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I don't know who to believe
Okay so I'm 13/F (almost 14 though) and I recently met a boy (15/M we'll call him J) and he seemed pretty nice, so I gave him my number and we've been talking for awhile now but haven't hung out a lot. I asked him once about his past relationships and he told me that there has only been one girl and that they only made out. And I was kind of surprised because I knew one of his friends was a pretty bad kid but I thought maybe J is diferent. Well I talked to that friend (close friends) and he told me that J went all the way... Im not really okay with that. I've never even been kissed... I asked J if that was true (but I didnt say who told me) and J denied it... Well i dont know who to believe... I dont know either of them very well but I really want it to work with J. What should I do?
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Believe J, not his friend. Some guys (not all) exaggerate about their sexual experiences, or lack thereof.
And even if he has in fact had sex before, that really shouldn't be a measure of his character. He's a bit young, in my opinion, but it doesn't make him a bad person. And it's not an indicator of if he'd force you to have sex with him (which seems to be a concern of yours).
Go with your gut, though. If the relationship starts moving too fast for you, put on the brakes and tell J so. A good guy will respect your feelings.
-LM
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Like the person below said, give him the benefit of the doubt.
Sure, he could be lying because he doesn't want to seem like he's gone very far, but his friend could be lying for the heck of it.
See how it goes with J, and keep asking him about his past. I mean, don't pester him, but, if you end up dating him, it's your right to know if he's had sex or not, because he could have an STD or something.
Maybe ask some of his other friends, and compare stories. If all of his friends are saying he's gone as far as his one friend did, I might start to believe them.
Take it slow and be observant, basically.
--Jack
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I say give him the benefit of the doubt. Give him a chance to prove himself. You cannot prove anything except maybe if you had a picture or a video clip lol
The past is already done, whatever happened has already happened and there is nothing no one can do.
Let him prove his worth, and you see for yourself if he is truly worth it.
Think of it like this.
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift - that’s why it is called the present!
It truly is a great quote to base your life on.
Every time you think about how much you do not like it, think of this quote. Live in the future, not in the past and not in the future. Live for today. It makes your life that much worth while.
20/F
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Hi,
I'm 13 as well and i have been in the same position you are in. i would let the past be the past. What you don't know won't nessicerilly kill you. My advice is don't worrie about it, but don't let him in your pants until yall have dated for a really long while. Go and have him checked for STD's. Don't get in to deep because if his friends are bad news then maybe he is just playing it off as a fake.. I was in love with a 16 year old he forced me to do alot of stuff but we never had sex. So older guys probly aren't your best bet..
Hope i helpd please rate me
Glustick
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