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I'm Ashley, I'm currently studying nursing in college and hoping to deliver babies one day :) I'm terribly obsessed with my best friend and sister. I've been dating my boyfriend for a few years now and I am busy being 21 and juggling 3 jobs :)
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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends)
Why can't he come?? Is he just being stubborn or does he have a prior commitment? If anything, you guys can go out for the wedding, leave early and get a hotel room for the night? He should understand that both events are very important and compromise is key :)
My boyfriend's mom wasn't supposed to be home for another hour yesterday and she walked in on us having sex. She was so mad she couldn't talk at first and then she yelled at me to get out of her house and never come back and she watched me get dressed and didn't leave until I left. Obviously I deeply regret what we did and we shouldn't have been that stupid and I just don't know what to do now. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 23. His mom is unpredictable and emotionally unstable and she said she wants to tell my parents about this. I am so humiliated and ashamed and I haven't decided if I should tell my mom yet i don't know if I can handle that right now. Should I? What am I supposed to do now? I can't apologize to his mom or talk to her at all because she hates me now but I want to do all I can to make this situation better. Please help me!!!
A) Your boyfriend should have told his mom to give you a minute to get dressed, regardless that it's her house you don't deserve to be shamed like that.
B) What you did wasn't wrong, and don't let her tell you it was. Maybe the timing was wrong but nothing else.
C) I don't talk to my parents about sex, period. But in this situation, it might be best to get in front of it and tell them what happened (of course you can leave out sorted details). Maybe just tell your mom she caught you guys in a private moment and really freaked out. Sometimes moms are great tools and regardless of her feelings about you sleeping with your boyfriend, her first urge will be to worry about you. Your mom might even have some advice for you.
D) In terms of the apology, ask your boyfriend. He knows her best, and will help you to know what to say. He should be apologizing and taking responsibility too. Don't shoulder this guilt on your own. Give her time to cool off before you approach her. And when you do, make sure your boyfriend is there to step in if things get heated. Good luck!
You answered my question about making a job change recently. After initially accepting the offer, I recanted and turned it down. Later that day the HR Manager left me a voicemail stating management really liked me and wanted to sweeten the offer. I called this morning. Instead of making an offer, she asked me what it would take to get me to come. I gave her a number that was 6% more than what Iwas offered, but still well within the stated salary range. She later sent an email saying she gave the proposal to management and that they were going to pursue other candidates. They didn't even make a counter offer, and said they really didn't think I wanted the job. I thought it was bizarre.
I would email the manager and ask what they could offer you... At this point, what can it hurt? Even if you don't receive the monatary amount you want, other benefits may be available. Best of luck!
i am a female and i have a boyfriend. i'm almost 17 and he's 16. we've been together for 5 months now. i went to a guy's house, we did have a short fling, but it's over now and he ended up trying to pressure me into things, i continuously repeated i didn't want to cheat and even ended up crying over it in front of him, but that didn't stop him and he threatened to make me walk home, i was about 40 minutes from my house and had no clue where i was. so i got scared and allowed him to do some things to me..i never kissed him or touched him. then he got rather aggressive at one point and had me pinned against the wall, my back to him and arms behind my back held by his body, pulled my hair back hard and place his hand over my neck. at that point i was frightened if i didn't let him go farther he'd do it anyway and well i got him to agree to keep all clothes on and nothing goes inside of me. well the next day i told my boyfriend, he was quite pissed and yelled at me, telling me how stupid i was and that i cheated..i honestly have no clue what to do because i NEED to make it up to him and at the same time i feel like he should break up with me. also i want him to hold me and tell me it's okay and that i'm safe, yet i don't want to be touched ever again.....what do i do about everything?
You were sexually assaulted... If your boyfriend can't help you through that, he's an asshole. You should reach out to a counselor to help guide you through this.
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I'm dating a guy who still uses Tinder. I heard it could be quite addicting after using it for awhile. But I realized that he's been getting on it more after two months of dating. I've spoken to him about it but he told me that he's still getting to know me and just because he met me, he's not going to put "all of his eggs in one basket"? Whatever the hell that means.
We're only seeing each other in person but he has been chatting to a few people according to him. I've been talking to one other person other than him but he's still my first priority so I'm confused on why he's so into Tinder.
I downloaded it myself, I just think it's fun to see my matches. Talking to other people? I don't care too much about it. Is Tinder just for the ego boost, to see how many people like you, what is the point of it and what could possibly be the reason why he's still using it?
I feel like people have different uses for Tinder... My friends and I like to tinder at bars and find people to buy us drinks, and just have a good laugh at some of the weirdos! But than I also have friends who use it to have random sex. I think it's most important to find out how he's using it before making it an issue.. But if you're pretty exclusive, he shouldn't need tinder!
21/f
I've been on birth control for 2 years now. I am on microestrogin. The last week of pills are brown and contain iron and no hormones. I have not missed a pill so far and I needed to skip this months period since I am going on a trip. I heard that if you skipped the last week of birth control, I won't get my period. I did that, I did not get my period, the second week, I've been bleeding/spotting/and I'm on my period. It looks like old blood. I thought it was supposed to skip it? What do I do? Does it not work for this particular birth control? Is my body just getting used to it so that means I can only skip my next month period?
You shouldn't have bled at all but it's possible that your body isn't used to not having a period so you... Call your doctor and ask... It's still effective though.
Okay long story..
So I've always had a small crush on my best friends brother and I found out about a year ago that he likes me back. The problem is my friends all make fun that he likes me and they always tell me never to date him. So for the past year I haven't done anything about it and then I recently entered my first relationship with a guy I really like. (I'm 14) I thought all the stuff with the other guy was over, but it isnt. All his friends keep telling me he likes me and I see him almost every day. He's so sweet to me and always tells me things like "Hunter (my boyfriend) is a lucky guy" and "You look beautiful today"!! My boyfriend, however, is so shy that he never compliments me, has only held my hand once (We've been dating for 3 months) he never flirts with me or hugs me. We hang out a lot and I really really like him, but I dont know if I want to wait for him to make a "move." I really want to progress our relationship, but I don't want to scare him. I don't know what I should do about my best friend's brother either. Help me!!!
First a tip with your boyfriend - you don't have to wait for him to make a move, you can make the first move. If you like the other guy more or are having feelings for him again, end things with your boyfriend and go for the other guy. Ignore your friends.
So this may seem silly, but I've spent the last few months getting over a 5 year relationship and everything seems to have changed in the dating world.. Feeling old >.<
I've been seeing this guy for about 2 weeks now (we got to know each other on online dating website for 1-2 weeks prior to that), we've been on 5 dates, and he's coming to my place this Saturday evening for diner. He's been here before and we've had a few intimate makeout sessions on our most recent dates, and we've mentioned sex in passing in previous conversations, but also briefly mentioned waiting for 'the right time'. We've both mentioned that we really like each other and that we'd like to keep seeing each other since the first official date. We've touched on exclusivity but it hasn't been a full on topic. Whatever, I don't really care at this point.
Finally, the actual question: Is it weird for me to ask him if he wants to stay over, without specifically 'asking' him to have sex. As in, I would not be asking him to have sex, but just to sleep over. I mean I wouldn't be totally opposed to it if he tried to make a move, but I don't want to be "that girl" and lead him to think that this happens all the time with everyone, or imply I just want sex. Honestly, I kinda just want the excuse to spend the next day with him before I go on vacation for 2 weeks.
It may also be relevant that I've only ever been with one person before (the 5 years guy was my first and only).
-Female, 24
I would just ask him to stay over and tell him that you just want to spend more time with him, and not necessarily have sex. If things start heading in that direction you can put the brakes on.
I've served just about 4 years in the military and i'll be getting out and moving back to my home town in a few weeks. i joined when i just turned 18 and on my first vacation home i met a girl via mutual friends and have since become, for lack of a better term, "friends with benefits" although we do hang out together socially with others as well. i made it clear on the first night that i had alot of deeply rooted trust issues with women due to past relationships (but thats another story)and because i did live so far away i had absolutely no interest in a relationship.
we've met several times since when im in town and touched on the subject a few times and its been clear that she would like to be more. i've told her that my intentions havent changed mostly because im still emotionally afraid of being in a relationship. im afraid shes just going to get too emotionally attached to keep things how they are so it wouldnt be right to continue as we have been.
but because of my inability to trust her even though shes never given me reason not to i wont be able to provide with with a healthy relationship and will just end up hurting her. im sure shed be willing to work through this with me if we did move forward but would it be fair for me to do that to her? it may take me well over a year to truly work though this for all i know. or would it be better if we just cut ties so she could find a man deserving of the great woman she is.
Explain your fears and hesitations in detail with her. You clearly feel something for her because your concerned about hurting her, and whether that's a romantic attachment or not is your decision. I think that if you have no interest in dating her, let her move on and give her space. But if you want a relationship, lay your cards on the table in detail and talk to her and see if she is willing to work on your issues with you.
Good luck :)
I'm thinking of starting schooling in Dental Assisting at a local community college, they offer a 2 year degree and also a diploma.
Does anyone know what the advantages to getting the degree over the diploma would be? Because the diploma is so much cheaper....
Thanks in advance!
There maybe a higher pay rate with the degree, or different opportunities... Some places may require the degree over the diploma. Look into places you'd want to work and see what they require before you make a commitment to either program.
I'm Male, 19 years old. I've been with my girlfriend for almost 16 months. We're both virgins. Lately, since I started working, I've had the temptation to just go out and cheat. I'm always super horny and fantasizing about doing stuff with other girls. I love my girlfriend and I feel super guilty for wanting to cheat. We never really do anything besides kiss. I don't want to pressure her into doing anything she doesn't want, and I don't pressure her. But she'll do stuff that hints that she wants to do something, then doesn't do it. Like sometimes we'll be sitting and she'll grab me and/or stroke me for a few seconds then stop. Sometimes she'll put my hand on her crotch so I could rub, but we never go any further. I work at a busy place in nyc, so I'm always seeing and meeting nice attractive girls. I always fantasize on my train commute too. Like everyday. Sometimes I even wonder about calling an escort, but I don't want to mess up.
If you're unhappy with your sex life with your girlfriend, talk to her instead of cheating. If you respect her, you won't cheat on her. You should end things with her if you really can't control your fantasies and if you really love your girlfriend, you wouldn't disrespect her by cheating, just tell her you want to do more and see what she's willing to do, just don't take advantage of her and the things she'll do just to dump her because she won't sleep with you.
I'm a freshman , and I've been searching online for good colleges and i just need someone who attended or have seen CUNY : Brooklyn College to tell me is it good or bad ? , and does it have Computer Science ?
I'm sorry, I didn't attend either of these schools but I think your best bet is to visit the schools yourself and talk to random people on campus, sit in on courses and do an overnight visit to see if you really like it. Contact admissions offices and see if they can put you in touch with a student.
My face acne is bad, & I was wondering if anyone would know the best acne cure. Comment below.
I use Head And Shoulders shampoo for acne and it works really well, it kind of dries your skin so make sure to use a good facial moisturizer.
me and my boyfriend cuddled kissed and snuggled this is the first time for us and first he ejaculated half into my anus and my hymen did not break.the second time the same day we tried to ejaculate but the penis did not enter. i don't know whether the semen went into my vagina or not.i got wet in my panties and he too got pre-ejaculation liquid we both did without our clothes.is there any chance to get pregnant?
If semen got close to your vagina at all there is a chance (though it is small)... Also the pre-ejaculate fluid can also get you pregnant. Be safe and use condoms.
I've been in a relationship with a girl from overseas for almost two years. I'm a 26 y/o guy, and she's 24. She came with me here about a year and a half ago. I treat her well, romance her, buy her roses, bake her cakes, take her out when I have time, tell her that she's beautiful, help her look for work, and a lot with English.
Last year she started acting funny and talking about a guy, and I found out she cheated on me by looking at her phone, and reading her emails (Not saying this was right, just that I did it). I confronted her, but I never really felt she thought what she did was wrong. I promised not to look at her stuff again.
For the half year since then she's been using her phone a ton, and hiding it from me. Lately she has been getting calls and messages from the guy she cheated with on me again, so often that even though she doesn't want me to know, it's inevitable that I would see at some point. She gets pissed off over trivial things, she's stuck to her phone 24/7, we hardly ever have sex anymore, and sometimes I don't feel like she even wants to be here.
So I gave her time, and everything just felt kind of wrong. I broke my promise and checked up on her. She's still cheating on me, and things never really stopped. She tells me she's faithful, nothing has happened, and she loves me, but I know she's lying.
Recently she got offered her dream job in my country, and the contract process is happening fairly quickly. She's staying here on a Partner visa with me, and we live together. If I break up with her, she either has to leave within a month, or become illegal. Apart from that, it will obviously make my life more hellish for that month than it already is living with a person who you know is lying to you with a straight face, while making out with another guy. I know that she is planning to stay with me for the two years it will take for her to gain permanent residence, and then leave me for the guy she is cheating on me with.
In my country, you can only ever sponsor two people to be partners, and if your first partner is granted PR, the length your second one has to wait grows to 5 years, rather than just 2.
I don't know how to handle breaking up with her, and what to say to who, when. I don't want to be taken advantage of, or have my name smeared by this. Breaking up with her before she gets PR will pretty much destroy her whole life as she knows it. She quit her job to come here with me, which is kind of a black spot on her employment history in her home country. I feel angry and upset about what she has done to our relationship, but I'm still battling feelings of love for her, and I don't want to see her broken. I wish everything I know about what's happened could be a lie, but I know it's not, so I have to deal with it.
To complicate things, accepting the job involves costly medical and security checks for her, and may mean we consider moving. I'm at university, and I only just found this out, right before the exam period. I really don't want to think about this before exams, and I definitely don't want to break up with her just before my first exam, so I am putting it off, but I feel so guilty for "supporting" her through the process of getting checks and references for this job that I know will be difficult if not impossible for her to keep.
What would you do?
What should I tell her? The truth? Or that I've fallen out of love, but don't know why? Or that one of her friends told me the truth?
How do I deal with the stress of living together with this oblivious lying girl who tells me she loves me?
What should I do to handle the resistance that I'm likely to have to breaking up with her? She won't want to break up with me, because she wants PR.
Can you tell me some steps and the order in which I might do them?
Any other general advice about the situation that I haven't asked a specific question about is more than welcome.
Thanks in advance.
-Troubled
Now I know very little about the citizenship rules, but can't she get the visa with this other guy?
You need to confront her and see what she says. It's very sweet you don't want to hurt her but clearly she doesn't care about you in the same way you do... All I have to say is, as crappy as it is, you can't sacrifice your happiness for hers... Ultimately end things and she's on her own. You seem to have done things right and taken care of her so it's time to take care of yourself.
my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand?
CAD is a build up of plaque in your cornary arteries. they supply oxygenated blood to your heart. the plaque builds up over many years though and you\'re a little bit young to have CAD (typically!). my best advice is see your doctor!
So my boyfriend & I recently discovered we both had chlyamdia. I got it cured. But my boyfriend on the other hand, hasn't yet. He went but they sent him somewhere else, anyways we were messing around we been using condoms since we found out but I was messing around & I was teasing him & didn't think anything of it but I just licked the top of his dick (the head) & just remembered you can get chlymadia through oral. I didn't think about it, but it was literally just a lick. Not a suck or anything. One lick! Lol he didn't cum or anything. Is there a chance I have a chlymadia? Please answer asap!
theres always a chance of chlamydia when you fool around... best thing to do is get tested and make sure he gets treated!!
I know this may sound like a dumb question but I have dark reddish brown hair and really fair skin (like the skin of most redheads) it has pink undertones and it's freckled. Most brunettes I know even if lighter skinned aren't as light skinned as myself...?
Some people just have more pale skin. If you're that uncomfortable, use a tanning lotion on your body and bronzer on your face.
Well I had sex for awhile now with different guys. Some guys I started bleeding with drops of blood not a lot but I don't know why? I don't know whats going on? I am scared to go get check out because my mom doesn't know nothing of this. So please help me
Bleeding is usually a bad sign, but when I had a similar problem, I found out it was from not having enough lubrication.
Go see your doctor, if you can't see a gynecologist, I recommend going for STD testing at a free clinic. If that isn't an option, go see your primary care doctor and they can give you a basic pelvic exam.
21/f About 3 weeks ago, I noticed my left wrist kind of hurt whenever I'd try to use it to turn something. The area that hurts is the joint between my thumb and index finger. This is slightly confusing because I'm right handed. I turn a lot of things at work with both hands so I figured I'd leave it alone for a while and it would go away. Now, it's 3 weeks later and my left elbow is swollen and hurts. I don't recall sleeping on it differently or injuring it at all. But the area between the two bones on it is normal color but a little swelled. I could barely use my arm today. The entire arm also feels stiff and keeps popping when I move it. Is it possible to get arthritis at my age? Will the pain go away or should I see a doctor?
Have you tried treating it with NSAIDS (advil and stuff) to get the swelling to go down? If that isn't happened, it's possible you have tendonitis in your elbow.
I'd go see your doctor if the NSAIDs don't work. Let me know what they have to say! Good luck!