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What cute nickname could i give my boyfriend? (link)
I call my boyfriend monkey(; lol and then we call each other bave, baby, honey, and love! I hope i helped(:


how to makeout with a guy but not frenchkissing (link)
hey there(: I agree with teen2teenhelp I did the same and when it comes time I know your prob gonna hate to hear this but it seriously comes naturaly, like when you have a normal kiss you pretty much just keep doing that over and over again, its really easy trust me and make sure he knows you dont want his tongue in your mouth, but sometimes your tongue will naturally get in the way, it's happened to me so dont worry it just barely brushes against your teeth haha. I hope I helped good luck(:


how to say goodnight in a cut yet flirty way
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sleep tight don't let the beddy bugs bite(; hope this helps(; if you need anything else let me know(:


Can anyone tell me the name of this outfit and where I can get one like it from?

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Where can I get an outfit like these from and what is the outfit called?

http://www.me-myselfandi.co.uk/mmi/74-184-large/black-saw-u-high-waist-skirt.jpg (link)
Hey there(: I have seen these outfits before at forever 21!!! I have seen tons of outfits that look like this!(: also you may wanna try Agaci, it is similar to Forever 21! I hope I helped good luck(: :P


Okay, well i need help on trying to choose a honeymoon spot. my soon-to-be husband says that i have to pick because it runs in his family.
the main things im looking for are
- romance
-some places to shop
- relaxing
- have lots of time alone, but not to much,(dont wanna be stuck in a room the whole time)
- good weather, not to hot, not to cold
- somewhere in europe is preferred.
-sight seeing
please tell me some places that maybe you have went and you think its just perfect place.
thanks for reading, please help!
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Paris would be perfect! Paris is known for romance, they have great shopping places (a lot of cute boutiques) great food, and of course they have the eifal tower! and other good things for sight seeing!I have went there before and It includes alllll of those things(: I hope I helped good luck! and congradulations(:


hey there. i'm 21/f and I feel like it's time to move out. I have come here several times to vent and get advice about how to deal with my family. they are extremely overprotective and have no respect for my privacy or my school work. I am in college and studying to be a kindergarten teacher. It's a very time consuming major, as most education majors would know. grant you, we don't have as many exams and things like that, but there are a lot of projects and things like that. At my house, people really have no respect for my school work.

My mom doesn't have a job. I'm not really sure what the deal is or if she even wants one. But, we live with my grandparents and she spends the majority of the day helping my grandmother with housework. I was working a lot. To the point that it was interfering with school and I felt myself getting really depressed because I really hated the job. I am now held back an entire semester because of all the stress. It feels like living at home is another job. When I get home, I don't relax. I don't have my own room. Everyone is always in there watching television, and messing up my things. I am not even exaggerating. I took pictures to show my therapist the messes that they have made in "my" area. I don't have a desk in my room. I've brought it to their attention several times. But, nothing gets done. They're just like: "go to the back room." There's no table in the house for me to sit in and just do my homework. There's always people over.

If I were to just go to school and focus on that, and not work, then I could finish the majority of my work in the library without a problem. But, the library closes and I'm working, then I really can't go to the library because the hours interfere with one another. Anyway, I hated my job and my boss was very abusive and got in trouble and I'd just rather find another job down the road. But, if I do start working, I'm going to need the dorm. Because, there's no way I can work and live at home. There's no place to do my work, there's no respect for my privacy. People walk into the bathroom while I'm in the bathroom, They have taken my clothes and put them in a huge pile of a mess. My mom and I argue all the time because she wants me to use my money towards getting fake nails, hair extensions, and a fake tan. It's just so much tension. So much tension. The other day, my phone was lost. Someone found it and I guess they called her because she's saved under Mom and that's the person they decided to call. She picked it up and spent the day reading through my text messages. There is no concept of privacy. It just doesn't exist. When I get home from work/school, it's like 9pm, and I feel more stress and more tension than I did at school/work. School is the most fun thing out of the three.

So, I thought the best solution would just be to get a dorm. I can find a job that I would like if I want to, after I get into the rhythm of the semester. But, I could actually do well in school, focus on what I have to do, and not argue. I just need the privacy more than anything.

But, here is the problem: I would need to take out a loan. So far, I haven't needed any loans. I have a full scholarship. So, I'm scared to take out the loan. I wouldn't have to pay it back until 6 months after graduation. That's the only thing holding me back. That, and that I'm scared. I guess it's normal. But, that's why I'm here. To get advice.

So, to dorm or not to dorm? I can't afford an apartment because I would need to pay 3 months in advance and they don't offer loans for that. So, that's not an option. Thank you.
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I defintly say Dorm!, it is a great privalage and seems very fun!!, it is also less expensive and your best bet, besides its on school grounds (depending) so it would be easy to get to classes on time! hope I helped good luck(: if you need anymore help just inbox me:D


I like this boy at my school and we have been bestfriends for 6years. When we got to the eighth grade I started liking him. But he already has a girlfriend but I think he kind of likes me too because when she is not around he starts to flirt with me. And then a teacher sees what I see and she said we make a better couple then him and his girlfriend do. So what should I do. We are both 13 but he doesn't want nobody to know his age but he told me instead of his girlfriend. (link)
Hey there it looks like you're already out to a good start like with what your teacher said! I honestly don't think a teacher would tell you something if she didn't think it was true! I had the same situation with my last boyfriend he liked me for a long time even though he had a girlfriend for a whole year he liked me but had multiple girlfriends. And he flirted with me just like this guy flirts with you! So I really thin you should go for it, and like flirt back more than normal but not too much and if It keeps up, text him and say something like hey I have to tell you something but promise you woun't get mad because I know you have a girlfriend and let him text back and say I like you. And trust me Im sure it'll work on you because it worked on me once and I said exactly what I just typed to you and he text back and said I like you too. It was the most happiest momet for me because I was in love with this guy. I hope you will do this because it worked for me and I wish you the best of luck! If you need anything else just inbox me Good luck(: xoxo - Madison


were to buy a chia pet
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Hey there, I see them a lot at walgreens and see them advertise in the papers. Also CVS. They come out a lot for Christmas. I would check Walgreens! I hope I helped I think they're cute i always wanted one!(: btw im pretty sure they have them now becuause I saw them in a walgreens sale paper about two weeks ago so ya good luck if you need anything else please imbox me:P


I have been unsure about my sexuality i'm 15 male last year when i was 14 i dated this girl it did'nt last that long i was'nt into it i thought i liked girls but since then i've become really attracted to guys i was'nt sure about being gay but i started becoming friends with this guy we started talking and we spent a lot of time together we really hit it off and we have been together now for 2 months i really like him i feel more comfortable and i'm happy being with a guy its who i am there's nothing wrong with being gay is there? (link)
Hey there! Thanks for asking this. Personaly I honestly thank that it doesn't matter love is love in whatever way you feel!(: so if you like this guy go for it I'm glad your happy Just don't let anyone get in your way Do what makes you happy!:D Congrats on the 2 months! Well I hope I helped:P if you need anymore help let me know, xoxo- Madison(:


Awhile ago i started having strange things happening. After i fell asleep, i would have a nightmare. Everytime i woke up it was 3:15 and 1 second. LITERALLY EVERYTIME. It happened for like 4 days straight. Each time i woke up, it would seem stuffy and my room and i would hear a strange noise. This has been bugging me for awhile and i really want to know what it means. (link)
Hi there(: First off, I don't really know about the nightmares but 3:15 is known to be the time when paranormal things happen in the night. So I would say that something paranormal (ghostly) is happening. I have heard of many people hace bad things happen at 3:15 and you can even look up and read it is the time that most paranormal things happen. I don't know if the nightmares have anything to do with the sounds and paranormal activity going on but it may! I would go and look up stuff about other peoples expierences on things that have occured at that time. I hope I helped! Good luck(: xoxo - Madison


Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. And hence the makeouts were a mutual desicion. I am falling for him. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps on telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He hasnt had a past record of cheating or anything it's just that he tells me he wants to be sure before he asks a girl out that he will be completely loyal to her and not flirt around with other girls. He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. we actually act like a couple in love. we also talk all the time. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.

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Tanvi. (link)
Hey there(: thanks for asking! first off I think when guys say stuff like that, theres defintly something up. Boys who will go around and kiss you, make out with you, hold your hand etc. and then say i'm bad for you, it just don't make since. He may just be playing you then just walk away thats what it sounds like. I would first make sure he isn't maybe ask some of his friends. Also though you sound like you really like this guy, and I know how that feels. your like no matter what, you want to go out with someone you like am i right? so I would just talk to him about what I said like why do you keep saying your bad then see what he says. Then tell him (if he isn't just playing you), that you would really like to go out with him and you don't care if he thinks hes bad, and that if he did just dumped you or treated you bad like he says he thinks he will, then just say if it don't work out blame it on me, im the one who wanted to try it and you said no, and act like he don't bother you. Thats what I would do(: Well I really hope I helped you and I want to thank you again for asking me this! if you need anymore help im here(: good luck! -xoxo Madison


Hi i'm from a christian family i'm male 15 my parents are really religious i'm not a religious as them but i go to church and pray to god and i have read parts of the bible and i feel like i'm close with god but lately i feel that i want to read more of the bible and i really want to get closer with god so do i pray a lot more? how can i get closer with god? (link)
Hey thank you for asking(: I am a christian myself, and i Think your doing really good! I honstly think your doing all the right things! Just continue reading your bible every day like a chapter, until you hopfully make your way through it. Make sure you keep trying to go to church every Sunday, and pray atleast once every night before bed, and even more would be good. Those are somereally good ways to become close to God just by what your already doing. Another way to come close is just to live your life as the bible says and of course everyone makes flaws I know I do haha. Just do the best you can with that, and you'll be doing good. One more really good way to become closer to god is to give all of your problems over to him and let him help you with them, and he will! trust me just trust in him. I don't know if you know about how you go to heaven or not, not rying to preach to you but just leting you know (THIS IS A BIGGY) which is to get saved, not babtized this is not required but being saved is, you have to be saved to go to heaven. You can do this in private or at your church. All you have to do is pray to the lord and ask him to save you and tell that you belive Jesus Christ died on the Christ to save us from our sins, and that you believe he is the almighty and powerful god, and for him to save you for you to one day be able to go heaven when you die. Thats all you have to do to go to heaven(: I did this when I was 8, but when getting saved it doesn't matter how old you are. Well I hope I helped you!! if you need anything else just ask!(: good luck!! -xoxo Madison


15 year old male i am gay i have strong feelings for this guy we have become really close lately we hang out a lot the other day he told me he's gay and he likes me a lot i told him that i'm also gay and i like him i haven't told anyone else that i'm gay still to nervous about telling people not sure how they will react we really like each other and we want to be together should we go for it?
there's nothing wrong with being gay? (link)
Hi there thanks for asking(: Well to start out with i'm not gay but I understand how you know you can be nervous to tell people things. Honestly if you like this guy yes you should be together, I mean your going to have to tell people sooner or later anyway. So yes I would be happy and be together with this guy. Now I think with telling your friends/random peers I wouldn't even bother telling them such as going up to them and saying hey dude I gotta tell you something....I'm gay. I would just get together with the guy and let people see for themselves, and if anyone happened to come up to you and be like hey dude are you gay, Just be like yep! sure am and show you don't care. Now for your close friends I would just talk to them about it, and say like I don't want this to come between our friendship but I thought I'd let you know, that i'm gay. Now as for your parents this is probally the tuff one. I would wait until you go out to a restraunt to eat and then go to a restraunt and gently tell them there so that they are in a public place, and they can't you know yell/ freak out at you. Thats what I would do. Well I hope I helped you(: Thanks again for asking! if you need anything else jsut let me know!!(: good luck!! -xoxo Madison


I'm 13 can I tan at a tanning salon?! (link)
yepp(: i did when i was 13, and I was just fine! Don't do it to often though, because it can cause skin cancer!:/ Most places will let you but you will probally need your parents permission. Well I hope I helped(: xoxo - madison


14/f
This is going to be my first time going to a homecoming dance and i am not really sure what to be looking forward to. I am not going with a date and i am afraid i am going to be the only one without one. Also what do i do on the slow songs???? do i just stand off to the side? thanks so much! (link)
Hey(: First off it is always fine to go to dances by urself like without a date, tons of people don't have dates for dances. Honestly I bet you there will be more without dates than with dates. A good idea to do is to go with a friend or friends. Thats what I do if I don't have a date. If you dont go with friends you should meet them there. Also during a slow song you don't have to stay over to the side!, It isn't like in movies where everyone is dancing with someone and the people that don't have dates go sit on a bench mouping haha! There are always people walking around or dancing with there friends, People standing around talking, the slow dance isn't just for dates. My main thing for you is to just relax it will be just fine when you get there!(: Well I hope I helped hun, If you need anything else just imbox me good luck!!(: xoxo -Madison


okay so our school will be celebrating teachers day on the 17th because of the ongoing exams
as it is going to be my last teachers day in school
i want to give something to each of the teachers who have taught me for atleast two years now
i have a maths sir who teaches me and the rest five subjects are taught by women

any sugestions???? i need help.
i don't have a very huge budget. but i can splurge a lil'. (link)
Hey(: thanks for askings!(: i would say give them a gift card everyome should like that and gift cards are nice! I would suggest maybe to a nice restauraunt or a book store. Hey teachers like to read right:P other than a gift card i would maybe say a nice candle(: i used to get thoughs for my teachers. Now for a male if you dont get a gift card how about a nice gift basket of stuff he could use for his classroom!(: well i hope i helped! Thankd again for asking! If you ever need anymore help nust ask!(:


so i like this guy. he was in my school and passed out this year. i am a year junior to him so i'll pass out next year!
i have been talking to him for quite a while now.. and i really like him. he likes me too. he asked me out recently.(though we both are confused on what to do because.. the problem is he is going to another country :/ for his college! and yeah well he would come back to where i live cause his family is here, but still i mean i dont know what i should do?) (link)
hey there(: thanks for asking! I say if you reallly like him you need to go out with him. I'm sure he'll email, text you everyday! and when he can visit I know he will. He wouldn't ask you out and then never talk to you. So I say you should defintly stick with him if you really like him, just becuase he is in another country don't mean ya'll can't like video chat, email, text, call and even write to each other! and i'm sure he'll come back for hollidays! and even more than that especialy sense he has parents and hopefully if yall are together, you(: Well I hope I helped good luck(: If you need anymore help inbox me(:
-Madison xoxo


Hey, I got my period not to long ago and I don't know how to tell my mom. When she was little she didn't have to tell her mom because her mom gave her everything she might need and said to figure it out on her own. I wish my mom would do that. But my mom is the type of person that puts everything on facebook and I don't really want for her to do that with me. I don't know how to tell her. (link)
Hey(: First off just saying your mom I PROMISE is not gonna put on facebook! oh my daughter got her period today! She wouldn't do that. Even the meanest of moms wouldn't do that, so please don't worry about that(: Anyway I would just go up to her and say mom I started, and if she says started what then just be like my period. Just straightforward say it, it's easier that way(: Well I hope I helped good luck(:


This is my first crush right now and I am scared to tell him I like him. We have known eachotger since kindergarten Nd we are now in 6th grade. I sit right next to him which is nice, but sometimes i freak out!! How should i tell him? Also how do I tell my mom about my first crush??? Thanks to all answers given. P.S. I am a girl and I am eleven. (link)
aww(: haha well I'll tell you what I did with my first crush. I made sure you were like best friends lol I talked to him all the time and made like inside jokes for ourselves and the cool thing is i sat bat my first crush too(: so what you need to do is like steal his pencil sometime or book then let him find out or if he don't after a few minutes be like look what i have and then laugh and look in his eyes. Also text him almost everynight(: and come up with a nickname for him guys like that and it's flirty so it will let them know you like them. Now about telling your mom, well I was embarrased sense he was my first so I waited till we were goin out before I told her so it was easier! to jsut come out and say mom I have a boyfriend. Sense then I have been able to talk to her about everything and I'm not one bit embarrased. She even tells me who she thinks is cute(: and that has been like 3 years ago and actualy he wasnt my first crush he was my first love. So I hope I helped good luck(:


are there any other good books that are a good love story like "dear john" or "The Last Song"?
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kaaitlyn (link)
Well, I personally like books by Sarah Dessen, like my fav.
1.) Someone like u (my favorite)
2.) What happened to goodbye
3.) Keeping the moon
4.) This lullaby
5.) That summer
6.) Dream land
7.) Lock and Key
8.) Along for the Ride (another fav)
9.) The truth about Forever(another fav) Plus a lot more! They are really good love stories! Plus I really like the Diary of a Teenage girl series too. They are by Melody Carlson!(: Well I hope I helped good luck(:




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