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My name is Lizzy, and I love to give advice! Maybe a little too much....haha. I'm in the 12th grade. My hobbies are scuba diving, writing, poetry, and reading. I love the ocean and I love to travel! I am also very interested in psychology, and in studying the way the human mind works, and I'm taking it in school.*DISCLAIMER* it's up to you to use your judgement with matters. you are the only one who knows your own unique situation and feelings, and only you can make the right decision about what to do. my advice is just a suggestion, and what i would do if i was in your situation.
that said, i hope my advice is helpful and i'll try my best! don't hesitate to drop me a note in my inbox!
much love, ~*mermaid poetess*~
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ok theres this girl and shes a year older than me and she goes to my school ok yeah and some one gave her my sn and now she wont leave me alone i ahve profiels and stuff so she leaves messages in my guestbook alwaysz constatly call ing me fata$$ or b**** or anythign u can think of and shes annoying she sayz this stuff at school and im not a narc so im not telling on her but i wann kick her a** but i know i will get in depp trouble what do i do to put her in her place and make her shut up!?
you know she's just trying to get to you. act like you're not bothered by what she's doing and eventually, when she sees that you're not going to be any fun to annoy she'll leave you alone. kicking her a**, while it may feel really good and help vent off all that pent-up anger, won't solve anything, and it'll make you look just as bad as her.
Well, i have this friend and i mean she is really really nice when it is jsut us two, but when we are with our other good friends or when we are with boys, she always has to be the center of attention. She knows she has the best body, so she always says something about being on a diet, so people tell her that she is perfect, and she knows she is like gorgeous and so she always talks about how she looks bad so everyone can reassure her some more. Me and my other bestfriend have been talking about it constantly and we love being with her alone, but it is really getting on our nerves, especially because it makes us feel worse about ourselves. Please help!!!
it sounds like your friend is really insecure. she may honestly think she's ugly, no matter what people say, to the point of obsession. i believe this is a condition called body dismorphic disorder, and it's a psychological disorder. some people just crave attention, whether it's from members of the opposite sex or just from everyone. a lot of times they really can't help it, and they don't realize that they're doing it, because a lot of times it's a subconcious thing. in this case, it probably wouldn't do any good to talk to her about it, because chances are all that will do is make her defensive. on the other hand, some people just do it intentionally, to stoke their own egos. in THAT case, consider: is this person really worth being friends with, if she's just going to be making me feel bad about myself all the time? if not, maybe you just need to move on. without actually knowing the person, i wouldn't be able to say which option is more likely.
i need some help...ive never made out w/ anyone(or french kissed) tomorrow night i think i might though...because im seeing my crush and i know he wants to. im nervous though because ive never done it, and i know hes more expierenced!!! will he be able to tell im not expierenced? got any tips and pointers on making out/french kissing?! heLpPp
haha well i can't say i've got all that much experience on the subject myself, but there's a good website with tips for beginners, http://www.virtualkiss.com/kissingschool/kissing101.asp
hope that helps!
Ok, there is this guy who I'm totally crushing on, and he is really hott! I dont have any classes with him but I pass him in the hall and he rides my bus. Well soon i found out he was one of the most popular guys in school. Wich sucks beucase it lowers my chances of gettin with him. But anyways, I've never talked to him before, and I want him to notice me, and hopefully to like me. (I dont know if its just my imagination but I'm pretty sure we've made eye contact before!) PLEASE somebody help me! What should I do?
well the first thing to do is to ler him know you exist! talk to him if you get a chance, but don't act desperate. just behave like you normally would around anyone else. just chat and joke around and stuff. don't be intimidated by popularity! if you can build up a friendship with him, even better...some of the best relationships start out as friendships.
There is this guy I'm going out with, and theres also this girl that is kind of my friend, though I find her annoying sometimes. Anyways, before we were going out, my friends all dared me to go hug the guy, because everyone knew he liked me. Hugging is no big deal to me, so I did. The other girl went up to me and told me never to hug him again. I asked her why, and she said, "Just don't." So I just shrugged and went away. Some time after that, he asked me out, and the day after we went to a museum on a field trip. My boyfriend bought me a necklace and it was very pretty. I didn't want to make him think I didn't like him, so I pretty much wore it every day. After a week, the girl told me never to wear the necklace again. I asked her why, and she said "Because it bothers me." I got kind of pissed but stayed under control and kept wearing the necklace. The girl obviously likes my man, or she's just jealous that she doesn't have one. How can I tell her that I don't want her butting in all the time? I don't want to cause any fights.
it sounds to me like she likes the guy you're going out with. be nice to her, just ignore all the weird stuff she says. it's none of her buisiness, anyway. but be gentle, it's hard to see the one you like going out with someone else.
Does anyone know any really good books about like teenage situations but is like a fictional story. (like the Gossip Girl series). I love that series and would love to read other books just like that! I'll rate. Thanks for your help.
some good book series of that type are the princess diaries series (much better than the movies), the georgia nicholson series (angus, thongs, and full-frontal snogging is the first one), and the sisterhood of the traveling pants. i also heard that the a-list series is a lot like gossip girl, although i've never read either so i wouldn't know.
I'm in seventh grade and it's so hard! You guys help me! We just had a science test and I got an F! I usaly get all A's and B's. What are some tips, I'm strugging and don't want my good grades to go down.
don't worry, everyone gets a bad grade now and then. one f isn't going bring your whole grade down! but if it still feels like your struggling, and it really gets to be a problem, you should talk to a parent or teacher. maybe they can help you work something out, maybe arrange for some extra tutoring. but it's not worth it to stress yourself over one bad grade, it'll just make you more nervous for the rest of your test!
ok, well ive been dating this guy for a like a year, but now i feel like the realitionship is faded and i dont like him as much. now i always feel awkward around him. I still want to be with him, but im just so confused. its not fair for both of us to not be able to date around becuase we have been together for so long. So im asking advice for two things: How can I get over this whole doubtness and how can i tell him i want to maybe date exclusivly.
-lost in love
sometimes after you have been in a relationship for awhile, the raging feelings start to fade. ask yourself "do i not love him at all? or is it just that it's not the same as before?" relationships evolve and enter different phases over time. a year is a long time, and it could just be that you've passed out of one phase of your relationship and into another, less passionate one. i suggest that before you call it off, you think about it and try to figure out that might be the cause of the matter. butit could also be that you really aren't in love with him anymore. you're the only one who knows your feelings and can determine this.
Ok so I have this friend named Brit and Brit is like so cool she has a lexus and a belly ring and we like hang out alot and like lately she like ignores me and it like hurts my feelings cause i like have no one to go to the mall with and i like have to go alone and like buy my fuzzy sweaters and handbags all by my like self and i like feel hurt and stuff. like what should i do? byeness!
Jennifer
like, you want to know what i think? i like think i know the reason why ur friend brit is like, ignoring you. did you ever like consider that maybe ur like really annoying? like, maybe she's sick of you always like hanging around her because you like say the word like too much and you like don't use any punctuation! like, maybe you should get a life? ok, byeness!
Yo, whats up. U seem full of advise so im goin 2 ask u a ?. I got dis boi i like but i dont think he like me. he ignore me n stuff. whut could i do 2 make him like mi? by.
lil scrappy
well u see, whut u gots to do is dis...u gots to get all up in his face and be like "yo! why u been ignorin me, yo? cain't u see i like u, fool!" den if he don't say nuttin, u gots to beat him up, see? whut.
Ok. my friend and I have a rather odd relationship. We're good friends, and we talk all the time online, but we feel like we can't talk when we see each other because his other friends are there, and 3 out of the 4 of them that are there really don't like me for reasons I don't know. They don't like it that he even callls me a friend and I know, that sounds really stupid. I personally am not terribly worried about peer pressure, I'm pretty cool under it, but he's not. He lets things get to him. We're both kind of sick of hiding that we're friends, but telling the other guys to get over it won't help. The other guys think that's it terrible that he's friends with my best friend, (they don't like her much either) and both he and I know that they'd REALLY hate it if they knew that he was friends with me.
Any ideas of how to be able to admit we're friends, and not have anyone get hurt at all?
i think this is pretty much a case of him having to choose between his friends and you. if he really cares about you, he should be able to admit that he's your friend. i can understand how he wouldn't want to lose his other friends, but enough is enough!
Ok, There is this boy, Lets call him J, Well J is a good friend Of mine, Well there is this girl called Alissa, she is sorta my friend but she likes him because he is hot and because he is a prep and because me and my friend Brandi like him, so she thinks she can have him, Well she is going to ask him out and I am not going to do anything about it and I warned J that I will hate him if he gos out with her and also why she wants him. He said he doesn't know what he is going to say if she asks him, I dont want this to happen...Anything I can do?
sorry but there really isn't much you can do hun. it's up to j, if he really wants to go out with her, then let him, and find someone else. you've warned him of the reasons why she's after him, and now it's his decision to say yes or not. the only thing you can do is hope that j will say no, or that alissa doesn't ask. as hard as it is to admit in a situation like this, you don't own either of them, they're both free human beings and they're allowed to go out if they want...no matter bad it would be for you.
Hey, theres this girl that I really like. And it turned out she liked me too, so I asked her out last night. She said she wanted to think about it. So then later today after school she gave me a note... it explained that she said "I hope we have a good time together, not only as friends but also a couple..." But also later in the note it said "I also found out that (friend of mine and hers) likes me too, but I felt sorry for him because I told him I like you, do you see how I'm feeling? Anyways you're so shy!! You made me feel like a 'sister'~~ haha! Sorry! Hope you can understand what I'm trying to say!" Well anyways my question is... does that mean we are going out or does she want to stay friends?? THANK YOU FOR READING PLEASE HELP
well from the "i hope we have a good time together as a couple" line it sounds like she wants to go out with you. i'd ask her in person though, just to get all the facts straight. if you really are worried about it, just ask her what she meant when she said about the other guy. it can't hurt, and if it'll help your mind rest easier then go for it!
What are ways I can get taller? I'm 14/m.
there aren't really any garunteed ways to make yourself grow taller. just drink lots of milk, and take vitamins, that way your body won't be lacking in the raw materials needed for proper growth. other than that it's just up to mother nature! but if you're only 14 you still have plenty of time...many boys don't get their growth spurts until later!
hey wow well i really like this guy but im really not sure if he likes me cuz i mean he always ims me even while im away and we'll talk online and stuff but i just dont kno if he's interested and im kinda used to not gettin guys so how should i somewhat show him that i like him without having to actually tell him... should i flirt more and how?
*muCh
just talk to him, act interested in the things he says. if he really likes you he'll be putting out tiny hints to see how you respond. be on the lookout for these hints and respond to them favorably. as he gains more confidence the hints will become bigger and more frequent, and if you reassure him enough he'll probably ask you right out. it might take awhile though. of course if you don't want to wait around for all of this, and you're a bold type of person then you could always just ask him! but i'd wait and make sure i had enough evidence where i could be reasonably sure he liked me.
ok so me and my ex-boyfriend broke up after about 3 months of seeing eachother...he said that he found someone new. Well we didn't talk for about a month and now about a week ago he IM's me online and was like hey whats up and i was very hesitant to talk to him bc he really really hurt me bad and i loved him and all and i thought he loved me (he told me he did but i didn't think it was true). Well he asked me if we could talk. So i went to meet him at our usual spot that we used to chill and he was like how have you been and everything. I asked him why he started talking to me again and he said bc he felt bad about everything and said that he acted like an A**hole. which is true. Well then i asked him how him and the other person he met was doing and he told me that it didn't work out between them. I was like oh okay. We hooked up and i knew i shouldnt of an now i like him ALOT again. I dont know if he only is talking to me bc it didn't work out with the other girl or what! can someone please help!! sorry its so long ill rate u high if u answer! thanx!!
it's hard to tell. he might really like you, or he might just be saying that because it didn't work out with his other girlfriend. you could try it again, but take it slow, don't get too caught up in it, in case he's not sincere. i'd be suspicious, if he's done that to you once he might just do it again, if he's that kind of guy. overall, just be watchful.
freshman/f
I like a guy who is a junior. He knows who I am but we don't talk or anything. How can I talk to him without looking immature or desperate? lol
(Guys, if you can help PLEASE do! :o))
i don't know how often you guys have opportunities to talk, but when you see him, just be friendly! don't jump all over him though, treat him like you would anyone else. just be yourself. if you can build up a friendship with him, you'll gradually be able to start talking to him more, and it won't seem odd. whatever you do DON'T FLIRT at least at first, that will make you look more desperate than anything!
i think my bf might be mad at me..he signed offline on me without saying bye or that he had to go or love u...wut do u think
get all the details first before you assume he's mad at you. maybe his computer or instant messanger program froze up? maybe he wasn't supposed to be online and parent walked in? check out all the possibilities before you assume you did something wrong. if he's still acting like he's mad in a day or two by all means ask him what's wrong!
ok i been with my boyfriend for a while n we have alot of ups and downs...i really love him...and i no i do...but he is confusing me with this whole "i love u thing" i really wanna say ti to him soooo bad! and he sed it to me first....but it was n my voicemail...he left a mssg for me and he was like i love u..bye and like when we talk on the fone he wont say it....only on mssgs! and in person he dont say it either....its really confusing me! what can i do? do i say it first? helllpp wat does this mean
it sounds to me like he's just shy! maybe you should try saying it first, it might help him be more confident about saying it to you. :) ~mermaid poetess
so my friend is being really hypocritical.. she was totally being mean to me kas of the guy i was dating.. and how he was like "all over me" but then she goes and makes out w. some random guy who shes not dating and is all over him..so what should i do? (o and ya i no i can spell..)
it doesn't sound like she's being a very good friend. who your boyfriend is is YOUR choice and your choice alone, it's none of her business! you didn't mention how close you were too her. if she's not really all that close i suggest you ditch her, you don't need to be hanging around people who are always going to be like that, it starts to get old after awhile, believe me. if she is a close friend who you really don't want to lose i suggest you talk to her, try to work things out. tell her how you feel. if she still is being a jerk then i suggest you forget about her, it's no good putting up with people like that who are always going to be bringing you down. ~mermaid poetess