercings and look forward to getting a bunch when I turn 18 along with a tattoo or two. And I love the color black, especially when it's mixed with red or dark purple. And music is a big part of my life and the type of music is rock, metal, etc. They hate me as I am already - Listening to that type of music and wearing dark colors most of the time. And they're always trying to change me into someone I'm not. I have to watch what I say, who I mention, what I mention, how I act, how I dress, etc around them as if they were complete strangers to me. I can't tell them anything anymore, not even my sister because my sister just goes off and tells my mom everything I say [& mind you, she's turning 20 this November] I can't discuss music or friends because my mom will end up banning them from me. I can't talk about piercings and what not because they'll think I'm a psycho that needs help. I can't tell them about me being bi because they'll kick me out. I can't talk about guys because they'll interrogate me about the guy to the last detail. I just can't talk to them about anything and I can't be myself around them! I know that I can't talk to them or try to open up their minds a little more because I've tried in the past, failing again and again. I've even told my mom that I have depression and have had it since 4th or 5th grade even before I knew what suicide or depression meant. And she didn't believe me and refuses to believe me. I just don't trust them anymore and I can't talk to them or be myself around them at all. I know that I can't do anything about it until I'm 18 or out of the house. I'm just so sick of living and think it's worthless now. I'm already banned from my best friend, Angela, and she's the only person that I actually tell everything to. I can't talk to my family and I've tried in the past. My mom and sister and dad just won't budge from their point of view and thinks everything that's different from the norm to be a sin or a crime that's punishable by death or something. I'm sick of life and everything else. I don't see the point in it anymore. I don't know what to do. I really don't. I just need advice on how to just be the someone they want me to be until I'm out of the house. I don't know. I just need advice on anything and everything. (link)
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wow. my situation is pretty much the same as yours. except, im a pastors daughter. im in the same boat as you. not knowing what to do. i listen to inflames, devil driver, killswitch engage, blind guardian.. death metal. dad calls it "devil music". my brother and i hate being here. they shove religion down our throats, and expect us to be perfect angels in their ideals. and when we arent, they punish us. i know i cant give you advice on WHAT to do, other than to keep holding on. im not quite sure what to do myself. in fact, today, i was late for an appt. and mom said, "find your own way home" so i called my best friend, and she was going to come pick me up. mom got all mad when i told her that i had found another ride, and now im "grounded". i cant talk to my best friend. partly because i grew up with her husband and him and i are still good friends. we talk all the time about my family issues, and he swears up and down that hes gonna come get me when things get bad. (he's 6 years older than me. him and his wife both) the only thing i can do for you, besides telling you to hold on, is to talk with you about specifics. if you want my s/n or whatever, let me know. i know what youre going thru. ive been soo depressed for at least 2 years now. and i know i cant talk to my family about anything. told my best friend today that i dont feel like i have a family. i never see my brother, my dad doesnt seem to care, and my mom is always mad about something ive done, or didnt do, or whatever.
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can someone send me link to get nice myspace layouts?? thanks!! (link)
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www.whateverlife.com
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does anyone know what is in tea that stains teeth? i love drinking tea but i dont drink it often because i dont want my teeth to get stained. thanks. (link)
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i [love] tea. im not exactally sure what it is that stains your teeth, but i found it extrememly helpful to brush with whitening toothpaste and chew the orbit white gum after every meal. you can never tell that i drink so much tea. :]]
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Okay so my one friend keeps telling me that my other friends ( who doesn'treally get along with me anyway ) is calling me a whore behind my back. My one friend is standing up for me but she says that my other friend is saying that im a whore because my boyfriend of 7 months and i make out during movies - i understand yeah maybe she doesn't want to see it but the thing is his dad hates me and we can NEVER see each other and thats pretty much the only time i can do that with him its getting really hard ! i just want to know if i really am a whore for this or is she just being lsfijsdlf ? (link)
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shes just being retarted.
shes jealous.
just about every couple makes out in the movies.
wtf. dont listen to her. she obviously has nothing else better to do with her time than come up with ways to be retarted.
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Okay so I'm 13/f and I haven't gotten my period yet. My mom said she got hers when she was 13 too so she thinks I should get it soon. I've been getting a few pimples but not many like one or two.
Can anyone estimate the time I'll be getting it?
...yeah. I'm afraid I'll get it during school and it'll go through my pants and grrrr. D: (link)
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i went to the doctor when i was about 12 and i was underweight. he told me that if i didnt get my period by the time i was 14 to go back in.
i didnt get my period until i was almost 14. august of '05 was when i got it. im 16 now, and its SO irregular. ive gotten it once since the beginning of '07. and that was in april.
i would say if you dont get it by 14-14.5, then call your doctor.
about the whole "getting it while you're at school" thing. just be prepared. keep pads or tampons with you in your bookbag or purse. you shouldnt have that problem, if youre prepared.
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i have a problem
you see, i have this one friend who told me a secret. this was not a bad thing, but they didn't want me to tell. it slipped by accident to a REALLY CLOSE FRIEND...who's never told anything and i trust. i made them swear never to tell. my friend who told me the secret found out that i told this person, and is extremely mad at me. i sound like a bad person but im not. what do i do? i feel really bad (link)
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lets put it this way to make it easier.
friend A told you a secret.
you slipped up to friend B.
friend A found out you accidentally told friend B and is now mad at you.
well, assuming that friend A is mad at you, you could tell her that you completely trust friend B. if it wasnt a bad secret, then time will fix everything. guilt does play a part in this. sit both of them down, and let them know how you feel. explain to friend A that you didnt mean to tell friend B but that you trust friend B completley. ask friend B not to tell anyone and let her know that you are trusting her not to. let friend a know that you are sorry. thats all you can do right now. time will mend the trust between you and friend a. i know that sounds typical, but its true.
i hope everything works out for you.
best of luck.
keep me updated? =]]
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I know this is gonna sound weird, but I want to know how to dry out my skin. My skin (on my face) is so oily that around 10:00 in school, it looks really bad. I also have acne, so I wear foundation and stuff. I currently switched face soaps, and I am noticing that with my new one my face isn't getting AS oily, but is there any way to really eliminate it? Help! (link)
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i use: clean and clear oil absorbing sheets.
go to walmart to get them. they come in a small blue case and wont smudge your makeup. you dont have to wash your face, you can use them in class. i use them ALL THE TIME. they are amazing.
its $5 for 50 sheets. (i think). but its worth it.
if that doesnt work (which it should), i would suggest a dermatologist. i go to one every 4 months and he perscribed a pill for me that i take twice a day that helps with my acne, and to my surprise, helped a little with the oils on my face. its called minocycline.
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ok so my cuzin found out about this advice site and she wants to no how to get rid of stretch marks? shes only 13 and she is kinda chunky but she doesnt seem fat shes like average i guess also she has stretch marks on her boobs,thighs and waist but i dont no how she got them at such a early age...how does she get rid of them from her body n how did she get them in the first place exspecially on her boobs....i no its a dum subject but she really needs to know whats going on shes had these streches for 8 months
advice please (link)
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i have them too. tell her to use cocoa butter.
i use;; suave skin therapy cocoa butter with shea moisturizer.
its not abnormal for teens to get stretch marks because their bodies are growing so quick.
and the suave moisturizer works well on scars too.
she can use it as often as she wants.
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How can I get tan and not get burnt? (link)
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if possible, limit the time you are out in the sun. i tan every other day for 30-40 minutes at a time. and i live in "the sunshine state".
use a tanning oil. (i dont like the one from banana boat. i use the australian gold bond one)
=]] good luck.
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Does anyone know of any websites I could use to find scholarship other than Fastweb.com? Do not tell me google, because if you google it you get 20 trillion results. Thanks (link)
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it depends on where you live... i use facts.org
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in our schooll, its like french-kissing, but other places i think it means sex? or does it.....
thanks in advvv. (link)
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"hooking up" (where i am at least) means not actually together like bf/gf, but having sex.
its like a friend with benefits.
"going out" means going on a date
and being "together" means bf/gf.
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how do you get gum out of hair (link)
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cut it out.
thats the least messy way.
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i have an audiovox 6700.
whenever i turn my phone on, it says "unidentified USB device: Enter the name of the device driver for this device. For information, see the device manufacturer's documentation."
does anyone have any idea what to do?? I can't send text messages or get calls or anything. thanks in advance (link)
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its probably a problem with the phone.
take it back in to your serviceprovider's nearest store.
like, i have verizon, so whenever something goes wrong with my phone, i take it into the verizon wireless store. and my bestfriend has tmobile and whenever hers is acting stupid, she takes it into the mall to the tmobile botique.
i dont think there is anything YOU can do personally. so id advise you take it in. tell them whats wrong and they can either give you a new one or fix it.
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I'm 18 and a male. I have an Aadvicenators account that I've been using for years, but sometimes I just need to reach out to my fellow advicenators for help.
Well, theres this girl that I like named Katrina. We've been friends for a long time, and lately we've been getting really flirtatious, and I've found that she likes me also. The only problem is that we live in two different counties. Even though shes only about a 45 minute drive away we've yet to stay in physical contact with each other over a long period of time. My question is, what should I do? I'd like to leave, 'cause I don't like to wait around for things that aren't going to happen, but her friends all tell me that if I leave she'll be devastated. Not that I wouldn't be hurt too, it's just that I'd like to spare myself some unneeded pain ya know? So, what should I do? Stay or go? I really need some help here... (link)
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17/f im in the same situation. just the distance for me is 1200 miles and 21 hours not just 45 minutes. I tried my hardest to get over him. but it tore me up inside, so i went back.
some of the questions i asked myself before determining if i should let go:
-why am i "in love" with him?
-is it worth it? will it all work out in the end?
-is it more than just physical attraction?
-is it both ways, does he love me as much as i love him?
i only got to see him twice a year- if that. and it was tough for me to hold on because i didnt think there was anything there. but in the end, i found out i was wrong. (and i was happy to be wrong this time) well, now, we try to make it work. we talk quite a bit and we try to see eachother all that we can.
i know this answer is going to sound typical, but i think that if it is true love, it will work out. but its not just going to happen. you have to work at it. which is what im doing. its easier to keep the relationship going when you see eachother more than twice a year.
the question is: do you want it to work out?
i found out that its hard to hold on, but even harder to let go. letting go might not be the answer. and you might find that out if you try it (like i did).
things will always work out in the end. if it is meant to be, it will. if its not, then it wont. typical, i know. but its true.
any other questions, just put them in my inbox.
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supossed to have your gums sticking out under the braces hanging down a little its like stuck on the side of my braces is it supossed to be sticking out my gums what should i do (link)
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how long have you had your braces?
do you have a chain across where the gums are?
do you floss and use mouthwash?
it could be gingivitis. i have had braces for 6 years now (this is my last month) and because of it, my teeth arent getting as clean as they should be so i have gingivitis. my dentist told me to use listerine mouth wash twice a day and floss every day and it will reduce the swelling. if you have a chain and just got it put on, then you notice your teeth hurt and they were pulled together almost instantally. Its normal to have gum between when you have a chain because the way that they are pulled together so quickly.
leave a question in my inbox if you need to.
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how can i build up my confidence to be more outgoing how i used to be.
i dont know how but over the couple of months i tottaly lost all my confidence.
ahh.
so what can i do other than join a sport, cuz its too late for that. and like dress comfortably?
ahh i just dont know but i always seem to put myself down and think like i dont belong i guess?
and thats not how i am.. why do i feel so left out sometimes?
also i sometimes feel ebarrassed to be seen with my best friends frineds... i dont know why.. its not like they are weird or anything. but i just am especially in front of my other friends.
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i found that i was comparing myself to those supermodels in magazines. after my subscription ran out, i didnt renew it and i have gained a little bit of confidence. try not to compare yourself to others. like "she has really pretty eyes. mine are ugly." instead, look in the mirror and be optimistic.
any other questions, put them in my inbox...
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okay so there's this friend of mine and she just found out who i like----she's known the guy a lot longer than i have and she's used to be good friends with him, and now that she knows she always says stuff to me "playfully" like "oh he likes me better" and its kinda getting really irratating cause i like this guy even though its a weird match...(which she has also said to me "oh you guys would be a weird match),,,, and im completely confused cause she really likes this other guy so,,,,,,,
it just confuses me--- or am i just overthinkin it??
cause she does this kinda stuff to me a lot with making me feel shitty (link)
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obviously you guys are young. (immaturity). talk to your friend about it. Tell her that it fucking bothers you. and if she doesnt stop then shes obviously not your friend. talk to her.
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is there a website that i can go on aim
i have tried MEEBO
but are there anymore ?
thanks (link)
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whenever im using my dad computer (which doesnt have aim downloaded) i go to www.aim.com and use aim express.
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what can i do for my hair to not get damaged because i always blowdry then put cremes and sprtay my hair with hair stuff to make it look soft and shiny after that then straighteing it with the straining iron and then put more hair stuff but i only do that 3 times a week coz i take a BATH and wet my hair evry other day...
but my new years resolution is always TAKE CARE OF MY HAIR and it never works coz how can i take care of my hair if i always have to "Style" it with the tools [blowdry&annd straightningiron]?? and im only 13 and i shudnt be haveing this problem right now and i dont want to... i have many many split ends iand my hair isd damaged upto my EARSSSS!! everyone notices it ...
and they tell me to "cut your hair!!!! too many split ends!" and im like " i know, but im trying this new thing to make my hair grow upto my butt coz it never happened to me b4" so theyre like "ok"....
but the i cant keep up with it coz my hair is getting so FRIED! so i always have to cut it....
what do you think i shud do! becuse ive alwways dreamed of long hair and somehow and UNFORTUNATELY i cant get it bcause of the damn slpit ends and damaged hair/... uughhh ..
i need;
help!!!!!!!!!!!!
please! (link)
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i would cut it. it will grow faster if its healthier.
you wouldnt want your hair down to your but and it be all fried and split, would you?
cut it so it can be healthy and then let it grow from there.
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I guess I probably just need someone to tell me I'm being an idiot for this, but I'm really pissed off right now.
19/F.
I've been living with my boyfriend for about 4 months. We're both university students. We've become really close over the time we've been dating, so it's not just a casual relationship.
Today is our six month anniversary. I wanted to do something really nice for him, because he's been really good to me. I told him about my plans, and he okayed them. I wanted to have a nice romantic evening and cook dinner for him.
He was at military training this weekend (for the reserves) and he got back about an hour ago.
He brought his brother with him. He knows I don't really like his brother at the best of times. He doesn't know when to back off and leave the two of us alone. He's loud and irritating, and he's obsessed with a certain children's card game (even though he's 20 years old).
This brother of his is staying all night. Instead of the nice dinner I had planned, we're either ordering pizza or having tacos, then they're playing video games.
I'm really hurt, because this anniversary really means a lot to me. He doesn't seem to see what the problem is (because I have a math test to study for).
Am I silly for being hurt? If I am, feel free to tell me. I really suspect that I am, and it would help if someone gave me a figurative slap across the face. If I'm not, I'll bring it up with him later tonight.
Thank you! (link)
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no. i would be hurt too.
he knew what was going on...
if you two are really as close as portrayed, then talk to him about it.
maybe he can make it up to you.
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