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Q: I met a guy on an online dating site. After just a couple of days he told me he wanted to meet me. The kicker was that he said he didn't have a car, and that I would have to drive up to see him. Remember, I've never met him, and really don't know that much about him except what he wrote about himself. At first I said yes that I would drive up after work on Saturday, but then my gut feeling and intuition were telling me not to do it. So I emailed him and cancelled the date and told him I wasnt comfortable with the arrangement, and that I would prefer he come up to see me. He wrote back and told me that the reason he didnt have a car was that he was taking public transit to save money, and that he wouldnt have a car until May. Then he said he asked to meet me too soon, and would still like to meet me. My gut feeling is telling me that this guy is a little desperate, and I want to back out of the whole thing.
I don't want to hurt his feelings. What would be a nice way to end things with him, and do you think he'll get angry? I told him at first that I wouldnt mind still sending him some getting to know you emails, but I don't even want to do that anymore. I'm thinking realistically, how is this potential relationship going to work? The guy doesnt even live in the same town as me and deosnt have a car.
Would I be a super bitch if I told him I didn't think this would be a good idea?

You did the right thing by following you gut.
If you are not comfortable with him; Tell him just that. Just be honest, being honest will not make you any less of a good person. =D

Hope I helped.

Q: Hey guys. I'm Kayla and I'm in eighth grade. I will be going to Deer Park High School North Campus next year in ninth grade and I am so nervous! Four different junior highs will be joined into one school next year and I will meet a lot more people but I'm still nervous. What if they don't accept me? What if no one likes me? What about lunch? Where will I sit? I'm asking myself all these questions and it's making me even more nervous than ever! There is exactly 166 days until my first freshman day of high school and I'm already freaking. What about when I get up to 1 day before? I'm going to puke!!! I'm scared of getting lost but I'm more scared of the people. People are mean these days. Some people I don't even know make me feel like I have something to hide, like I'm ugly or something. A lot of people SAY I'm pretty but I don't believe them because of what people have said in the past. I'm afraid it will get worse. These are some positive things about my high school:
1. We can chew gum... sometimes
2. We don't have to have our shirts tucked in
3. We can wear hoodies
4. We get tall lockers so nobody is below or above me
5. We can wear tank tops
6. I have ran out of positive things
Here are some negative things about DPHS:
1. It's HUGE!
2. Four different junior highs will be joining into one and I will barely know anyone
3. I don't know what electives to take
4. I know I'll get lost which is a scary thing
5. I have no idea what credits are for and what we have to get them
6. The people are probably going to be rude
7. I won't know barely anyone in any of my classes
8. I'm so nervous I'm going to puke on my first day.

There... out of all those things, I'm more scared of the people... like I said, I have no clue if I will be accepted or not...
What if they don't talk to me?
I have always made friends on my first day of school but what if it's different this time???
Please help me get over my nerves, Advicenators! I need help!
I prefer Deer Park High School graduates or student currently attending Deer Park High School in Deer Park, Texas to answer this question but it's okay if you aren't. Thank guys!
-Kayla

Hey girl.
Just relax, take a big difference. From your positives list it sounds like the school is gonna be pretty great!

Just think about how many new friends you'll make. And all of your old friends will still be there to get you thru. If your having trouble about classes visit your counseler for some help. Other then that just enjoy your last few months of middle school. Your peers will be going thru the same thing you are right now, you will all get thru it together. So don't stress; High School is supposidly the best years of a person's life. x3

Q: Well I used to be friends with this girl named Kristina and I told her I liked my best friend Zach and then the next day she was all over hi and I was like what the heck !? and they were getting ready to make their realationship public and I i.med him last night and said so are you going out with the slut yet ? He said I should shut up about the people he likes and I said why you dont even understand and he kept yelling at me so then I told him why because I loved him and I started crying and everything and I seen him today and he was all over her and it made me sick because even after our talk he still was over her so I dont know what to do I cant really talk to him anymore it feels werid. & I promised myself I would fall for him and thats exactly what I did I dont know what to do. & today he is just acting like nothing is wrong and thats not the case I am very hurt I cried myself to sleep and I feel like shit I dont know what to do with out him as a friend and after last night I cant even look at him the same and I have a class with him next period. I need help, please.

this isnt what you're going to want to hear; but its what youre gonna hafta do.

get over him. take a day or two to just be miserable. drown your sorrows in ice cream and old romantic movies. cry as much as you want eat any of your comfort foods. take your hatred out on a pillow by punching all your anger into it scream in to it. just do what ever you have to. and when your done wash your face, get on some cute clothes then walk out the door to your new start. just put your eye on a new cutie that wont make you ever feel the same way Zach did. you didnt deserve it. you were just another victim of an evil teenage slut bag. just remember this quote:

"No guy is worth your tears. But the one that is wont make you cry"

I hope you feel better soon. x3

Q: hey everyone! im going to the ortho tonight to get my ties on my braces changed you know? well i had hot pink - total mistake. it drew too much attention to my mouth ahha. what color is the best to get? thanks!

i personally love just the plain silver =]
i think it brings out the color of jewlrey; like if you wearing silver hoops or something hah.

and it doesnt attract to much attention. and you dont have to worry about it matching with your outfits.

Q: Ok i know it sounds totally weird because im so young (15 very soon) but my boyfriend wants to propose to me for my bday. Hes 17 and i know wont be able to get married for ages and so does he. I think hes still going to propose though. What should I do? We've been going out for 10 months. thanks xx
(Im female by the way...)

You may not like this answer but I would say no.
In the few years you have to wait to get married something may happen between you to? Just saying you "engaged" doesn't mean your gonna stay together forever. Love doesn't always last.

Just wait a few years, then if your still in love say yes then =)

Q: Okay see i have pretty brown eyes right, but then at the same time i want to wear make up...but not too much..and i want to wear make up but i don't want to look like a goth...I mean what should i wear??

A Coffee Brown eyeliner should do you good. Black mascara on the top lashes would be pretty. A little Dusty Rose eyeshadow, or a light light brown eyeshadow will also be pretty.

Just be sure not to go overboard; =]

Q: I just had a volleyball tournament recently. Well, I got a few injures. I can't extend my left leg without my knee hurting ((Could y'all tell me what's up with that? I skinned it pretty bad)) and I think I cracked my tailbone. And my muscles are real stiff. Can y'all tell me what I can do to relive this pain?

For your muscles and knee;
Try hot baths; heating pads; pain killers; strech *slightly, dont try to hard* a little bit each day; try to rest for a few days.

As for your tailbone;
If you think you cracked it, you should really go see a doctor just to make sure. He'll probably take care of your knee too. If you don't go to the doctor your tailbone might get worse. ♥

Q: So there is this guy and I flirt with him alot. He's so nice and stuff and I like him. Like I like him like him.. not whole lot but some. So, he always flirts back and I love it because I am a HUGE flirt. I love to flirt. It helps me get through my day. Well, this guy always has a girl freind and all these people are like, "omg, he so likes you". Well, even if he doesn't w/e but, what if he asks me out? I don't want a boyfreind right now, I just want to flirt... it's much more fun. So, what if he does, what should I say to him? I want to say no, but I don't want to turn him off or have him think I don't like him. I JUST WANT TO FLIRT! -- so please help! Thanks!

OMGSH;
Hah I have the exact same problem right now; I deff. relate.

Okay well, in case he does asks you out, just tell him you don't want a boyfriend right now.
Us girls love to flirt just to see if we can get some one then we don't actually LIKE them.

Since he already has a girlfriend I wouldn't worry to much about this. Just keep the flirting down a little bit if your to worried about it. ♥ hope I helped!

Q: anyone know how to make a picture smaller so i can get it on this site? they're all too big! i dont where to go like i know there is a site where you can go to make them smaller..thank you

Go to paint; every window's computer has it.
Go to Image ( its in the toolbar up top )
Click Stretch/Scew

Insert ( any number ( I use 20, once you start re sizing them you'll find a number you like) in the first TWO boxes.
*The smaller the number; the smaller the picture gets.*
Click Okay.
Then Save you picture.

There ya go =]

Q: ok im really shy around my boyfriends, and i dont know why..but im sick of it.its like i wont do anything not even be close to him. i'll be like on the other side of the room and if i do get close to him i get real nervous and crap...does anyone know how could become un shy around him and not be as nervous? thanks!

I used to be the same exact way. Then I realized if I really like him and he really likes me I should be comfortable to be with him. I took slow steps to be around him more. First I talked to him in person simply about what we did in class that day. Then I began walking with him in the hallways. After a few more days I sat at lunch with him. Just take a deep breath and stay calm. Just remember: Boyfriends are great, just be confident.

Q: what are some reasons (good please i have to write a paper for english) that teenagers think they are old enough to face the challenges of parenthood?

Teenagers know how they wanted to be treated in their current age and their childhood. There for they will concentrate on those " little things " that they would have liked when they were a kid and give them to their children. They also understand a child's fears, wishes, wants and needs more because they do have a closeness in age.

A child and a mother with a closer age will most likeley get along better because they may be interested in a few of the same things. Also a teen will know about some of the current bad things going on in a city or town and be sure to keep their child out. An older adult may not be clued in about these acts such as where the big drug selling spot is or the local gang meeting place. This way the teenager could protect the child more.

I hope I have helped some way ♥

Q: i'm 17/f and i'm having a baby boy and i was just wondering if any of you had any cute names??
you can either list a few of sites would be nice too.
thanks :)

Adian was the top baby name of `05.

but I also love..
Trevor [ fav. ]
Josh
Ryan
Micheal
Jordan
JD
RJ
Zack
Brooks
Jackson
Billy
Cody
Ethan

oo1. http://www.ssa.gov/OACT/babynames/

oo2. http://babyparenting.about.com/cs/gettingready/a/babynames.htm

oo3.
http://www.babycenter.com/babyname/popnames.html

Q: what are sum programs to download any type of music?

limewire or ares. :)

Q: my hair is very hard to straighten..what are sum products i can use to straighten it.

thanks. i rate 5's

If you have money try a CHI hairstraightner. Guarantee it'll get job done. They also have sprays by CHI that will protect you hair and make it straighter. ♥

Q: For school I need to read 25 personal books over the entire year. So, I chose to read series that I'll actually enjoy. I'm onto the third book of "The A-List Series", & I just started "The It Girl" I enjoy those really overly dramatic, girly, set-in-Beverly-Hills type books. Can anyone recomend another type of series like those two (besides Gossip Girl) that might catch my interest? I'll rate, thanks.

These aren't series but I recommend them:

Life in the Fat Lane.
Summer Boys.
Queen Bee's and Wanna Bees.

These are series:
Confessions of a shopaholic [ I agree with the previous advice columner, they were great books]

Q: What do you say when asked if Santa has children?

His children lives all around the world ; We're all his children. ♥

Q: Can anyone give me good brands of Hair Straightners? Doesn't matter if expensive, just the best brands in your perspectives. Thanks.
NaImEE ♥

Chi's or Coloriss. $100-$150
Helen of Troy $30-$45

Stay away from Conair ;; I tried it. Doen't work. Waste of money.

Q: hey, i really need help finding a gift for my bf. we've been going out for 3 months, and this is my first real relationship so ive never done this before. i know from his friend that hes getting me glass ornaments that he made, but i have no idea if hes getting me anything else or not. got any suggestions? thanks so much, i rate

I'm getting my boyfriend a stocking full of holiday hershey's kisses, one giant hersheys kiss, and a teddy bear that says " Our first Christmas"

maybe that`ll help you with some ideas =]

Q: is it true that if you work out with layers of clothing on like sweatpants and sweatshirt that you'll lose more weight?

You will lose waterweight. Then when you drink water your gain it back againnn =]

Q: Okay, i like this guy and ive liked him ever since i met him. well, i liked him last year and he found out. He was all like i like you as a friend. Okay, well i like him still and hes in the grade above me and like were friends and stuff. I kind of have a deadline before the school play ends (jan. 22) to get him to like me, how do i make him like me more than "just a friend"?

Hey Hun =]
one word: FLIRT.
Trust me, it works everytime. You just gotta know how to work it. Talk to him, alot. Smile and giggle when your with him. Say hey in a cute voice in the hall. Hang with him outside of school. Touch his arm or play with your hair while talking to him. Tell him little jokes, talk about stuff your both interested in, and pass him little cute notes in class. Walk with him in the hall.
Theres alot of stuff you can do. Just stay confident, and if he's still pushing away; he's not worth all that trouble. Forget him and get a guy 10 times better then him =]

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