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Dateless wonder...
My nickname is the "dateless wonder". I'm almost 16 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. I've never even been asked out. It's not that my parents don't let me date, is that no guy has ever approched me. I apparently scare people! IDK why, I've been called emo,cutter and druggy, but I'm not! My friends call me a Teddy Bear and say I act and look cute, but then I hear rumors going on saying that I'm scary! I am a flirt failure to boot. I don't like those kind of games, I'm straight forward and I apparently speak bluntly.... I don't know what to do! How can I be more approchable? I've been told by friends that guys have tried to flirt with me before, they would start walking up to me then suddenly turn away. Why do I repel guys? I really don't want to be single all of High School! Please help?!
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alright emo girl, welcome to the club. hey, obviously you're not an AE kinda girl, so that limits your prospects right off the bat. don't go off of what your friends say, they're liars. stare at yourself in the mirror, and ask yourself "would I fuck me?" and if your answer is "hell yeah, I'd fuck me", then go out and make yourself available to chat with the opposite sex. guys will laugh at anything, so use some situational humor.
-gunner
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There are a number of reasons that perhaps guys aren't approaching you. Are you considered shy? People often see shy people as not easily approachable. If this is the case, try to break out of your shell and be more outgoing. Do you think you might come off as someone who does not have a lot of confidence? If so, you need to show that you have confidence in yourself and that you like yourself. Confidence (not arrogance, but confidence) makes people seem more approachable. Also, you don't have to wait for a guy to approach you. Sometimes guys (especially young ones) are too self-conscious to make a move, even if they might be interested. I don't see why you would "repel guys", unless you either are shy, seem to not like yourself, or perhaps you're just so darn pretty those guys don't think you'd be interested in them. Sometimes if you're just really open and show your personality (be extroverted!) guys will start to flirt with you because they get to see your personality and they like it. No matter what kind of personality you have, there are guys out there who like it. You just have to be open and very friendly so the ones who would like you know you're cool.
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lol you sound just like me when I was younger. Except I was about 12 or 14. All I can tell you is make more guy and girl friends and throw yourself out there. Show those people that they were wrong. Best of all, you would be proving them wrong at the same time. Maybe you will get a couple of guys to actually crush on you :)
You never know what can happen. This is def. what I wish I would have done when I was in middle and high school. I was a sweetheart, and got along with most of the people who talked to me. Only downfall? I wore mostly black, still do lol
Just not as hardcore as I used to be... not that I was to start with. Guys and girls are alike in this way... everyone is scared of rejection. Someone could like you, they are just too scared to tell you. To be more approachable, smile more often and maybe tell some jokes. You seem like a funny girl. I don't know you, but I feel a sort of comic sense in your words. I could be wrong, but hey. Just make people laugh, but be you while doing it. Also, if you have guy friends and they take your hand, hug you for a long time (with a smile on their face), play with your hair, tickle you, act jealous when you talk about other guys, etc. he likes you. No doubt.
Well, a guy has done this to me, but I didn't know he was flirting... I was oblivious to all this. He was just my best friend and he wrote me a letter and told me not to open until I got home. lol
He asked me out ... big surprise for me, even though everyone knew what was going on before I did. I just thought he was being really nice. I was about your age when I went out with him.
Just be on the look-out for signs. Try not to be as oblivious as I used to be. Maybe that will help. I sure do hope so... Good luck to you :)
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