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Making a closer, non-sexual relationships.
16/m So I only have about 4 friends that I ever have around to my house, or go to their house. Don't get me wrong, I have alot of close friend relationships, but my close friendship group is often considered the 'nerd group' and so my friends have fun, sitting at home playing games or on myspace 24/7.
Lately though, I'm becoming bored of this. I feel like my life is a circle, every day in and out. I need to get 'out', but my friends whom I usually have over only ever want to come to my place, as my parents can afford to have the 'cool stuff' like a pool table, table tennis, etc. I come up with ideas such as going to the shops but they say that they have no money (As I'm the only one who actually has a job in my friendship group..) to go out, and so I just let it slide for now saying 'sure that's fine, come over', but it's not helping me in my headspace. I want to hang out with my friends but at their house, or just not in mine.
I tell them all the time, and quite bluntly too, that I don't what to hang out at my house. They just don't seem to get the point and for the past month I haven't bothered having anyone around as it's all just the same to me. (selfish?)
I've noticed it's all started building up in me since I went backpacking in Europe a year ago.. and I'm not sure if I can even decipher what it is exactly that I'm asking here, but you seemed like a pretty cool guy who knows what he's talking about from what I read in your Column.
any help? Cheers.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
I know what your problem is, I have had the same problem myself.
You friends are cool, you know this, but they're not giving you everything you want. And while you didn't actually ask a question like you said, what you're looking for is a new group. I'm not saying ditch this group of buds you've got, but start looking around for other people who are more active with what you're looking for.
If you dont want to do that, try and get them out more so that they will see that it is cool to go out and do stuff too.
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