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Im a relatively thin person, but i have an annoying patch of armpit fat which isnt part of my boobs, but isnt part of my arms. what can i do to get rid of it? because it really affects what shirts i wear :/ (link)
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Lots of women have that. It's quite normal. I know how tough it is when you feel like you cannot wear all the fashions everyone else can, but the only way to get rid of something like that is liposuction. I don't recommend that, either. If you are already thin, you don't need to lose weight. This probably isn't the advice you wanted to hear, but it's good advice: Learn to live with and love your body the way it is. Accept what you perceive as your "flaws". Focus on what you like about your body. And if you want to wear a tank top, just do it. It's very possible that you're the only one who even notices this on yourself. If you cannot bring yourself to wear a tank top, just know that not everybody can wear everything. Buy the kinds of clothes that look best on your body and love how fabulous you look in them.
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Do we have certain dreams for a reason? Is it to show us something about a certain person we didn't notice before?
For example, i recently slept on the floor for one night (dont ask why, i dont vene know myself =D) and i had two extremely vivid dreams.
In the first, one of my guy-mates (who've i've kinda got a crush on) was stood around outside with his friends. My friends and I walked past and he held his hand up to me for a high-five, which he does in real life all the time. So i high-fived him and, jokingly, grabbed his hand and continued walking off. Then all of a sudden i was about 15ft away from him and about to walk through one of the doors in my school and i still had his hand. He was a little like one of those Stretch Armstrong toys. After i stretched his hand to the doors he started stumbling towards me a little, and then i woke up all hazey. It felt so real!
My second dream was just as vivid, but i'm not really bothered about it. It was about my Dad trying to hurt me real bad, and flipping out over nothing. He chased me around my house and i was screaming and crying so hard, i was crying when i woke up. I think i dreamt this because we fell out big time just before i went to sleep. That might be why i slept on the floor that night?
Thanks, 13/F (link)
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There are different theories on why we have dreams and what they mean.
Some of the most well-known theories come from Sigmund Freud. According to Freud, dreams are like a window to the unconscious mind. In Freud's theories, dreams explore fears, emotions, or wishes that we are not consciously aware of in the waking hours. However, it's more complicated than that, because there can be symbolism in dreams. For example, you may have a dream about your father, but the dream may not really be about your father. Your father could be your subconscious representation of something else, as could your friend, the human stretch Armstrong doll. Of course, this is all according to theory...
Another theory is called Activation-Synthesis theory. According to this theory, dreams do not have meaning and are your body's reaction to the biological processes that occur during sleep. They are the result of your brain attempting to make sense of random firing of neurons that occurs during sleep. Supposedly your brain can use memories to help it make sense of the random brainwaves, which would be why the dreams seem to have meaning.
Then there are people both historically and in modern times who believe that dreams have divine origins, or are somehow a connection to the spiritual world.
Consider all of these theories and think about which one you believe the most. I tend to like Freud's theories, because I often dream very vividly about things I am afraid of or things I come to realize that I secretly want. Dreams often help me understand how I really feel about things that are going on in my life. They can be really helpful (in my opinion) because you might be "bottling something up inside of yourself" and not dealing with it. It's not always the best thing to do. Sometimes dreams can show you some pent-up emotion you need to be dealing with and not ignoring. That part is my personal opinion.
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My nickname is the "dateless wonder". I'm almost 16 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. I've never even been asked out. It's not that my parents don't let me date, is that no guy has ever approched me. I apparently scare people! IDK why, I've been called emo,cutter and druggy, but I'm not! My friends call me a Teddy Bear and say I act and look cute, but then I hear rumors going on saying that I'm scary! I am a flirt failure to boot. I don't like those kind of games, I'm straight forward and I apparently speak bluntly.... I don't know what to do! How can I be more approchable? I've been told by friends that guys have tried to flirt with me before, they would start walking up to me then suddenly turn away. Why do I repel guys? I really don't want to be single all of High School! Please help?! (link)
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There are a number of reasons that perhaps guys aren't approaching you. Are you considered shy? People often see shy people as not easily approachable. If this is the case, try to break out of your shell and be more outgoing. Do you think you might come off as someone who does not have a lot of confidence? If so, you need to show that you have confidence in yourself and that you like yourself. Confidence (not arrogance, but confidence) makes people seem more approachable. Also, you don't have to wait for a guy to approach you. Sometimes guys (especially young ones) are too self-conscious to make a move, even if they might be interested. I don't see why you would "repel guys", unless you either are shy, seem to not like yourself, or perhaps you're just so darn pretty those guys don't think you'd be interested in them. Sometimes if you're just really open and show your personality (be extroverted!) guys will start to flirt with you because they get to see your personality and they like it. No matter what kind of personality you have, there are guys out there who like it. You just have to be open and very friendly so the ones who would like you know you're cool.
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i dont have like bad breath. i brush my teeth everyday. and keep them cleaned. but me and my boyfriend got more into the whole kissing thing. and im always self cautious that my breath stinks. what are some things i can eat or drink to make my breath smell better? please help! thankyou (link)
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If you're self-conscious about your breath, make sure your oral hygiene is good. If all you do is brush your teeth, you might want to start flossing once a day. Small bits of food can get stuck between your teeth where a tooth brush cannot reach. Bacteria builds up there, and then you have bad breath. Also, use some mouth wash after you brush your teeth to kill more bad-breath-causing germs. Another thing is that if you don't already brush and/or scrape your tongue (with a tongue scraper), start now.
Drink more water to start with. If you feel like you want to suck on a mint or chew some gum, make sure the mints or gum are sugar free. Sugary mints and gums feed oral bacteria, so they actually will make your breath stink worse after the initial "masking" smell wears off.
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well i've been wanting to get something done on my face for awhile now, and at first it was going to be a stud on the nose. but then the whole universe decided it was a good time to get that done, so eh, i thought maybe a lip piercing isn't too shabby after all. most people are against my decision, saying it'll look bad. but i really want to get it done, regardless, so i ignored those remarks. but one grabbed my attention, my sister who knows quite a lot about piercings had told me i could chip my tooth on it, it could destroy my gums, i could swallow the back. so i was wondering- are these really as big as they sound or is it just an over exaggeration? and before i get it done, what are some things i should know? thankyou. (link)
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Dentists warn against oral piercings because they are indeed bad for your teeth. First of all, they wear down tooth enamel by rubbing against your teeth. If this concerns you (it would concern me), I would advise you don't get a lip or tongue piercing. I had a lip piercing before, and one thing to consider is that they are a little gross when you're eating. It's kind of a gross thing many people don't mention, but food gets caught on them, and it's absolutely disgusting. Also, since the piercing is in your mouth(which is full of bacteria) they run a high risk of infection. If you do decide to get it done anyway, be sure you keep it really clean until it heals. I used Bactine on the outside and washed my mouth with Listerine regularly.
Don't use alcohol on your face because it can make the scar more prominent should you choose to take it out. Also, I hope you are planning on having it done professionally at a trustworthy place, not just for safety, but because if it's done correctly, it will not scar. They should actually give you detailed aftercare instructions, so follow them.
If you're wondering how it will feel, I just want to add that when I got mine done, I was sitting there wondering when the guy was going to do it, but he already had the ring in. I felt nothing. Different people feel different things.
One more thing... if what you really want is a nose stud, get a nose stud. Who cares if they're popular. Sometimes you'll like things that are popular, and sometimes you'll like things that aren't. As long as you always do what you really want, you won't be conforming or anything. Do what makes you feel pretty. Also, with a nose piercing you won't have to worry about damaging your teeth, getting food caught on a lip ring, getting puss in your mouth if the piercing gets infected (a gross reality), etc...
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okay..so me and this guy talk about doing stuff sometimes..but the thing is. is that i'm 15. and he's 19.
is this illegal?
or does it matter what state you live in? (link)
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It depends on the age of consent in your state. Here is a link with a list:
http://www.webistry.net/jan/consent.html
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Okay, I am approaching the time when I must transfer from my community college to a university. I can't decided whether I should attend UHD (which is strictly a communter college, and cheaper than the other university I am about to list. Also has small class sizes but it is an open admissions university).
The other school I am considering is Sam Houston State University. It is located in Huntsville, TX (which is like 2-3 hrs from my home), more than likely I'd have to live on campus, and it costs more than UHD (duh). So yeah, here's what I am thinkin....
1) I don't like driving. (Especially Downtown.... WOW and UHD is like 40 mins to an hour depending on traffic which can get bad on I10)
2) I have a feeling I may get kinda home sick if I go to SHSU.... (but hey I can visit on the weekends right?)
3) Could be missing out on the college experience? If live at home with my parents and attend UHD, I'll be missing out, I think.
4) Don't want too many loans.... SHSU of course costs more than UHD. SHSU totals out about 16,000 while UHD is at 7,000....
What do you guys think? If it helps any, I'm an Education Major.... (link)
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If you do end up getting loans, there is some kind of special program for education majors. I'm not sure what it is, but you should definitely ask the financial aid office at SHSU about it.
Now honestly, I think you will miss out on a lot of the college experience if you live at home with your parents, and commuting will cost you a lot in gas, and cause wear on your car. On the other hand, I would advise against taking out loans to most people, because nobody wants to graduate with a debt the size of a small mortgage (except you don't have the house).
Don't worry about getting homesick. If you get involved in campus organizations, make lots of friends, and enjoy school, you'll be having too much of an exciting time to really miss home, and of course you can go home on the weekends.
I think SHSU sounds like a better deal, but try to find out if there are other ways to help you pay for it. Of course, you'll be filing a FAFSA to see if you can get any grants. Check that you want work study and see about getting a work study job. They can't work you more than 20 hours a week. Then check into as many scholarship opportunities as you can. If you can make it work, it will probably be worth it. Then again, it's up to you. If you'd rather commute to UHD, it's strictly your choice.
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Male, mid 20's.
I'm not going to bore with details. Over half a decade ago, I met my first love, who after barely a year, tore my heart out and broke my confidence in myself. I attempted to repair the bond to at least be friends, with horrible results.
I thought I was past it all, but recent I ended up seeing her again, and it reopened the old wounds. More than half a decade since it happened, and I'm still hurt when I am either reminded of the past, or placed in a situation where I re-encounter her.
I'm starting to worry that I'm not well in the mind. I mean, I should be over it. And yet, this scar on my heart keeps getting ripped open at the slightest chance involving anything that reminds me of the past. Why can't I stop feeling hurt by this? (link)
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There's nothing horribly wrong with you. Seeing the face of someone who hurt you so badly is likely to cause a strong response. First, forgive yourself for getting so upset about it. Don't think that you're not well in the mind, just do what you can to let it go. You need to find out how to get from hurting when you see her face to being indifferent. Obviously there is something inside of you that is unresolved in regards to your ex. If you have to, try writing about it in a personal journal. Try writing her letters that you'll never send. The reason you'll do this is that it will help you understand what you are still holding onto and possibly allow you to let it go.
More importantly, if you haven't already, you need to get your confidence back. You can't let this one other person dictate how you are going to feel about yourself. In fact, you shouldn't let anyone else dictate that. You have the right to feel good about yourself, so take it back. If you feel good about yourself, you should care less about her because you know you're worth more than that.
If you have the willpower, you can get over the past, but it might require delving into the past first to figure out why you are still holding onto it, then letting go regardless.
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what are those exercises that make your boobs bigger??
im a 34 A
even though im only 13 i want them bigger!!
lol but seriously do they work??
have you tried them?
PLEEEEASE get back 2 me (link)
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There are no exercises you can do to make your breasts larger. You can work your pectoral muscles (which are under the breasts), but that won't make them bigger. You're only thirteen, and probably not nearly finished growing. On the other hand, you should not be worried about making your breasts larger. You should just be getting comfortable with your body and learning to love it the way it is.
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hi. i'm really a go-getter. i've listed all the things i want to experience before turning 20 but i don't know where to start!!!
i want to do lots of things but i just can't start on something!
i want to learn baking, photography, driving,volunteer at a charity,mountain climbing,change my fashion style, etc.. and etc!!
i just don't know where to start! pls. help. i don't want to end up having lots of these goals but regret them for not being able to do them. LIFE IS SHORT.
~dreamer.18/f (link)
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Life may be short, but it doesn't end when you're twenty years old. Why have you given yourself this deadline? You don't have to push yourself so hard. It just might drive you crazy. What I would advise you to do is to just keep those things in the back of your mind and look for opportunities. Check into a local university to see if they offer any programs where you can take classes you might be interested in. For instance, the University where I live offers a program called "Continuing Education" that offers everything from Baking classes to Yoga, and they are much, much cheaper than enrolling in an actual college class.
If you're unable to do this right now, start by going to the library and checking out some books on subjects you want to learn about. Read a book on how to take good photographs, or baking, or mountain climbing. You can also use the internet to start learning.
Try this site:
http://www.livestrong.com/great-outdoors/
I don't think they have anything about Mountain Climbing, but you can look. They have things about white water rafting, hiking, kayaking, and other outdoor activities, though. You can start out with hiking and work your way to rock climbing. You have to start small, and not expect yourself to run before you can crawl.
When it comes to volunteering, I don't know what kind of causes are important to you, but it would be a lot easier if you found some organization to be a part of. See if there is a local chapter of some volunteer organization you would care about.
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Would I lose weight just as fast if I did south beach instead of atkins or is atkins faster? Thank you. (link)
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For starters, the Atkins Diet is extremely unhealthy. Eating large quantities of saturated fat and denying your body the whole grains it needs is horrible for you, and will make you way more unhealthy than being overweight ever could.
That being said, people who do the Atkins diet usually lose weight fast at first, but it levels off in the end. That might be good for beginning motivation, but this period of losing weight fast does not last. The South Beach diet is more reasonable than Atkins. You might not lose weight as fast at first, but you'll either lose the same amount or more over time. Just be patient, and if you insist upon doing one of these commercial diets, go with South Beach.
However, out of all the commercial diets, consider that Weight Watchers has the highest success rate. If you're going to drop cash on some kind of program to lose weight, you might as well spend your hard earned money on one that has proven itself as the best of the bunch.
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well my house has a really weird smell.
part of its probly from my little brother.
butt it smells nasty.
i try to spray it down as much as possible with airfreshner.
&_ ive tried em all.
also my room has a odor too ;butt a different one.
any ideas on how to make my place smell qood ? (link)
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Sometimes there are odors that simply cleaning and cleaning can't quite get out. Consider that fabrics hold odors as well and try spraying some fabric refresher on any furniture (such as Febreeze). If you have carpet, there are powders you put down before you vacuum like Glade Carpet & Room Deodorizer. If you have machine washable drapes, wash them in the washing machine. Spray them with a little Febreeze (or other fabric refresher). Hopefully it's just the fabrics holding odor, because I cannot think of anything else that would cause an odor other than mold. Hopefully it's not mold though! Anyway, good luck and I hope this helps.
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okay so,
i have had quite a few people tell me imma whore because im flirty..
i don't mean to be but it's my personality..
and i like to hug people&stuff.
i REALLY don't went this reputation ..
someone please help!
thanks to all who help me (link)
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I'm sorry that's happening to you. It can happen for many reasons, but unless you are accepting money for sexual favors, you are not a "whore" and unless you are sleeping around with many partners, you are not a "slut". Sometimes girls are jealous of another girl getting a lot of attention. You may be getting attention for having a bubbly personality, but other girls get jealous because they are not the ones getting the attention, so instead of being more bubbly themselves, they think the best answer is to tear you down. Some guys see a girl that is bubbly paying attention to other guys, and get jealous because they wish she was paying attention to them, so they call her a "whore". There may be other reasons, but the point is that it isn't your problem, it's theirs. Throughout your life, no matter how you behave people are going to call you one thing or another. Just be yourself and be proud, knowing that you're not doing anything wrong. The only thing I would advise you to be careful of is other people's boyfriends/girlfriends (you didn't specifically say you were a girl, so I don't want to assume anything). You need to be careful not to flirt with somebody else's significant other, or even do anything that makes it seem like you're flirting. Other than that, don't worry too much about your reputation. Just be yourself and everyone else can deal with it.
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hey. i don't smoke, i eat my vegetables by my lips are always chappy, and i just can't that pinkish glow. it's like the lips of a smoker.. what do i do about this??? need help! (link)
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Make sure you are well hydrated by drinking 8 8 oz glasses of water per day (if you don't already).
Take a multi-vitamin daily (if you don't already).
Get a good lip balm and use regularly, like Burt's Bees. Don't use Carmex because it can make your lips dryer in the long run.
Hopefully these things help.
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Hey im 18/f. I was just wondering if you miss your birth control for a day or two and have sex and he cums in you. How much higher are the chances of me getting pregnant. For example i forgot to take my birth control tonight and yesterday and my boyfriend and i had sex tonight. He pulled out but i know its not an effective method. I was just wondering how much higher are the chances now?? (link)
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I wish I had an accurate answer for you, but if I gave you a specific answer there's no way it would be accurate. Your best bet is to read about the specific brand and type of birth control you use because they are all different. Search for the brand's website and see if there's an FAQ about "what if I miss a pill" or something of that nature.
The type I take says if you miss one pill, just take it the next day and you're probably okay. If you miss two pills, use a backup method (ie condoms). I suppose that means if you miss two or more pills, there's a chance you will ovulate, increasing the risk of pregnancy. I think you're probably okay, but be more careful next time.
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Is there a difference between a bubbler and a water pipe? I am getting one for a friend and he has a water pipe that needs to be replaced. Thank you for the advice. (link)
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I could be wrong, but I'm under the impression that "water pipe" is the proper term for a bong, while "bubblers" are the smaller, glass pipes that you put water in the bottom of and can be held with one hand.
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my friend thinks she is fat and guys always make comments about her being fat also. what do you think?
http://i159.photobucket.com/albums/t146/aliraelovesyou/1234456.jpg (link)
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Your friend doesn't even know what "fat" is. You should punch those guys in the nads.
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This is gonna sound like a stupid question, but do guys really care about how much a girl weighs? i'm definiely not the skinniest person but i think i am really pretty. im also a really nice person, with a great sense of humor. but im 21 years old, and ive never had a boyfriend. so do guys really only care about looks? (link)
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I am 21 as well and fluctuate between a (US) size 14 and a size 18 depending on how much I'm working out at the time, but I am one of the healthiest people I know. I've had to learn after years of struggles and failures to lose weight that I have to accept and love myself the way that I am. All the while of being this size, I have never been in the absence of men hitting on me. Not every man likes a plus size woman, but there are plenty of them out there who do. If you're not getting attention from guys, perhaps you are projecting the image that you'd like attention. You absolutely do NOT have to do anything promiscuous in order to get attention. That isn't what I mean. Just don't let your size get you down or make you think you're any less attractive than girls who are thinner than you. It might be hard to believe, but confidence makes a huge difference. If you want people to think you're attractive, you've got to project the image that you are attractive. So whatever makes you feel pretty, go ahead and do it. If that means getting a nice new top or getting your hair done, do whatever it takes to make YOU feel pretty. Somebody WILL notice.
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on free rice.com how many grain's of rice equal one bowl?? (link)
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If you mean like a real bowl of rice, I don't know, but if you mean as part of the game, it is 200.
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I'm getting married in October, if all goes well. I've been looking for wedding dresses online, because none of the shops near me have anything close to what I'm looking for. So far I've found one dress I like, that's actually pretty cheap. I'd like to find some more, though, so I can keep my options open, because I really don't want to settle on one without looking at some other ones. I'd hate to regret my choice.
So, I was wondering if anyone knows any websites I can go to. I don't want anything really pricey. I want something that's not your traditional white dress. I love colorful dresses. So far our wedding theme is going to be Autumn, so preferably something in that color scheme. I love the idea of kind of gothic looking dresses, but nothing like the medieval dresses. Any suggestions? (link)
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I'm a little confused on what you mean by "gothic but not medieval", but Here are a few dresses that conform to my impression of what that means. I'm sorry if I'm in left field:
The following are from goodgoth.com:
http://www.goodgoth.com/empire-gown.htm
http://www.goodgoth.com/fleursdumalgown.htm
http://www.goodgoth.com/mq432.htm
http://www.goodgoth.com/vinylball.htm
These are some autumn-looking dresses that aren't quite as "gothic". This place carries all sizes, even though I know the site says something about "sizing up glamour":
http://www.sydneyscloset.com/asp/product.asp?categoryid=97&catalogid=1371
http://www.sydneyscloset.com/asp/product.asp?categoryid=34&catalogid=2120
http://www.sydneyscloset.com/asp/product.asp?categoryid=34&catalogid=1480
http://www.sydneyscloset.com/asp/product.asp?categoryid=34&catalogid=2043
http://www.sydneyscloset.com/asp/product.asp?categoryid=34&catalogid=1994
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