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Okay so im flirting with this guy and i have a strict rule on smoking/tobacco and all that. Well he does dip sometimes and i think thats the grossest out of all of them. I dont want to have a long relationship with this guy i kind of just want to go out with him for a week or two so other guys notice me. You all know how once you cant have them you want them more. Well that happened a couple years ago and i want guys to notice me more. Im not ugly though. Im 15; Cheer captain; Skinny; Long blonde hair and Blue eyes. Im not gonna makeout with this guy cuz that just grosses me out knowing i could have some kind of tobacco disease from him. Anyways do you think this is wrong; should go out with him at all? (link)
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Yeah, I know how being unavailable makes you more attractive.
But you should also have remembered that using someone in a relationship leads to those around you rejecting you completely for being a disillusioned, narcissistic bitch.
You aren't that person, are you?
If you aren't ugly like you say, just wait, the right person will come along.
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Ok so ive been rejected 5 times so far this school year and idk if i should continue to go for girls or just wait and 14 and a guy. Right now i like a girl but she doesn't like me and im moving on so i don't waste my time so should i chase or just not do anything or what? (link)
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Chase the girl that doesn't like you? No, that would be silly; dont be silly.
That would only add to another tally of being rejected now six times. Of course keep up the effort, but be sure you're not jumping the gun too soon, Mister. Ask them out when the time is right, and if you feel that it is right.
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16/m So I only have about 4 friends that I ever have around to my house, or go to their house. Don't get me wrong, I have alot of close friend relationships, but my close friendship group is often considered the 'nerd group' and so my friends have fun, sitting at home playing games or on myspace 24/7.
Lately though, I'm becoming bored of this. I feel like my life is a circle, every day in and out. I need to get 'out', but my friends whom I usually have over only ever want to come to my place, as my parents can afford to have the 'cool stuff' like a pool table, table tennis, etc. I come up with ideas such as going to the shops but they say that they have no money (As I'm the only one who actually has a job in my friendship group..) to go out, and so I just let it slide for now saying 'sure that's fine, come over', but it's not helping me in my headspace. I want to hang out with my friends but at their house, or just not in mine.
I tell them all the time, and quite bluntly too, that I don't what to hang out at my house. They just don't seem to get the point and for the past month I haven't bothered having anyone around as it's all just the same to me. (selfish?)
I've noticed it's all started building up in me since I went backpacking in Europe a year ago.. and I'm not sure if I can even decipher what it is exactly that I'm asking here, but you seemed like a pretty cool guy who knows what he's talking about from what I read in your Column.
any help? Cheers. (link)
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I know what your problem is, I have had the same problem myself.
You friends are cool, you know this, but they're not giving you everything you want. And while you didn't actually ask a question like you said, what you're looking for is a new group. I'm not saying ditch this group of buds you've got, but start looking around for other people who are more active with what you're looking for.
If you dont want to do that, try and get them out more so that they will see that it is cool to go out and do stuff too.
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i heard they think about it a lot, how much would that be? like a number range? (link)
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At least once a day.
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Soes anyone have any good talking to girls about anything as im really nervous talking to them any help would be help full. (link)
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The answers you'll get on here will be the beginner things such as "Hi, how are you?" and all of that stuff. That's great... but it's very naggy and you end up playing 20 questions with the girl. Imagine seeing this girl you like, you've both got dogs and are in the park.
You: Nice dog [dogs start playing], they seem to like each other. What kind is he?
Her: [Yeah they're getting along well. She tells you the dog type]
Y: Cool, cool. What kind of food do you give it?
H: *Food*
Y: Do you come out here often? I haven't seen you before?
DO NOT do that. Instead, ask for her opinion on something. For instance, walk up to her and be like "My friend and I were just debating earlier who the coolest ninja turtle was. I think it's the dude with the two swords, my friend said it's the nun-chuck guy!"
You're conveying a quirkyness and intrigue about yourself and appearing lively, because in order to deliver this question you'll need a smile on your face, partly because me telling you this, you're probably thinking that I'm out of my mind. I assure, this will work better than anything else.
From here you can go into other topics. Never, EVER hang on the same topic if you're running out of stuff to say. And, always, if you no longer have anything to say, you have no obligation to keep talking to her. Dismiss yourself and come back later.
Also: If she likes you and is in to you, she'll keep the conversation going. If she's doing this, you're in luck - she likes your company. After I get to know a girl and they start showing interest I'll actually stop bringing up new topics because they will keep the conversation going.
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I'm really like this girl who is in my school ok but I'm really nervous to ask her out as i dont know her and im not in her class.So I was thinking of getting my cousin to do it as he is in her class and I was wondering to girls find that a bit weird.SO MY QUESTION IS DO GIRLS HATE IT WHEN SOMEONE GETS THEIR FRIEND TO ASK THEM OUT FOR THEM?
(I wouldn't do it myself as i couldn't stand getting rejected like that) (link)
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You dont know her and you're not in her class, but you want to ask her out? No sir.
You need to get to know the girl first, build some interest, even see if YOU like her personality or find her annoying as hell. After that point you should ask her out.
Hit me up with some inbox stuff if you've got more questions on this. I'll be of great service to you.
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I want to make my mom a cd of old songs for her birthday that is coming up. I thought it would be super neat to get popular songs of the 60s and popular songs of the 70s put onto the cd for her to listen to in the car. I don't listen to 60s music and 70s music so I don't know the popular songs back then. I think my mom would really love to have a cd of 60s and 70s style music for her birthday.
Could someone please list some really popular songs of the 60s and 70s for me so I can put them on a CD for my mom's birthday? (link)
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Jefferson Airplane - White Rabbit
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I was Kissing a girl and were uptight against each other and I got a little excited down there you know a boner.Oh man!!.And i think she knew i had one.So my question is do girls find it weird or awkward when you get a boner.(I'm asking this as I haven't had many GFs) (link)
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They should be taking it as a compliment.
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How can you tell someone you like them by not telling them that you like them?Like how can you show that you like them and not tell them? (link)
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Kino escalation.
In other words: Touch.
Get close to them.
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me & my boyfriend had just broken up, he said because he doesn't want me anymore.. which really hurt me, i started crying for 2 hours straight. then.. later on, he wanted to get back together with me.. but i told him it was kind of too late. and then i said if he wanted to, then i think it's best to be single for a while first. and he asked if we can still have the "no talking to opposite sex promise".. because he's scared he'll loose me to another guy. and i told him that i think it's best if we can talk to the opposite sex to be able to trust each other. and he said "forget it, we're not gonna get back together then." and it's very frustrating, because i need some time to think it over if i should or not, and he rushes me. and then, he got mad at me because i added guys on myspace, when we went single.. because i first saw myself off of his, and had a girl comment him. so i thought he added all the girls back, then i added all the guys back. and he got mad at me when we were single.. and he told me that he was gonna delete me out of his life and burn everything and etc. and then he said all of these harsh things to me and stuff. and then he called me so i had to pick up, and he was crying.. and he said "why'd you do this to me?" and he also said "i hate my life because of you" and all this stuff, which made me cry because he was crying really hard. and he asked to start over with me, but i told him i needed some time to think about things, and he finally gave me time to think it all through. and he said it was his fault for breaking up with me in the first place.
and yesss.. we did have alot of difficulties in our relationship, that's why i said we should be single for a while till we're ready to start over.. and to talk to the opposite sex while we wait, but he doesn't wanna do the opposite sex.
so what should i do? i don't know what to do anymore.. i'm very confused. PLEASE HELP ME! i'm stuck in between. i wanna be with him, but yet.. yeahh.. (link)
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He's too controlling of you.
Your relationship with him is an unhealthy one. You should move on.
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why are a lot of the victorias secret models brazilian? (link)
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Because they're beautiful.
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ok.. me and my boyfriend are both virgins right..
and we want to be able 2 have a condom around JUST INCASE yah know..
and we are both 2 afraid 2 go 2 our parents cuz they would FLIP OUT!!! but we are not sure of what the legal age of buying condoms in texas is..
can anyone help me me out without criticizeing me on the subject?? (link)
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There is no age limit to purchase condoms.
Denying someone the right to buy condoms is denying someone the right to safe sex, which is far dumber than letting minors go without the condoms and risk getting pregnant even more.
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do guys like it more if a girl shaves "down south"??
and if so.. like.. straight bald or what??..
i really don't know!!! (link)
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Take it all
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yeah so for a while i was obssed with my ex and then i came on here and got some advice and i was over him but hes coming back to me but not in a good way why is it that i feel angry when i think of him? and that i feel like im the uglyest girl in the world?
and that at the same time i still like hima lot? i cant get him out of my head!!!! i need serious help..... ): (link)
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You feel you're the ugliest girl in the world because you're outside of a relationship now, and you want to blame yourself in some way.
Your anger for him is yourself telling you that he's bad news and don't get back with him, it won't work out.
You're still in an emotional battle with yourself over him though, because you did at one point have feelings for him, and you're still coping with that.
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My child makes comments like, "that person on TV is better than you at ..blank.., "you smell, you are the ugliest, I missed my cat more when I was gone. He prefers to be with his dad more than me, he takes his side, and comments that he would save his dad first and a toss up between me and the cat. What is up? I am about as normal a parent as it gets. No neglect, no physical abuse, no psychological abuse, no other priorities. Are kids just mean today and tell you all they think or is he just displaying his "love" in an awkward way. By the way, I am the parent that says yes to McDonald's, walmart shopping etc. (link)
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It's a cry for attention is all.
No child truly "hates" their parents unless you're doing something incredibly wrong to them, but as you've stated above, you're on track as a normal parent.
It's just a phase, he'll grow out of it.
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There's this guy in my gym class who's really flexible than most guys because his mom forced him to take gymnastics when he was realy little. And for gym every morning we do these stretching excercies and these guys always tease him saying that a guy that can do that (bend down to teach his toes and wrap his arms around his legs) can have kids.
I want to tell them to leave him alone because he's a really nice guy! Why does everyone always hate the NICE guy?
And yeah I techniquely have two problems:
1. I don't want it to seem that I LIKE LIKE him by defending him.
2. They're the mean guys that would hit a girl and i am VERY weak and bruise easily!
Thank you so much! Please respond soon! I don't know how much more he can take of this or even I can take of this! he always defends others but he's not defending himself this time... (link)
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If they were to hit you, there would be tons of beatings landing down on all of them for hitting a girl.
Call them out.
It won't seem like you "Like, Like him," because you're merely helping him in a troubling situation.
Chime in, have no worries about the consequences outside of that. Nothing BAD can come out of this.
You're doing the right thing.
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My bf wants to have sex but i'm scared.... i want to..... but its just that... i dont know... can you just please help me... please. (link)
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The mere fact you're having second thoughts means you shouldn't and you aren't yet ready.
When it's time, you won't question it, you'll just act.
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how do you now if a girl likes you (link)
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Some standard indications that a girl is interested in you are as follows:
Eye contact held throughout the conversation
When sitting next to her your thighs touch
When you stop talking to her in the conversation, she continues speaking to keep the conversation going.
She laughs at your not so funny jokes
She touches her hair when speaking to you
She touches you
She looks and glances at you every minute or so
She is playful and challenging to you
When you're around, she gets within proximity of you
If you mention liking something, she'll say she likes it too, or wants you to teach her.
There's a few for you.
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are you supposed to shave before you have sex? (link)
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No.
Many partners like an individual who doesn't have a forest growing, though.
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How can you tell if a guy is actually busy, or isn't interested in a relationship? (link)
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When you ask to hang out and he says he's "Busy" all the time.
If you ask set some time later during the week to hang out then, since he's too busy now and they say "Maybe.. I'm not sure what I'm doing then"
he's probably uninterested.
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