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Q: ok i know it seems weird soem girls just talk about how horribel it is to have small boobs but i feel insecure about myself becasue i have realy big boobs adn i am only 13 i have a size D cup and i here guys talk about girls who have big boobs liei soem of my friends and say how big boobs are hard to work with and that big boobs are good to a point i dont knwo if i shoudl try to reduce the size of my chest or keep it normal i need help thanxs so much and no stupid remarks pleezzz

just keep them that way.
be natural.
when you grow older, your boobs might not grow anymore, but your body might finally be in proportion with them.
so don't change a thing.
Lovvles
KYlie

Q: ok.....i have curly/wavy hair...but i spend 30 mins. everyday straiting it and i'm afraid im straiting it and its frying my hair!! i like it straitened...but its dull and boring...i wish i could wear it curly...but its just frizzy and i try everythign to make it not frizzy...but i cant really find anything...any ideas?

I'm not sure how well this will work, but there's this product called Static Guard, in this blue bottle with an orange top (in aerosol form) and it's really for clothes, but my friend sprays it on her hair to keep it from getting frizzy during the day. You can also spray it on your brush and then brush your hair. Try this on the weekend because I'm not sure how well this works.

Good luck!
Lovvles
Kylie

Q: 15/m there is this girl that is like the person i can trust the most in the entire world. she's great to talk to and i never get bored when i'm around her. the thing is we kinda off-and-on liked each other last year. now i think we're both kinda over each other, or at least i thought so until last week. she gave me these gifts in school and it really made me happy. maybe it was just the christmas spirit or something. since then i've been thinking about her a lot everyday. i called her to ask her a question and we ended up talking for hours and i kinda felt like i didnt like her. so then why is she still on my mind? if i find out that she likes me, should we be friends or more?

I personally think you like her. She may or may not like you, only she knows for sure.
Either you pry it out of her, or she tells you, or you ask her out.
You could possibly just leave it alone and be friends.
But I have a sneaking suspision that she wants you to ask her out because she's afraid of rejection and doesn't want to get hurt.

So wait a while, look for the obvious signs of flirting and decide if you really think she likes you or not. Then ask her out or leave it how it is.
Also remember, the longer you wait, the more time you waste not having her, so I'd get thinking about it soon.

Good luck!
Lovvles
Kylie

Q: Well about 3 weeks ago i invited my boyfriend home while my mum was at work. (no need to remind me that im wrong). now i feel so guilty because ive done something like this behind my mum's back(i live alone with my mum). Even if i didnt make out with my boyfriend that night(i havent done it,im still a virgin)...but i've been feeling all those guilts inside me ever since.I cant even tell any of my friends..i'm scared..i've prayed alot for forgiveness from God....But i just dont know what to do anymore with those felling of guilts and ashame. by the way im 16 and can anyone help here?

Good for you.
You know you've done something wrong, something your mom wouldn't approve of. You didn't do anything serious with him. Again, good for you. You respect your mom, and everybody has that moment where they break the rules.
I would be truthful with your mom (again, that respect thing comes in handy later with how much she trusts you) and tell her that while she was at work, you invited your bf over. Tell her EXACTLY what you guys did so she knows you didn't make out or... you know. You should just be soo proud of yourself that you feel this guilt because you recognize that you did something wrong and that you have good morals. Very good tool for the real world to survive in work and home relationships.

Good luck!

Lovvles
Kylie

Q: okay so i got dumped a few weeks ago and the guy says he likes me but hed rather have friends than a girl friend, but he still acts like he still like lovesss me. I want to get over him soo bad but idk how..any ideas?

Hun,

I wouldn't try to get him back for a while. Just let him cool down, let yourself cool down, and think about if this guy is really worth the pain and trouble that a bf takes now and in the future.
Just be normal. Or ask him out.

All I can say.

Kylie

Q: ok im going to a basketball game today with my friends & idk what to wear..like should i wear a long sleeve, a hoodie, hair up, hair down, hair straight, hair curly, make up, no make up, etc etc. if you have any ideas let me know.

thanks!!

just be weekend casual.
go witha simple outfit.
jeans and a short sleeve t-shirt.. not too tight, not too baggy. sneakers, and little makeup.

Whatever you show up in, it'll be fine...

Kylie

Q: Oh. My. Fucking. God. I'm going to an audition for the musical "Phantom" by Maury Yeston and Arthur Kopit (NOT the opera by Andrew Lloyd Webber!) and so to get into the whole Phantom the Opera theme, I chose the song "Wishing You Were Somehow Here Again" from the Andrew Lloyd Webber version. I got it down, but the thing is, I don't know what to do about my body. What should I do with it? I know I can't just stand there. Movement just doesn't come naturally for me.

Thanks

Cheyenne

Be yourself, but really overly passionate. In acting, you have to exaggerate your features and your emotions to get the audience connected.
So, act really passionate, like how the actress that plays Christine sings that song in the movie. If you don't feel comfortable with that, then just stand there. If you have a good enough voice, they won't care what movement you have because you'll have it down by the time the show opens.
Good luck!!
Kylie

Q: One of my best friends that I've known all of my life asked me a really weird question the other day. He asked me if I would give him head and I thought he was kidding so I started to laugh. And then he said "I'm serious." So I kind of looked at him with a blank stare. And I told him I don't know and he was like begging me to and I said I'd think about it. I just think it's kind of weird that he would ask ME to do that. What should I do? I know he doesn't like me as a girlfriend so I don't know why he asked me.

Another question I have is does oral and anal sex count as your "first time"? Or is it just regular? Because if it does count then I don't really want to because I'd like to lose my virginity to someone mor special.

Please help!!!!

I'm thinking he likes you.. like not head-over-heels like a crush.. but like you begin to know your best freind so well that you could consider them a partner. It's normal. But to spring up the question of giving head to someone.. you're not even in a close romantic relationship with him yet so I would say no. It's not your "first time" but it's llike you're half-way there. It might escalate to your "first time" so if you do it, use good judgement and protection.
Good luck!
Make good choices, think of the future!
Kylie

Q: 13/m. I have a sister who is 14. Where we live, stuff happens slowly. It's not like in NYC where everyone loses their virginity at, like 13. My sister finally got her first boyfriend. I'm not too worried about that. But, they're taking everything too fast: one week, they're dating. Another week, they're holding hands. This may not seem like much to you, but where I live it is. And now yesterday---they've been together 2 months, tops---they both had their first kiss.

I've been trying to get more info, but she's really private about this. I asked her if it was just a peck or if she made out, and she said that it was about 5 seconds. Is that long for a first kiss? And I asked her when, and she showed me a ring that she got from him. Unfortunately, I suck at taking hints, so I still don't get it.

She doesn't want to tell anyone about anything that happens. My other sister and my parents are still completely unaware that they've done so much as hold hands, and she doubts she'll tell them about kissing any time soon.

So, I was just wondering, is this too fast, am I worrying too much, will she be turning into a sex-obsessed slut any time soon, and how can I get her to communicate more? "Why do you need to know?" she asks. Well, I intend on getting a girlfriend this year, and I'm gonna have to learn somehow, right? No smartass answers. Thanks! =)

HELL NO!!!
I'm in a va suburb and people make out in the movies in 5th grade.
2 months is a looonggg time for a first kiss, no matter what town you live in.
If they were going fast, like making out on the first date, I would watch and monitor it a little bit, but she's not going to become a slut if she makes out with a guy after like 3 months of dating... thats longer than average.

So don't worry!!
Your sisters also old enough to make descisions herself, so if she's in trouble, I'd trust her to tell someone or break up with him.
If you're really that worried, just kind of slightly pay attention, but don't listen in to phone convos or be a secret agent gathering info about your sister.

Not cool lol.
Good luck! Don't worry!
Kylie

Q: Ok

All thats on my mind is sex sex sex babies, masurbuting, vaginas, and penises, naked things, and cum

Thats all i tihnk aobut, i cant get it off my mind. i think im too youung to know about this stuff. Please help me

It's hormones.
It's not your fault.
You're not too young.
It'll go away one day.
Maybe when you're 15.
Maybe when you're 90.
Varies from person to person.
As long as you don't go out having sex with random guys, it's totally normal.
and I wouldn't be talking about it too much because your friends might think that you're a bit of a whore..
but that's only if you mention it in a lot of your convos.

Kylie

Q: when you install an extra photoshop brush how do you use it or set it up so you can use it on photoshop

i'm mostly sure that you go to file>import>brushes> and then find the file on your computer.

I hope that helps. I have ps4 and it's reeeaaalllyyy old.

Kylie

Q:
13/f and well i have just recently gotten my first period, but its been a week and 3 days already and i still have it !! its light right now but is it suppossed to be like this considering its weird the first time or is there something wrong with me ??

xoo ♥

First periods suck.
Big time.
Mine lasted for 15 days.
It will eventually begin to regulate and be normal. (6 months to 2 yrs) It will get better along the way.. you'll know what exact date it will happen when you're older..

Good luck!

Kylie

Q: Hey Guys, This Has Really been bothering me and I don't know what to do. I Knew what sex was when I was about 6 years old. I'm 13 Now. But I'm Worried that I wasn't Raised Right. I mean Most Kids don't even know what Making Out is When their like 7!! But I Knew! Was I or Am I Normal??? No SmartAzz's About This....Thanks

everybody has a different age where they learned things.
I learned to read when i was 2
You learned about sex when you were 6

Completely normal!!
As long as you don't go out doing it when you're 6 or 7 or 11 then you're normal!

Kylie

Q: Okay, my mom has a friend who has a son. They came over one night and this was the first time I have met him before, he kept on staring at me or just looking at me in the eyes a lot. That night he asked his mom for my e-mail adress and I got an e-mail from him saying " you looked amazing the other night and I think ur really cool, I want to get to know you better," or "do you have a boyfriend" or "what are you most like? Calm and collective, or wild and crazy?"
and stuff like that and I just dont know... is he interested in me?? He's a senior in High School and I am a freshman. What should I do?!?!

He is really interested in you.
Email him back.
Start to talk to him and get to know him.
If you come to realize that you like him for who he is, not just because he's a senior (that happens a lot, then he's worth going for and just take it from there..
But he is interested in you you lucky dog.. lol

good luck!

Kylie

Q: what do you do when a guy you dont know and its like a internet relationship and like you're not even that close and he just pops and asks wil you marry me??????????? what should i do?????????

this could be like a possible sexual predator..

you can seriously create and be a new person on the internet.. so you don't know who this person really is..

I'd say no (no durrr) and block him because that's something extreme and if it makes you feel uncomfortable, then block the person and stop your worrying.

If it persists and you get worried for your safety, call the police.

Kylie

Q: Ok theres this song, could you tell me whos it by(like the singer or w/e) and whats the song called?thx!

Hey laidys drop it down,
Just wanna see yall touch the ground,
Dont be shy girl go bananza,
Shake your body like a belly danca...

(sorry about the spelling lol)
if you could give me the lyrics too that would be awsome, oh and garanteed 5's

bellydancer

by

akon

good song

Q: hey
there is this really cute guy and me skool holds a festival every year and i saw this really cute guy and i just kept staring at him the next festival is march and i dunno what i sould do if he's there should i talk to him and maybe we'll have a future together or just keep staring if i talka to him what do i say
suzy

just go up to him and introduce youself...

you've got till march to figure it out, but don't make it seem rehearsed..

good luck

Kylie

Q: I know everybody sees this question 5000 times a day but, I'm not sure if I'm reading her right. This girl, let's say "Hermione Granger", and I have been out a couple of times and I really like her. But Hermione always seems to break dates. She says she feels bad about it, but does it anyway. When I asked her if she'd like to go out with me, she said she would, but she would be usually busy the night I asked and I see very little of Hermione anymore. She acted like she liked me, but girls never say what they mean. I say actions speak louder than words, but I wanted y'all's opinion:What should I do here? As I read the notes, they want me to add my age:19 and my gender should be self explanatory.

I think that she is feeling insecure about herself or scared... or the blatent wal-mart style answer or "she hates you"

Insecure: She may think that she is a bad gf after a breakup and she might not think she's good enough for you..

Scared: She might be scared of starting a new relationship and being hurt again

Bitch: She may just be a bitch and say she'll go out with you and break off dates when she really doesn't want to go out with you in the first place. In this case.. ask her what day is good for HER so she can't have any excuse to break off dates.

Its really hard reading girls' minds...
but remember:
if she doesn't appriciate you for who you are... she's not worth it

Kylie

Q: Whats the song titly and artist for this song:

I THINK the lyrics go:
" Here without you baby. _____________ I know your still with you in my dream. Tonight girl, its only you and me"
hah I don't remember lyrics well * as you can see* but I believe it goes something like that.
Thanks guys =]

one of my favorite songs
to play on piano, violin, and sing

"Here with out you"
3 doors down

from their "away from the sun" album

Kylie

Q: Hey Guys, I have a HUGE Problem, I know you guys are probably gonna say "You shouldn't care what people thinks!". Well I need to answer that. I can't help it. It all started when Me and My best friend Amber. We Arn't Like That (Lesbian). She has a Boyfriend and yeah I am Single. We act like sisters though. We 'Sometimes' share a drink (pop, etc.). What I mean by that is. She could be drinking something and then I would ask her if I could have a drink and I would take a drink. Now everyone thinks I'm a Lesbain!! What Can I do To Get Them To Shut Up? I'm Not That WAY!!!!!

I'm in 7th grade and i hug my friends, share drinks, and even share lollypops...

the people that say that just wish that they had a friendship like you guys have.
the only reason someone would hate you is because they envy you in some way.

so don't worry about it.. people will start to get the message that you guys are best friends
(in other words they'll pull their heads out of their asses) cuz everybody else in the world does it too!

Good luck!
♥

bio

I'm Kylie and I'm here to help. My dream is to go to the Naval Academy and be a Navy Shrink. Please ask me whatever you want, because I will try my best to help you to solve your problem.
Kylie:)